Are you working so hard for gains because you guys aren't together anymore?

Yes

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I'm starting today, she left me one year ago. She said she doesnt love me anymore but forgot to tell me she is actually cheating on me. Saw here kissing a guy a week ago. We were together for 5 years It still hurts.

I’m sure your mom misses you too OP

Among other things, although we were never "Together".

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Because we've never been together

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been so long since I had a significant other that I don't much care for that part anymore. however would be nice to get laid from time to time. relationships are really 90% doing stuff you don't feel like doing. have much more fun on my own or with friends

Yikes

No its because I hate myself, I cycle between wanting to better myself and wanting to end it all

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Damn you're a fucking pussy

I know that feel. Have you thought about competing in powerlifting or joining a sports club?

ITT:
bunch of fags lifting for women instead of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

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this

I miss her a lot, but she isn't who she used to be. She's just a stranger to me now and even if we spoke it wouldn't be like it used to be. Sometimes I'll realize just how good life is, my fitness, my studies, my pursuits, and I'll think back to another time when I with her and happy. Back when I didn't have to realize life was good, it just was.

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Fuck you virgin

We all do.

sorry for taking long to reply, was on the gym.
i thought about joining a boxing club, but i gave up. i only enjoy lifting. and unfortunately there's not a powerlifting club or something like that here in my city.

No, I do it because I want a bf like this.

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>having wojacks saved and posting them
Back to Jow Forums. You faggots are ruining every thread posting this visual cancer.

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Are you me? Going exactly through the same sensations, broke up a month ago

>fell in love with a hookup

Please help

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I'm not working hard. I used to work harder when I was with her. Getting her mires were great. I've sort of fell off in intensity after we broke up. This is the problem with lifting for women. Men will always be there for you.

Dude, your relationships suck and you probably should learn to establish your boundaries and be more demanding and selective. Otherwise, thots will pull you in and guilt trip you into doing stupid shit.

Nope, m80s.

I'm working hard because I'm with *her*. I shall be the man she deserves and the beacon for her to aim and strive for, just as she is for me in other things.

Had another dream about her. It’s been 3 months and I’m still thinking about her a lot. I need to move on. Getting fit is my only goal right now.

>anymore

I'm sorry to hear friend. Let me give you the advice I would've given myself. If she comes back it will only be for your accomplishments, not the character that accomplished them. I know it will hurt friend, but if you pursue her it will be your undoing. She exists now only in memory, find peace in commemorating who she used to be and what you used to have, but that chapter of your life is over. Put it and her behind you, you have no place in that future anyways.

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Absolutely yes. Pinpoint. But no matter the gains I get, I still feel empty.

Ah,i see
She used you for sex and attention didn't she ?
Yeah me too brother

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I lift for my qt gf and she lifts for me. This is the ideal relationship Jow Forums

Yes, I'm working hard so that perhaps one day she'll see a photo of me all shredded and decide to message me. I realize it will probably never happen, but nonetheless it keeps me in shape. It may not be a healthy motivation but it's a motivation all the same.

Same here man
She was my first everything.Kiss,love,sex
We broke up in the heat of the moment even though we knew we didn't want to,but we were too proud to take back what had been done and said.

She found someone else that truly changed her to the core afterwards who she dated for 3 years.He cheated on her,manipulated her and changed her entire views on love and relationship

We ran into each other at a party last year,hit it off,we had sex that night and "got together" again afterwards,i gave it my all and thought that it was just as before
Except it wasn't, she was a much different person,she had become a deceitful,manipulative,lying girl who only believed in sex and physical relationships,there was no room for feelings anymore.I got emotionally attached and she "dumped" me.

I learned later on that after she broke up with her ex,she hopped on the cock carousel, fucking everything in sight that had a penis because she had lost faiths in regular relationships and i was just another dick despite our past

Sucks,man

My lord man, I'm sorry to hear, that's fucking terrible. Halfway through reading that I was going to tell you that you shouldn't let a false sense of pride get in the way of loving those dear to you. But now, I can only say that I hope you've learnt and are prepared. That you won't ever again let a girl like that get away from you.

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>work so hard because you're not together
>work pays off, get gf or tinder hoes, whatever you're into
>work so hard because you're together
>life happens, maybe you come apart for one reason or another
>work so hard because you're not together
The grind literally never ends, even if you lift for women. Fuck I love working out

Damn man that got me. Still into the grieving of a breakup that occured 5days ago.
Everything just felt so warm and nice and effortless.

So blissfull until it didn't anymore.

your not alone user

my story is exactly that, except swap the carousel and the 3 year relationship

could still get back together but damn she fucked around

i feel you bro

there is still hope

I know how it feels man, and I'm sorry that happened to you. Cry your wells dry when you can, but remember this is grief for something that's dead. You can't come back to it, and you can't revive it. Hold fast friend, and remember, you'll make it when you move on, not before.

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There is hope elsewhere, I cannot return to her. She exists only in memories now, and I miss her so damn much. I struggle to find meaning in other things and I'm hopeful for a lot, but deep down only wish that I do not forget her voice, that I remember it right.

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>and even if you get her back.. it will never be the same
r kelly.

Well now all of the feelings about her have already lost some presence but are still here.
I'm gona give myself some time and get back into self-improving as good as I can. Since I can't eat a big surplus I started cutting and doing a lot of cardio.

Here in my country and my relationship it seems a bit different than generally. I can't bring myself to hate her for dumping me. I was becoming anxious and whimpy. Still I believe that I can move forward without having to make ash out of all the beautiful times I spent with hear around the world. They are part of what made me and in a weird sense the gladness of them makes it easier for myself to see life as something precious and fragile.

I was young and dumb during our first relationship
The second i was blinded by love found

One thing's for sure this time,i've learned.
But i feel like this has made me scared and apprehensive of relationships.It's been a year and a half now since "the incident" and i haven't resumed dating just yet, even though i've had a few "opportunities" here and there.
Too afraid of being used perhaps, at my age ( 20 ) i feel like everything is just physical and sexually hedonistic now.Surely this will make me sound like a fedora wearing faggot but when i hear my girl friends talk i'm just in awe at their behavior towards the opposite sex.

Stay strong my man,head up and forward

>This is grief for something that's dead. You can't come back to it, and you can't revive it.

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I'm not telling you to make ashes of the memories you have, I was just warning you not to pursue her. That what you have is behind you. Like I have to others I will urge you too to cherish the memories you have of her

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I'd recommend asking girls out and going on dates. I know what you mean about girls today generally being degenerate whores, but if you do not swim you will sink. You may stagnate otherwise, I hope you can overcome your fears of betrayal and allow yourself to embrace the risk of betrayal in the name of love and glory

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This.

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Jesus, do any of you co-dependent faggots do anything for yourselves or because you just like to do it?

I have an ex from about a year back that I was supposed to marry. We had kids names picked out and everything. Really thought she was the one.

And guess what fags? I lifted hard before her, I lifted hard when I was with her, I lift hard after her.

Why? Because one thing has nothing to do with the other.

It kills me too user, the best we can do is take actions to honour the memory. I take walks in the forest now and than, and occasionally travel, because she used to really like it when I enjoyed the majesty of nature.

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What? I'm a 24 kv, I lift because I like it. It stops me from roping.

Glad to hear that didn't affect your efforts, it can have a devastating or tremendously improving effect on others however. I don't lift for myself nor do I enjoy, I lift because those I care about deserve to have a strong and capable partner and father.

>I don't enjoy it
>my family deserves strong father/partner

You're right they do deserve that, but you know what else? YOU also deserve to do something for yourself.

Also protip: you will get more out of lifting if you let yourself start having fun with it. You really think guys like Arnold or Zyzz HATED lifting?

It's a fleeting sensation of strength and I enjoy hitting goals I've set for myself. But man that could be done to anything, I could feel the freedom in travelling the countryside on a bike and setting goals in the amount of time taken. It's two hours everyday doing the same thing for most of the week. It is monotonous and the only reason I can withstand that is the nobility I see in the reasons I lift. I'm not sure I understand what you mean by deserving it. Is it the strength I deserve? Or do I deserve the effort I put in?

I'm not pursuing her. But I'm also not against the possibility that when we have both moved on and started taking care of ourselves again we might rationaly talk and evaluate if the spark might still be there.

I work out so I can become really attractive and shun every single girl that shows interest in me as a statement to how disgusting this world is even though nobody will ever know nor care.

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I’m going harder because I feel it about to end. Maybe my gains will cushion the blow.

I'd advise you take caution with that path, it may very easily lead to an even worse predicament than the one you find yourself in now. I'm sure you'll know what to do though, trust your instincts user. You and me both, all of us, we're all gonna make it.

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aye aye captains

If I wasn't on incognito I'd show you that both of those posts were me.

user everyone deserves to do something beneficial for themselves that they also enjoy, unless you feel you've done something in your life so awful that you don't deserve even that.

And I hear you, there are many days on which I'd rather go enjoy the countryside than be inside the gym and go for a nice bike ride or hike or something. So on those days, that's exactly what I do. I mean you know you can take rest days right? Besides those activities are still exercise.

There's a lot more to health and fitness (especially mental and spiritual health) than just banging weights around 7 days a week.

In b4 "cope", "post body", "post lifts" etc

I've not been a good man user, I've done terrible things that still have me crying many years later when I get nightmares. I allow myself pleasures, but I find them mainly in family and duty. I don't enjoy working out but I don't delay for a second when I have to go workout because of why I do so. I'm more than content with working out for the rest of my days solely because of those I love. I wish you well user, I hope one day you feel the need to be strong for your son, and that will outweigh any efforts you've ever made in the name of your enjoyment for lifting.

I feel this in my spirit, even 3.5 years later.

Yes I am. She resurfaced recently to tell me that her new bf was so jealous of me that it ruined their relationship.

Get fucked bitch.

>mfw

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woops

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>Lifting for a woman instead of lifting to be able to cosplay as a JoJo character

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In a good way? Then it's possible to move on without loosing the sweetness of the time?

Based and JOJOpilled

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I lift so she doesn't leave and so I can be a good role model for our kids

I lift because once failed to have sex with a girl I liked 5 times in a row because dick wouldn't go hard. Never had a problem since but that shit haunts me

...I would like to tell you yes. I would /like/ to tell you that you don't end up measuring every relationship you have against her and finding them failing. But maybe that's just because every relationship I've had since has genuinely been not as good.

Wow... Though and wise words, guess it hurts because it's the truth, and huge thanks for sharing it, definitely not the same person I fell in love with and definitely going through different paths, will always have some good memories there but that's all I hope to have, no sadness when I look back. Thanks Jow Forumsbro

I'm glad you see that because you've parted ways doesn't mean your experiences with her have been invalidated, it usually just means you've grown apart. You're welcome bro.

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>never been together with anyone
>develop crush for friend
>she turns me down
>still hangs out with her sometimes because friends circle
>hears her talking about how she asked a dude to be her bf and how she really likes him
>cant even imagine something like that happening to me
im way too old for this

GET OUT OF MY HEAD REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

hahahahhaahaha had a good laugh with that one have a (You)

This is the truth

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IT WILL ALL BE WORTH IT
I SWEAR

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me but i dont need to workout cuz im hot

To begin with yes. I soon stopped and starting lifting for myself and now I have found someone infinitely better. Love yourself anons before you can love someone else.

Oh my god i'm losing it hard as fuck over this user. It's like god himself is speaking about the subject...

>she just needs proper guidance
No girl... it's too late

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this guy is on the next level boyos. teach us senpai

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>she was a classmate
>befriended eachother, but had sexual stuff going on for a few weeks
>declined a relationship

>fast forward
>she moved in with her bf a month ago
>depressing af
>that feel when you will never be her first to live together
>that feel when you will never make such unqiue memories with her

fuck guys. i dont know how to cope with this.
I just want to make major memories with a qt. I dont want to be left out anymore.

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Whats with all the pussies in this thread? Im 23 have never been in a relationship but I did have one night stands, god guys complaining about women leaving them are pathetic. Work on yourself instead of worrying about inferior women. Because a man that needs a woman is worth less then a woman.
Why can't you pussies just put yourself in a good position in life instead. Im already making more then 100k a year and will buy my house soon.
Shit im enjoying my life as a bacheler and when im 35 and making more than I am now im going to impregnate a woman fresh out of high school and continue my legacy.
Superficial relationships mean nothing pussy man up and take care of yourself be a man worth desiring.

Yeah, there are endless amounts of qt girls out there, you'll always think the one you are with is somehow special but she really isn't that special. Be glad for your past relationships and look forward to high quality relationships.

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Originally yes, but it soon turned into lifting for myself because people are fucking retards. Lost love shall not be the ultimate reason for my success

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better to love and lose than to never have loved or some shit like that. I am a khhv, but it is what it is. Just go balls to the wall at everything you do and try to get your social inhibition low (aka don't give a shit about other people).

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No, if anything my motivation has tanked because we used to lift together and shared the journey of getting strong.
The sense of pride I felt when she pulled PRs is a feeling I'll struggle to find again.

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I know this feel

>tfw you ascend and no longer desire a relationship or to fuck thots.

i don't have desires for self improvement either.

help.

fuck man, same thing with me. I sound like an ass, but at least it gave me motivation to improve myself while she sits at home doing jack shit