Fembots, I need some guidance. My husbands mother just died and he's been an absolute wreck since then. He lost his job after having a breakdown related to the death and has been trying to talk to me about it. I have a few issues with this. First is that I'm afraid for our financial situation since he's no longer employed and my life style being affected worries me. My life style's already been affected in that I've lost my me time. I don't work so whenever he'd work in the day, I'd get the house to myself. I could play games and post online with some candles and music in the background. It was the best, but now I have to sit here knowing someone's here with me. Every hour or so so he tries to talk to me and tell me how much he "cares" and that he's sorry. He's depressing to look at. If he really cared he'd get a job like a real man. I'm not his therapist and I'm getting tired of all of this. On top of that he's been talking about having kids even before the death and that also scares me. I'd love kids, but genetically I just don't think he's the right fit. He's emotional, has bad eyesight, and is 5'5 while I'm 6'2(I know I'm freakishly tall). I married him, because at the time I thought I loved him, but in my defense he was so different back then. We went on trips, he worked hours on end, and he'd treat me like a princess, like royalty. He was a provider of providers. If he gets a job, I'll try to talk him into letting me get a donor insemination, if not I'm thinking of divorce. I know someone. We've flirted in the past and he's still single. He's in a medical profession, he's cute, and he's tall. If I do this then I'll try to get what I can here before pursuing that new relationship. I don't know all the details, but I'll think of something. What do you all think I should do?
Fembots, I need some guidance. My husbands mother just died and he's been an absolute wreck since then...
this is such huge bait honestly
stop posting things like this because all you're doing is spreading hatred and depression for no reason
I'll let you kn ow this, because you cared enough to reply. I'm dead serious. I'm sick of all of the bullshit I'm having to deal with. I NEED privacy and I'm not going to have a bastard just because society says I have to fuck my provider. I get his mom died, but man up. So now that we have that out of the way, are you going to help me or call bait? If bait then you're better off not posting here.
I'll let you know this then, because if you're serious than you need to hear it.
You are a terrible human being. You are literally a objectively morally horrible disgusting person and it has nothing to do with society. You do not deserve happiness and you will never find it.
So what are you telling me besides that I'm bad without explanation? I know that most would see what I'm talking about and think "What a scummy bitch." So what's your opinion on how I should act for him? Should I comfort him and let him repeat this routine in the future when something similar happens. Should I deny my own happiness and security in life to act as a martyr for a husband that can't even take care of the dishes while he sulks about a woman we barely talked to. Should I let him inseminate in me so that our child can grow up with the same problems as his father? I won't ruin that life I'll tell you that right now. So what should I do and before you say "kill yourself" or any equivalent that is off the table. Do you have an answer?
You're terrible. You didn't like him, you just married with him because he's a beta that provides you everything.
Why don't you work? Ugh, I hate girls like you.
>I'm not falseflagging I swear
whatever
The answer is you shouldn't be a leech
The worst part is there are cucks out there who think this is okay
New rule that I've already been following. I take any comment I reply to seriously.
I did like him. I respected him, because back then he was a strong caring man who wanted the best for me and I could see him wanting the best for our future family. What does his sulking accomplish? Nothing! While people go on with their lives and become successful, he just sits here and sulks all day. Then he tries to come to me to fix his problems. You want to know what the fix is? It's getting over it and getting a job. I don't work, because there's no reason to sacrifice my happiness for something that is taken care of. I already take care of the house among other things. In this relationship he had his job and I had mine. He provided and loved his job. He loved to make me happy and he loved to succeed, it was fulfilling for him. I however honestly despise the idea of working and giving my time to something I have no passion for. Other people do it and lead crappy lives even though they don't have to. If I were to have to provide for myself with no options, then I reluctantly would, but as long as I have options to choose from then I'll choose from those. I was willing to be the mother of our children and to maintain our marriage from my end, but now he's not fulfilling his own end.
We are dead serious that you should not be here and if you ever thought you were welcome: Kys.
Yes, kill yourself, unironic stupid whore. LOL.
My end is filled and his end isn't.
He has me and our marriage was fine until he started to act like this for fucks sake this is driving me mad and I'm getting emotional and now I don't even know.
Fuck this at least I could vent and get more reasons to vent. There's somebody on here who on some level understands. Even if it's not morally sound maybe somebody understands my logic.
How long since this started? His mother dying and stuff.
Have you tried telling him to get a job instead? In a supportive way.
I mean wow girl just wow. How did you even manage to hook up with this cringe autist I'm the first place? I mean he's obviously disgusting, some one 5'5 can't even call himself a man let alone cry and get away with it. It's very obvious you should go be with tje doctor. But don't break up first just give it a week so you can lock it down with him first.
Yeah yeah, men should be men and face problems. I got that men today are becoming passively feminine, giving up and acting like women. Especially those who likes to talk about how they would only marry virginal angels are the ones who should be prepared to provide for her. But since the sexual liberation in the 60s women got entitled to the a point in which if the man is not perfect they'll just give up, cause they can easily find another one. That's why I've asked how long since this started. But anyway, you should do your part - that's not only cleaning and fucking - and give him some moral support. A relationship is made from both parts working together to achieve the ending that is to constitute a family. Have you actually tried talking to him and giving some motivation? - even if it is telling that if he doesn't man up you'll divorce; or leave for a couple of days saying that you'll only come back when he's got a job.
I suck at walking away from things. She died around six months ago.
I have, but he keeps saying that he needs time or just changes the subject altogether, but I think that if he just pushes this down and gets back to it he'll be fine. He hasn't been looking for anything to my knowledge
If I can be honestly I'm on the verge of tears. I know I'm not the best, but fuck I have my beliefs. I'm genuinely scared and he's scaring me. He sleeps all day and every talk with him is about something negative or depressing. If I do talk to him then days later we have the same talk as if we made no progress the days before. He's never been like this. I only ever met his mom a handful of times and they didn't even seem close. It feels like he's following me. Even when I use the bathroom he leans on the door and just starts talking. I have no privacy anymore.
Has it been like this for all 6 months?
He wasn't always this way. He used to be one of the hardest working caring guys I knew. If it does come to that then I'll definitely try to lock something down first.
I haven't had the courage to tell him that I've been thinking of divorce or to mention the child thing. I've told him he needs to man up and I've tried to talk to him again and again in the past, but none of it sticks. I'll try the leave for a couple of days thing though, I hope it does something. I just want things to be stable again. I can't think straight and I'm shaking and thinking about him makes me shake more. I never thought something like this could happen and now that it's happening I'm obviously blindsided. He's just not the same right now in any way.
No. It started to get like this about three months in and after he lost his job he's done nothing, but fall and fall. I'm trying, but I have limits too.
First, you can't give up on him, as he'll slip even further down. Second, you need to get him to start doing things. You need to try and solve his irrational thoughts so that he can move on. Naturally, a therapist is best for this. It is one thing to be tough but another to give up on him. It is best to do this while he's distracted from those negative thoughts, but I can't tell you how because I don't know him. You have to make him confront those thoughts, hence you'll want him to be distracted from the negative thoughts because he can't retreat to his usual coping methods of saying he needs time or just changing the subject. He has to be at his logical best. You'll have to dig deep into the root of his issue and work out the irrationalities, make him realise how some of his thoughts might not make sense. But it will take time, it is only natural to grief. It is a process though, so it will come to pass.
I understand, but I just don't know if I'm personally capable of doing more than what I have. I don't know how to distract him anymore myself. I tried to get him out of the house and tried to change the subject whenever he does this, but he never stops. I can't keep this up. The therapist is a must, but I just can't keep up. I'm definitely trying the leave for two days thing because I have a feeling about that one. I won't do it immediately, but it's definitely on the table if I see no improvement and so is the divorce.
>My end is filled and his end isn't.
part of your end is impregnating yourself with his sperm, assuming he gets a job and does everything else you're saying
well, your mistake was marrying him. he couldnt have possibly kept up the superman super provider routine. he only does that to make up for the fact hes a manlet.
hes broken, time to find a new one.
First of all of all I'm serious on that I don't want to bring someone into the world with bad genetics. That's a life, a human being who will have to live with those genetics. Even if that child isn't his by blood it'll still be our child and we'll take care of it, if my husband is against it then so be it, I'll take care of that child, but this is my decision. If he get's a job I'll keep maintaining my end as I have.
shortness isn't bad genetics. what about being short is bad other than you treating it as such?
>staying with the manlet
100% larp confirmed
Dumb LARPing aside, women actually do think like this. My ex left me after she saw me crying for the first time after my father died.
ya. why stay with a defective provider. shes young and has years left to lock down a strong one.
what about shortness is bad genetics other than you treating it as such?
I don't have any dating experience myself, but my mom was really comforting to my dad when he lost his mother. It's more of a personal value thing but most modern girls (or boys for that matter) aren't taught good values.
shortness is for peasant workers. tallness is regal, the mark of rulers. but short workers are necessary.
Just get a divorce you fucking pussy
Try being at least a little subtle next time.
so it's you treating it as such, and doesn't answer my question
What about shortness is bad other than you treating it as such
you cant just say that its a preference, its innate, its like the White beauty standard, you cant just say it can be "corrected" to not prefer these features.
He sounds like a bitch, just cuck him or find another guy you larping faggot not even posting a timestamps of anything to validate it as other
Just get a divorce and marry that doctor friend.
was this whole thread to specifically bait me out lmao
this is probably bait, but i'll fall for it.
You are filth, entitled filth.
firstly, he has given you everything, i mean think to yourself in your insignificant tiny mind that you had that 'me' time in the first place because of him.
Secondly he has allowed you to live your lifestyle, you clearly haven't been doing anything truly important at home. certainly not raising kids.
thirdly get a job, its about time, and make your husband happy as he has done to you for all these years.
fourthly, if you don't see a future with him just leave, better that than for him to live the rest of his life with a conniving cunt in his shadow living off him like a leach
just again you are a rotten moronic vain woman, who deserves nothing more that a cardboard box on a street-corner, I truly hope your husband realises this and suplexes you down a fucking staircase.
>seriously though you're fucking pondscum,
You are a shit Person burn in hell bitch
As somebody who lost his dad and also got really depressed because of it this makes me really fucking sick.
The reason I got out of it was talking about it with friends and family, and if you don't want to help him by talking about it with him because you're worried about yout financial situation and your fuckin life style, then tou don't deserve to have him (since he sounds really caring and nice) nor do you deserve to live. You are his own fucking wife, the one person in his life that he should trust the most (and should ofcourse support him forever). IF YOU TRULY LOVE HIM YOU SHOULD ATLEAST TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT AND HELP HIM GET OUT OF HIS DEPRESSION. And if you are still fucking worried about your finances or lifestyle go find some work and support the both of you he'll get over it eventually and find work again to support his own familly because I don't think a disgusting witch like you should be with him
At this point my emotions have worn out and my head feels hazy. Thanks to anyone who genuinely tried to help me regardless of moral preference, taking this issue seriously. I need to go and rest for a bit.
It's on the table.
you still haven't answered the question, and your not living up to your side of the deal
i mean somebody has to keep breeding more peasant workers. the majority of the human population are worker bees.
can we just have a queen bee that just gets bred every year by a couple chad bees? but for people, and repopulate the world this way
Kys worthless piece of shit
female on Jow Forums not true but i will give you advice. Try to find job you lazy fucking bitch.
you still can be a hooker and earn some money. This job should fit.
If you loved him you'd get a job instead of being a fucking bitch and complaining online about his depression