Can somebody help me understand "banter"?

Can somebody help me understand "banter"?

I'm a high-functioning autist who's socially-retarded when it comes to banter. I'm uncomfortable in the majority of social situations but over the years have learned how to act in a way people like. Yet I'm clueless when it comes to banter, it doesn't make sense to me to make fun of people who I'm supposed to be building relationships with.

Can somebody please explain it to me? And also where's the line? Or how to avoid this behaviour?

I honestly think it's a kind of cope from unfulfilment but I'm not sure.

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You're okay. People are just retards leaking mouth noise because they're terrified of the thoughts they might have if they stop talking. Don't let people weigh you down.

>Can somebody help me understand "banter"?
>I'm a high-functioning autist who's socially-retarded
user, the answer is no. You will never understand it because you are basically a shitty robot. You will never really be able to comprehend complex human interaction because you are disabled in a way that makes you literally incapable of comprehending some, if not most human interaction.

You are broken. You can not be fixed. Your entire human experience will be dampered by the fact that you are unable completely share experiences and insights with other humans. It's like being blind but instead of fucking you up on a physical level it fucks you up on a level that actually makes you not really human.

We all think you are a burden in case you were wondering. Cheers.

Just take the piss out of the other bloke but not in an unfriendly way.

Here is a bad example.

Tbh not OP but that doesn't help me either.

Always wondered, I have a couple friends that I can banter with online and in games and somewhat in person. But that was after we've established our comforts and rapport to show one another that we're not assholes in our core.

I see someone trying to banter who's ONLY just a colleague or coworker that I have no friendship or trust with and I see it as them coming off as a cunt. Why try to talk shit to me if you can't even talk to me like a friend to begin with?

It fucking baffles me. Banter is just retard speak for "I don't know how to be nice to you until you trust me so here let me make fun of you."

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Well at least i'm not a virgin like you.

People do it because it's funny and it lets you get comfortable around friends and make tighter bonds, you just need to make sure the person isn't too sensitive and don't make fun of anything that you know somebody is insecure about.
it's just a light hearted bit of fun really, it builds character, if you can take it on the chin you'll be respected more and if you can give it back just as good as you get it then there you go, it's just abit of banter mate, it's not that deep

seemed friendly enough

I'm married. Cope all you want, I told you how it is. You can ignore it or embrace it. Just the hand you got dealt kid.

Banter :')

get your receding hairline outta here

>I'm married.
That doesn't mean you aren't.
Does Tyrone let you touch her feet at least?

Pretty much this.
Its also honestly an informal personality and intelligence test. If someone can do witty wordplay you can get a sense of their verbal IQ, grammer, sense of humor, personality etc.
If you tease someone and all they can say is "fuck you faggot" your probably dealing with a low IQ dullard. I'm sure we've all seen this type of person in life.

>Not op
I honestly hope that's a pasta because that was pathetic
>op
THAT'S banter?! Some loser whos married to a pigwife that tries to pick on somebody who he thinks is lesser than him, so for some illogical reason, it makes him feel better about his shit life. That would be pure, hard cope.

Prime example of how not Banter someone
Generally avoid calling anyone a virgin cause if they arn't one they're gonna think you're immature and and if they are then it's probably gonna upset them

calling your skinny friend a fat cunt when they're eating alot is banter but calling your obese pal a fat cunt is just mean, generally try and say things that arnt really true about the person or only half true, be too honest and you'll jsut end up looking like a dick, and know when to stop before someone gets too upset because if you hit a nerve with them then they're gonna end up taking it too far and being mean and no one wants that, Start off with just being able to laugh things off or be self critical and embrace what they're roasting you for, makes it alot funnier for everyone but dont take it too far.

At the end of the day you probably will never understand the fun in it with being autistic but if you can atleast see how others enjoy it and go with it then you're in with a chance of making some actually meaningful connections

Banter is an extreme soft skill that will help you make friends immensely but is very subtle. Only way to get better is to try it and socialise.

Does mommy help you practice?

got a guy with the 'tism at my office and he can't banter either. has no sense of where the line is, people will be laughing about whatever shit they're flinging around, he'll misread things completely and dive in with a comment about stuff someone's really sensitive about, like their illness or inability to pronounce a word or something.

not him but unironically yeah, sometimes I banter with my mum. Sometimes I piss her off sometimes I make her laugh, but it's all banter and it helps hone in that social skill.

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