How do I get over the fact the first girl who understood me and made me feel loved for being myself, only used me for sex?
I feel myself slowly hating women more by the day because of this. especially when they say "im gonna slut around and settle down later" like sure thing Stacey I bet he's gonna love it when youre the human equivalent of leftover scraps at the buffet, and youre only seeing him because he's stable and not because of any kind of loyal form of love and adoration.
There are two ways you can deal with the nature of femininity:
>continuously get jealous an angry and sad about it, eventually becoming a bitter person who hates life
or
>accept it and learn to play the game
It fucking sucks, I know. But those are literally the only two choices, besides just giving up on a huge part of the human experience and living in denial (which is really just Option 1 anyway).
Choose wisely, brother.
I wish I could be used for sex...
Shit, I've been there too, user. It's a fucking nightmare because I legitimately fell in love with her. Soulmates and shit. She just treated me as a sex toy but the second she noticed I got attached she dumped me.
>normies coming here to complain about girls wanting them for sex and only sex
Get the FUCK out of here please
>Normie
>Angry for only being used for sex
Pick one you gatekeeper.
Yeah its pretty great until you absolutely adore one of those girls using you and shes the only one whos ever really made you feel accepted and understood.
>Yeah its pretty great until you absolutely adore one of those girls using you and shes the only one whos ever really made you feel accepted and understood.
The worst part is when she actually is the only one. Like I used to know this one girl, totally like me. We had so much in common, in the way we thought, saw the world, felt. She was depressed too. Whenever we spent time together I was so ridiculously happy. Fucking her was great but cuddling was so much better. We had such perfect flow together.
Then it all went to shit. I tried fixing it a few times but it only made things worse. I'm still trying to collect myself after all that stuff but I don't think I'll ever be the same.
Anyone who can get sex (consistent sex, no less) is a normie. Simple as that. Acquiring and maintaining a sexual relationship requires a set of social skills that we do no have, and most likely never will due to a complex combination of ubpringing and genetics.
If you've ever know affection of any kind, you are not one of us. Go back to facebook.
>Acquiring and maintaining a sexual relationship
>If you've ever know affection of any kind, you are not one of us
Not OP but you can clearly tell he didn't have that. Girl just fucked him and that's it really.
For me there are 2 things I remember, I remember how she looked when she sat on my lap and just smiled looking at me. For me that was the moment I knew I wanted to spend my life with this girl. And the other was when I slept at her place, her mum didnt want me sleeping in her room but she was out for the night but regardless the girl was still anxious. We fell asleep cuddling but I remember every time shed go to get up id half wake up and end up pulling her back.
It was that smile though, that fucking smile that showed off her fangs in her purple bedroom lit dimly yellow by the fairly lights.
Yeah it was her smile for me too, but there was so much more. She'd have a shit day but she brightened up when around me. And I felt the same too. Which is weird because I never felt it before. Like I tried shit with other girls before, but every one of them felt so artificial and like a burden, whereas this one girl actually felt so natural to me. Like as if I knew her for ages, even though I knew her a lot shorter than that. She'd often ask if she can hug me, compliment me, she'd sometimes even drop shit like "I like you user, and sometimes I feel like I really really like you". We'd have some stupid "adventures" together, much like people do when they're a married couple. She just gave me a feel of being normal for just a short while. And that felt so good. I miss that feeling so much. Since her I tried dating other girls but none of them came even remotely close to that.
Yeah dude, honestly someone telling you that they like you, like that is genuinely the happiest ive ever felt when she said that to me.
Honestly I dont even get to the stage of dating other girls before I pull out, I dont even feel the desire to at least ask for a number.
Honestly, after having experienced that stuff neither do I. Like before her I would date and just hope "things get better" over time and that we'd sorta acquire the "flow" but that never happened. When I met that girl though it was instantly different. Like as if I finally met the one. It's so hard to explain really but after the events with her my standards have somewhat gone up and I no longer want to pursue girls that don't really give me good feels. Like most of them are nice and all but they're just not quite there for me. And so I never really get past a single date with them. I didn't before as well, but now I get even less dates becasue I lose interest so quickly.
Could be because I got older too and just care less but I don't know. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone I could click so well with.
>I'm so misunderstood that I get casual sex with someone who understands me. Now I'm gonna complain about it
I mean, would it be better if she friendzoned you and refused to hang out because she's got 10 inches of Jamal's cock inside her instead?
I'm pretty sure that's the normal thing, we're all used to it.
Once you accept that everyone you know is using you in one way or another there is no way back, the only path forward is suicide or forcibly shutting off your brain and going with it which I haven't been able to do myself
Frankly if im not with her id rather have never met her, cant miss the happiness you never had.
Same here. Despite all the happiness she brought me I regret having met her. Shit I still remember how after all the bad shit I had with her and after having tried to fix it all, we went out and I told her I kinda regret having moved to the city we're in and she said something like "oh but then you wouldn't have met me :)".
She had absolutely no idea that I fucking wish I never met her.
The fact that you see it as "just" fucking outs you as a normie.
I don't think you really understand just how rejected by society a man can become. "Just fucking" requires that a girl wanted you inside her, even if just for a moment. It requires that you were accepted by her, even if just for a moment. Accepted by society, even, since most girls would never fuck a guy who has lower social value than her. It also means that you know what it's like to have physical intimacy with someone, even if they didn't "love" you in the particular way you wanted. The very fact that you are being critical of you sexual experiences and have specific wants denotes that you have had enough sex to have nuanced preferences. You're really taking it for granted that everyone has this. Most people on this board don't, and never will.
I'm not taking it for granted. I've just improved my shit to the point where I could find a girl and talk her into sex. I've been a virgin until I lost it with a hooker at age 22. Believe it or not, it's a lot harder to find a normal relationship than just sex.
>promiscuity is femininity
Woah I guess your mother is a whore, user
>Accept it :^|
No fuck you, I'll get a loyal wife even if I'll have to import her from Africa
>Believe it or not, it's a lot harder to find a normal relationship than just sex.
Exactly, so imagine how much harder it is if you can't even get sex, the easiest thing to get.
Fuck off. You can go get a hooker whenever you want.
exactly the same here, the one positive was that I never made that mistake again, but it fucked my brain up and made me screw over a lot of women
>loyal wife
doesn't exist
Paying someone to pretend to like you isn't the same as getting someone to actually like you.
In fact, it's ten times worse.
>implying those girls even like you
If those girls liked you, they'd want to stay with you. It's no different really.
Yeah it fucked me up too. I can't even get closer to girls anymore because I just know it'll get fucked and I'll have to go over the grief stage again. I lose interest pretty quickly and talk to multiple girls at the same time, yet it still doesn't work for me.