Okay, so I've finally mustered up the strength to talk to this cute girl I see at the bus stop everyday. I'm crushing on her super hard. Didn't see her today or Friday. Next time I see her I WILL talk to her. Any tips? Not really sure how to even start a conversation. I've always had social anxiety so it's insanely hard for me. I don't want it to control my life anymore. It's like, I'll continue to be miserable if I don't talk to her. This will be the moment I change my life around. I'm tired of being miserable. Help.
I was thinking of something along the lines of "Coming from school?". Since I think we might go to the same school. But I kinda wanna ask something else a bit more general. Suggestions??
you're mustering it up too much. if you haven't even talked to her before she could have a boyfriend or something and all your overthinking would leave you pissed
Easton Hernandez
If she had a boyfriend she wouldn't be taking the bus, r-right?
Robert James
Fuck, man. I was actually thinking the same thing. Im 22 years old, never spoken to a girl in way to befriend her or ask her out. There's a girl in my physics class in college that's the cutest person I've ever seen. I've never seen her talk to anyone, I don't even know what her voice sounds like. I want to ask her out before the semester ends. Maybe ask for her number or something. She dresses a bit like an art hoe though, which makes me think she probably has bf despite being super quiet. Once you guys help op, can you guys help me out?
Nathan Harris
Both of you - make sure you talk to her in a place where other people can't hear and are not judging you. You're WAY more likely to get a good response if she doesn't feel like her reputation hinges on whether people perceive her as "easy" or not. I think you should just go up to her and ask "Hi. Do you have a boyfriend?" and try to go for the number. It's obvious that neither of you have any real opportunity to talk to her casually in your circumstances. If you try to talk to her without making your intent clear from the start you're risking turning into a creepy orbiter.
Lincoln Evans
>I want to ask her out before the semester ends. The thought of not doing so before the semester ends is terrifying. It's coming up.
Andrew Ross
As soon as class ends, she leaves real fast. I like staying for recitation so I usually miss her, and I don't know if she goes to another class or out of the school. I do know that our class is right next to a little lounge area that's always filled with people, unfortunately. How would you guys go about it? The last day of school is when our final is, no recitation, and it's May 15th.
Ian Moore
Don't over prepare. Just make yourself look decent, take a deep breath, and ask her. Do it as normally and casually as possible. The more you hype it up the more nervous you'll make yourself. Just think of it as a normal conversation, and if she's not interested in talking don't beat yourself up over it. Just move on and don't worry about it. The more you do this the easier it will get each time.
Noah Fisher
try talking to her casually before going to that. It'll be weird if some guy she never spoke to suddenly asks her out.
Adam Perry
you overcome fears by being exposed to them until you get used to it. Grind it out for a few weeks until you can chat with strangers without thinking too much or being too invested in the outcome so you'll be able to talk to her without spergin out. Or just cold approach literally saying you find her cute and would like her number and move on if it doesn't work out.
Asher Phillips
What should I say? Sometimes we wait outside if the door to the physics lab is closed. It's usually very brief, and she just looks at her phone. Also, others are usually there
Isaiah Morales
I don't know how to feel about the " just ask for her number" approach. Every time I've seen it irl it fails or even worse the poor guy gets mocked by the girl.
Jaxson Hughes
I was in this boat a few months ago. I had never asked a girl on a date before, but there was this one girl in my class who seemed somewhat interested in me. I worked up the balls to ask her and went for it. The first time she slept in and didn't end up going, but we did actually go later. Turned out she was dealing with a lot of baggage and wasn't fully over her ex, so I didn't really want to get too involved. She flunked out a few weeks later anyway. Even though it didn't turn out how I wanted, I'm still really glad I did it. I'm a lot more confident with myself now and I feel like I could do it again if I found a girl I liked enough. Even if you don't get exactly what you want, it'll be a huge moment of personal improvement. The only thing holding you back is fear. I'll be rooting for you anons.
Sebastian Jackson
try talking about the class. Ask if she likes it or what she thinks of the material, or how she did on a test. Then from there try asking her more about herself
Grayson Torres
>she just looks at her phone Fucking this. How do I even approach a girl that's looking at her phone? I guess that's a signal she's not interested?
Jack Watson
Don't think that. She's probably just looking at her phone to make things less awkward, otherwise she's just standing there doing nothing. You guys have nothing to lose and everything to gain just by asking. Don't let your fear control you
Alexander Long
Cold approach is easy. Just say hi. Shell be like wtf so you be like "seen you before guess were busmates hahah so where u going". That should get her talking in most cases.
Cameron Allen
Dont be so direct with the questions. Its better to make a safe asumption.
Landon Hernandez
Any body language tips? What about smiling and all that stuff?
Landon Ross
Body language with women is really tricky, since a lot of the time there will be a lot of false signs. One thing I've noticed is if they tend to copy the way you sit, especially if it's really different from the way they usually sit. When I was in high school there was a girl who sat with good posture when she was by herself, but then slouched like me every time she sat by me. Found out later she had a crush on me.
Noah Scott
Well you should always look relaxed. Smiling is always a plus. If shes talking smiling and nodding is a good way to show that you are listening to her. Also the smile should be casual, dont grin the whole time.
Camden Miller
Uh shes avoiding your ass user She probably goes to a new bustop for this reason and is with chad while youre there alone like a dipshit with a fantasy daydream
Noah Perez
On another note try to get a reaction out of her. Eat something and choke on it Drink some nips of whiskey Say something dwight schrutte would say Tell shes not allowed at your busstop anymore
Jonathan Hill
As someone who got out of this situation just 2 weeks ago, my best advice is just say hi. Everything else just flows from there. Ask about school, about a personal interest (music, movies, etc. Better if u have knowledge about it). Just talk to her about anything you are knowledgeable about really. Dont sweat it. Just say hi and everything goes from there. Just say hi. But DO IT. Grab your balls an just DO IT. Just hi.
Doing this I got as far as getting this girls number. Yeah she ghosted me at the end but man, the confidence of knowing I can actually talk to a pretty stranger... its a very nice feel.
DO IT. JUST HI.
Luke Murphy
Eye contact as she should turn to you when you start to talk to her. You don't have to stare at her or glare just meet her eyes and keep the same level of eyelid "openess" as you would usually. Basically just look at her so you don't look like you're a faggot when talking to her. First impressions especially in this situation are important and even if you stutter and aren't great at talking if you appear confident and keep eye contact you shouldn't come across as a Jow Forums faggot.
Tyler Scott
Dude, dont do it. If you really have social anxiety, then you should definately not try this.
Nathaniel Green
OMG yep, you should definately not do this user.
Hunter Brooks
Yo, quit trying to sabotage this man you fuck up. "Just sit at the bus stop with your Katana and she will be so impressed". I hope for your sake you were taking the piss
Jeremiah Adams
Gee user should i tell him next time to stand ther with a wad of money counting as he asks her if she likes the mall then?cuz i doubt hes able to do so
Easton Jackson
Fuck guys I also had the same idea of asking a girl out I see every day on my bus.
I pussied out on the last day of college 2 weeks ago. I was gonna ask her straight. If she would like to go out with me. I don't even know her name.
