Life Diagnosis

How does one take good tinder photos and make a decent profile if you have no female friends or anyone to take pics with? A bunch of selfies make me look like a loser. I get a decent amount of attention in person (until they realize I'm a friendless loser) but almost none on Tinder from non-landwhales.

If youre insistant on Tinder, youve gotta take it very seriously like a LinkedIn profile. Im not kidding when I say this: Hire a professional photographer to get the photos done. This goes for whether or not you have friends to take photos for you. Wanna know why? Because its what your competitors are doing. The guys getting laid are the ones who have figured this out, not chads. Theyre just keeping it a secret from folks like you so that theres less competition.

Additionally you must doctor your photos afterward. If you arent photoshop-savvy, use B612 or similar apps!

Im 25, never had a job, neet and dont have a degree, I have bipolar and im worried about my future, I dont know what to do. Life is just so suffering.

How the hell can I provide for myself? Even if I do get a degree, then ive been told that all a bachelor is good for is to get a masters. I tried comp sci but I felt like killing myself. If I do get a degree ill be like 30 and who would want a mentally ill 30 year old who never had a job and is fresh out of uni?

I guess I could just get a random low pay job, but I want a gf and kids in the future and I need to be able to provide for them somehow.

Because I am the good boi.
Like I say I'm polite and have handed in items I have found. But I'm good only for convenience. If I was thrown out on the streets tomorrow I'm sure I'd be committing criminal acts straight away

Questions:
What country do you live in?
Do you live with your parents?
When was the last time you had a job? What was it?
Are you khv?
Why do you feel like you need a woman and kids?

I'm not insistent on it, I just have pretty bad anxiety and I've become gun-shy about cold approaches. I dunno, I'm just not very interesting. /Social/ says I'm 8/10 on looks, so I've got that going for me, I guess. I'll consider getting a professional photographer to take pics of me, I've thought about it before. But what do I actually write in the bio?

I want to make meaningfull relationships with people, not necessay romantic (those wouldnt hurt either but I lost hope long ago). Im not AS autistic as some people here but I find it hard to open up and have people opening up to me. I dont know, I cant just do the "people" thing right.

Why be the good boi? Maybe that matters with context to other people, but why should it matter with context to yourself?
What im getting at is: do you REALLY have morals? Or have you learned to mimic enough of what other humans do and expect from each other that your behavior from the outside can be classified as and thus people consider you moral, making you call yourself moral?

The latter half of your comment really makes me wonder.

I'm a failed normie

I have one friend who thinks I'm completely normal but I'm not. I don't know how to act normal. If I don't interact with anyone every single day how am I suppose to meet a girlfriend or even other friends? Aside from that I don't feel like I connect with anyone anyway. I'm usually down and dopy by default unless I'm on kratom.

Denmark
Yes
Never, ive always been either a student or neet.
Kissless but not Hugless or virgin
Crippling loneliness and my biggest fear being dying alone, having no one notice ive died until the rent isnt being paid.

how the fuck do you fuck someone but not get a kiss?

In your case, you want to play games with these women- not be a normal social human being.
When youve got their attention, take them immediately off tinder and onto Snapchat or whatever else appropriate. Dont make smalltalk or anything (youre not good at it anyway, right?) and just jump the gun to meeting the girl. Keep her out of control, but engaged, and consistently guessing. Women are naturally inclined to say YES unless information has led them to say NO. So give her as little as possible and stick to the plan.

And remember, use these apps only to smash once and block. Anything else will put the ball in our (womens) court, and you dont want that!

>not AS autistic
Are you autistic?
If so, have you been legit diagnosed? What kind of autism? How has it affected your relationships in the past? What was kindergarten like for you v. other kids around you? What do you do for a living these days?

I dont like people touching my face.

Do you live alone? Do you have a job? How often do you see people, and in what context?

You're pretty based and redpilled, Rina. So I'm supposed to escalate to trying to bone immediately? I think you've diagnosed my problem. I always send these long messages about whatever they have on their profile because I guess I was using it like a dating app and not a get laid app. Although, if I'm being totally honest, I want a gf more than I want to get laid. I've had plenty of women I'm not attracted to ask me out over the last year and I politely rejected them because I'd rather fap than smash an uggo. Tinder isn't a good place to find a nice girlfriend though, is it?

lol Im not autistic, Im just bad at socializing, sorry I was using the term "autistic" liberally there. What I meant is that I can talk normally with some people, even with strangers, dont relly enjoy smalltalk but can pull it off and can act extroverted if necessary. But even with all that I can sense a great difference between me and the "normies" around. Idk, its weird, when I go to parties I always find myself just looking at them from the side at some point of the night and feeling that Im not having as mutch fun. I try to do everyting a normal person would but nothing comes of it. Im 20 and studying for a degree right now.

>k
>no h
>no v
You had sex without kissing? Ill be honest with you- Im a virgin so maybe I dont know, but that doesnt add up to me. Apart from hookers or something, what kind of sex doesnt involve kissing?

And I think education is the way through things for you, but you cant fall for degree memes. I dont mean majoring in womens studies or something like that but rather trying to focus on high paying jobs. The reality is unless you love coding, your productivity isnt gonna be too great in that field, even if its lucrative.

If you could get paid a million dollars a year to do one thing, what would it be?
And it has to be a real job or some description. Cant be getting paid a million bucks to wipe your ass, but it can be to make art or help people in shit countries or whatever. What would it be, user?

I've killed a dog, 2 hamsters, vandalised, attempted burglary, spied on women, got into email accounts for nudes and shared them with the victims friends and families in the hopes they'd kill themselves. And I have no regrets.

That doesn't mean I can't be the good boi inbetween my escapades

Um
Can you explain

you sound bipolar and maybe psychopathic, but then again, I'm not a doctor

I was hit as a child and people touching my face scares the fuck out of me. I met a girl on tinder once, I explained it to her and she was cool with it. We hooked up a couple of times over a few months.

I think I would want to learn languages and translate or something, my dad is telling me to study economics since accountants dont need to talk to a lot of people. I might just do what he says, just so that something happens.

Tell me, how can I gain motivation?
This is a problem I've been struggling for years now. I can't be arsed to do anything unless it is absolutely necessary and it needs to be done by tomorrow. Otherwise I just put it off for as long as possible (or forever if it's some personal goal like getting social skills). All I can do everyday besides going to work or university is play vidya and shitpost on Jow Forums. I have a lot of exams coming up in a couple of weeks and I have not even looked at the books I am supposed to study from. Now I'm not that worried about the exams since I always cheated my way through them but there are things I want to accomplish but never do.
"I'll do it this summer, I swear" and then proceed to do absolutely nothing for yet another summer.

Yes!!! Counterintuitive, isnt it. Society tells you to be a gentleman, woke women tell you to RESPECT WOMEN, and yet what we really want is to be used, taken advantage of, etc. Thats why a solid 99% of these girls are on these apps to begin with! All you have to do is provide. Just go straight for it. Its a little valid in real life, but super valid on things like tinder. Just go for it and stick to the plan.
>I want a gf more than I want to get laid
Thats great! Unfortunately Tinder is the worst place to go for something like that. If a girl will let you smash, shes smashed at least 7 other guys most likely. Do you want to date someone who has been with that many men? What if she has an STI? What if the condom breaks one day or you want to try things raw? It would be like youre fucking 7 other men at once all of whom are better than you.
If you want a gf you deserve, dont be afraid to look toward legit dating sites. But even that probably feels weird if you arent a 30 year old boomer. Luckily Hinge seems to be somewhat of a sweet spot. Its an app, but for dating rather than smashing. You can abuse it to smash, or you can use it as its intended to find a gf. They even have racial settings if youre into one particular race or have yellow fever or whatever the fuck youre into.

>psychopathic
I can feel things user. I'm not an emotionally blunt bastard. Was diagnosed PDNOS. And there has been no escapades in a long while

Do people naturally mark you as when they meet you?

I think I'm a failed normie.
I have a couple of "friends", but they're much more like acquaintances - I don't feel the connection between us, they're just people I sometimes talk to at uni. They never initiate the conversation which makes me feel like even though I don't think of them as true friends I still care about them more than they care about me. I feel like I'm not a fun person to talk to. Years of isolation has made me develop a character so different from your basic vanilla human that I'm starting to doubt if I'm capable of fitting in with human society. The worst thing is that I'm starting to dislike the normal things in people - I dream of meeting someone truly unique, someone that clearly stands out and is a person in their own right, not just another average citizen of the state with basic interests and basic hobbys blending in with the gray mass. I hate how fake everything seems to be - the friendships I struggle to maintain require me to constantly act like a different person and if it comes to love I don't know if I'm capable of giving or recieving it as I don't want it to be another act I put on. I yearn for a true friendship, a true love - a true connection where I don't have to act.

Okay, so for you is defined by what others mark as good?

That makes sense. Is it something youre trying to work through though? Otherwise youd have to get kinda lucky finding someone whos completely okay with avoiding your face for the rest of her life, if you got married.

Do you live with your parents?
Do you smoke weed?
Was your childhood comfy?

I dont think they do inmediatly, but its not hard to notice when we meet a couple of times. I'm the weirdo in my group of friends in the uni (in my group outside tho, we all are equally retarded so there's that) Im pretty mutch known as "the guy that wants to die all the time" and i think somebody told me that its becouse I always dress dark colors as grey or black that people may perceive me like that (it doesnt help that I actually want to die all the time).

I never thought of it like that. I dont even know where to start on that one.

Its a problem down the road though, since I cant even support myself, why would anyone be with me? All this anxiety is killing me.

And whats wrong with that?
Why should you be like all the sheep around you?

Hmm...and you dont think there is any possibility you could be autistic?

I dont really think so, no. But who knows

The sheep are happy and lead functioning lives full of non-problems.

How old are you? If its a problem down the road, your anxiety will deal with it later.

Anxiety isnt all bad. Its annoying and it fucking sucks but evolution designed it to motivate humans to do things. You can let your anxiety take care of that one when the time comes. Itll motivate you to haphazardly do the right thing one day. For now, have your anxiety motivate whats ahead of you. What do you need to do by tonight, user? How about by the end of next week? Next month? 2019?

Then why are you like this, if not something neurological?
Did something happen to you as a kid?

Listen to me user, that is just a fallacy. The reality is everyone is living with masks on. They might look happy and living normal lives, but everyone is pretending. We are all suffering, in very different and unique ways. If you were normal, you wouldnt be happy for long. Life will come around and fuck you up elsewhere.

>Do you live with your parents?
No, I moved out about 2 years ago. Because it's a house they own they still pay a good chunk of the costs of me living here.
>Do you smoke weed?
I don't consume any drugs, including alcohol.
>Was your childhood comfy?
At home it was quite comfy but school was absolute hell because I was constantly getting shunned by my classmates. I'm not even joking when I say my PC was my best friend until I got into university.

27 , nearly 28
im a ginger in a southamerican shithole
have a steady job , good money for my country s standars
gf is 19 , i think she fucked a lot of guys but her pussy is tight so idk
i think i m boderline alcoholik and have some overweihgt
not much tho
not tall , something like 1,75
dont what to do with my life
what do you recommed?

25
I dont know what to do, I was contemplating sudoku but I recently realised that Im too big of a coward.

Dont think so, and surprisingly I've had an pretty easy and happy childhood, I even had a relationship when I was 16 that lasted a year. Its more or less when I started uni that all went south and the depression hit me (Not clinically diagnosed but come on; feeling like shit all the time, sudden mood changes and waves of sadness, fucked up sleep patterns, fucked up eating habits, intrusive thoughts, there goes the full cheklist)

It's very counterintuitive. I spent my life being a "nice guy" and just basically ended up with Chad's leftovers. Forget the dating apps for a minute, I need help with something else.

I don't know how to break away from being a pushover non-assertive male. I was bullied as a child for being overweight and a crybaby. Then I was bullied in my teen years by my friend group who kept me around for laughs. I don't have any friends anymore and I have a hard time connecting with anyone because I'm so guarded. I have mild Asperger's, anxiety, and some other medical conditions, but like I said before, I'm considered decently attractive to those who have seen me without knowing me. What should I do, Rina? I want friends, a gf, etc etc. I have a decent job but not much else going for me. I ordered the book No More Mr. Nice Guy and some other self-help books, I lift and diet every day trying to looksmax, but I just can't seem to make any connections with anyone other than superficial acquaintances with people I see every day. It sucks. I feel so alone in the world and like no one understands me. If you were me, what would you do?

Pros
>I am disinterested in life
Cons
>I am disinterested in life

Honestly, im glad to hear this. You have a path set up to get motivated! Congrats!
Motivation unfortunately isnt a switch you can suddenly turn on through nofap or not using electronics or something. Its an element of self control, which like a muscle has to be worked out. You need to do lots of little things each day, and try to progressively get more organized and have more self control. But do it in increments! Small increments if you need to. Start by taking a cold shower every weekday, and just sticking to it even when you dont want to. Keep everything the same. Dick around on Jow Forums, dont study, etc. Just focus on that one thing and wait.
Once taking cold showers every weekday morning becomes easy/second nature, add on a little something else like planning your day out each morning or cooking a nice dinner or whatever. Build slowwwwwwly over time, and make it easy and relatively painless. In a few months, your motivation will have for sure improved, if you can stick to this incremental self control regiment!

Think backwards. What would you want to have by age 80?

I can't really say without perspective

Life isnt for everyone, but the problem is life is a whole lot of things over time. Youre only 25 and have likely only lived one third of your life. If you turned off a movie 1/3 the way in, would you know the full extent of the movies quality?

Whats better than a movie though is that you have a little bit of influence over how your life progresses. Your shitty past does too though (oh no!) so youll have to work with and through that over time.

Have you ever seen a therapist or something to talk about your past?

i dont really think about
i just came out of a 4 month depression so being with her feels comfy
i cant afford to buy a place of my own so im renting but i feel im thrwoing the money away

>pic
Fuck Gookmoot, she should have won

Yeah youve got textbook depression. Congrats! Haha...
Do you ever feel kinda stuck in life?

Yup, Im trying to do something about it but nothing seems to change.

Sounds like you need something radical.
Before I answer this, how old are you again? If youre under 18 just say

well you got me there old chap

Well now im lost :/

Yes I get that, I'm frustrated that human interaction consists of communicating through emotional proxies and that I can't even pretend properly. I'm yet to meet someone that's as bored of it as much as I am. Everyone seems to be the same. I struggle witch distinguishing people from one another because they all act the same, they all like the same things, say the same things, do the same things. I also hate how phones have become an extension of your average person's arm, how they can't live without them. I can't find friends among men because they are either painfully boring or thuggishly alien to me.
I can't find friends or companions among women because I expect them to be compatible on the same level I'd expect a male friend to be. I can't identify with a person I have nothing in common with. Women are the same, they like the same things and act the same horrific and repelling way. They also cover their faces with paint, which is an infuriating concept to me - how am I supposed to know someone If I can't even see their true face? How can I call someone beautiful if I don't know how much of it is fake? How am I supposed to function as a human if I feel alien among "my people" ?

I know, but what would you want?

>should have won
She DID win. Fucking mods just took it down once she hit first place! Fuck this site honestly.

I just turned 28. I wish I was under 18. What do you mean something radical, like a radical change? I probably need to quit my job that has me working from 7 pm to 3 am 6 days a week. But it's more complicated than that. I'm a college dropout and I work for my parents failing business, without me working my guts out for them my family would probably lose everything. I don't even know how to make friends anymore. The last time I made one was almost a decade ago before I dropped out.

It might be good to move somewhere else. Is that in the realm of possibility?

Earlier I was walking down an alley, good up as it's cold and 2 elderly people stepped aside and waited at a wider part of the alley. I looked, smiled at them and said thank you and thought how cute it was to see their faces light up. It warmed me

Then I went to a shop, saw some normies and wished to myself that they fucking die tonight

It could be possible but I need to finish uni first, for now Im stuck another 2 years here.

idk where to start so ask if anything unclear

i am 20 finished school with bad grades got into university got kicked out after 4 semsters because i failed a subject 3 times which was the only tests ever i took there just could not motivate myself to learn
got depression after 2nd semester and did not go out other than for getting food for 1 semester
could not even enjoy gaming anymore (all i ever enjoyed doing)
wasted 3/4 of the year after i got kicked literally doing nothing
i even went on vacation for 1 month and i did nothing there as well
my parents (i live back at their place after university) prob want to kick me out since idk what to do with my life and dont want to work for shitjob in my area (very small town)
have (social) anxiety and probably autism
i am actually pretty smart but i kinda refuse to do stuff if i dont have the motivation or find it to be nonsense thats why i was bad in school

Youve got a bad case of . 90% of people are afraid of others, and pretend in order to protect themselves. Those that arent get marked as . But you need to hold onto that, user. Dont become a sheep! Use these observations to your advantage. You notice everyone says the same things? Good. They dont notice. You have the power to predict others behavior. Use it to your advantage! You are better than them for this reason. Dont let them turn it upon you. You are in control.

You should try living a different life. Move to Japan! Apply for the JET program to teach English, or become an ALT. Hell, you could even nab a job at an Eikaiwa pretty easy like GABA. Just up and do something crazy, and live a different life.
Youre the perfect age for it!

I think the latter is more of a common thing than the former in normal people.

Right, but you have two years to make a serious plan. Something like that isnt easy, and you have time on your side. Dont waste it!
What are your options?

Where are you from?
How much money do each of your parents make per year?

So you're saying that despite me having been a bastard and not giving a shit, that I really am a good boi?

Not in the slightest lol

>Its an element of self control
>get more organized
You really hit the nail on the head here. I have little to no self control, the little devil always wins the inner debates. As for my organization, well, when I do stuff that is not part of the "Must do for tomorrow" list I often find myself working a bit on multiple things, hopping from one to another as I get bored. I do this in an attempt to keep working because if I got off my ass to do something that isn't must do I try my best to take advantage of the situation. Someone once told me the hardest thing is to start and it held true for the most part.

It feels so cynical. I'd probably go for it a few years ago but now I'm just tired of how things work, I couldn't bring myself to climb the social ladder only to think about how unfulfilled and bored I am at the end of the day. Maybe with some luck I'll find someone to be bored with me.

I wish I had the gumption to do something like that. This summer I'll be free from working this job, I was planning on going back to school. Your idea sounds a lot more exciting, but I fear my mental illnesses would keep me from enjoying myself. I'm afraid to go that far out of my comfort zone, Rina.

That can be a struggle for sure. For people like you (and me as well), the typical model for study and focus just doesnt work. So you need to do these little things to make lack of focus work with you. You know?

That may be true, but I've always lived with my parents and the idea of just moving to god knows where is pretty scary. About my options, I guess I could go to any European country where I can survive speaking english. Spending about a year at the UK seems the most plausible idea here. Im originally from Ukraine but there's no way Im going back to that shithole, and neither South America nor Murica are any good in my eyes.

Germany
they make a good living we have a house and all that shit prob middle class they could easily pay for my education in university (food rent etc).

This is just life, man.
And who cares about social ladder? Who wants approval from sheep? Im just saying you should begin to think of social interaction as more functional than anything else when talking to these kinds of people.
You know what theyre going to do.
You know what they expect.
You know what they want.
That is power! Knowledge is power. You can do so much just in knowing that.

Everyone is. Bravery isnt being incapable of feeling fear. Bravery is being afraid, and then doing it anyway.
Be brave, user.

We have something. Great! How much money do you need to make this happen?

Did you go to a gymnasium?

Far too mutch, and I hate my degree to mutch to think that I won't hate my job too. Cant drop the fucker becouse my parents are paying for it and Im not that mutch of an asshole.

yeah my final grade was 3.5

holy fuck how many times did i write "mutch" its too late for my brain to function properly

I just expected that there's more to life than this. From the beginning the idea of friendship and love have been idealized so much that after searching for that feeling, after looking into the eyes of humanity and not seeing anything looking back, I just feel scammed. I know that I could go full psychopath and use whatever knowledge I think I possess but I don't want to accept that people can be understood with such ease - It's impossible for me to be the only one thinking like this so why am I surrounded by automatons?

How much is far too much?
*mutch

Fuck off whore. You have a complex and feel superior by "helping" others.

Idc if you're a larping as a girl or a tranny.

Why did you go to uni?

Are you sure everyone is this way though?