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Largely and on the surface my have has gotten pretty good over the last few years. For example I have a decent job now and some social friends. That said I still have very degenerate fetishes that are very self destructive. The worst by far is findom and I am currently involved with a findomme. But I also want to try things such as cuckold bbc. How do I get these shit fetishes out of my head before I risk ruining my new life?

I hate myself because I had to do something shameful to help my family financially (erotic art), it was more successful than intended and now that I need to push forward with it due to obvious legal reasons due to the money, I feel great shame and guilt. I was hoping this was something I could keep hidden away even when reporting income but apparently tax forms want a ton of info about self employed money.

I was stupid and didn't think ahead, now I'm in this hole and would rather die than have people find out what I did.

*my life has*
ffs am I stupid or what?

You'll just be a depressed non-virgin, if you can even keep your boner up, and then you'l be an even more anxious and depressed virgin

I got a job and i've been working for 3 months now why the fuck am i still miserable and lonely you cunts told me getting a job was the epitome of normiehood. Now I just have enough money to binge cocaine and buy premium shit in my online vidya.

>>>GOOD

How do you manage your time?

>be me
>15 yo
>live on boat
>be in colombia
>meet 10/10 qt3.14
>she's not a local
>steal glances for a while
About 3 weeks later
>finally get enough courage to talk to her
>speaks ok english
>shes swiss and speaks german natively
>has 5 siblings
>also lives on boat
>14 yo (down to the date, we are compatible with the half plus seven rule)
About a week later
>we both know we like each other
>she gives me a letter confessing love
>asks if we can kiss
>i say yes
>we kiss
>so good
I love you user
I love you too
>learn that my family is leaving colombia in 2 days
>shitshitshit.edu
>day comes, we have to say goodbye
>think im never going to see her again
>saddest fucking day of my entire life
>want to kill myself
>she said she did too
>promise to come back for her at some point
>dont kill ourselves because then we wolnt see each other again
>we decide that we will both save up for plane tickets to the other person, wherever we are
>if that doesnt work then we will try and go to the same uni
Any tips/advice?
I dont want to leave her because i feel like I couldnt ever love anyone else

Staying positive is not easy and requires hard work. You must condition your brain to think positive by forcing yourself to think positive. Pick a mantra and repeat it whenever you feel down. E.g. "Think positive, stay positive" and distract yourself with. Avoid negative influence. When something makes you angry or sad then it's best to ignore it.

Try to manage your dopamine efficiently. Don't waste it all on video games, Jow Forums or porn. It's okay to be bored and even necessary to truly enjoy the good times. Make plans you can look forward to. Short term plans like for the evening, next day or the weekend. E.g. try to abstain from playing games until the evening and occupy yourself through other means.

Also write down your problems and issues. When you make a list that ominous anxiety that looms above your head suddenly becomes much more manageable and concrete. Try to tackle one issue per day if you want. As long as you make progress no day is waste even if the progress is small.

Don't try to force yourself to give up these fetishes. There is literally nothing wrong with it. Wrongness as a concept is an illusion dictated by others. Though if you feel that they are harming you then try to find out why you have them. Fetishes, like many things, are a way to express and seek certain kind of feelings. Do you have any ideas?

There is nothing to be ashamed of. Like, literally nothing. It's those expectations in your head that make you feel ashamed and there is nothing inherently wrong with it. There is no magical cure to make these feelings go away. Life is absurd and a big game. Sure, the stakes are high but in the end who even knows why we are even here? Who knows what we should do? What is the purpose of life? You can't change what happened but you can control how you react to it. You can try to write down all your justifications. All the good reason why you did that to remind yourself.

>42 year old pedo
>attracted to 10 year old boys
where do i find a loli boy fuck toy?

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Because there is no magical way to become happy. A job is a good start to bring stability and maybe find fulfillment in your work. Also video games and cocain won't make you happy in the long run. It will make you release dopamine, true, but every high will bring a new low. Happiness comes from balancing those high and lows to something sustainable and accepting yourself.

Are you asking about me or in general?

I don't want to talk down your feelings but you should know that love is nothing special. It's a chemical reaction in your brain and has no greater meaning. Given the right moment and right person you will "feel" this reaction no matter what. If you want to keep up this relationship then that's fine, too. But I will promise you that once you stop seeing her that feeling of love will fade. The same applies to her. Don't agonize over it too much. Enjoy that warm tingle and be glad that you are able to love at all. Keep those memories dear but don't be afraid of letting go.

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>Also video games and cocain won't make you happy in the long run.

Says you bitchboy

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i take romance as a form of escapism in my life since i have many problems, however i always get rejected multiple times too

idk what to do anymore user, i wanna improve myself but i can't because burnout. i wanna take my mind off things too.

If you want to find a boy then just go outside. Though I assume you mean it in a legal and mutual way. The problem is that kids may be able to decide but they aren't able to decide in a responsible way like an adult can. They are literally new to this world and new to them self and can't know yet what they want or don't want for the future.

If you don't want to potentially harm another human then you should look into other ways of processing/releasing this desire. It can be through roleplay with another consenting adult or through any other way. It may sound strange but with enough training one can process sexual desire through sport or other activities. I'd recommend to talk about it with a professional who may offer you better insight.

Well, I can only speak for myself but although I didn't do cocain I spend a long time (about two years) trying to chase happiness through weed. Only recently after I became a shell of my former self, unable to feel emotions or enjoy anything, did I try the sober way. Well, not entirely since I'm snorting amphetamine lines and tripping on LSD from time to time. But I learned that you can't be high all the time. Your brain automatically shuts down your happiness hormones when it's flooded. Boredom, sadness etc. are important to be happy, if you don't want to be dependent on a substance. And honestly after forcing through the boredom I found that it's possible to feel euphoric rushes through little things like beating a level in a game (for me it was osu! a rhythm game) if you don't over indulge.

Maybe some people do find true happiness through a lot of cocain and video games but personally I prefer the peace and tranquility of not having to chase a high in order to feel at all.

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In general user, I often feel confused organizing it. I hate the Calendar app and I hate planning. I just want to stop my brain from feeling foggy and disorganized

I find intricate ruses the most stimulating. Just the raw emotion and trying to recall deliberate clues. Following up unlikely leads until you strike gold. Then finally the catharsis when you finally piece everything together.

Much better than any escape room.

I don't know you but to be frank I think you are getting rejected because you try to use potential partners as a mean to an end instead of appreciating them for what they are. The more we love, the more afraid are we of loosing it. That leads to anxiety and desperation which the other person easily notices even if only subconsciously.

Don't force yourself to improve. First try to arrange yourself with what you have right now. Then after you are content with what you have you can start by tackling your issues one by one. Write them down and keep a journal of your progress. Don't think big because then the task might seem impossible. Try to live day by day, moment by moment.

Also I recommend to find out WHY you want to escape. Unless you find out you will spend a lot of time trying to chase something you aren't even sure you want. Don't let others dictate your goals. Be honest to yourself and accept your feelings. Try out different things and don't be afraid of failing. Think of it as a lesson from which you can learn.

And don't force yourself. Other than staying alive there aren't any "real" responsibilities. They are mostly in your head. You don't need to improve if you are content with yourself. Do things you enjoy for the sake of enjoying them.

i want to kill myself no matter what i do, im constantly tired and sleep all day because nothing wakes me up.. i dont do it on purpose i just collapse from exhaustion constantly. i got kicked out from mental health services and im too scared to call back up to get in.. the only reason i was in in the first place is because my parents could do it for me and forced me to but they cant anymore

none of my friends live in the same town as me anymore cus they all moved away for uni which means i have nobody my age to go out with anymore so im constantly stuck inside unless im working

nothing interests me anymore because i cant meet my own expectations so i lose all motivation. either that or i become too tired and sad to carry on

i have a bf now and i love him but im so afraid that ill end up using romance as a crutch for my feelings without realising again, and i dont want to hurt him

ive felt like this since i was like 7 and i thought i was finally getting better with therapy but i just cant

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I've fallen in love with a girl who can never love me back.

Don't over do the planning. You don't need to have your day organized by the hour. Pick a specific thing you want to integrate in your life and try it out. For example a good start is having a sleeping schedule like going to bed before midnight and waking up before 12am. Be as specific or as general as you want to be. Keep doing that one thing until it becomes a habit. Then, if you want, you can move on.

Also if you feel foggy and disorganized in general it may be related to drug abuse (e.g. weed gave me a lot of brain fog) and your diet. Try to introduce healthy eating habits and maybe some sport in your life. And don't forget to stay hydrated. Do you have any idea why your brain might feel foggy and disorganized?

Well, that looks like a complicated problem. I don't think I can offer you any advice in general but to try treatment again. Keep looking even if you don't find methods or therapists that help. In the end you must want to be happy because otherwise no one can help you.

Open up to your boyfriend about it. Maybe he can give you the courage you need. There is nothing to be afraid of. As the famous quote goes "There is nothing to fear but fear itself".

Why can't she?

thank you user for your response, have a great day

are those ways also to start loving yourself? people kept telling me to love myself before loving others, but i dont know where to start. just got rejected recently too because the dude showed signs of attraction (cuddling, holding hands), however he sees me only as a friend. i just thought he didnt respond the same way, because he wasnt ready for any commitment. what do u think user?

I procrastinate a lot. The only downside is a low income but the boat I want is propably a burden anway and I would be to lazy to fully utilize it. Also am wizard, neet and mild psychosis. What should I procastinate next a.k.a do?

I've been in uni in a new city for about half a year and I haven't gotten to know anyone. I'm used to having an active social life and this is seriously taking a toll on me.

Any ideas for how to start making friends when I come back after Christmas?

Go fuck yourself cuck, I don't need any advice from a weeb dweeb

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how do i get Jow Forums
how do i get dom bully tall gf
how do i stop the pain user
tell me

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She's in a 3 year relationship with her current boyfriend. Sometimes its hard to remembered that the attention she gives me is because we're friends and only friends. Thank you for the reply user.

> how do i get Jow Forums
Go to Jow Forums and read the beginner sticky. If you actually follow the advice you're almost guaranteed to get fit

what about my dom bully gf

Not op (but the neet abive you)
Visit a foreign exchange language cafe talk thing . you know whe the foreigners practice english with regulars. It has many advantages.

Shedule a talk with a random pre phd to discuss some topic. This could be any faculty.

Language classes.

Students are mostly open minded and are active if you iverhear that someone is going free climbing just invite yourself because you always wanted to do it. They will make try to make you like their sport by beeing nice and supportive.

OP, you seem like a nice person. Would ask for advice of my own but I have to go to bed. Have a good night.

>Shedule a talk with a random pre phd to discuss some topic
So I can just invite some random sociology student to chat with me? I'm still not too well versed in how universities work but that seems strange

Anyway thanks. I'll try looking for openings, especially in languages since that's already a passion of mine.

thanks user , its just rly hard to want to be happy when im like this :/

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A lot of my behaviors seem artificial. What do? I'm very cordial with people and I'm create this fake relationship between people. It's almost as if they've seen through my filter and know I'm hiding a cesspool of anger behind my friendly eyes.

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Loving yourself doesn't follow any strict formula as far as I'm aware of. It's purely subjective. Some may be content with living a stable life with a job and one or two hobbies while others want to see the world and explore places few people went before.

It's true that you can only love other after you manage to love yourself. Everything else runs the risk of becoming dependence and not love. Start by thinking about things you like about yourself and things you like to do. Practice mindfulness through e.g. meditation. Be aware of your feelings and what lies behind them. Don't force yourself to be what you are not (that doesn't mean that you musn't improve yourself if you wish so). Accept those feelings, even the negative ones. I believe we start loving ourself by doing things we love but that might not apply for everyone. This is something you must figure out for yourself.

If the dude only sees you as a friend there is not a lot you can do. Try not to interpret too much into his actions. Sometimes we do things for the strangest reasons and there is no way one can look inside other peoples head. Don't worry too much about it. Also don't be afraid of not seeing him for a while. Love comes and goes and if being near him hurts you then it's alright to put some distance between each other. Tell him that though so he knows, too. A good friend would understand it.

I seriously doubt anyone can truly pierce through that abyss.

user how do i improve my posture? 27 years of low self esteem made me walk around like an old man, i try to walk up straight but it looks really forced and weird, ive had teenagers making fun of me because of the way i walk when i try to walk with a straight back.
Whenever i look at myself in the mirror i fucking hate the way i stand, it just screams virgin and lack of self esteem

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That whichever you want. Really, if you are able to support yourself and are happy then there is no need to do anything. Are there things you want to change about yourself?

Finding friends is easy when you need to work together on something. E.g. A sport club or any club in general where people with similar interests meet is the best. Also an important part of communication is to open yourself. Often when you see someone who is very secluded it's not (at least not always) because they want to be alone but because they fear rejection and avoid any possibilities of getting hurt in the first place. Try to speak to someone even though you are afraid they might reject you. After all you aren't committing any crimes by initiating small talk and trying to know someone. Arrange yourself with the possibility of someone not wanting to talk to you and don't worry about it. It doesn't make you any less valuable as a person.

Here is your, (you). :)

Where do I find a cute girl who can love me in college if I'm below average in looks. Doesn't have to be nerdy, I jsut want to spend time with her and lie down next to her in a bed thinking about how lucky I am

Try the other options out first. Could work but try to make it about academia first. Perhaps you can learn something. Also state the fake purpouse of your visit as inter disciplinary project. Also research if you could make into something real for ya CP or SU.
good question, are you the nsa I contacted earlier?

You get Jow Forums by doing Jow Forums things. Start small like a single push up in the morning. Then maybe two, then maybe three. Don't be afraid to not train "the real way". Every little thing counts even if it's only a walk in the park.

I can't change your desire for a dom bully tall gf but I have to say that it's not a healthy way of looking at a relationship. Narrowing your potential partners like this will most likely result in you staying alone for ever. Try to be open minded and explore different people with different personality types. Other than that I can recommend you fetish dating sites. There you might find someone who fits these criteria. But let's be honest, don't you think it's mean to reduce a potential partner for life to a tool in order to fulfill your sexual desire?

The pain can be stopped with opiates. That's a joke don't get addicted to opiates
What kind of pain do you mean?

Well, that's really unfortunate. Try not to worry too much and don't be afraid to cut contacts for some time. Unrequited love is like a wound and constantly picking it will only make it worse. As I said before love, while powerful and beautiful, is only a chemical reaction in your brain and will come and go as it pleases. There are many other people who will be able to make you happy and who you can make happy, too.

Good night, user. And thank you for the compliment.

I don't want to masturbate to comic/anime characters because they are the only female that I have a connection to. Porn/Hookers feel so impersonal in comparison. I fear that I will kill myself once I can't nut to rule34 anymore.

Thank you user, Think I've needed to hear that from someone for a while now.

I know, at least to some extent. Self pity can be very comforting and I also like to indulge myself in it from time to time. Just try not to get lost in those thoughts. Emotions are like the wind that let's the sailor travel the ocean on his boat but as much fun as it is sailing, it's also important to not stray too far from the shore or we might loose ourself.

I don't think it's possible to always be happy but as long as one makes a conscious effort to at least remind oneself then the chance of getting lost in the ocean is small.

Your behavior might seem artificial because you force yourself to act a certain way that you think you are supposed to act. Try to think about what you want to do and simultaneously what you think you should do in that situation. Compare these two and maybe find a compromise. Try to not feel guilty if your actual desires don't align with your expectations. It's alright to be angry. It's alright to not like someone. And sometimes part of being a human means wanting to hurt someone and being cruel. The most important thing is to realize what kind of emotions you have and then trying vent them through healthy processes.

thank you user, its just emotional pain.
the gf thing is just a preference.

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also, could i have your discord, you seem positive and i need a positive person in my life.
heres mine
BlackMage#0343

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There is no other way but by doing it. A good way to start having a healthier posture is by looking straight forward. Avoid staring at the ground. Also don't force yourself if it feels too uncomfortable or if it hurts. Maybe also ask your doctor about it. I'm not an expert but sometimes there are health reasons for bad posture.

And are you sure they made fun about you because of the way you walk? Maybe you became too self conscious and interpreted something that didn't happen. Either way it doesn't matter what they think. You are doing it for yourself and that is way more important than the opinion of anyone.

You find her in places where there are other people. Sounds obvious but there is no cute gf meeting place as far as I know of (If there is please tell me haha). Being below average looks is a disadvantage there is no way of avoiding that. Still in the end it's constant that although you must consider it's not something you should think of too much. Try to keep up with hygiene and other ways of boosting your appearance. And after that you should put yourself out in the open and be available. As a male it's expected of you to make the first move so you should try that, too. But don't go into a conversation with a girl with the goal of making her your gf. Don't make her feel cornered but also don't be too vague. It's a game that must be learned by trial. If you are bad at it then try to make a female friend first without thinking about relationships etc. and look for someone you could actually imagine of being friends with due to mutual interests.

Unironically try to abstain from masturbation for some time. Or at least cut out the porn. It will make you horny and also motivated to search for a partner. To find a gf is the hard part though. Try to make yourself more appealing to the other sex. Step by step.

Sorry, but I don't use discord. I hope you find other positive people though.

Similar boat to user here. How do I stop wasting time with Youtube friend simulators? New city, no job atm and friends are scattered around/living their own lives. How do I stay productive and keep off of timewasting platforms?

try finding groups or activities that interest you. It's a lot easier to meet people and interact with them if you share an interest or hobby. Even if you don't approach anyone, someone might start a conversation with you, or you'll find that you happen to enjoy the experience

inherently speaking, there's nothing wrong with your fetishes, but you are correct when saying they could potentially fuck up your life. the best solution isn't to try to get rid of these fetishes, but to try to set limits or guidelines for them. For example, if you haven't already, try setting a hard limit on the amount of money, gifts, etc. that you can give to your findomme per month. Make sure that she know to refuse you from then on once you've hit that limit. That way, you can satisfy your fetish but not fuck yourself over.

there's nothing wrong with drawing art of an erotic nature. you should be perfectly comfortable with the work you do, and if anyone has an issue with it, then it's their loss and you should try to find people who are more accepting . Alternatively, if it bothers you this much, you could try to channel your talent into more "acceptable" jobs.

First of all why do you feel that you are wasting time at all? Time is not wasted as long as you enjoy experiencing it. Do I assume correctly when I say that there are some things in your life that aren't the way you want them to be and that's why you feel guilty of not being "productive"?

Anyway "productivity" and "wasting time" are very subjective things. Imagine if there was only one human on earth that possessed all vital things for survival. Do you think he would ever feel like he wastes time when he does things he enjoys?

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first of all, don't try to find an actual loli/shota. this should go without saying, but it's a massive can of worms that will most likely result in you getting arrested or at the very least will ruin your life. a good alternative is to find someone who is of legal age but looks pretty young and is into age play (stuff like ddlg)

What bothers me most about it is how ordinary people perceive it. Just looking at all the censorship that's happening right now scares me, tumblr just banned all porn and twitter will likely soon follow, new laws were passed to prevent porn on certain sites, not to mention all the arbitrary stuff on whats "acceptable" to draw. Tons of people are having their patreon accounts removed cause of censorship.

If I knew all this would've happened I would have done something else, but it's too late now and even if I do want to shift to something else this will always be tied to me.

Not the user you responded to.

It may sound simple but try not to be bothered by what the ordinary people think. If it helps try to imagine your average human and how stupid they are. Now imagine that half of the entire population is even more dumber. It's alright to care for the opinion of other people but try to pick those whose opinion you actually value. A stranger might be horrified by your drawings but a (in my opinion) mature adult will see it way more relaxed. After all you are also doing the world a service. Someones has to produce hentai and r34 after all. :)

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yeah, that prudishness is simply a symptom of the times. tons upon tons of people get off to porn and hentai, and for a lot of people, it's a necessary service.

My grandfather just passed away. My mental health is absolute trash tier (bipolar) and every other aspect of my life has been going down the shitter for the past half year. I'm a mess of self harm and dissociation and I'm horribly afraid of the next three days of funeral/burial services. I'm also a dirty tranny but not far enough in that I have any dresses or anything, and going from andro clothes to a big manly suit while being surrounded by people I'm uncomfortable around while also dealing with the raw, extreme depressive episode I'm in right now makes me think I'm going to completely lose my shit like I have in the past; i.e. screaming like a banshee while clawing at my face and rolling around on the floor, hyperventilating, physically running away with no destination or sense of self, dissociation, etc.

My grandfather raised me, and my entire family would probably want to stab me if I didn't go but I'm already at a point of considering hospitalization even though I've been hiding in my room

Oh I guess my question is... what do I do... Every option I can think of is awful

I'll take your advice, user. God knows I couldn't be damned to talk about my problems with the people I know in real life.

I have no purpose, no drive, and no motivation in life. I can't even motivate myself to spend time doing the things I like, such as playing video games and watching youtube videos.

I am so overly conscious about what other people's opinions are about what I am that I can't enjoy the stuff I like. If I'm playing a video game, I'm thinking "Wow, I can't play ESO anymore because I only like playing the khajiit characters and people are going to think I'm a furry (Which I am but don't identify myself with.)" So then I end up playing nothing. I've been trying to read berserk but I see lots of hate for it and get nervous that people are going to think I'm a loser for reading berserk, and then I end up not reading berserk.

As of this time in my life, only 2 things make me happy. Seeing people laugh at what I say, and my dog. Everything else just provides a short burst of happiness then I lose it when I get back home.

Oh, right, home. I spend all my time sitting in my room, because I'm only comfortable in my room. When I think of how I want to spend my day, I want to spend it in my room. Regardless of what I'm doing in a day, be it something that I myself set up or an obligation like school or work, I just get really bummed out because I can't spend time in my room.
And even when I do spend time in my room, I just end up wasting my time doing nothing because I can't bring myself to play games for too long without wanting to do something else, then not doing anything at all.

Give me some advice, user. I'd really appreciate it.

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Do you currently seek help for your problems? The best would be a professional but even a good friend to vent can make a huge difference. It sounds like you have to deal with a lot of things right now and tackling them all at once would, in my opinion, be impossible so try to focus on one thing at once. I do suggest that you talk about the funeral with your family. It's understandable that one wants to suppress the negative emotions associated with having your grandfather die and the fear of going to the funeral due to not wanting to feel the sadness while simultaneously feeling guilty because one wouldn't meet their families expectations if they didn't go.

In the end if you ever want to get over his death then you will need to confront these feelings. But I don't think that it MUST be at his funeral. If you think you can handle it I would recommend going but if you know that this would be too much then you should talk to your family. You assume that your family would hate you for not going but did you ever actually ask them? Try to explain your difficult situation to them and assuming they are reasonable people they will probably understand if you stay at home.

Unfortunately I can't make this decision for you, as you know best what you can handle and what not.

It's good that you recognize how your dependence on the validation of others hinders you. But now comes the hard part of getting over it. You should force yourself to do these things even if you are ashamed. Right now you have internalized this shame and build thought patterns to enforce it. To tear these down will not be easy or quick. It will be a consistent effort of going out of your comfort zone. It will suck at first and even later it might not go away completely but I can promise you that it will get easier over time.

Also those short bursts of happiness and the loss of interest right after reminds me of myself when I overindulged in those quick dopamine giving activities like gaming. Try to limit yourself in time e.g. only playing one hour a day or only browsing two hours on Jow Forums. This should make sure that you don't burn yourself out and then be unable to enjoy anything. Don't be afraid of boredom.

It's alright to want to spend time in one owns, I like to call it, "sanctuary" as I'm the same. But it's also important to recognize when it hinders you in your daily life. And again, the only way to change it and make time spend outside your room more enjoyable (or at least tolerable) is to do it again and again even if you don't want to. Our brains need to be trained and undesirable thought patterns, just like bad habits, are hard to get rid of. But again it will get easier over time. You must know better than me if this desire of staying in your room is hindering you or not.

OP here.
By the way if you feel that the advice is unsatisfying or you still have some questions I don't mind to write more. Just tell me.

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You are so wise, user. You have my thanks.

Come back one day, and I'll ask you for some more advice. Hopefully, I'll be a little bit better then.

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How do I get in contact with dear friend of mine? We planned on watching a movie, but I haven't seen them for a few days.

To be honest I'm not sure if I understood your question correctly but what about messaging them over a messaging app or simply calling?

You've already given me advice, but I need more.

I am sexually attracted to furry porn, and I find furry characters to be asthetically pleasing in games. However, I am so frightened of the stigma and the hatred that furries get that I purposely avoid khajiits and animal characters in games.

What do?

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Been with a girl at 4 months now and i can see her losing interest on me for being a asshole every time.
She's being consumed by this relationship and i don't know if i can do something since when i try something, i fuck the things even more.

user!! thank you for answering my queries honestly. i will not tell myself which i am, but you sure helped me a lot today and i surely felt better. i hope you're doing well and i hope i could see more of you in the future.

i jacked it to yiff a couple of times too but have no desire to dress up in their coatumes or go to thier events. i still think furry traps are hot because im into degenrate porn.

how do i practice myself to have more patience? i always find myself rushing into things and disappoint myself if i am unsatisfied. then i always repeat the same cycle again.

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I'd never buy a suit or attend the cons, simply because I don't like the community. But like I said, I jerk my gerkin to that shit.

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how do I quell my strong urge of impregnating a female?

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by realizing that you're gonna have to pay for that shit for the rest of your life

I guess I'm too distracted by everything. Imageboards, internet, TV have fucked my attention span...

I don't care I want kids to raise

Well, as long as you don't share it with others there is no way anyone could shame your for it. There is rarely any reason to share ones fetish with others and when there is, e.g. in a relationship, then your partner would surely not view it negatively. In singleplayer games it should be no problem and even in multiplayer there is no way to know that you picked an animal race because of your fetish, unless you say it yourself. For all they know it could be because you got bored of humanoid races.

Also try to think about what kind of person would even make a big deal out of it. If you are minding your own business and someone actively makes an effort to attack you for your character choice then I can't imagine that it's a person whose opinion is worth noting.

Just pick the character and try not to be bothered. Even if you are unable to shake that feeling off completely then go for it anyway. There will probably come a point where you simply get bored of fearing the opinion of others especially if you enjoy the game. After all you have better things to do. :)

Also don't take it too seriously even if you get bashed for it. Hating furries is a meme in itself. It's not unreasonable to assume that most hate is done without much thought to it. Most likely the haters themselves will forget about in after some minutes.

Every time you are about to make a decision think to yourself "STOP" and count down from 5 (or whatever number you like). Then try to think about what you want to do and why. Imagine yourself talking to someone and think in full sentences. E.g. "I want to eat this sandwhich now. My reason for wanting to eat is because I'm hungry". The more reasons you can find the better. You will probably forget about it sometimes in the heat of the moment but that's alright. The important part is to be consistent in your effort. Write yourself a reminder and put it in places you frequent often like the bathroom or kitchen.

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then find one and doom yourself to that, where's the problem?

I for one have been starting to feel like shit because you can't rely on anyone too much, how can you quelch the reality that we're all alone in the long run and there's nothing we can do about it?

>believing society myth on raising kids
you probably believe and "overpopulation" and support abortion/baby murder as well

not at all my viewpoint, I just don't care for kids, I believe they're a waste of money and time since they don't provide any emotional value to me, they just take from my time to live life to the fullest before I die, plus they're annoying as fuck and you have to choose between supporting 2 useless people (kid and wife) or having a partner who works and leave your kid with someone else to get raised wich defeats the purpose. I do support abortion but that's neither here nor there.

any advice on how to deal with short attention span and a lack of conscientiousness. I really struggle with finishing homework and finishing tracks (music production).

This way you should be able to "catch" yourself doing things too rashly or for the wrong reasons. And don't worry if you forget this. I imagine even the most patient and mindful people slip up as everyone makes mistakes.

That's a hard one. This urge is deeply integrated in you just like the feeling of hunger. It might be possible to supress it through sheer willpower but I don't think that's healthy and could lead to some nasty complexes. But that doesn't mean that you are powerless. Urges may feel overwhelming but you don't have to act on them (just like you don't start eating at the supermarket before you bought the food even though you are hungry). Try turn your focus "inside" and observe that urge. Let it go through you and accept it as what it is. An urge, nothing more and nothing less. You are not enemies and can coexist with each other.

I'm the same. I recommend to pick up a book and read it even though it seems boring. When I quit weed and was unable to enjoy anything due the withdrawals I thought to myself "Whatever if I can't have fun doing fun things, I can do things that I normally consider boring". And funny enough our brains are good at adapting to the current situation and I learned to enjoy it somewhat.
It doesn't have to be a book but can be anything that requires concentration and patience.

If you don't mind I can recommend a song that kind of touches this topic (turn on annotations for the english subtitles).
youtube.com/watch?v=cR4ea7fcbG0 I kinda wanted to share it anyway because I like it haha
You may not be able to rely on anyone too much but there is one person that will stay with you until death. It's yourself. And the most important thing is being friends with that person. Also trying to squelch reality seems like an impossible and unreasonable thing to do. Something that is much is easier is managing your expectations. cont.

We humans are weak and have good and bad moments. I believe the trick in enjoying life is appreciating the good and tolerating the bad ones. One can't exist without the other and without evil/weakness there can't be good/strength. Don't expect too much from others but neither too little. We are in this together and through sharing our weak moments and our strong moments we might be able to find meaning in all this struggle.

I hope you don't mind me redirecting you to my posts further above. To summarize: Try to limit your exposure of quick dopamine releasing things like gaming, drugs, social media etc. and don't be afraid of boredom. And don't over work yourself. Have a 10 minute break for every hour of learning. Have a walk, grab something to drink/eat or listen to some music. I believe I've read about a study that said the human can only effectively concentrate for 4-6 hours every day until the brain is too exhausted. Though I'm not sure.

really liked the song, yeah I worked a lot on being at peace with myself on my late teens early 20s, and now (mid 20s) is when I realize most people you can't really rely on, you're alone most of the time and it's depressing, at times even frustrating, I don't even care for finding a partner because it's the same every time, you either fall out of love wich is pretty much what happens every single time or you end up feeling even more lonely that when you were alone, but yeah I guess that's life

OP here.

I wanted to thank everyone for their kind words. I hope you understand that I didn't want to reply to everyone because it would take away time from writing my actual responses. But I certainly didn't ignore you, dear anons.

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I'd like to thank you for your response and in exchange ask you, what's going on with you? anything you'd like to share OP?

i cant be confident in making my own choices thus second guessing myself and making more decisions on impulse. i always overthink which puts me into analysis paralysis

How do I build the ultimate race car?

I just want a mommy gf to hold me and tell me things are gonna be OK. I want to love her and make love to her asshole. I want to be inside her vagina when I'm buried in her chest and cum in her mommy pussy.

How do I get this?

Start by becoming a mechanic. Then teach yourself engineering. Use your practical experience and mechanical engineering knowledge to create an aerodynamic rubber burning machine.