We had many clear and explicit conversations about why we can never be together. The crux of the reasons being our differential belief systems.
However, he still sends me things like this semi-periodically. It makes me feel horrjble that someone would expend that much energy on me and I have nothing to offer him in return.
How ought I even respond to this?
>our differential belief systems
Stop lying. We all know it's because he's not chad
Please can it with these untrue assumptions
It's the truth though. "Differential belief systems" just means "I'm a hoe unwilling to commit and want to sleep around". You're going to keep feeling like shit until you stop being a piece of shit that engages in behaviors that are harmful and destructive. You should have learned by now having experienced it time and time again with the same results that the problem and only consistent feature is you.
Seems like he's either an idiot or underaged. Tell him to stop sending shit like that or you'll stop talking to him.
That's the worst thing I've read tonight. Congrats.
Tell him to read his post again, out loud, and to ask himself is that really something he would want to say to a girl in real life. Self-awareness is important.
>waaah why do girls only like assholes I am too nice that's why I am a kissless virgin :(
>differential belief systems
Are you mathematicians?
Elaborate on what the issues are?
where do you think you are? (fuck off r9k is this original enough)
Not at all actually. I am a Christian he is an atheist who pressures me to have sex before marriage, smokes weed, and in general does not believe in god. I use principles in the Bible to guide my life, and I want to start a family. How am I going to do that when our fundamental beliefs on morality are different? You are just grabbing at straws as far as your guesses about who I am
Kek diff eq was my favorite math course if he believed in that wed be gucci
He is older than me, but yeah silly statements like this really make me wonder if his iq is even 100. It is sad because he is so nice I do not want to hurt him but at the same time I cannot see myself committing to a man like him.
>no sex before marriage
Dropped like a rock. You're going to die bitter and alone except for your cats.
My assessments were totally correct. Just reversed.
Quit being friends with him. If you continue, he's just gonna go on Jow Forums and complain about being friendzoned constantly anyways
You can't be "just friends" with a guy who sends you shit like that. He's MOST DEFINITELY thinking you'll slip up and fuck him at some point if he keeps it up, so if you don't want that then sever.
>dropped
You say that as though you were ever a consideration
Lel
Ive got it down to the point where he only sends about one of these per month unlike before where it was every day.
I have tried to sever him on everything but here is the catch, I told him some pretty personal secrets early-on when I was stupid enough to believe that he actually just wanted to be friends. I do not wish to have those matters shared, and he stalked me enough to find out the names and contact info of my friends and family. He told me that if I blocked him again, he would disclose that information to them. While not the end of the world, him doing so would be very socially damaging and embarrassing to me. So in the quagmire i sink...
So basically what you're saying is he's totally not nice at all, he's just actually blackmailing you.
Never was a consideration because I'm way out of your league.
Ah yeah I guess that would be more accurate
Whatever you have to tell yourself, hon
Honestly I would seriously gauge how best to get out from under this guys thumb. Whether it be doing some damage control of you own ahead of time, IDK. You basically are friends with a time bomb at this point and sooner or later it's going to affect you negatively in some way. TMOT.
I have thought of so many strategies and he just keeps coming back, was hoping this board would have ideas of how to sever ties with an orbiter gently.
The problem is that we don't know this guy and how serious he is. Does he have a life outside of stalking you? Honestly the best way would be if he found a different girl to latch on to, desu.
Otherwise you're kind of just asking the place where your stalker probably hangs out how to make him stop. The truth is that there's no sure fire way, other than by acknowledging that whatever dirt he has on you can just be shoed under the rug by telling your family or friends that this guy is a stalker and threatened to make up a bunch of shit about you etc etc.
I mean, how bad is this supposed "dirt"? Did you murder someone? Is it worth ball-and-chaining yourself to an unstable individual for the forseeable future, for him to at some point escalate the game and demand more of you to avoid the blackmail?
>i'm a good christian girl
>past so dark you can be blackmailed into being with a drugged up psycho
hmmm something doesn't check out
It is not a dark past it is honestly some childhood things that I am not ready or willing to talk to my parents about. And definitely not my family. Plus there are some just plain cringey things we talked about that he screenshotted.
Yeah he has a life outside of me and does not live near me so that is good. I encouraged him to get a gf so he could go away. He actually got one but said she wasnt good enough and that he missed me :/
Telling my family ahead of time that he made it all up is not a bad strategy, the fact that he has pictures of the conversations kinda ruins it though.
Well just for talking to him in the first place I may be put under restrictions from my family like no phone for a year, no driving, etc. so seeing the flirty conversations we had early on alone is enough the get me in trouble sadly.
Just tell them he blackmailed you into doing it from the start by lying and made you say everything.
If he's willing to actually go as far as blackmailing you and you're good enough at feigning innocence, then you'll get off easy.
I hate lying and am bad at it but worst case scenario I get all this off my chest. Thanks for the idea
honestly you might as well start charging him for texts and pictures, milk the idiot. Tell him it's $5 if he wants a text from you, $10 for a long text, $20 for a picture (non nude)
It isn't really lying, I'm sure you can twist things he's said into looking like threats if you try hard enough.
actually this, have him send you money
I am an orbiter but I never contact her because I know internet people freak her out, and she would be frightened to find out how close I live to her.
Lol Im not a camwhore but i am curious to see whether he would bounce if I did this or actually consider going through with it
What would make you stop orbiting her
Ah this is really cringy. The only time I did something like this was once ever and it was no where this level. It was more of a thank you for contacting me back then because I made some new friends etc. She said it's sweet and that's it then moved on. But still, if he blackmails then he's not nice at all.
No don't offer any chance of nudity. You need to charge simply for correspondence, gauge how thirsty he is
>What would make you stop orbiting her
If she did some foul slut thing