Would you break up with a girl if you found out her dad made her "model" as a child and that she's damaged to complete...

Why does sex mean that much? To me it's a weapon and an act to harm someone. It makes me uncomfortable and I feel that the only time I would be willing is only to conceive with the person that I would eventually spend the rest of my life with.

He used to sell pictures of me as well as have his way with me.

Newcomer to the thread. I mean, you said it yourself, it's your perspective because of your experiences. Sex doesn't mean the same thing to people who don't abuse children or weren't abused as children, as it does to you.

I wouldn't write anybody off for childhood trauma. I was abused physically, if not sexually, myself, and it definitely fucked me in the head, but I don't feel like I ought to be written off for it, so I wouldn't write off a girl for it either.
That said, I wouldn't be okay with a sexless relationship. If she couldn't get comfortable enough to fuck me, that would be a dealbreaker. It'd be a barrier I couldn't get past.
I would honestly even be fine with somebody who has no sex drive but who lets me use her body just out of consideration. I wouldn't be able to make it work with somebody for whom sex was a total no-go.

it would be mildly depressing but it depends on if you are compatible with each other and like doing similar things

What happened to him? Did you report him? I hope he got fcked up. Do you dislike any intimacy? Would you like to hug and kiss?

yeah probably, it's sad but i also want to have sex. I'm sure she'd understand though.

No I wouldn't break up with some one for that. I had been abused when I was young and combined with some other issues I thought I was heavily asexual for about 5 years, I rediscovered my interest in being sexual with people, but without an intense emotional connection I just can't do it. It makes dating really difficult for me. Just find some one you think is special, understanding and gentle, but also willing to push you a tiny bit out of your comfort zone(also good luck finding some one like this, they're really rare).

I would confide in her that I was molested and abused by my dad and we would have rough, hard but loving sex afterwards

As long as she was down to cuddle and/or hold hands I'd be cool with it. Sex isn't a big thing for me for similar reasons

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He's just gone. I don't know where he is. He was involved in some bad stuff overall. I'm sure whatever happened is related to that.

This OP. Also, true asexuality isn't the same as having intimacy issues due to abuse (which is what most "asexuals" have).

Also I don't mind intimacy. I cuddle with my best friend when her boyfriend isn't around.

you're damaged like someone who was hit by a car and can't use her legs. I feel bad for people like that, but I also would automatically disqualify them from dating me. I know it's not their fault they're like that, but still.

Sucks all that happened to you and you can't experience intimacy the same way others do, but that's still an irreconcilable difference between us.

That's the first time someone's compared me to a paraplegic and it hurts more than I expected

having intimate sex is a basic human function like walking

It really isn't.
However, having a sex drive is.

>be male who was abused by mother and father
>dad molested me
>love sex when I can get it
>get it rarely

This truly is the worst feel

Considering the human race wouldn't exist without it, I would say it's more important, cripples can survive life but people who don't have sex/kids don't extend their life forward.

I'd argue that survival/continuation is only possible with special care and assistance in either case. Technically you can have your gametes surgically extracted and implanted in a surrogate and you can continue your line forward that way without sex.

No one extends their life forward. Genes are passed on, but that really doesn't help the subjective experience that we consider to be "you" in any tangible sense.

You might benefit from having some kids to take care of you when you are old and infirm and things like that.

you can consider "You" to be your genes and your values, and those are passed on in your children (values assuming you raised them well)

Sure, it would probably hurt the relationship a bit but its not at all a dealbreaker and couldnt stop it from being a normal healthy relationship, provided theyre not aromantic at all.

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When you die there is no more "you". Your life cannot be extended. It won't help you to have someone out there that carries some genes which are the same as yours were, or even all of them in the case of a twin.

really depends on what you mean by (You)

If all I am is a strictly closed concert of biological functions, then sure, but by that definition if I lose some of those functions am I not dead? Or if you narrow the definition of life to say brain and heart functionality, then am i dead if i have an artificial heart transplant? Consciousness is out because nobody defines that very well.

On the other hand, if my identity is more conceptual then it's harder to define strictly when "I" am gone. If I create something that has a lasting impact on the world, am I not present long after my blood stops flowing?

The better question is why would I be in a relationship with someone without knowing they're asexual?

So basically you're saying if I'm okay with a sexless relationship?

No, not really