>go to a salsa club
>Most people are sitting together with their friends
>Only people dancing are those that know each other
>Music is loud
How am I supposed to talk to people and dance with someone?
>Took intro dance lesson and danced with a cute cougar
t. 33yo khv who needs social skills and hobbies, so is trying this out
What do?
I'm literally sitting at a secluded area and nursing a beer while posting on here
Stick with it OP. Get out on the floor, no matter what.
I've found traditional American, Irish or Cajun dancing to be much more relaxed in atmosphere and demographic.
I'm not good at dancing alone
Plus, it's empty right now, only 6 people on the floor. It's before 11 rn
Only people dancing together are the people that know each other
I'm one of the guys who is by the bar or periphery of the floor, just looking
Do whatever comes to mind, i mean its a fucking dance club whats the worst that could happen? You get laughed at? You been getting laughed at your whope life nigga just get over it and do something, do anything!
meet someone, or go back to dance classes/ try yoga ect...
Get you a couple drinks to loosen up and go talk to some of the groups of people. Ask them how long they been going there and if there are nights that are usually more busy than tonight, or if there are other places that they like to dance.
I would go to another dance spot, one that is more popular. The places I go are normally busy and the majority come alone. Also you need to go pretty consistently and meet some of the regulars. Once you get a little better and people get a little more familiar with you, they will be more likely to dance with you. Good luck!
>Most people are sitting together with their friends
>Only people dancing are those that know each other
This. Look for some middle aged cuck with a hotwife.
Fugg I know that feel. I did tango for a while, it's all cliques.
Study and practice at home, in a mirror, so when you go to the club you can just get out on the floor and flaunt your prowess.
Maybe Ashwagandha or even Phenibut as well.
I think I need to do something like that to relax my hips, but I don't want to be around a bunch of smelly spics. I unironically kinda wish I had done ballet in my teens, I'd be dancing to classical music surrounded by flexible virginal qts, learn to deal with them and do some heavy cardio conditioning. Man, if I could go back in time...
>mfw I'll never be the one guy in the class who lifts all qts in the air
>mfw I missed out on teenage ballet love
Walk up to a woman who’s sitting and ask her to dance
Keep at it OP salsa takes a little time to get it but once you have the basics and a couple cool variations women will be lining up to dance with you
It's pretty lame desu. Most are super serious about it and its not fun after youve lifted every girl in the class 10 or 20 times that night. Hell of a workout tho
t. Was put in ballet and other dances by my grandmother who was a professional dancer in her prime and refused to have a grandson that couldnt lead a woman on the dance floor...
ballet girls are histrionic sluts
all dance girls are to some degree, but ballet especially
i know that exact feel, i was skelly as fuck when growing up but my friend's mom always said i should do ballet because i had the perfect body for it, didn't because i thought it was gay etc but i now realise that i'm more gay for not doing it
if only we could turn back time
1. Female empowerment = degeneracy.
2. ?
3. Profit.
The girls are sitting in groups though. No girl is sitting alone
The real payoff is to be a teacher or higher status person in Salsa. Sorry bro that means you have to be a fantastic dancer who leads or teach lessons.
You are correct nothing bad will happen to OP BUT
I've seen autistic people pull this shit and it's dumb. You're nice to them in the same way you'd be nice to someone at a marathon in a wheelchair- great they're there, but they aren't going anywhere.
Wrong. This is a stupid and dumb waste of time, especially if OP is socially awkward or incompetent. He's going to walk up to people, they're going to decide he's boring/awkward/not cool and he's not going to make progress. It's a TERRIBLE use of time as well. How many days is OP going to have to stumble around trying to make idiosyncratic connections at a salsa club that may or may not have "regulars"?
Instead, OP should work on making friends outside this setting, where there's not as dramatic a competition for attention. THEN go with a group of people to the club.
Op will immediately be NOT the creepy loner and people will think "oh, ok, at least he has friends"
But a bigger question, returning to first principles, is what does OP really want? If you want "hobbies" to be fuckable you can simply take dance classes until you work your way up to at least proficient. Then you use it as a line on Tinder and get some chick to go to a beginner class with you where you dominate because no one else has ever danced before, you impress her, go out for drinks then come back and fuck. Repeat with every Tinder match.
>been here 3 hours, just danced with one person in the intro lesson at the beginning
Feels bad man
>>go to dance club
>>Can't dance
Lel you don't just wander in and hope for the best. Sign up for lessons
I can dance with a partner at a beginner level
But most girls are with people they know
Dancing amongst themselves solo, or with people they know
this photo is so fucking staged.
IRL A GIRL LIKE THIS 1000% WOULD BE ON HER FUCKING PHONE. ONLY LOOKING UP ONCE EVERY 2 MINUTES TO LAUGH AND TELL YOU HOW HER RIDICULOUS FRIEND JUST DID YET ANOTHER SLUTTY THING
Sounds retarded, but square dancing is a lot of fun and you need a group of 8 to do it. Just jump in one of them and dose do nigger
God I want to destroy this thots anus
be brave and embrace your mistakes.
dude, if it's actually a salsa club and not a thot club, if you approach a girl in a not autistic way she will dance with you, they are there for that
I don't recommend advancing her right away though, salsa is niche and everybody is likely to know each other (at least in my country), just try to make friends with the group first
OP here, left the club
>spent almost 3.5 hours there
>only danced and talked to the first cute cougar girl i danced with in the intro lesson
>after that didn't speak or dance with anyone
seemed like these were the groups that had girls:
>groups who reserved tables and are sitting down
>groups of girls that know each other dancing together in a circle with each other
>girls dancing with guys they know
how exactly do i approach any of these?
>just try to make friends with the group first
how though? it's too loud to talk to the group, i can only talk to one person at a time really
and where do i begin to make friends with them?
Yea it’s not possible. You need to pregame in a chill setting to meet people
and there was one other guy in the intro lesson who looked to be alone
>i saw him actually dance with 2 girls (so he danced for 10-15 minutes more than me, and stayed for around 3 hours like i did)
i dont know anyone to pregame with, so still not possible it seems