I often see people listing or focusing on their regrets, but not talking about how they've changed their mentality and actions since. When one doesn't do this, it's easy to feel hopeless and guilty about not being able to change the past. Thinking about regrets too much without acknowledging how things have changed since can worsen symptoms of mental illnesses such as anxiety and depression.
ITT, list mistakes or immoral things you've done in the past AND how you've changed since then or silver linings about the situation (such as what you learned). Please be respectful of other users. (Yes, I'm aware that this is Jow Forums.) Constructive critcism is fine, though.
Example: Past: I've dated people I wasn't really very attracted to to begin with. Change: I no longer will consider this as an option. It wastes both of your time and leads the other person on. I will only date people I'm very attracted to and try to not string people along after I've permanently lost interest.
He definitely wasn't my favorite character on the show. He seemed to think he was superior to other people because he was more normal than them. He was the best-looking guy in the office, though. For contrast, Erin was extremely good-looking too but also a good chaacter.
I used the pic because I was lazy and wanted to use one I'd already downloaded.
Bentley Russell
FUCKING N-O-T-H-I-N-G
Owen Flores
Really? No regrets at all? You lucky fellow.
Luke Hill
Oh I have a lot of regrets. I just have never ever fixed them.
Sebastian Price
past: play games all day change: browse internet all day
I used to chat to tinder whores, get their nudes, fap, then ghost them. It was like compulsive, I never ever intended to meet these sluts, but the fact I could get their nudes was kind of validating, it made me think I COULD fuck these girls, but I never would, because why do that when I can get stoned and play video games. Now I stay away from any dating app to prevent the same habit from resurfacing, just focusing on lifting and earning money.
Josiah Nguyen
Why don't you start one at a time? You don't have to turn everything around at once.
Luke Phillips
That sounds generally healthier. Though, you may one day regret not spending time building a potential relationship with a girl if you do that for too long. You may one day want love and sex. Not saying that's a guarantee, just something to think about.
Cooper Martin
Past: Used to be so afraid of talking to women that I wouldn't at all, even if they would express interest in me. Change: No longer care about what people think and don't fear rejection anymore.
Isaiah Green
>past sit around all day jacking off and eating garbage >current exercise for a couple hours every day in between sitting around and jacking off and eating fish and vegetables
Josiah Flores
>don't fear rejection anymore How do you get to that point?
Ryan Lewis
Im just getting worse and worse so yea. Nothing to see here
Elijah Rodriguez
exceedingly emotionally intelligent op, for me I think I need to quit weed for an extended amount of time. At first I used it to cope with extreme depression but it turned into being high more often than being sober to escape my sad reality. And although I may have good reason to be upset staying high and unproductive is slowing my growth as a person and I dont wanna ultimately become someone that sucks.
You just gotta realize it's better to go for it and get rejected as opposed to not doing anything and wondering for the rest of your life what could of happened with it. I used to be so insecure that I thought people were fucking with me when they said they liked me or found me attractive. I'll even tell a little story just to humor you.
>was in my last year senior year of hs >first semester notice absolute 10/10 looking at me from across lunch tables >goes on for several days, on and off >second semester we share a class >assigned to sit next to each other >too anxious to say anything to her for most of the semester >finally talk to her and despite the fact I'm nervous, she seemed receptive to the conversation and like she was interested in what i had to say >never talk to her again out of anxiety
This memory haunts me to this day, and ever since this happened, I've been trying to never let it happen again and become a much more confident person.
Juan Rogers
wtf how can you tell
Gabriel Harris
Also, I should add that confidence is probably the #1 thing girls find attractive. If you go in with a mindset that you're going to get rejected, or if you care too much about the possibility, you're going to come off as insecure and desperate, which will likely end up in rejection for you. If you come off like you don't care, you'll come off as interesting, and more likely to get her to say yes when you finally ask her out.
Lincoln Gomez
Not sure if ur trolling or not but it was rly obvious
Dylan Nguyen
seriously what made you think infp
Kayden Howard
Past: evaluated my self worth off others achievements and view of me, leading to constant disappointment and really harmful self deprivation, as well as constant anxiety and fear of being judged by everyone I saw
Now: put more value into personal achievements and ability, but still strive to impress people and gain recognition. Problem is it doesn't matter if it's negative or positive so I tend to instigate problems just for fun or to cause a scene
Literally just the first line of text and your pic
Alexander James
Holy crap i am literally your past
Isaiah Howard
Don't know what it was that clicked, but eventually I just stopped giving a fuck about other people entirely. It helped a lot of the anxiety and self worth but really fucked my depression fierce. Dunno if it's better or worse to be disassociated with most of society
Thomas Roberts
Past: Way too many video games have strangeholded me my entire life
Change: I'm going back to Linux first of all. Most of the games I've been addicted to are Windows only. I've also picked up a fair amount of books that I'm going to start reading. Mythology by Edith Hamilton, Neuromancer, Dying Earth series by Jack Vance, The Forever War, and Promise of Blood. Really interested in that last one, sounds like a dumb fun time. Gotta finish finals though.
Even if i ignore people. Im still dissapointed with myself for not being able to meet my own standards for life. Which are quite basic btw
Ryder Foster
to add on to this user, while trying to come off as confident do take care to not misread people disengaging with you as people playing hard to get. its got to be one of the more creepy things that females deal with.
Carson Young
Thank you for this.
What's your take on long distance if you knew the person for a long time IRL beforehand but never dated? I want to contact a guy whom I liked several years ago but never made a move on. Last time I saw him in person was probably Feb 2017.
Luke Mitchell
I don't personally think anything long distance will work out unless your relationship was really close before. That being said, if you don't act soon it's possible that he'll get in a relationship, or he's already in one. It's really your call as to what you should do in that situation, I don't know enough about it to give you a good answer.
Asher Fisher
They trashed her character when they decided they wanted andy to be a caricature of himself and to make him an example of tragedy.
Benjamin Ramirez
The reason I'm putting it off is that my life is not in a good place right now. I'd rather reach out when things are better and I'm back in college.
