/sig/ - self improvement general

Based and digitpilled

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have a listen if you are genuinely interested in Self Improvement

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I think I might have schizophrenia.
>at work at grocery store
>all of a sudden have intrusive thought
>really, really bad, like absolutely disgusting
>suddenly can't stop thinking it
>phrase keeps popping into head
I also have a terrible fear of saying things outloud. I think about politically incorrect things at work, so I'm scared I'll say them outloud. I'm still not sure if I actually do that or not. My coworkers and managers have never brought it up.
I'm extremely scared that I said the intrusive thought outloud, even though noone's brought it up. I'm contemplating quitting. Also, I heard my direct manager to the store manager. She seemed mad, but she might've been talking about my coworkers. I'm scared I'm not working hard enough.

Organize your porn folders so you can think in categories and find just the right things to fap to instead of having to hunt. Put your favorite ones together and use reverse image searches to find more once you start to recognize the types you like. Fap every day and experience the joy that comes with it.

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>porn
>making it

"No."

>most normal guys in society masturbate to pron, even ones with girlfriends
>go on autistic forums like Jow Forums and reddit
>U CAN NEVER MAKE IT IF U WATCH PORN THAT'S WHAT JORDAN PETERSON TOLD ME HE TOLD ME IF I CLEAN MY ROOM AND STOP WATCHING PORN I WILL GET A 10/10 WAIFU

Next time pray for the strength and willpower to get a gf

"Normal people" also have premarital sex, drink alcohol and do drugs. That doesn't make it good.

Do "normal guys" have organized folders of porn on their hard drive?

Apparently this is called "thought broadcasting". I've had it for several months.
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thought_broadcasting
I thought I was just autistic. It turns out I'm a schizo.

Ask God not for things, but the way to proceed through your life to craft the life you want. Ask yourself what the steps to that life look like, and what steps you can take, that you know you could take. You will find your answers in your meditations.

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Yes, they do. It's not normal to openly admit it, but it's normal. Not to mention smart.

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how do I learn to validate myself and cultivate the inner desire of motivation (not just discipline, but a real fire, it's there but turns out I'm just a loser so I hate myself because I don't act and am complacent with mediocrity)
Help me out anons

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i dunno
i recommend developing a crippling inferiority complex that keeps you autistically obsessed with going to the gym all the time and adhering to a ludicrously strict diet. compounding this with drugs to help with cutting/bulking is very effective.

Yesterdat I've realized that I have major daddy issues. It seems that I crave for some father-like figure who would teach but at the same time most importantly protect. This protection as I understand it most likely protection from my own responsibilities. For reason unknown to me I don't want to take responsibility for a lot of my actions. I want to shift the responsibility over to somebody else.
The question is how do I fix these daddy issues?

Make male friends.

There is no such thing as normal, some people are just better adjusted to public interaction and etiquette

>last day before vacation
>"I'm going to clean a little and read!"
>Spent all day fapping and playing Vidya

I'm not gonna make it

Sometimes I'll spend all day alternating between 10 minutes of what I want to do and 20 minutes of what I should be doing.
I'm probably ruining what little attention span I have by doing this but the results are pretty great.

Get help.
cocoonais.com/mental-health-hotlines-worldwide/

Based tantrapilled

My alarm is set for 8AM, but I always wake up naturally at 7:15 then go back to sleep, and when my alarm rings I have a lot of trouble getting out of bed.
Should I just start getting up at 7:15?

Yeah. Try going to sleep earlier. But if you keep waking up even earlier, then you're probably just getting enough sleep for you.

I tend to go to sleep between 11:30 and midnight so shouldn't that be enough? Any earlier would be kind of troublesome.

I don't know if it's enough for you. Do you feel perfectly okay and functional waking up at 7:15 ?

I tend to go back to bed immediately but I feel somewhat alert and refreshed, at least much more so than one hour later.

Generally people need from 7-10 hours of sleep, depending on the individual. So you could be getting enough.

Try going a week or two waking up when you actually feel like it and see how you are during the day.

Got it, thanks.

I average about 6 hours and 45 minutes according to my fitbit. I don't have a job, I can wake up whenever I want but somehow I still can't get 7 hours of sleep. Any advice?

I only drink one coffee per day - at around 8:00am.

Do you feel okay? Some sources say that 6 hours can be enough for some people.

I feel fine. Maybe I'm one of those people that need less sleep... But I believe that this is holding me back in terms of getting stronger. Even though I eat enough protein and overall calories and train as much as all of my friends, I'm progressing a lot slower.

There is a changelog.txt in the folder with an estimated date when the next update will be and what will change.

The file conversation will start later in 2019.

Lord, please kill all the sinners, heathens, and in general anyone who has been a bad little boy in your eyes
>everyone is dead

nice religion fag

I really need to read some books in order to be able to land a job I want but years spent on procrastinating made my attention span miserable.
I've set a goal to read reamining 130 pages from one book so I started with reading 10 pages with 10 minutes rest from it when I can do whatever I want but only if I will start to read another 10 pages after that.
I have read 130 pages so far. 100 left.
Feels like shit but I guess this is the only way to go if I want to get done with it.

Eat an elephant one bite at a time. You'll get there.

Once I've gone through the bulking then cutting part of getting in shape, is there any necessity to bulk again at some point or is maintenance fine?

Ie just b urself and in the end it was you all alone xD

i had the same problem when i started reading
for my entire life up to that point i have never read any books because i thought they were boring
my first book was "the prince" by who other than machiavelli
the first month i read like 3 pages at most before i got bored, even though i liked the book alot
but after sticking to the habit of reading everyday i have continued to improve in both reading speed and amount of pages to a point of being able to read 300 pages a day if i have the time
If you make sure to make reading a habit you will see improvement sooner or later both in your attention span and ability to read
keep going user

It all depends on what your goals are, dude.
One bulk/cut cycle probably isn't going to be enough if you're going for maximum aesthetics.
You typically keep a bulk going until you're at too much body fat for your liking (15-20%), and during this bulk you can only build so much muscle. If you want more you'll have to cut and then bulk once again.

I want to go from skinnyfat to being noticeably Jow Forums even when wearing clothes. That means bulking several times then.

Probably, yeah.
But don't be afraid to keep your first bulk up a little bit longer. It's better to build up strength when you're starting off, even if that means gaining a little more fat.

Alright I'll keep that in mind.

This cope. What other areas of your life do you surrender to degeneracy because your are too weak willed to control yourself user?
Be a slave to lust if you must, but don't call that manly or admirable. A sense of shame is a gift to orient yourself toward the true, good, and beautiful. That sense is what directs you (and "normal men") to not admit to your open addiction openly. It's unfortunate that you have allowed yours to deteriorate to such a degree.

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Is it unhealthy to use peanuts as 'padding' for my macros? It's difficult to reach the required amount of calories and protein so I'm just eating a lot of peanuts (unsalted obviously) additionally to my normal meals

Slowly losing roughly 0.5kg a week, trying to get abs while maintaining any muscle from before. Any tips for fat loss?

Not really, I eat at least 6 tablespoons of PB a day and I'm fine.

I respect your beliefs and right to choose but please, stop with the religious content or trying to convert people on these generals. It's getting annoying.

I've been paying attention to signs and coincidences lately and they always, fucking always lead me on one path- towards monkhood. And I don't want that.

wat

>thinking sex, alcohol and drugs are bad
having a sexlife of bonobo chimpanzee = bad
making love = good
getting shitfaced every weekend = bad
enjoying a beer with bros = good
sucking trap cock for heroin = bad
using drugs with harm reduction in mind = good

I absolutely dont understand why some people think that ascetism = enlightenment. We arent here to suffer, ultimately we are here for good things. It takes wisdom to not let those good things turn into bad ones. Throwing pleasure out of life is just prejudice.

Feel like shit today. Four nights our drinking and the come down now as hit need. Body is trying to heal And in doing so is releasing negative feels.

I know once I hit the gym tomorrow it will be the start of the come back. I look forward to good feels again once the body has healed. No drink for three weeks I think

>meet girl
>hang out whole night, talk a lot
>walk her home, get a kiss goodnight on the cheek
>I like her, maybe I should ask her out
>headphones blare 'Yours Is An Empty Hope' by Nightwish
Gee, thanks, God. Fine, I got it, it's a no go, I should've realized it after the kiss on the cheek. No need to spell it out so clearly.

Or another one
>haven't seen an ex for years, but we remained friends
>she has a debut thing, I'm invited
>worry for a week
>the night before have a dream about meeting her current bf
>wake up, realize that no shit she probably has a bf

That's weak, user. You gave up because of a song randomly blaring on your headphones? Because of a dream your brain came up with?
Sounds to me like you're looking for excuses.

I started jerking it too tranny porn. How do I get out of the hole I’ve dug myself in

Embrace your gayness

I dunno, maybe I shouldn't pay attention to this shit. Fine, I'll ask her out. But if she says no, I'm blaming you personally.

Blame me for what? If she says no, at least you had the balls to ask her out. Failure makes you stronger.

I have been unmotivated lately. Any books to help me set my mind straight?

What are you trying to do at the moment?

>en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thought_broadcasting
Lol, holy shit misinfo churned out to fuck up as many people's lives as possible. Psi abilities are real:

Before someone says "woo" or some other buzzword, proof. Read the documents and watch all of the videos:

fas.org/sgp/eprint/teleport.pdf
cia.gov/library/readingroom/docs/CIA-RDP96-00792R000300330001-8.pdf
cia.gov/library/readingroom/search/site/psychic
cia.gov/library/readingroom/docs/CIA-RDP96-00791R000200070001-9.pdf
cia.gov/library/readingroom/collection/stargate
cia.gov/library/readingroom/search/site/qi
cia.gov/library/readingroom/docs/CIA-RDP96-00792R000300380001-3.pdf

Plus many more if you just take the time to look.

youtube.com/watch?v=76FksKjCy58
youtube.com/watch?v=wYVdhKVb9WE
youtube.com/watch?v=03K8fYFUUhs
youtube.com/watch?v=iiQTCMolLqI
youtube.com/watch?v=pmo2Bye42go
youtube.com/watch?v=mVr1p-FlLtk
youtube.com/watch?v=UB5MdV90v-g
youtube.com/watch?v=ad7I7e3CYiw
youtube.com/watch?v=itmn_1AsG10
the last one could be tech and not a psychic technique

psychicscience.org/pk2a.aspx
imgur.com/a/oLDaSsr

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You shouldn't blame him, but thank him regardless of outcome.

I'm about to give you anons the key to success. Two years ago I was working for someone else, and now I'm working for myself doing what I love to do and making more money doing it. I've also gotten myself to read, lift, meditate, and clean up around my apartment daily.

All you need is:
>a notebook calendar to write daily goals in
>a pen
>the ability to sit down, write 3 Daily Goals that are within your reach for the day, and then do them

3 is the magic number I've found that works. Coming up with a list of 10 things to do, or even 5, means your less likely to get things done.

Ask yourself the question, "at the end of the day, what do i want to have done?" Another way to figure out your 3 Dailies is to imagine someone asking you what you did with your day, and what you would want your answer to be. For me that might be:

>engage with social media to build my brand
>write blog post for my site
>finish content for client and dropbox it to him

It'll look different for every person. A total NEET might have a goal of:

>shower, shave, and groom myself
>apply for one job
>go to gym

The beauty of the 3 Daily Goals is they can be calibrated to someone's ability level, and made more challenging as the person gains confidence and practice of completing the goals.

Basically, the idea is if someone asks you what you did with your day, you can tell them these three things and you won't have lie/be embarrassed at having done nothing of value.

It sounds simple, it sounds stupid, but it works, and if done every day it's enough to transform anyone's life.

Making a resolution to meditate every day is great, for example, but you are much more likely to do it if it becomes one of your 3 daily goals, as something important enough to be crossed off on a list of things to do. For me, this was the bridge between making a resolution to do something, to actually doing it. Writing it down in my notebook as a daily goal.

Imagine having such a warped perception of how relationships should start that a kiss on the cheek is a bad sign.

How do I permanently reduce my own inhibitions, /sig/?

I'm constantly thinking of stuff to say in conversations, fun stuff to do when out on the town, etc, but I never get close to saying or doing any of it unless my inhibitions have been lowered with alcohol. When I'm even a little bit buzzed, conversation and social interaction flows out of me smoothly. When I'm sober, the fun guy gets locked up in my head and I become tense and uptight.

How do I permanently relax and lower my inhibitions? Will psychedelics do it? Do I need a particular set and setting to achieve that specific effect? Is there some other sort of social exercise I can do to reduce my threshold to action? I've been thinking about something like rejection therapy (basically you force yourself to go up to strangers and make ridiculous requests in order to get a 'no' and show you that social rejection is nothing to fear), does anyone think that might work?

Jesus

A lot of people are the way you are and there's nothing necessarily wrong with them. Your inhibitions are there for a reason and most people are pretty clammed up unless they're on vacation or had a few drinks in 'em. That's why people drink, after all.

Maybe it's not necessarily something to be fixed, but maybe you just need to realize it's okay to be reserved to an extent, as it's probably your personality. Some people get over it by forcing themselves to change and doing things they're afraid to do (interacting with strangers is one of them, or dressing bizarrely). I would say journal it out and organize your thoughts that way, it may give you some goals to write down for steps you want to take.

Bro I was just researching and looking for that very image wtf!!!!

How am I supposed to improve if I have to spend the majority of my time working. Every job I get tends to be 50+ hours a week and it makes it damn near hard to get the actually important stuff I need done. Meditation does nothing because I'm too tired to focus and when I try to read during the week, I can't absorb anything.

I've been fine with 'maybe that's just how you are' for three decades, but I've come to realize that 'the way I am' is in direct conflict with my Goals. I'm not giving up my Goals for love or money, so 'the way I am' has to change.

I've been keeping a journal and setting goals around this for two weeks now, and I've made zero progress overcoming my inhibitions. I'm looking more for advice around specific actions to take, goals to set, etc. As it is I'm smashing through every easy accessory goal (like go outside more often, etc) without ever touching the main things I'm actually looking to improve (confidently approaching strangers, being a more active participant in conversations, especially in groups, taking the lead in social situations, etc).

What is your work? Where do you live? 50 hours a week is just a crime... I guess your only option is to save up money and find a way to change your laboral situation. Unless you are working 50 hours a week in your dream job.

Go outside and get a pineapple with no money. You can't go back home until you have the pineapple. Let's see how you break your social inhibitors.

There's always time for the things we consider important, user. It will always require sacrifice. Even at 50 hours a week, there are ways. Have you taken a hard look at your schedule to see where you're wasting your time on unimportant things? Are there a couple of tv shows you can give up, for example, so you can budget an hour or two a day to personal goals?

Most people, if really pressed, and find at least an hour a day, even if it means giving something up. For me I worked a similar amount of time as you. I worked from 7-5 most days, if not longer. My solution was to be in bed by 8:30 or 9 and wake up at 4:45 for the purpose of working on my own goals. I didn't let anything stop me.

Also, is it possible to reduce your hours are make a goal of updating your resume and submitting to one job prospect a day?

Two weeks isn't a terribly long time to expect changes. Maybe a goal of approach three strangers a day would work. Start with something stupid like directions, and progress from there. Or the classic "I'm Manny the Martian, what's your favorite flavor of bowling ball?" Get the reaction, and move on to someone else in a different area.
As far as social situations, the 3 second rule works pretty well. Give yourself 3 seconds to say something you want to say, it doesn't give you a chance to overthink things. Your goal for that could be, "I'm going to follow the 3 second rule as soon as I feel the urge to share something, or suggest a group activity"
Of course rejection/failure is part of the game and as soon as you feel it a few times, you'll realize it isn't world ending.

Help pump me up to break up with GF tonight. She lives in my house and has nothing nor a place to go. It's going to be tough but it is good for me to have some breathing room and opportunity to self improve.

Just tell her. Fuck.

I'm going to, just want some pump up man

Very selfish

>downloading porn
never gonna make it

Meant for

Theway you put it makes you sound like a dick, and youre doing a dick move, basically making someone homeless, but I'm assuming you have reasons, like she is slob or is mean or doesnt have sex with you or something. Care to elaborate?

She's not supportive of me in any way. If I want to work out she rolls her eyes. I offer to help her if she wants to join, she memes on not wanting to "get ripped" even though it couldn't happen. I can't really do a lot of shit without a sarcastic comment or eye rolling.

She complains we don't do anything but has no ability to entertain herself and doesn't want to do anything I suggest. Then we sit there and she scrolls through social media, and then I'll end up playing a video game because I feel obligated to sit there, whereas I could be working on a server I bought to learn more for work or something productive.

I wanna hit the hay early, it's a problem because she doesn't want to nor does she want to hang with the dog or take her out before crating her for the night. Because then I could lift or take the dog for a walk early before work.

I could go on but I already sound like a complaining fag. Nothing makes her happy, and to top it off she's getting fat

I'm sorry if I come off as an autist, but I can't even think of how I'd get a pineapple with no money. Theft is the only thing that comes to mind, but I'm only looking to break my social inhibitions, not the actual law.

I really hate trying to communicate seriously on imageboards, I find it impossible to strike a balance between being concise enough that people don't just ignore the wall of text and writing enough detail to get useful help.

>start off asking for directions
I can do that just fine, no problems there. I can go out and ask people for the time or directions all day long (and I have spent that much time on it, I literally have no other goals than social gains remaining for the whole year).

My real problem is starting an actual conversation - I've read extensively trying to get this, or understand my own problem with it, and I have huge lists of potential topics to ask/speak about ("That's a nice [x], where did you get it?", "Can you recommend a good [x]?", etc, etc). Despite all that, those types of conversations seem so...pointless? Forced? I can't bring myself to bother a stranger with empty pleasantries or recommendations that I don't really need because the internet exists. And it seems plain wrong to go up to someone and ask a deep/important/personal question.

I feel like some specific tasks might help (like the pineapple thing, but less open-ended), and I've asked a bunch of times in these threads already, but the thing just seems to be 'progress from basic questions/comments made in passing to full-on conversations' like they're not two completely different things.

I feel like such an idiot for not getting this, I've been hanging around a busy outdoor mall basically 8 hours a day for two weeks and I can't seem to figure out how to 'strike up conversations with strangers', which is always the first step in any 'social skills improvement' plan and as the first step never gets any detail.

How long have you lived together? How ling did you date before moving in together? Been dating likd girl for like 4-5 and she's already talking about cohabitation but as a heavy introvert I think I'm going to continue avoiding that for awhile.

My plan of daily self study outside of classes:
>2 total hours of any combination of studying the following: Russian Language, Web Dev, CompTIA A+ cert, python, Reading CS Lewis for the whitepill
>1hr gym time (+ Weightlifting class 2x a week)
> In bed by 10:00 PM, spend 30 mins reading a book ( right now it's The Sum of All Fears by Tom Clancy)
>10:30 asleep
>Wake up at 6:30 AM next day

holy phone posting typos batman. Been dating her like 4-5 months

she sounds annoying af bro god damn, she got parents or something? if she's crazy might not be a bad idea to have another friend there, preferably another chick in case she goes all "user hit me and raped me" or something

Dated for about 9 months before living together, we've been living together for like 6 months. Before moving in together we hung out daily.

I think things could get better if I had some alone time because I work 7-4 daily and she has worked mornings for weeks. Anytime she works a double or night shift she trades it off and any plans for myself get axed cause she's there. She gets time to herself because she'll be at home when I'm not. Like I said she won't get a hobby and idk how she can get friends cause everyone's got kids now. Any suggestions I make get shot down.

I mean my fault for even offering her to live there and I understand that I did it to myself. That's already clear.

She's got parents she would have to bite the bullet and head to her to mom's. She's not a terrible person just a total downer and refuses to do anything about anything and brings me down.

Cause trust me I tried to work out with her thinking that might help her physically and mentally with her attitude. But nope.

Sounds like my worst nightmare. I've already had to have the "alone time" talk multiple times and females always taje it personally. Do what ya gotta do bro, the home has to be a sanctuary away from the rest of the world imo.

most of the advice here is based on petty emotional validation and enforcing politically correct behavior on behalf of people that will not make a contribution to your life. in my experience, the better you are at living life and doing your job, the more people will hate you, attack you and talk shit about you. you cannot manage your career while your team is on a defamation rampage. you cannot manage your social life while your peers are busy talking shit about you and setting you up for failure.

the image makes an appeal to abuse, because that's what approval is. you can use agency as social capital and work together, or you can talk shit and use shame and approval. guess which one gets the job done? you can be the smartest guy in your restaurant, have every menu memorized, every cash register function memorized, you could have such amazing social skills that your customer base only exists to reciprocate with you, you could show up early and stay late every day for 2 years, you could order deliveries on your own because no one else will ensure the walk in coolers are even stocked, nevermind that the lights in the building are on. you could be the only one honing knives, checking fire extinguishers, constantly learning new skills and getting more effective and efficient, even the chef will take you under his wing. you can win bodybuilding competitions, go back to college. you can do it all.

but this image is wrong, people will only hate you for succeeding. if there are no obvious problems they will fabricate some instead of growing up. no one is here to give you credit, however that's the assumption of the image. other people are only good for hate, they will never be be based in agency nor use it to qualify you, they need to be rehabilitated.