Sexual Health General.
Let us talk about sexuality, fitness and health.
What sportive activity do you specifically do to improve your sexual performance?
What diet/supplements do you take to improve your sexual life?
What's your go to plan for when your wife doesn't want to have/initiate sex as often?
Let's be civil about this. It's sex, not politics.
posted it earlier today if you want to know how to talk to the average heterosexual girl in bed do it like the femdom anime girls do it to fat pathetic weebs. this works better and better the more attractive you are compared to her
I dance. Think thats enough for your first question lol.
Moderate cardio and avoiding porn.
That's really all you need. You shouldn't rely on supplements for anything. Eat healthy. Don't cut out entire food groups.
Avoid Hydrogenated stuff and anything with a lot of processed sugar in it. But don't go off the rails and think that means you can'teat fruit, OR the occasional unhealthy treat.
People over complicate this shit. I have to type more to unfuck the stupid complications than to actually give advice.
If you're healthy in general you should get rock hard erections. Thats the most imporant dick factor. Hardness. Not overall size where guys fuck up their dick trying to grow it. Hardness of erections is what matters. That comes from being in good health.
If you're wife isn't as willing to fucking you then stop acting like a beta bitch. Learn some game. It applies to relationships too. If you're being too present and too suplicating that is a turn off. Have independent activities for yourself. Stop asking her opinion on everything and telling her every idea in your head. Lead her, don't treat her like your life revolves around her. Be playful too. Playful teasing banter. Fuck user. Treat her like your play thing and her telling you to sleep on the couch won't be an issue.
Generally if she's turning down sex it's a serious sign your relationship is in trouble. It's not because of your dick game either. It's that you're acting like a beta bitch
Is there any shame in just admitting I'm an incel who finds reading books safer and easier than attaining what I truly want, which is a hot gf? I used to be a catholic until i realised i was just coping with the fact that I just couldn't get any. Unlike like St Augustine. For instance, I was driving home and spotted a young girl who was fit and she looked at me then looked away and continued walking. I stopped my car and glanced at her before driving off, fearing that calling after her would be inappropriate. But now on reflection, I have done what I have always done, which was to do the safe action and not engage.
Should I just bite the bullet and hire hookers?
well your number 1 mistake is wanting a hot gf. "When a woman ceases to be handsome she starts to be useful" remember this. If you want to look, look for less attractive women with proper personalities. "8th and lastly, they are ever so grateful!"
No. It'll poison your soul and your future relationship(s).
but they all have the same personalities. I have seen the interactions between hot women and guys and it is retarded. I haven't found a girl with a good personality
Don't want a hot gf.
Want a good partner. A good wife. A good mother.
Not a "hot gf". You need to grow up on that point and abandon futile stuff. Your wife will stay by your side until your die. The hotness of a girl won't.
>I haven't found a girl with a good personality
You don't hang in the right circles.
In fitness/literary/philosophy circles, I see plenty very interesting women. But I already have a wife.
aye the problem lies in finding one to talk to over an extended period. you can't judge a persons personality by sight; unhappy chance: for if you could the world would be a much better place.
>sexual health
>Im a virgin
I am 19 khv. Should I just wait for the right one and focus on my career?
Thats what I did. Im a full blown 30 year old wizard now with no women skills.
Lol oh no no NO NOOOO HELP ME HELP ME PLEASE NOOOOOOOOoOOOOOOO WHAT IS THE POINT OF WORKING OUT IF IM AN AUTIST ALL I CAN DO IS STARE AT WOMEN NOOOOOOO
You're 19 dude, jesus christ. Just do whatever the fuck you want, you're going to be a different person by the time you're in your mid-20s anyway.
There's a girl from the other office I ran into a few times over the years, she has a cute face, dresses well and seems intelligent, but she's very, very fat, a couple months ago I saw her coming out of the office and she's almost obese. All her fat goes to her thighs and ass and lower stomach but her upper body and face/neck somehow remain thin.
She's very talkative with me and even with my limited experience I can tell she wants me to make a move. She's nice and I can see myself being attracted to her, but the thought of dating her in public makes me uneasy. I'm very very lonely and could use some human connection. Should I go for it?
>pic related, kinda similar body but fatter pelvis
I’ve had previous with ED can’t tell if it’s Porn induced or Alcohol induced as I’m 19 y/o and live a healthy lifestyle which includes regular cardio. I’m on day 20 nofap and could fuck if I tried but too scared to try. Any tips bros? What do
Im so bad I cant even get black women despite people keep sayin are easy as a white guy
how to get women to fuck me?
What about alcohol?
your 19 you better start living
yes, it'll give you massive test boost and more confidence
>be me, 18 years old
>have beautiful latina gf whose also 18, not fat or chubby, but shes thicc and its my cup of tea
>use to work out when younger, not heavy workout but i had muscle and it was aesthetically pleasing
>stopped a few months back, kinda started pigging out, not fat at all, just skinny
>also am pretty attractive and so is my girlfriend
>me and girlfriend have near perfect sex life, love life, and a great bond
>one day we're talking, she suggests we should go to the gym together and swim laps together or something similar
>actually really good idea, and i agree
Problem is, I can't seem to get the motivation to bring us. I also suggested yoga and shit cus I use to do yoga and I loved it. I only ever really lifted weights, then on certain days I'd do yoga classes, but I kinda just stopped due to depression and boredom. If my girlfriend is serious, I'd be more than willing to go with her, but the problem is we can't seem to get the motivation. What do?
just do it, once you're stuck at the gym you have no choice but to work out
hiring a brass is minus points in my book
confidence boost? you've just paid a female to have sex with you and she hated it
fffffffffffff
>you better start living
what did he mean by this
Be yourself bro
anybody here ever have genital warts? supposedly 80% of the population has the virus that has them, so any of you guys have any tips? currently have a q-tip with apple cider vinegar taped to my schlong.
FUCK OFF
Yeah, I know. I just really can't get the motivation, I'm a lazy sack of shit. It's not even an anxiety issue, I know people don't give a fuck about you at the gym, I use to have that fear though. I've tried looking at old photos of myself, yeah I miss myself when I had more muscle and looked a bit more attractive, and I say that'll help me go, but it just never happens. I thought my girlfriend pushing me, and her even offering to come would help, but nope.
f indeed
when wearing a condom is it smart to cum inside the condom while it's inside or still pullout?
Also, I just bought a patch that's so tight I have to get my finders in and then lift and pull the last inch and a half or so. Just too tight to roll further. If I don't it only covers two thirds or so. Good to go or what?
are you ready for any adversity/trouble that might come your way? could you handle the situation if a man is directly hitting on your gf in front of you?
Me and my girlfriend are very secure with each other. I have seen her turn down men over text, in person right in front of me, and I didn't even have to ask. Once she even asked me to text a man who was flirting with her to get him to stop. Plus, I fuck about every day I'm with her. I have no reason to be insecure.
why would other men have her number...
Snapchat. Not number. Old friends from her highschool, too she doesn't even talk to anymore.
so other men are texting your girlfriend? what would happen if i took your girlfriends handbag
Me and my Latina gf work out together. We're both pretty fit and good looking.
Why do you care what other people think about your partner? If you have a good time with her, go for it. Beauty doesnt last long, you should spent your life with someone you can stand everyday.
Anyone else overcome prone masterbation? I've never liked porn and tried no fap yet no results.
Sure are smug for someone with such stale advice
answer me pls
LOL your gf will fuck somebody else in the future. Whether you fuck her or not, she will get bored of you. That's women nature son
Don't give up. Try and if it doesn't work maybe see a Dr.
>Why do you care what other people think about your partner?
It's more of what I think about it. It feels desperate, like I'm trying to convince myself I find her sexy so I can give myself the green light and make a move. If I saw her on the street I wouldn't find her attractive.
Cum while still inside
Do you find anything attractive about her? It can even be her personality. If not, dont date her.
>cum inside condom
that's what they're made for. unless you feel it was tempered with in which case don't use it to begin with.
>condom that doesn't fit well
no, never. if it slips off or is uncomfortable outside, it will slip off or break upon penetration. buy a condom that fits well, they're cheap.
I think you're thinking about something that doesn't exist a little bit too much, or trying to put thoughts in my head. I'm fully confident in my partner.
cute
Then if she does, she does. But in the meantime, I see her about almost every day of the week, she has a strict mother who barely lets her go out with someone unless it's a girl or me, and I fuck her almost every single day of the week. So we're pretty happy with each other. And if she does, onto the next.
Condoms are pretty safe, so cum inside. Theres like a 3% chance of failure. Make sure your partner is taking the pill or using a ring.
Her face is cute, her haircut fits her well, she has nice skin and is intelligent. That being said it's not her hair I want to part and fuck eventually. She might be a good intimate match for me and she might not be, but seeing her wobbly walk due to her obese frame was a huge turn-off. I think I just don't know if I'm attracted to her or to the idea of just being with someone who signals they want me, there's very few of those in my life right now.
mislead you lad, your gf is being text by other fellas get a grip.
Only had sex twice with different chicks in my life and couldn't cum in either of them.
Last time I fucked this chick to the point of dehydration, about two hours (we started 1 am, and I gave up at 3 am) and couldn't cum, no matter what she did, oral didn't do it, nothing.
I'm afraid all these years of masturbation finally caught up to me. I got the legendary death grip.
I still maintain healthy erections and can keep going for two hours rock hard based on my last experience but no cum.
Is there a way to revert this? I cum in about 30 seconds with tight grip masturbation by the way.
have sex
Who here /phimosis/?
>tfw my foreskin is too tight to stretch over my head when I’m fully erect
>tfw my head is so sensitive the air hurts it
Been pulling it back in the shower to let the water hit it and apparently I gotta do that everyday for months. Any other anons got this?
Well, while I am confident, I do agree that you have a point. Next time I see her, I'll ask her about anything and ask to possibly see some texts or such. I'll lightly question.
>almost 33 yrs old and never had a gf
How much of a red flag would my lack or relationships be to a girl?
Thanks
Zero percent chance of slipping off. It's so tight I have to get a finger under to pull it off. Thanks for mentioning the tearing part I forgot about that
Shit man, i dont know what to tell you. Do you think you can have sex with her?
honestly thats a huge red flag at that age
>condom that doesn’t fit well
Careful with that user. I had one come off me during a drunken one nighter and I had to stick my fingers up her and fish it out and put it back on. It was hilarious at the time and now buy for a while there I was worried I’d get aids from the 5 seconds I was fucking her raw
>tfw she was none the wiser
Stop death gripping my man
First time I raw dogged a rando was because if this too haha
that's literally my fantasy user, even james bond agrees. go for it.
Many do hate it and you, sometimes you find that girl who either likes you or is so good at faking it you believe it because you keep coming back to them. In any case, some of the best sex I've had have been with escorts
>Do you think you can have sex with her?
I likely won't go soft and I will be able to finish. Life kinda hardened me, I'm not really driven by pleasure so I can do lots of things I need to that I don't really enjoy or that I even actively dislike, and minor inconveniences don't deter me. So, I likely could have sex with her, I just don't know if I'll like it. I imagine seeing her naked would be a turn-off and I will feel regret that I'm not with someone I find more attractive but I could do it.
I'm 35 and in the same boat.
had sex, never had serious relationship.
kinda don't want to try 'cause I fear the reaction when conversation goes there. think I might just lie when the moment comes, say I had one in my twenties but I'm a solitary person. who would suspect a 35 never had a gf before? so I think it will sell itself.
Just be half honest and say you weren't a relationship guy but had some flings earlier.
It's not what happened but it's not an outright lie either.
I'm usually a terrible liar, but I got pretty good at selling these half truths to women.
It's not death grip
You are suffering from delayed ejacualtion caused by idiosyncratic masturbation and, probably, not being erotically stimulated enough. You have to refrain from porn and masturbation for at least a couple weeks and then try sex.
You have too much tolerance built up to fantasy and friction
Get checked if it was over a month ago. Will save you lots of worrying.
If youre going to feel regret, dont do it. You will be constantly looking for other partners, and maybe hurt your friend.
Just so you know, i was in the same situation and i hook up with her. A month ago we had our 6 year anniversay. She has lost a lot of weight in that time, and im really happy with our relationship. Im telling you this because maybe im biased. I hope this help you.
Honest situation. My stamina in the morning is such that I basically do not cum unless I focus on it mentally and push toward, yet at night or evenings I feel like I will cum in a single minute or two
What on earth is going on with this level of disparity? I'll hear all opinions.
how brother? am pulling my hair out after a couple of months. thinking how do prisoners do years without sex
that's in your head mate, no girl likes to have sex for money but they do because its easy money from gullible men like yourself
>chick i went on a couple of dates with 4 years ago, friend of a friend
>dating a skinnyfat with no muscle that looks like eggman but with a bit more hair
Wouldn't it be easier for her to send me a text? No girl i've dated has ever tried to contact me, and it makes me feel weird seeing them post pics with literal 4/10 dudes.
I'm a different user than the one you were just talking to,but I say go for it. If you're in need of some attention, and if you're not definitely turned off by her, there's no harm in pursuing this to see where it goes. You might be on the cusp of happiness.
Fear of intimacy.
I've been lonely my whole fucking life, it's all I rally know. I haven't had a teenage gf discovering kissing together and losing my virginity to each other, I haven't had the 20's fuckaround period exploring my sexuality, I haven't had a mature relationship grow over years with someone I learn to know like a best friend. I've only ever had lonely weekends and rarely going out with friends, I've been by myself forever, with occasional one night stands with strangers on vacation.
By the time I was 28-29 all my friends were married, in a serious relationship or even with children, and I had no one to go out with or be a wingman or push me to find someone since they had more and more other stuff in their life filling their time but me. In recent years I had to force myself to try on my own, go alone to parties and bars, learn how to drink by myself and cold approach women in groups. It wasn't easy...
>She has lost a lot of weight in that time, and im really happy with our relationship
Would you still be happy had she not lost the weight?
>If you're in need of some attention, and if you're not definitely turned off by her, there's no harm in pursuing this
If I already suspect I won't be happy with her and that I just need some comfort and I don't really find her an acceptable partner, isn't it unfair to her to pretend otherwise?
Yes, i would.
>overcome my feeble desires by reading some pages of Meditations again, no porn nor masturbation for a few days
>feeling more love than usual for gf again
I love this natural feeling of love, there's nothing like it. Cumming to pixels isn't worth it, bros.
that's heavy man. i'm 30 now in the same situation really me myself and i. who said life was fair though, either roll with it or get rolled over
>who said life was fair though, either roll with it or get rolled over
Yeah, this. You play with the cards you're dealt, we are what we make of ourselves.
I was very empty and fatalistic in my approach for several years, a very dark time in my life. Then I gave myself a good kick in the ass when I realized I was considering suicide, and I decided to try again despite all the odds and confront my fears.
Not easy learning how to dress right without an observant eye, getting drunk by yourself someplace unfamiliar, starting conversations with strangers in a foreign language in an attempt to get them to like your creepy old ass enough to ask you to join them, talking to girls in a group trying to figure out if any of them likes you enough to follow through...
The first time I got laid I was in shock, but I wrote in my travel journal the next day in huge fucking letters, "THERE IS STILL HOPE, I CAN DO THIS." After the second time I stopped believing it may have been luck and my confidence grew. Now I need to get over the hurdle of a relationship at 35, when women presumably have higher expectations and lack of experience is inexcusable and there's no alcohol involved.
>isn't it unfair to her to pretend otherwise?
Well, that depends. If you're only using her for sex when you know she wants more, and you have absolutely zero interest, yeah. If you let her know that you're interested and want to see how things go, then you later decide that you two aren't compatible, there's nothing wrong with that. It's up to you to decide if you're interested enough to do that though.
>talk to heterosexual girls the way anime grills do femdom
Explain please
so you can overcome adversity in your life which some people would crumble, you sound like your being harsh to yourself and as we say it is what it is. we all living on hope lad. gota take the bad with the good least your not 30 odd year old virgin who hasn't got a clue
>you sound like your being harsh to yourself
Nah, I just know I lack the social skills and experience others developed younger, so I have to force myself into situations I dislike. But yeah, there's no other way out but death.
do you think people like all these false interactions? male suicide number one killer in the world, be grateful that you know whats happening and only you can change it. everyone and everything is forced isn't it?
>End long time relationship last year
>A few months back start seeing my ex
>Been fucking her almost twice a week for the last month
>I know she only wants attention and sexual relief
>Keep going on the pretense it means nothing to me either
>Recently it's bothering me hearing that she is going out to drink (when we where together she never drink)
Should I just fuck off or get over my feelings and keep her as a FWB?
My wife just took out her IUD today bros.
Been married 16 months so honeymoon is over. Time to start a family bros.
Been checked, I'm all good.
My gf is developing a habit of slapping me during sex, she really only does it once and it's followed by clawing my back.
But I feel is a lack of respect, am I overthinking it?
Choke her and fuck her harder. If you're riding doggy, make her slap your balls.
If it's causing you more turmoil than good you need to just walk away man. It's like trying on an old pair of shoes. Sure they're still kind of comfy but the soles are worn out and you stopped wearing them for a reason.
I'm 22 and I don't have rock hard erections anymore. I wish I would ignore that first playboy magazine years ago
>implying uggos and fatties don't think they deserve Henry Cavill cause they're not like the other girls
You'll recover mate.
Also someone should have peed in this guys mouth
It's frustrating to read anons talking about how this and that workout or habit yielded a certain result to them, but when I try it myself there's barely any difference at all.
Hiit seems to help me the most in terms of stamina and Control.
The past couple months or so I haven't been quite as interested in sex with my gf as I was before. Oftentimes I feel too tired or would prefer to just relax. I don't know if it's a physiological response or if it's a matter of her being less attractive to me.
I think she's an attractive woman, and I wouldn't cheat on her, but a lot of times I just don't fucking feel like it. I wish I did. What's wrong with me?