No true friends or girlfriends ever, spend most of my time when not in school at home. Decide to get a hobby because I heard that's how you get friends and maybe even a girlfriend.
>starts 5 years ago >Football, was nice, I liked and enjoyed it, I get along with other kids a bit but we don't have any more money to pay for football training so I drop it. >Dancing, tried, I really did but I just did not enjoy it >we're now in a better state and we save up enough for football again >All the kids have hit their growth spurts and now have a head on me and at least 15+ kgs >Can't do basketball because height >Can't do any sports because of my height, weight and physical weakness. >Can't hike because there aren't any good hiking groups near >Try swimming, even though it's an individual sport I may get to know some people. Have a leg injury so I stop for a year. Can't come back because my peers have now all advanced and I don't want to train with little kids, that's embarrassing.
>Now, started guitar, is fun, had a few gigs already with people who are learning different instruments. The tutors choose a few of us and make us play at a cafe or an event, nothing big. Met some friends. >Become stuck, I can't advance, I'm only practicing the same mistakes and falling behind, the guitar tutor keeps getting annoyed at me and my inability to do simple stuff that I should be able to do. I really like it but I'm feeling worthless and I'm thinking about quitting it but that means I'm back to being inside 99% of the time. Even these 2 hours 3 days a week are good. Sometimes it's even more when we have rehearsals.
What do I do Jow Forums. I've tried everything and it just seems like I'm not meant for anything. It seems like I'm worthless, I can't do anything right. I'll never be able to make friends or get in a relationship. And I really do want to.
And the worst thing? I've tried everything and I'm not even out of high school, I'm 18.
Keep doing guitar and eventually use it as a tool to output your feels. The fact that you've already had a few gigs means you at least have potential
Josiah Fisher
i had a carbon copy back ground like yours. i donj't lknow what you SHOULD do, but here's what worked for me: >go to Jow Forums and bulk+build good body >start reading and writing. for books, i'd recommend the classics, you can't go wronf. /lit/ has some guides on books if you wanna. >take active walks/ do meditation > go to bars late at night and start a convo >assuming you went to the gym, take up a combat sport. Boxing, ot muay thai if you have money. godspeed op. i'll hang around if you have any other questions.
Logan Walker
You're 18. You're barely out of your diapers. The difference between you and elites is that they didn't drop their passion immediately after they went through their newbie period of literally free gains just for showing up, upon hitting the level where HOW you practice actually begins to matter.
Nathan Mitchell
this OP i can relate, i have similar issues it just means you need to practice better and stay with it, no skill stays fun and easy for the whole learning process it takes dedication you feel like you're getting worse but you're not, you're just becoming more aware of issues that were always there. the dunning-kruger effect working in reverse. keep at it, work hard, practice more, don't let yourself get frustrated
Kevin Foster
>The fact that you've already had a few gigs means you at least have potential You're paying for the tutor lessons so they HAVE to set up a gig for you from time to time. Admittedly I kinda skipped over the basics and had a gig after like the first 2 months while people would go up to a year without any because they still can't play good enough. But now I'm stagnant, I don't improve.
I don't want to bulk up, I really don't like that idea, I'm not that kind of person. Am fairly Jow Forums given my weight and height though so might as well work a bit on that. How do you meditate? How does that help? Thought it was a meme? No point in going for combat sports, I don't enjoy that.
Blake Flores
I take it you're talking about the guitar thing. I literally didn't improve in the last 2 months, haven't moved even a bit. The tutor noticed it and is getting visibly pretty annoyed at me.
Jose Martin
are you practicing every day and following the instructions of your tutor? If you're not making progress, you need to find a better teacher.
Kayden Baker
Keep playing guitar Find a niche sport where it doesn't matter too much how good you are, if you're with the right people (badminton is good, also squash and tennis work well). Cycling is also great, and you can acomplish a lot alone and gain a great sense of freedom, but whatever you do, try to ensure you do it at least weekly, staying active is vital for your body and mind, and i don't think I've ever met anyone who wishes they hadn't, after exercising. It releases endorphins and you will notice a small improvement in your physical appearance and fitness, and eventually this feeds back into your psyche.
It's important to do something you enjoy. Meep at things more, you seem to get very dispirited and avoidant when you don't do well at something or fall behind your peers. Try not to focus on them, instead, focus on the small improvement you can make in your own game, and set small, meaningful, obtainable goals, like winning five points in badminton against a superior rival, besting your time on a particular section of your bike ride, or learning a short melody by heart. Above all, don't get discouraged when you fail. Analyse your mistakes and, rather than becoming upset, angry, or beating yourself up, try to take a breath and live in the moment, aware of your plan for the activity and trying rationally to correct the mistakes of the past, and focusing on your small goals from earlier.
user, determination and perhaps depression seems to be your downfall. I really hope you can find a way to stay active and continue your guitar. If you can find a partner for a raquet sport, do it. They don't have to be your best mate, you don't even have to particularly like them. Ideally they should be patient, respectful to you (sometimes this means mercilessly thrashing you, don't take it as a personal insult, see it as a long term attainable level you too can achieve), and both a gracious winner and loser.
Good luck. I put some effort into this for you user.
James Hill
I'm doing everything I can, everything. I'm practicing every day for at least an hour. I'm kinda starting to lose interest though, I don't see any progress. I want to play my favorite punk and rock songs not some pop ballads the tutor throws at me.
listen here you fucking pussy, if i tell you to bulk it's because it's going to fucking help you. you will be better after your bulk. and even better after your cut. nothing worth doing is easy. >meditation itr can basicaly be anything where your mind isn't focused on anything but itself. just roam around in your thoughts for about 20 minutes a day. >combat listen even better cunt, this shit is gonna feel so god damn good when you do it, you'll be shadowboxing every time you're in front of a mirror.will give your social life a little boost. >and if you don't start reading and working o n your conversaaion skill everything else might as well be pointless. it will take time, blood, sweat and tears but you can turn your life around.
Daniel Peterson
>guitar An instrument for plebs op. It's so common, anyone can play a g chord. Why not learn to play something with real value?
I don't have money to try out different kinds of things, I already tried pretty much everything popular near me. I tried cycling, didn't like it.
I'm doing something I'm enjoying right now but when you realize you aren't that good at it it comes back to "am I even meant for this" "is this something I can even do?".
I already think I'm depressed, I've many many problems in life both physical and mental, a lot mental problems.
Can't find a partner, no way. The hobby thing started out as something to keep me active and help me meet new people and get friends, girlfriend further down the line. I'm really fucking lonely and I've always been, all friends I ever had were just there as background characters in my lonely miserable life. After school where we have to be together their masks fall of, no one invites me anywhere, they all have their own plots going on but I'm a part of none. I just really want a girl who is going to be my partner and a friend I never had, who's gonna emotionally support me. Not fix me like a fairy, but help me and let me help her.
Robert Russell
Pic not related that's for sure. Meditation might make it even worse user. One of my biggest problems is overthinking. It's the starting point for more of my sadness. I'll try it though.
I really want to turn my life around, I've tried a lot of things as I said in the OP. You can't say I don't try.
Daniel Howard
Meditation is underrated OP. But you need a better routine than "roam around in your thoughts." That's not meditation. That's called daydreaming.
Luke Gutierrez
Well the other user said "roam around in your thoughts" How do I do it then And that's hardly a hobby, let alone one where I can find friends.
Landon Peterson
listen, your problm is clearly lack of dedication/motivation. just gotta keep at it.
Michael Bennett
meditaion is used to keep yourself calm and composed and have a better focus in your day to day. you can't expect to have a good social life if you seem fucled in the head and can't get your thoughts straight. just sit down and focus on your breathing while thinking of whatever.
Michael White
I'll actually try that right NOW.
Noah Jenkins
try HEMA (Historical European Martial Arts) I guess
