Hey guys, chad here. You feel alone? No gf? Thinking of swallowing the pinkpill? Well don't...

I lelled so hard when another boeing exploded in the sky and boeing auto-said it was terrorists and the FBI investigated and said NOPE. after 911 boeing released autopilots that cant be hijacked. cough cough.
yeah. by the internet. I wonder how IBM manages to keep a straight face when their 911 systems were part of that clusterfuck and they see the FBI rummaging through piles of circumstantial shit and bunch of retards calling it evidence.

She would have have fucked you If you were a Chad, Foids dont have morals.

youre sister obviously has strong feelings against incest. i would try to keep your relationship afloat and keep it casual. ask to hang out with her and her friends once in a while to regain her trust and find a girl you can love without pain at social outings. good luck user.

Dad died not long ago and I don't know what to do anymore, feels like a lost all of my hobbies and that I will die with cancer like him.

I do sport I stopped school it feels like shit here.
But I do still have a little bit of life, I have female friends.
>I'm a fucking normies

But don't know what to do anymore

>lives in the same house as sister
>tells her that you have feelings for her with no backup plan
you fucked up.
also love isn't real, get a job and go live alone for a while until you can accept this fact and find peace of mind through other things.

You just don't stop.

dont give up, sex is a part of life, be proud of that part of yourself and learn to embrace it so you can find happiness.

How do I get qt fembot NEET to live with me to watch anime all day?

That I can believe 100%
Yeah, after seeing what I saw, shit was fucked. Women don't like me, simple as that.

Hey Chad. I'm a 33 year old virgin. Never kissed, never been on a date. The closest I've come to sex is when a girl held my hand about a decade ago. What do?

my dad died of cancer too user, its painful but thats life. but you can do it, have hope.

My backup plan worked
Well no shit, I'm still pretty sore.

My situation is this.
>22 years old
>good looking but 5'7
>in good shape, have decent clothes, can play the guitar
>dislike most people
>dont wanna work
>going to uni soon
>dont want to
>just wanna be a NEET and not do shit
I'm not willing to make an effort to either make friends or find a chick. If its hard and unpleasant I wont do it. So if there's any effortless methods to get your dick sucked for people like me I'm up to it.
Tried tinder already, didnt accomplish shit. I suck at texting but I'm decent at socializing IRL.

work on yourself first, women will be easier to pick up but harder to keep at your dating age. look for flaws in your life to fix and go from there, god speed.

How do I approach a girl out of the blue? Is it possible? Of all the girls I've managed to talk to, I needed to find a "natural" way to start the conversation (eg. It's an assigned study partner, or someone I could hear her listening to the same music as me on the public bus, etc).
Is it possible to just talk to a girl without any specific reason like that?
I hope this post makes sense

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btw the same thing happened with MH370 - hijacked by the internet, but boeing love to blame imaginary terrorists and "unstable" pilots. they have a lot of money to lose if the truth comes out.

Thanks a lot alot it means quite a bit for me, hope you're okay too ! Have a great life user.

I'm working out to get in shape and taking therapy to help with social awareness. But I can't get over the thought that I'm a general bore or nuisance to be with. I think what might be holding me back more is that. I'm too afraid of wasting someone else's time or just to inconvenience them. Also, I'm scared of having to speak or show my sf scars and that someone will think I'm a freak or laugh at me.

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18 almost 19 and never had a real girl. Looking back I could have definitely pulled if I hadn't second guessed myself all the fucking time. I feel like I'm getting better with talking to girls. I used to worry too much about saying something stupid, so I'd often act really cold towards girls that I'd like when they'd try talking.
Anyway because I'd acted like such a fuckwit earlier on in my life, now I don't actually know how to read if someone's just being friendly or if they might be dtf. Ever since I'd started making an effort to come across as friendlier, a girl I work with would consistently go out of her own way to make me coffee's and get me little shit like that, while attempting to make small talk. I don't know if she just thinks I'm retarded and wants to keep me from lashing out or something, or if there's something there. I know it's still early but sometimes I think I'm too far gone.

Sorry for any spelling or gramatical errors, couldn't be fucked proof reading.

Not "chad" btw, but i hope you get through it.

Alright here's the situation

>Me
>18
>qt in physics
>Start talking to her
>Get to know each other quite well
>Doing all the 'textbook' things a girl would do if she likes a guy, playing with my hair in class, random touching, 100+ snapstreak
>School formal rolls around
>She says 'I love you user!'
>Uh ok thanks
>Continue getting to know each other, she's inviting me over all the time
>She gets rejected multiple times by another guy, who we'll call Chad just for this circumstance
>On an excursion, she asks me out (ironically as a joke I assume)
>'uhh maybe later
>Hang out with each other for the whole of the trip
>Bus ride home she ends up sleeping with head on Chad
>Gets rejected by Chad again, gets depressed
>She cuts off all guys on her SC, lose 150 day streak (pointless I know)
Heads up: I'm also pretty good friends with Chad so I get invited to a number of party's that qt isn't usually invited to
>Chad says "hey qt can come as long as she hooks up with user!"
>The other guys all agree but she's banned from the house from a previous incident, host says no
>Get very drunk and spill my spaghetti over Snapchat to her
>Haven't talked to her since last year

How'd I do? I'm guessing this isn't recoverable. Other friends think she was flirting with me just to boost her own confidence and make Chad jealous (didn't work)

I keep hearing "do X first." I don't have that much time left. How long should I work on myself? Do you think I'd be able to have a date by the time I'm 40?

is op kill?
my afflictions
>no friends
>family does not like me because i am not successful
>obviously no gf
>jungle gook with all the associated features
>ugly

I've considered the situation so much and heard so many pieces of advice from other people that I can't really determine with certainty what the reasons are. I would have to assume it's a combination of:

>General social retardation that I've only started to overcome in the last five years, and even then not completely
>Too high of standards - only find girls 6/10 and above attractive enough for me
>I have average looks at best
>The only girls (2-3 of them) who have ever liked me and made it known to me were ugly
>Since age 18, when my social skills have been most passable, I've been at a liberal arts college where nobody thinks like I do, politically. The two times I told a girl I liked them, they rejected me on the grounds that they couldn't date a conservative (or so they said).
>I often joke around a lot and that probably makes me come off as immature to girls.
>I have no real idea how to handle it if I like someone.

So what do I do?

Why my hobbies are supposed to be compatible with women's tastes?

Look m8, truth is you either have it or you don't. Chad has it and we don't.

Hey guys chad here, lot of requests coming in and im doing some work right now so i need a bit of patience

everyone has the potential to find happiness no matter who they are or where they come from. negativity only breeds more negativity.

an entire report that would get thrown out of court for the same reasons circumstantial evidence is not evidence. its assumption.

by the way, you don't rule me. stop thinking you do. its delusional.
right. so why the fuck is that person posting it. what a fucking tool.

it has ZERO to do with it. it an intelligence (??) report based on gossip. no proof. just hearsay and a bunch of money transfers they provide no proof of either.

fuck sake.

Sorry, but most likely she was doing just that; trying to make Chad jealous.

>Chad here
No, You don't.
>I'm here to help you
I don't think that anyone here needs ur help.

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>be me
>be small as fuck
>5'6"
>skinny
>like politics
>pretty much only turned on by rape and murder
>can't get it up to anything else
>sociable and pretty normal otherwise
>gone on a couple dates with a girl named molly who was ok but a little overwhelming
>good at picking girls up but terrible at romance and having a stable relationship
>spend most of my time listening to podcasts about murder and cleaning my room because ocd
>at college, volunteer for republican party
>republican girls are always hot as fuck and way out of my league
>can pick them up but really suck at relationship shit
>only time i had sex i had to pretend i was killing the girl in my mind
>everyone thinks im completely fucking normal and that i should have a gf
what do i do

no, its actually circumstantial. it does not contain proof of "who" hijacked the planes, only stories about the people they THINK hijacked the planes.

that's not proof nor evidence. are you okay like really. its not hard.

why am i fucking like this

wtf are you telling me

>be me
>be on this thread
>reading about dating advice
>a fucking 9/11 conspiracy discussion

>28
>College dropout
>clinically depressed
>No job
>No car
>Living with parents
>Skinnyfat manlet
>Never had a gf

Im trying to improve myself by going back to school to get a stem degree and a decent job thereafter. I figure that given my circumstances, until I complete that process trying to find a girl would be pointless as I have nothing to offer. I have been sleeping with escorts to try and at least have an idea of what im doing when I start dating, but otherwise have no experience.

I started looking up how to start lifting and came up with a decent plan, but lifting in front of others makes me really anxious and not want to follow through. Also, dieting to get the right macros and shit sounds really hard and tedious and gym memberships are expensive.

My life is also starting to get very isolated and lonely. I have some friends but I dont see them very often and I always have to initiate plans. Im not sure how to meet new people and am afraid of approaching people cold. Given all my other faults I doubt people would want to know me anyway. It feels quite lonely and everything else makes it hard to find the self confidence and determination to keep going.

What do I do chad? Any advice is helpful.

>he thinks he can help us
we can't be fixed you fucking tard

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"you lose every battle you dont fight"

Thanks user ! I don't think there is an answer to my problem but hopefully this feeling will be less painfull with time

I lose every battle I do fight

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But you don't die.

Lost my job, medical bills piling up. I try to go out and meet and talk to people, but it's pretty boring. Alcohol makes people annoying (oversensitive, lying, etc.) for the most part. I also don't know what to say to them, anyway.

I try to ask questions because 'everyone's favorite subject is themselves,' and it ends up becoming an interview. I have nothing to say about myself. I have trouble forming deeper connections.

I've tried five different datings apps, and I never get any responses or matches. And I'm not even ugly.

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Sucks too because every time we met irl she said I looked good and said a lot of compliments, and is a solid 8/10 ;(

I dont like being considered as "nice" or a "nice guy". It reminds me of times when people dont reciprocate feelings or a bond, especially if I'm trying to get gf.
I dont wanna "act" like I'm such a badass when I dont have much great experience with women, when I be more antisocial and isolated people give me shit for it. How do I seem more bf material or at least a respectable guy that won't get treated like a loser.?

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I'm a fat manlet with a micropenis. Only God can help me now. Fortunately, he had the wherewithal to make anime girls.

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Not actually expecting any advice here.
My biggest problem is I'm ugly. Fucked up face with scarring.
Second problem is a work a shitty job and women are golddiggers if you're not really attractive.
Third problem is that I'm boring. I hate doing things alone so I waste time with vidya. I have no major interests or aspirations. Nothing drives me and the only real desire I have in life is love.

I have no social skills and am very unlikable and dumb pretty much wherever I go people pick on me or dont like me and at this point all over my state people dont like me I just wish I was smart or likable so people would be nice and stop bullying me or people would enjoy my presence

not OP Chad, but I really wana help you. I think your best chance of finding a new sexual outlet is to suppress the fuck out of your urges by avoiding everything that makes you think about violent acts. stop listening to the murder podcasts; dont watch any murderporn crime shows at all. run from all of it. get new hobbies to fill your time, literally anything else you enjoy to keep your brain stimulated enough so that you have at least some sub par entertainment and your mind can stop falling back into the same thought patterns of romanticizing violence so frequently.

over time it should become less frequent and you hopefully you will start to develope a slight curiosity in something a bit more vanilla because your brain desperately wants the seratonin from fapping. when that happens reward your self and jump at the new curiosity! fap to that shit as often as you fucking can. build new neurological path ways associated with erotic pleasure... it wont be a perfect cure, you will always need to starve the rape wolf in you and feed the vanilla wolf. but it can happen.

Hi user. I have my first girlfriend ever at 24 and a virgin but I cant help getting really anxious and overthinking every little thing. I keep fearing shes going to lose interest at some point and leave me. How do I calm myself down and help myself believe she loves me? What would cause a girl to lose interest in a boyfriend? How do I keep her? Please help!!!

>Thinking of swallowing the pinkpill?
Not remotely, since I don't even know what the hell that means.

>doesn't know about the pinkpill
Thank God. It seems you're new. Please lease before you can be corrupted by this board. Or, click the spoiler and accept your fate.
The pinkpill refers to the Tranny propaganda that's been flooding this board. To take the pink pill is to transition. It's supposed to be a play on the redpill/bluepill thing.

I've been on Jow Forums since 2007, and Jow Forums off-and-on since 2008. I just don't keep up with you newfags and your faggot lingo.

I'm unsure about how i'd turn a friendship with a girl into a relationship. How do I show women that I'm interested?

I'm afraid of change and I self sabotage each time an opportunity arises to avoid being hurt. I know nobody and nobody knows me. What should I do oh great Chad

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Try asking her to go out drinking with you alone, drink and get loose, try to be flirty like saying she looks good in whatever she wearing or ask if she did something in her hair because it looks pretty, try being touchy, like grabbing her hand after a laugh and saying shes awesome, touching her back gently while conversating, putting your arm around while you walk or very gently pulling her closer. See how she responds to all that, if she wanna fuck you she'll not only allow you to do all that as she will try to initiate similar behavior herself, if she tells you to stop or gets uncomfortable its because shes mad you dared to try to escape your friendzone. If she responded well you can try kissing her during the date, be all touchy, get closer, look to her eys, lips, eyes, lean closer slowly and go for it, that's it,better done at a private place, after drinks, dont go grabbing her butt or being aggressive, save that for the third date or when you feel comfortable.

Also, if she's pathologically shy you're fucked, because she'll respond badly to your touchiness even if she likes you. In that case do this, take her to the movies, watch with her, try to grab her hand. If she grabs back, lean your head on her shoulder, at this point she may or may not respond, by touching or hair or grabbing your arm or whatever, in any case you're going to turn your head and gently kiss her lips, no tongue. That may lead to more or the end right there, but its the way with pathological shyness, tested and proved.

Also OP is a faggot, I'm not OP, his advice sux, "hurr durr lift, get a job and hobbies, improve brah, then you'll DESERVE to be recognized by our masters as worthy", fuck that, thats normalfag beta talk, you can get pussy as a manlet fat micropenis neet if you want,but you gotta find thw right type of woman for that situation and be assertive.

OP is no Chad, real Chad herw, but ain't got time for this shit.

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Firstly proof what you're a Chad. I don't want no advice for a LARPing robot.

i am weak, i am so very weak and tired. i know that if i ever approach anybody they will crush me.

THE VIRGIN SIMULATED CHAD VS. THE CHAD REAL CHAD. HAHA JUST KIDDING COOL THREAD, GLAD TO SEE SOMEONE HELPING OTHERS.

How do tigers learn to hunt? Answer me.

they learn by hunting, but i am not a tiger. i am prey.

Hi Chad, up until yesterday, I had two girls I was seeing.
The main girl is a cold and distant drunk, but still likes me.
The second girl bragged about getting gangfucked the night before and thought I'd be cool with it.
I tismed out and you faggots doxxed her since she was a skank who never felt with repercussions

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I'm a very confident and funny guy but I'd say my looks are slightly above average at best and I find it very hard to be attracted to most women and I fall into the oneitis trap a lot. No girl I've ever been interested in has ever felt the same way about me and any girls that do show direct interest are she-ogres. Do I just lower my standards? I'm also pursuing a girl who is currently in a relationship for the past 5 years. Is there any hope?

I broke up with my gf. She was a little cray and mean. I feel bad. Make me feel not as bad

You're taking too long. They go out with their mommy to hunt, WHICH YOU WILL NOT DO FFS, but then she instigate them on weak, frail, old, dying prey. Thats your point, as a beginner hunter you gotta aim at easy game to hone your skills as a hunter, so go for fat, old, disabled, black, insane first, get the exp and level up, till you feel confident to go for only fat old and disabled but not black, then on only fat and old, then only fat, then traps, I mean normal becky 5/10's, not traps. You'll get rejected a lot first, don't let that put you down, its normal to fall a lot at first. Keep getting up, keep trying, every man gets turned down a lot, even Chad have his bad days I shit you not, theres days all bitches are lunatic on their periods, or sored from last chadaroo ride, or being whiny cunts coz of stupid shit like "boo hoo I'm sad coz me mum died hug me" like fuck off, so never give up, no matter how many times you get shutted down or fail, keep trying and learn from your mistakes, until you boink that disabled fat old negress. Read some PUA too maybe, I know its not magical or ideal or even realistic sometimes, but it will give you a good basic understanding if you dont know absolutely nothing about bitches.

And don't be a pussy, man up, dont be a little bitch shinji kun

There's this girl in my social group that used to give signs that she liked me (like asking if I need a ride home, mentioning she's looking for a boyfriend, etc). But I didn't pursue her because I'm a pussy.
Now it's two years later and I've grown in confidence. But everytime I see her, she's just minimally polite and kind of brushes me off. Does she hate me because I basically rejected her? Should I still pursue? How would I even go about doing that?

Cool digits but wtf do you want? You're with two bishes, you chad already, you know what to do fag

So I'm sure my gf isn't attracted to me anymore. She doesn't respect me, she doesn't chase me anymore, and she definitely doesn't see me as alpha. Normally I know this would be the point where you leave, but there's one catch: she's pregnant.

Which is why I'm going to ask - is there a way to rekindle attraction once it's been lost? My life could be heaven or hell depending on how I deal with this relationship

Seem like youre a narcissist that think of yourself as better than you really are, but thats good! Confidence is good! Plus you're not retarded, you would know if you were ugly and ogre material.

So my advice is widen your search, amplify your field of hunting and look for more of the girls you think are on your level an go for them, use apps if you need ffs. Go meet people you homo.

>Do I just lower my standards?
Depends, do you have any experience? Can you pick up girls, talk to then and shit? Lowering your standards is good for practice, getting exp and leveling up, dont you dare ti commit to ogre u nigger I'll slap you. If you wanna slay some ogre just to have sport fucks, go for it, but don't you dare commit.

>I'm also pursuing a girl who is currently in a relationship for the past 5 years. Is there any hope?
You goddamn retard, I would slap your stupid mug right now if I knew you. Forget this bitch, so many womens out there and you with this retarded shit, goddamn.

Actual love, I guess

This is serious, I'll write some, hang in there.

Well i guess that's kind of the crux of the issue. Apps don't seem that helpful and all the women that like me are so incredibly low status that I'd be ashamed to be in public with them. It seems quite difficult to just meet people organically. I live in a small metropolitan area so the dating pool is quite small and i frequently run out of people on any app. I'm a virgin if that means anything.

>Which is why I'm going to ask - is there a way to rekindle attraction once it's been lost?
Yes, there is, but it will be a lot of work and you'll have to do it by yourself, meaning that I can't be specific about because I dont know her, therefore don't know what kind of tactics work on her. You see, some woman are needy and want someone to love her unconditionally, some woman were wronged and want a man strong as a tower to protect her, others crave on being hurt, do you get where I'm going with this? You gotta see what exactly she saw in you that attracted her in the first place, and potencialize it. You gotta learn exactly what she needs, praise, love, caring, violence, challenge, emotion, anything, find it and give it to her, thats the secret of being liked by anyone really, everyone got insecurities and things they lack, if you work exactly on that they'll worship you, like dogs you give treats.

That being said, it won't be easy, it will take a shit ton of time and effort, but yes it is possible, you already impregnated her once remember? So chill the fuck out. Of course it can also be broken beyond repair, but I don't think thats the case, she probably being difficult because of the mental turmoil of being pregnant, you gotta be strong and be a rock for her to feel safe, even if you're not really a rock just pretend.

But then again, lets face it, is it worthy? I mean, do all the work will pay off? Oe you made a mistake. Abandoning the child and the mother is an option, and sometimes the best one, sometimes you just gotta save yourself. I know its cold, but I seen man who didn't love their wife insist on it and just break as a man and die its soul, when it would be better if they just left, ti everyone, sometimes is better to just leave forever and dont look behind, keep in mind that thats an option, you can just walk away from all this and start anew.

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I think this is it, its up to you, your problem is an actual problem, think deeply of it, search more advice with older man, don't go for moralfags coz they're biased and will tell you to mary the girl, even thou that may be a mistake. In the end is up to you, you can try to salvage your relationship by searching what brought you together and trying to built it again, trying to find the core of her needs and fulfill them, or you can just walk away.

Damn, you're fucked. Low your standards for exp, dont be a virgin. If you live in a small town and not going to move work with what you got, wich means go after the few girls available in your level too then. I'm a little off now, that dude that got the girl preg kind of threw me off, won't be able to help you.much anymore. Work ob losing your V card and getting experience. Also, look up for tutorials on how to improve your dating app profile. And cheer up, woman can feel a depressed sob miles away and even thou some like it most will be repelled.

Thanks man. I'm writing up a detailed reply in case you're still around later

Buy a dog lol.

Aight sure. Also I'm not OP, maybe he shows up with advice too idn.

Thanks for the help Chad. You're doing a great service.

Pls help thx backup chadposter

I don't give a shit about getting a girl. Though

>About to start work as an analyst at a large financial institution
>Kinda cruised through current job whilst doing masters
>Also going for the next level in some professional designation

Do you Chad bros have any advice for studying and working FT?

Interesting. Well, she is a very traditional girl and likes a manly man. She's very honest and says I should be more dominant, I should gain muscle, etc.
The problem is, I was never really dominant in the relationship. That's not how I got her (unless she somehow percieved me as dominant for some reason). Don't even know how to be dominant.

If it gives you some context, I met her as a random day game approach. We had a pretty boring conversation, so I think I was just lucky and caught her at the right time in her life.
Or maybe it's just the stability that she was attracted to. She has described me as "placid" before, but in a positive way. But I may have ruined that image by getting emotional a few times in front of her, even crying at one point. I may have already ruined "being a rock" in her eyes...

But at the start, I was pretty emotionless. Not replying to her texts straight away, etc. I still do that now, but I don't know if it hurts or helps the relationship at this stage. I have a lot of trouble being "masculine", because I'm either too distant or too needy. I suppose I need to learn how to be less extreme.

I've thought about leaving. But besides the ethics of leaving a mother who is willing to build a family with me, I'm also fucked with child support for the next 20 years. I guess the thinking is, if I'm going to be paying for this child, I might as well be there for him and get a relationship out of it right? It does fuck up my dreams of living abroad though.

>when it would be better if they just left, ti everyone
This is the shit that keeps me up at night. Maybe I'm being too nice. But I never knew what I really wanted, so I thought I would give this a go. I really don't know what I'm doing.

I've thought so much about this stuff but I just can't figure it out.
Thanks for the support, man. You're right, I've reached out for advice before and the moralfags can't wait to make you feel like shit.

>user: I am avoidant and can't talk first to women, signals do not work
>Chad: Hurr just approach them!
/Thread

Whats the relationship she has with her father? That will help, I'll answer other points meanwhile.

She's the kind of person that says she hates everyone, and shit talks them behind their backs, but other times she loves them. So she tells me a lot how she hates her dad, but she says the same about her mom, siblings, etc. But she voluntarily spends time with them and enjoys being with them too, so I don't know what to make of that.

But with her father, her parents split a few years ago and she's lived at her dad's place with her brother through her teenage years. He spends a lot of time at university (he's a research), so she goes there a lot to visit him. They have extremely similar interests, so much so that I'm sure she got most of them from him (extremely right wing, nationalist, naturist, etc). They talk a lot of politics and science together. And she always defers to him for advice. He has multiple phds, so she does respect that.

But then she constantly tells me how he's a shit father and he emotionally abused her by not being around and sometimes acting passive-aggressive. So I don't really know.

Gaining xp is literally the answer to most robots problems tho

I work a male dominated field and I have no friends to meet women through.

I'm 26 years old and I'm 6' and overweight (working on that though as I've lost 80 lbs since May and at 228 and still losing) and I work with my literal dream girl every weekend. She's 20 and going to college for nursing, she literally as far as I know has the same beliefs I do, she's religious, same taste in music, great personality and she's just genuinely the sweetest girl you'll ever meet but... she's not single. She and I get along great and I think there's a great connection between us but I just don't know what to do. She doesn't know I like her in that way (at least I think she doesn't.) I don't think she'd break up with her boyfriend of almost 2 years just to be with me. I've only been in one relationship and that was completely all online so idk if that counts but we made plans to see each other irl but she kept delaying it and delaying it until she ended up breaking up with me after we we're in a relationship for 7 months. To this day I don't know what I did wrong with that. She said she just didn't want to be in a relationship now or something but I just know it wasn't just that. But that doesn't matter anyway. I've been long over that. But anyway what do I do here? Do I just wait til the possibility they break up and I can be with her or try to steal her away. I just don't know. I always think if a girl like that is with a guy for almost 2 years, then he must be at least a good guy. Sorry if this was long but I just need help and thank you in advance

I>nteresting. Well, she is a very traditional girl and likes a manly man. She's very honest and says I should be more dominant, I should gain muscle, etc.
Well, that is a problem, since thats not what attracted her in the first place. Problem is woman dont really know what they want, maybe that's what she thinks she want, but in reality she wants a human sensitive type, always take what woman say with a grain of salt. At the same time, this may be her way of saying you should put more effort into it, be more there, be strong, get fit and sexually desirable, that sort of thing. I would say go for the macho man role, be more dominant and acertive, subdue her in bed and choke her a little, give her a taste of what she thinks she wants and see how she responds, even try lifting, it will help you in other ways too.

>The problem is, I was never really dominant in the relationship. That's not how I got her (unless she somehow percieved me as dominant for some reason). Don't even know how to be dominant.
Learn, study, research on being dominant, read previous response.

>If it gives you some context, I met her as a random day game approach. We had a pretty boring conversation, so I think I was just lucky and caught her at the right time in her life. Or maybe it's just the stability that she was attracted to. She has described me as "placid" before, but in a positive way.
This may be a problem, maybe your relationship didn't have much to begin with and thats why its falling apart, but dont panic, you can start building from what you got. If shes conservative maybe indeed her thing is strong guys, and if you wanna make it work you'll have to step up to that, fake it till you make it.

>But I may have ruined that image by getting emotional a few times in front of her, even crying at one point. I may have already ruined "being a rock" in her eyes...
Yeah you should never cry infront of a woman, you kind of fucked up there, dont ever do it again.

1/3?

>But at the start, I was pretty emotionless. Not replying to her texts straight away, etc. I still do that now, but I don't know if it hurts or helps the relationship at this stage. I have a lot of trouble being "masculine", because I'm either too distant or too needy. I suppose I need to learn how to be less extreme.
At this stage this is bad, shes in a frail state and you need to be there, try answering when available, or else she'll think you dont really care and that will strain things further.

>I've thought about leaving. But besides the ethics of leaving a mother who is willing to build a family with me, I'm also fucked with child support for the next 20 years.
Thats not a good point really, paying child support its not the end of the world, and you can also disappear

>I guess the thinking is, if I'm going to be paying for this child, I might as well be there for him and get a relationship out of it right?
Wrong, throwing your life away in a failed relationship would be a huge mistake, put yourself first beside the needs of others, maybe going away would be better even for the child instead of living in a fake broken house and passing through divorce after getting attached

>It does fuck up my dreams of living abroad though.
You can still do that, nothing is written in stone, think things through

>This is the shit that keeps me up at night. Maybe I'm being too nice. But I never knew what I really wanted, so I thought I would give this a go. I really don't know what I'm doing.
Nobody really does, we just make decisions and live with them, you'll have to make yours

>I've thought so much about this stuff but I just can't figure it out.
Then dont, take your time and think things through, working out would help you get your mind off things and relaxing, maybe lifting is indeed a good idea

2/3

>I've thought so much about this stuff but I just can't figure it out.
Then dont, take your time and think things through, working out would help you get your mind off things and relaxing, maybe lifting is indeed a good idea

>Thanks for the support, man. You're right, I've reached out for advice before and the moralfags can't wait to make you feel like shit.
Its cool bro, like I said try to reach out for older man that are not moralfags, I need all the advice yoy can gather before taking your final actions, fuck moralfags

3/3
I'll look into the father stuff now hol up