In 2018, I made my goal to get a girlfriend. I constantly went out to bars/clubs, art events, took classes, house parties, raves, concerts, etc and I've approached well over 100 girls and yet I've only managed to get 2 girls who were actually interested in me. One I rejected but the other one lost interest after I dated her for a month. WTF?
I'm not even ugly, I have an average face, i'm 5'11 and 185 pounds. I also have somewhat of a muscular physique since I go to the gym like twice a week.
>I'm not even ugly, I have an average face, i'm 5'11 and 185 pounds
Maybe its your ego.
Never make something a goal that is not in your control.
Dating is a relatively new concept that is heavily skewed to favor women.
dating is in your control tho
You're probably too nice and too available which is a big turn off to most women. It's weird but if you go after women with the sole intention of ONLY fucking them they will in turn be more attracted to you in terms of dating because you're now like "hard to get"
And I make the mistake of trying to be "open" and "honest" because I believe if a girl doesn't like me for me then what's the point. But the more you learn about female psychology the more you'll learn what they say they want and what they actual pursue and respond to are almost complete opposites.
I actually go with the intention of fucking. I fucked the girl I dated on the second date...
How did you go about approaching them? Even if I have the balls to do it, I don't know how.
I started a conversation with them(10-15 min), and then exchanged snapchats/numbers. The ones who were interested in dating contacted me first asking for a date.
Getting a gf is not because it relies on some external factors and not you.
Going to the gym, improving your game, going to tons of social events and approaching women, advancing your career so you can have a better living space thus better dates is all on you.
Means you have a trash personality bud
you probably right.
>The personality meme
thats a long ass conversation
Main problem is you're going out to these things LOOKING for a gf. Stop doing that. Just enjoy life and if you happen to get a gf ok then
That strategy has never worked out though... Only time I managed to date someone I like iis when I actively looked for it.
Was it just one girl tho? I use that strategy and get multiple women that way
That's small talk.... are you so socially deficient that 10 mins seems long to you?
I mean I had girls try to date me when I was younger but I wasn't interested in woman nor did I know how to date them so it never worked out.
How did you get invited to raves etc?
I did security at a college campus while I was in college. I made friends with the party kids, after becoming friends with them I quit the job and partied with them for a good 7 months.