I'm realizing that I don't even think about the possibility of having a girlfriend some day. It feels liberating but it also sounds very very sad.
Who here doesn't even think about having a girlfriend some day anymore?
I had one years ago just for pure luck and maybe for that I don't feel so much pressure because I know what it feels to have and I have experienced sex but I don't think about having another one anymore.
I'm old now but I remember when I was around 14 I told my father I will never have a wife. He joked about it like most other people. I don't remember
much from back then but this somehow stick with me. Interesting to think about because I didn't know a lot of things about myself then but this was somehow a given.
>had gf and sex
Op why did you betray me. I trusted you.
Yeah, just by pure luck, I didn't do anything special to get her.
But that is even worse. This means you are attractive enough on your own to make women interested in you, maybe even chase after you.
You are semi blackpilled, good sir. Keep up those feelings and you shall become a wizard of the highest caliber
I'm average. Skinny, average face, more or less tall. But nothing more.
>Getting out late
>Offer to walk girl home
>She says sure
>Awesome now's the time to learn about her interests
>After a brief text I try to talk to her a bit
>Goes okay-ish but she doesn't really open up
>Ask if she'll be around tomorrow
>Says "No....why?"
>Didn't feel bad at first, but thinking back it kind of hurts
>Friend shows up
>Immediately I no longer exist
>They lag behind me while talking too low to hear
>Feel like an absolute fucking idiot
Before this we exchanged a bunch of small talk for about two weeks and we've walked home before, guess she was just nice, she did nothing wrong, but I would really like for someone I like to feel the same. Just once would be all I need.
The thought of being intimate with a person, not even in a sexual sense, makes me genuinely uncomfortable. I can't even really imagine it, never been able to.
I'd like to have a relationship and normal human feelings, but I think I've long since lost the ability to. That's kind of the part that hurts.
Even if someone was interested in me I just automatically wouldn't let myself be interested in them. Not even sure why.
I have a much more better story than that:
I was still in college and I went with two friends to a talk because one of our teachers was one of the speakers. We arrived at the theater and we met there with a girl that was from my career but not my year, but I knew her, we knew her. So we started to talk with her outside the theater a bit. I merely have talked with her some times before but suddenly she was so friendly with me, looking to my eyes a lot, smiling with cute faces, etc. I started to think: What the fuck happens here? I only know this girl by sight, we have never been friends and we have merely talked and now she acts like if I am one of her closest friends." Even my friends started to look at me and giving me faces like saying: "Dude maybe you should try it. She is clearly sending you messages." We go into the theater and she says: "user, where are you going to sit?, I want to sit with you" At this point I was very confused and very excited because I thought that I was having luck again and maybe this girl sees something in me that she likes. She was very pretty for me and I also liked his personality, she was very fun, she was cute but not a princess, she could be a princess but then she had character and knew how to have fun. So after the first part of the talk my 2 friends say that they have to leave and if I'm going to go with them, I have a moment of doubt but then she says in a cute way: "Please user, stay with me, I have to be here all this morning and also in the afternoon (because there was more talks in the afternoon)". So I said to my friends with a smile on my face that I had no other option than to stay with her. So we spent together the rest of the morning there hearing the talk.
i was thinking about this before browsing Jow Forums, Thanks OP
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Then at lunch time she asked me, begging me in a cute way that if I could come back in the afternoon to be with her the rest of the talk. Of course that I agreed and I asked her for her number and went home to have lunch. In the afternoon we met before the talk started and went to a coffee shop and eat something. She continued to be very very friendly with me, like if we had been friends for years, talking about problems she had with her rent and asking me advice. While I was there eating with her in the coffee shop I thought: "What the fuck is this? I feel like if she has been my girlfriend for a long time (because I was starting to feel the same that I had felt with my girlfriend before." So then we went to the talk, went to some type of round table where we had to make some work and I even had to talk in front of the theater for some minutes, something that I had never done before, I mean talking to a large audience like that. After the talk she wanted to go for a walk in the city. We went to some places and we visited a cathedral. She asked me to take her photos and acted so friendly and having a lot of confidence with me. And to end the day we went to another coffee shop during the night and met there with some of her friends. Then we split but we said to meet again when she come to the city again. I went to my house thinking what a fucking strange day it had been and thinking if I had had luck again and maybe I could start something with this girl. Ok. then some days later, I was with a friend and we met her in the street, it was saturday night, we were going to some club. When we approached her, she started talking and laughing with my friend and acted like I wasn't even there, just like your story. I don't even remember if she even salute me. When days before she acted life if I was his best friend. There I confirmed my theory.
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She only acted like that during the day of the talk because she was from another city, she was alone at that talk and she didn't want to be alone that day so she saw me and acted interested, trying to make me think that she liked me and in that way using me to be with her all day. Then I also learned that she was a lesbian or bisexual, but she looked more like a lesbian to me. Believe me, many women know how to use betas like me just for their benefit. Stories like this has happened to me some other times. Now I'm not so stupid to fall for those tricks but back then when I was inexperienced they could work on me. Also, when that story happened I was very weak because I was ending my relationship with my girlfriend and I felt very lonely. But to be completely honest during that day and watching her strange behavior, suddenly being so interested and friendly with me I thought of the possibility that she was using me to not be alone that day, but the excitement and the thought of her being truly interested in me was stronger.
Damn man, this is making me rethink parts of my life
I would never do that to a girl, trying to make her think that I like her just to use her but I know that many women do that because they see how easy is to use the betas that are desperate for a pussy. I don't remember now something similar but done by a man. I don't remember any story about a man that a knew doing that to a girl. Maybe there are man that do it too, for example making the ugly girl think that they like her only to get some class notes or something similar but I don't remember a story like that.
I believe I will have a girlfriend someday, but I don't believe it will be long term, or they'll have the wrong idea about me and not like who I am. I don't ever think I'll have a wife.
>She only acted like that during the day of the talk because she was from another city, she was alone at that talk and she didn't want to be alone that day so she saw me and acted interested, trying to make me think that she liked me and in that way using me to be with her all day
Yet if you point this out, you're the typical nice guy. So much for having feelings anymore when having them can't even get you shit on a stick.
>Yet if you point this out, you're the typical nice guy.
Yes I have been too nice all my life. But I think it was many of the time for fear to conflicts so always acted to be good with everyone. In the case of women it was shyness. And yes maybe a little because I like to behave in a good way and treating people the with respect and the best I can but I think the first 2 are the biggest reasons. There is no prize in life for being always the nice guy.
I don't really care any more. I can't envisage myself chatting up a girl, much less protecting and providing for one in a stable relationship. I'm 22 and without a job; it's probably best I remain single.
Just yesterday I was on the central line with an extremely attractive woman next to me. As the train gradually filled up at every stop she drew closer to me until we were almost squished up against each other. Being a fair bit taller than her I could see down her cleavage and then her perfectly round ass when she turned around. As erect as I was I couldn't imagine myself doing anything sexual with her, it's just too inconceivable a fantasy.
It kinda makes me wistful for the days when such an encounter would've genuinely stung me and made me felt something.
>They lag behind me while talking too low to hear
Oh man that's rough. Feel like I know that feel, or a similar one.
How would he become a wizard if he's not a virgin?
i don't care anymore. i would actually prefer being alone at this point, considering i spent most of my life alone as an outcast.
with the cards i was dealt, i will never be able to put myself out there. i am a social retard.
>just work out bro
>be yourself bro
even though it hurts sometimes, it only hurts in a way that is ethereal. now i will most likely end up wageslaving for myself for the rest of my life, but thats okay because i will rest one day for sure. and i will not go to sleep so bitter and mad at the world for something that isn't true in heaven.
What actions are you taking to ensure you end up in heaven?
You are pretty young yet, it's not too late for you buddy.
What percentage of men today would you say that we represent (the ones that has lost all faith in women)? 5%?
I didn't think about that for a long while but then I have an exchange programme upcoming and since then I started having visions of myself actually having a gf. A very specific vision too. I feel a tad excited but also very terrified and I don't know what to make of that.
If the chance comes up go for it and be scare of what would happen in he future. All exchange students know they are there to have fun and fuck all they can in that year.
I know what you mean. Most of the time I feel like that and accept it. From time to time though, my longing for a partner takes over and I try to do something about it. Now is one of those times - that's why I'm on this board.
*and don't be scared...
And what are you hoping to get being here?
>giving this much of a shit about having a girlfriend
yikes and cringe doesn't even begin to cover it. you autists should kill yourselves and spare yourselves the pain, and spare the rest of us of your shitty whining
I never cared about having a girlfriend. I just want to see the summit. I want to be real. Girls are just mean and selfish, everyone is flawed and angry. I don't hate anybody. I'm just lonely. This isn't fine. I want to see the summit. I want to see the stars. I am not interested in love, I don't even feel or need love. Everything is manufactured. I'll be dead before I'm 30. I'm used to this. I'm used to being empty. I don't care. I am fine.
True, I guess I have to take the risk for anything to happen. I'm at the all or nothing stage anyway. I need change, and a positive one.
>I want to see the summit
>I can't even climb a 20 foot hill without having a heart attack
give it up, fatso
You has contributed a lot to the thread.
I climb 20 foot hills no problemo. Climbed a lot of hills. Not the summit, though. You are projecting but you can climb with me even if you're a fatso. It'll be fun.
more than you ever will, friendo
>quick, they've found me for the obese basement dweller that I am, let me use my handy "projection" spell
not this time
I'm not a regular. I was browsing the other boards, and came across this one, which resonated because of my current state of mind. I'm not sure being here is positive influence for anyone who wishes to change something, though it's not entirely negative either.
I'm going to dream that I'm fat now.
dreams really do come true! have fun!
>though it's not entirely negative either.
Yes, it is negative. The only thing this board is worth is for venting your miserable life and see how others are the same as miserable as you or worse.
It's at that moment it hit me this girl didn't care about me at all, I then realized she never actually asks me anything about myself, and I chalked that all up to her just being shy. You really are blind when you like someone.
You know, extremely wealthy people tend not to consider themselves as being "all that rich" either.