This thread endorses both physical and mental fitness in order to promote healthy living for everyone.
/sig/ Basics:
>YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do.
>Work your way to becoming the best YOU you can be - one step at a time.
>Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. Use short-term Goals to keep yourself going.
>Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones.
>Have a steady sleeping rhythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it. Get 6-11 hours of sleep. More Info: pastebin.com
>Learn Mindfulnes Meditation. More Info: pastebin.com
>Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego.
>Think critically.
>If you need to put others down to feel good about yourself, you are putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on the people you look down on.
>Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once, you’ll burnout.
Resources:
>newarcitea.neocities.org
>thework.com
Discord:
discord.gg
Books:
>s000.tinyupload.com
>s000.tinyupload.com
>misc.equanimity.info
>s000.tinyupload.com
>Tsultrim Allione - Feeding your Demons
/sig/ - self improvement general
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Just finished senior year today, what should I do this summer before college?
I feel like im not getting better at socializing at all despite all the practice.
Im still terrible at 1x1 conversations and always run out of things to say and the awkward silence settles in.
Also i cant get over the feeling that i said something stupid and the other person thinks less of me now.
How do i improve, Jow Forums?
Just wrapped up week 3 of Stronglifts. Still babby weights but linear improvement. Eating carnivore diet, effortlessly staying very lean. Want a new PC, thinking of using it as a reward if I can do a 90 day nofap challenge.
Things are looking good anons. Ik gonna make it. We're gonna make it.
Lift and cut if necessary so you get to college shredded. Trust me, it goes a long way if you're aesthetic in college
Got up at 6.30 and went to the gym before work today for the first time in my life. My brain tried to make a bunch of excuses as to why it wasn't a good idea to go.
>I don't wanna take a wet smelly towel to work
>what if I pull something and I'm useless at work
>I'll have to pack my work clothes and they'll get wrinkled
>my muscle pain from last work out is bad and I might make it worse which will impact my overall ability to work and workout.
>what if I fuck up timing and end up being late for work?
It's amazing the rationalizations our brains can come up with. I told that faggot to shut up and went anyway. Spent all day at work energized and full of vim and vigor. Might seem minor but I am very happy.
>It's amazing the rationalizations our brains can come up with.
Yep, the brain is the ultimate coper there is, making up excuses to justify not changing or dropping addictions.
Find something or things you genuinely enjoy. It's easy for someone to say 'stop caring' but when you're in front of someone with nothing in your thoughts you'll end up with those words repeating, 'i hope they don't think i'm weird'.
A great way to find things you're passionate about is through reading and doing. Good luck Jow Forumsbro.
Does anyone else have days where you just feel totally not yourself? You just kind of feel like a shell and like your future doesn't matter but you go through the motions anyway. How do I cope with this feel? I already worked out.
I'm barely holding it together lads.
I'm going to the gym regularly, but the demons are still dragging me down.
Next month I will have teeth whitening and hopefully look more presentable.
You need to get more hobbies, do those hobbies then talk about said hobbies
I have a problem. How do I stop fantasizing about fucking hookers
Psyquedelics
I need better friends. I’m this fucking close from dropping the fourth group in two years because no one does anything, again. The only thing stopping me is that I don’t have another option this time.
Why is it always like this? Am I bad at picking friends?
Hey guys, 2 years ago i started lifting, i paid 400 € beforehand for a one-year gym membership. 1 year ago, when my contract was supposed to be renewed automatically, i didn't have enough money on my bank account, so my bank account was not charged at all. So i stopped going to the gym because i didn't paid, i could have talked to the gym owner, but i am an introvert person and was really embarrassed, so i thought i'd just let it slide.
However, today my bank account got charged with this 400 €, but not for the past year, but for the next. So i cheated one year of my contract. While i was without gym membership, i worked out at home because i was too cheap to afford a new membership. For a second i was frozen when i saw that my bank account got charged, but now i think it's actually a great opportunity to start going to the gym again. I am just kind of afraid to meet the gym owner again, he was always a bully and he will probably want to talk about why i didn't pay.
Should i go to the gym tomorrow? And what should i tell him if he's there? Or should i just call my bank and tell them to charge it back and try to let it slide again? Even though i really don't want to do this.
>go to the gym on my lunch break
>have a chill job so they don't care if I take a long lunch
>have a great workout and throw in some curls at the end
>come back to the office
>one of the departments catered lunch and there's a bunch of extras so they offer me food
>take them up on their offer and make a gains salad
>talking to 2 older office ladies who are cool
>arms noticeably pumped from gym
>bicep veins popping
>make a joke and one of them straight up grabs my upper arm and squeezes when she laughs
>then the other does it like 2 minutes later
>finish conversation
>go back to my desk
>another department calls me to let me know there's more leftover catering in a different building
>head over to see if there's anything worth grabbing
>"user, why don't you stay and have lunch with us?"
feels good man
I don't know how to study since I left highschool, like I got straight A's without doing much and now I'm in college (2nd time first year) and I just can't learn.
Have my physics exam Monday and it just doesn't appeal to me as it used to. I miss being happy about science and learning in general.
Is buying the new Jordan Peterson book worth it? I can get it for only 10 euros around here
I'll be moderating a discussion about architecture next week in front of 80 people, most of whom know nothing about the topic. To be honest with you guys, I am really scared. I'm afraid that I'll freeze up, that my questions will be stupid, that my face wil get red, and ultimately that I won't be able to do my job properly. I don't want to fail, /sig/. How can I prepare myself for this?
Same, all my friends do is go out to eat. Other than that it's like pulling teeth. I guess instead of trying to get them to do things I need to make friends while out doing things so I know they're into going out as well.
Ok /sig/ i have 4 months free. Im obese and wanna change that best i can, im gonna do fasted cardio every morning but wondering what else i could do aside from weights. Also can i lose 60-100lbs in 4 months?
I've decided to take the ultimate SIGpill - leaving this piece of shit friend simulator and never coming back. I can't get back the thousands of hours I've wasted shitposting, but I can avoid throwing away more of my life.
Fuck reddit, fuck moot, and fuck the jannies.
Goodbye bros.
Goodluck and godspeed brother. You got this.
>tfw passed out at the gym the other day
scared to go back bros
How did it happen?
>tfw khv
>jealous of every post on Jow Forumstinder
reddit.com
This guy is a 6'5" doctor and has many posts asking cute girls for sex. Why is life so unfair
Closest thing to a feels thread on here.
Where do I find a hooker in the US (MN)?
I'm too ugly to get girls online and I have no irl friends so I have 0 chances with getting sex for free.
>go out and make friends at the places you like to go and the activities gou like to do.
This is actually good advice thanks.
And he isn't even going to sleep with this girl because he has multiple girls on rotation to have sex with already
4 months? You have a lifetime fren
Remember that although it seems like your professional life will be in ruin and your reputation tarnished forever if it goes wrong, you've probably personally never ever felt that when someone else is presenting or moderating, even if it's going badly. It might go badly, but that would be ok too. Hope that helps
felt light headed and dizzy so stopped working out. about 5 minuted later i was on the ground. might have a heart problem
Other people are selfish. They will never work as hard to please you as you will work to please yourself.
Thats why masturbation feels better than sex most of the time
Why do I get the feeling even with all the /sig/ stuff there are anons on Jow Forums who dont want others to make it.. it's TRUE isnt it
You guys dont want others to make it
Practice, the more u socialise the better u will be at it, force yourself to be in those situations whenever u can, dont run from it, face it head on.
yeh but i have to see people again in 4 months so i wanna lose a noticeable amount by then
explane
Of course its true you nugget. Most people will want you to fail so it doesn't make them feel bad
No need to explain the whole thing. I know I'm right
So where do I go when I have questions. I may need to give reddit a try again because I seriously have a ton of stories from my recent social interactions and nobody will fucking answer any questions
I know this plus I'm not black
I only joined the general a short time ago and haven't read all of the thread. Show me your post, maybe i can help you, friend
>what if I fuck up timing and end up being late for work?
I am constantly putting off starting to work out because of this. I don't know why. Like I can just wear a watch right? Leave enough time? But what if machines are taken? I would have to skip lifts? What if I have to wait for showers to open up? Or what if I leave too much time? I would be wasting time getting to work too early.
What's a good hobby for making friends? All mine do is sit around and play vidia. I need friends that do things, have hobbies, that might lead to actually meeting girls, dating, etc.
Just start using the gym again? Why worry about it. 400 seems reasonable.
I dont know where to start desu and for the past few weeks just everything has been changing socially. I wont waste time posting each story
I'll try reddit instead
Okay, good luck there
It sounds like your end goal is just meeting a girl. So why not just skip straight to that part?
Okay boys ive been with a girl 6 years and im ready to propose, problem is i gotta lose the fuckin blubber before i do so i look good, is 3 hours of fasted cardio a day and omad with no carbs enough?
Read the sticky.
sig heil bros, have a great day
How do I stop being needy? God I'm so fucking lonely and desperate.
Needy for what exactly?
I just think the gym owner is going to say something about it when he sees me, and i don't know how i should respond to it.
I stayed sober today
I dunno, peoples attention? Getting a notification on my phone is like a drop of water in the desert and I don't know why other people hold such power over me.
i did it told me eat at a deficit and weight lift but i want better results than what that gives
I'm proud of you, user
keep up the hard work. it will pay off
Bump
>I would be wasting time getting to work too early
Yeah I did that exact thing to be fair, turned up to work about 1hr and 20 mins early. But I used the time to go and drink a coffee and buy some books before work. Even had a cheeky flirt with the coffee shop waitress. (Not something I usually do) Try it once user and see how you like it.
bois how to stop having self pity thoughts its really fucking me up i cant stop thinking about how ugly and how nobody can ever and doesnt like me and how boring i am
its really fucking me up
Worry about what you can change, not what you can’t.
but i try and try and try and i end up the same
>tried to meet a girl
>she treated me super cold after i asked her out and completly cuts me off even tho i thought we were at least friends
>tried to make new friends
>they barelly talk to me if its not on the group
>tried to talk to old friends more
>its just me messaging them most of the time
Those are results. I don’t know what you’re actually doing to get those results but the only thing to do is change your behavior. Sounds like you lack experience. Try faking it till you make it, the idea is that you actually begin to embody the admirable traits you emulate from others. You’ll express it in your own unique way the more confidence you get. Confidence is being comfortable and comforting.
not that user but how do you pretend you dont wanna kms yourself when you do
Is it okay to work out when sore, I did shoulders and triceps yesterday and know I'll be more sore tomorrow and I blasted out lifts yesterday. Maybe I can do legs.
DOMS, yes. tendon/joint soreness, nah. rest until its better.
What are some good poscasts to listen to so I can improve myself more?I listen to the art of manliness and JRE. I want something to activate my almonds,as thanks here is a pic of my doggo. also any reccs for a book improve social skills?
>finally finished law school (took an extra 1.5 years)
>quit drinking
>learned to surf
>in shape
>have good job lined up
>bpd exgf from 2.5 years ago msged me
>doesn't know how well my life is going
>i know how shit her life is going (still lives with parents working part-time @ min wage and hasnt had a relationship last longer than 2 months)
>is acting like i should be vying for her attention
We have no mutual friends and my stuff is private so she really has no idea how my life is going. Feel like going fullblown DEVILISH later this summer when my life is truly peaking. Yes jaded, but never felt like rubbing it in an ex's face like this before (but also never dated a BPD before either so there's that)
If you're talking about her like that, does that mean you still subconsciously desire her?
It could lead to something user.
Nice, remember you're not her first choice she is just going back to you so shes not single, women are afraid of being alone.
that image annoys me
specifically the fonts
To anyone here who turned their shit around and actually improved themselves, did you find purpose? Or meaning? Or drive?
I have no drive, lack energy, and even if I know I don't need a purpose still feel hollow and pointless. I'm hoping that if I start lifting and conquering my bad habits, I'll have a reason to wake up in the morning and fight for something.
This is my opinion but I think you should find purpose and use that as energy to improve yourself instead of the other way around. My purpose is to instill traditional values, expose the truth and fight for the preservations of my culture, heritage and peoples and hope that others do the same. Also look at soldiers and generals and leaders for inspiration. Look at Genghis khan, he took a bunch of infighting monglian tribes and united them to conquer from korea to fucking hungary and poland. He was driven with the desire to better his people. Look at Hitler, he was just some random soldier, started with probably only 5 to 25 members which rose to almost 25 million by the 1940's. His legacy remains after 80 years.
Bros, there's nothing I want to do right now, I'm just sitting here doing nothing. I keep trying to think what I want right now, but there's really nothing, i'm simply depressed...
I was never depressed before, I hope this isn't what my life path turns out to be. It's so easy to misunderstand why people kill themselves until you lived a day in their shoes...
>actually kept to stayed in calorie deficit for the first time without eating junk and fucking it up today
>made plans to go to gym with friends tomorrow instead of working out at home
I think I might actually make it bros
It's the old metaphor about crabs in a bucket. Any crab that tries to escape is pulled back down by the others.
leave it in the dust
I believe you will too.
I posted this yesterday, and I'll post it again now. It has literally been 9 years since I have weighed under 180 lbs. But I did it. I really did it. The secret was, believe it or not, counting calories and lots of exercise.
Take it from a 32 year old boomer, there is nothing better that you can do for yourself than to create good habits, remove bad habits, create a 1-year, 5-year, and 10-year plan for you life, and work tirelessly to achieve your goals. It may seem counter-intuitive to be, you know, straight edge and disciplined, but the feeling you get from accomplishing your goals and knowing that you can say no to the temptations of empty pleasures, is far better than any high that exists.
If you are reading this, then you are probably like me, so know this:
Social anxiety is all in your head. It can be corrected with exposure therapy. The sooner you begin to correct it, the better. You can do it. Stop being a coward.
Depression is all in your head. Pic related is probably the physiological cause of your depression. Stop being lazy.
I am 32 now, and I literally thought I would be dead by now. I never imagined, when I was in my early 20's, that I could ever be happy or enjoy life. The opposite is true now. I love life. I'm not sure if I would say it is a 'happy' experience, but it is certainly meaningful, and my life is so worthwhile that I would gladly endure all the pain of my youth again to be where I am now.
We're all going to make it. You will make it, if you try.
Can someone give me a good 'bloomer' or otherwise happier/upbeat music playlist? Coincidentally literally half of that '2 hours of doomer music' is on my current play list and I think switching from listening to depressed music to happy music would help
I'm not sure if this is what you're looking for, but this is one of my favorite uplifing songs:
youtube.com
To me, this song is a journey, a reflection of both the playing out of negative and positive timelines, and the (hopefully) selection of playing out a timeline that is worthwhile. It's like, the acknowledgement and awareness that we could (as a species) be travelling down a dark and dismal path, but at some point, the way is illuminated and at the last second, we stray from darkness and turn towards the light.
I seriously love this song. I'm still to this daytrying to unpack it all.
Continuing:
atheism/agnosticism/nihilism as a lifestyle for mark ass marks. Don't let anyone fool you. Value is something that objectively exists. Beauty is something that objectively exists. Morality is something that objectively exists. All that being said, don't fall for religious dogma. Most """""religious""""" people only have the most superficial and pathetic understanding of their so called religion. Is the great Marcus Aurelius said, it's not about being devout, it's about acting out what you believe to be fundamentally moral and true. That's what gives life meaning.
I'm pulling for you brother.
Gym employees (and owners) love to be intimidating. Just remember you're a customer at his business. He needs you, you don't need him. If you were at the deli and the owner was being a dick, you'd threaten to leave. Do the same here.
Thoughts on L-Carnitine Tartrate Powder?
I salute you. Good job user.
I started getting up at 2h30 am and train at night. One of the best choices concerning my workouts
>Social anxiety is all in your head. It can be corrected with exposure therapy.
I can attest to this, over the past few months I went from having practically no friends to a solid circle of friends I just went to see a movie with. Feels so much better. I feel like I've been waking up from a bad dream - avoiding the stuff mentioned in your pic has helped and getting exercise has helped a lot too. I'll keep trying. Thanks boomer
t. 20yr old former loner
How do I stop falling in love with every girl that shows me attention? This happens a lot to me and I just wish it would stop.
How do i talk to girls? I always draw a blank and sometimes get scared to even approach desu. Im on day 7 of nofap and socializing more but i still struggle with it. Any tips/suggestions?
My friend has been noticing my improvements, and is starting to improve himself as well. He's a hoarding autists who's been living in a garbage dump for years, and I've been begging him for years to let me clean up. The last couple of months I've insisted on hanging out at my place because I can't stand the dirt at his. Yesterday, I caught him in a weak moment where he'd washed his clothes and was very satisfied with that, and he finally allowed me to go to town on his room.
In two hours I cleaned up a majority of the garbage and swept the room clean. There's actually space to walk around now, and the air is somewhat breathable. He's pretty fucking happy with it, but I've told him that I've laid the foundation, and now he has to organize himself and keep it organized and clean. For a guy who follows Jordan Peterson as much as he does, the whole "clean your room" thing has taken AGES to finally, somehow, sink in.
I really hope he picks up from where I left and sorts his shit out, I will be infinitely disappointed if he doesn't.
>my perfect woman dumped be and destroyed me 4 months ago
>been scratching my way back to living
>keeping bees this summer
>cut is like three weeks from done
>dyel but hit that manlet ottermode baby
>karoake 'Miss You' in a bar basement full of people I don't know and absolutely klll it
>solid paying internship (with shit commute but still)
>finding new hobbies and living in the moment to avoid getting caught up on the past.
I'm doing my best to make it friends, I'm doing my best.
Dude nice bee keeping n cutting and sheit thats a whole lot of making it, and the only problem is a girl?
Lemme grungo this out foyu
MMM MMM girl no perfect, girl leave you, perfect girl no leave, perfect girl accept you for you.
That is cool to hear. But maybe he should have done the cleaning him self or at least cleaned with you. You cleaning up his place his taking away that accomplishment and experience from him and when it gets dirty again is he gonna clean it?
You are pathetic.
Keep at it mate.
He did clean with me a bit. And I've told him this was a one-time thing. If he shits up his room now, he essentially shit on me.
>Weeeeeeeeeeep
See ya tomorrow, user.
Get busy with your personal life and youll find peace. Get a job. Get a hobby. Get fit. You can meet tons of people through all of those things and in no time youll feel fine. If not I dunno lel
I'm in the same boat as you just try to study
What are some good date ideas?
For context, I've already been on two dates with this girl (first was just getting ice cream and walking around the beach, second was John Wick 3 and laser tag) and I'm pretty sure she's into me. It's been a few days with no texting, and there's no plans yet for a third.
I've offered a few ideas to her that she seemed to go for. Hiking, free diving at a small beach, weightlifting (she's a cardio bunny), or a movie night. But I want a date that's more "romantic", considering I haven't even kissed her yet.
Make dinner