I’ve been going to the gym and wrestling consistently for about 6 months and have made good progress. My friends and family have all told me how good I look etc. but I still feel like a fat piece of shit gamer dough boy. Does this ever end
When do I stop feeling like a pussy?
David Turner
Cooper Ross
That’s because you’re addressing physical things when the problem is MENTAL
smash your idols
take shit from nobody
be selfish
take what’s yours
Caleb Howard
We can show you the way, you have to walk the walk. Find purpose in your life, chase goals. Lifting isn't supposed to magically cure your life, but it is a big positive step you can take to develop strength to tackle life. Plus the fit body is socially attractive.
Jason Cook
Damn good advice in this board. I'm amazed user
Owen Ortiz
This is good advice too.
Easton Miller
post body
Logan Scott
The fact is you just have different standards. If you live in fatsville just being normal weight and some muscle puts you on some insane level to normies.
Until you have a 99th percentile body you may not feel it move.
There's a huge difference in definition as you go down in bodyfat
Dylan Adams
Pic related. The question was “Is there a cutoff age for making it?”
Landon Rogers
Cont.
To be concise in the interest of avoiding confusion the answer is thus:
You will feel inadequate until you know personally that you are autonomously struggling in a direction toward something you know is meaningful to you both logically and spiritually. It’s also important to undergo a mortal struggle to overcome the unignorable fear of the earth trying to kill you.
For additional context, this feeling of impotence is universal in men that are not on a good path. Historically war would have provided everything necessary to get men on the right foot from a young age and provide them with confidence and self respect moving forward (at least before industrial warfare and the stamping out of spirituality). Assuming they avoided the utter destruction of their home they would have thrown everything they had toward saving their community and triumphed to some degree and this fulfilled a truly meaningful purpose in their eyes. They would have realizing their potential to overcome obstacles and deal with utter unknowns and acquired irrefutable self worth and confidence. The satisfaction gained from war would cause desire to pass this meaningful existence onto another generation, and also make your professional and political life have the impact of allowing your community to survive.
But, with the current global military dominance of the fairly benign United States, there is not currently a trend of each nation giving everything the have collectively to a war effort. In the past these efforts may have been constant or at least occurred nearly every generation, maybe skipping one or two but entirely inevitable. In addition, it is difficult to glorify war these days, at least as aggressors. The spirituality that previously enabled us to pursue the prosperity of our own nation above all else by any mean necessary has gone by the way for most.
So, it isn’t as easy as it has been to find something that will provide you with lifelong satisfaction. (Cont)
Carter Martin
go look at the mirror, flex, get a little confidence boost, then go watch the zyzz tribute video, literally feel the golden age of EDM surge through your vains, go obliterate a muscle group of your choice, realize you're making it
Dominic Lewis
(Cont)
So it isn’t as easy as it had been to find deep, lasting satisfaction. It is out there though, but you will have to employ imagination and ambition to find it. Also it is entirely personal. If you, like many, are no longer enthralled by the idea of giving yourself up to God or country, you will have to start a running dialogue with yourself about what you find actually meaningful.
There are common pitfalls. After the last great war every father was happy as fuck to simply have children, provide for them, and raise them. They were so happy they informed the next generation that this is all they had to do to be happy. I believe they were mistaken. Satisfaction does not come from child rearing. Rather, the desire to rear children manifests readily after satisfaction is achieved, and one realizes they can pass on this satisfaction to more people. You will notice the modern disdain for child rearing and the common sentiment that children would take time and energy away from ones life. I think this is actually a reasonable sentiment, and that for sufficient wellness in the family the satisfaction must come first chronologically, and then the child rearing. Similarly, there is a modern obsession with eternal youth as well as a powerful fear of death. You will notice people that have found real meaning are content to age gracefully and pass when the time comes. Their impact and positive experience can never be obliterated so, while continued life might be optimal, death becomes more of an inconvenience.
Another common pitfall is the toxic cycle of distracting oneself from one’s dissatisfaction. Many people are convinced by media or their dissatisfied peers to simply persue wealth and meaningless status, and then fill the rest of their time with distractions to mitigate the inevitable boredom, restlessness, and negative emotion. You’ll notice a common theme amongst people caught of in this life of being sure they are supposed to be happy (cont)
Ian Diaz
(Cont)
You’ll notice a common theme amongst people caught of in this life of being sure they are supposed to be happy but feeling absolutely miserable. This can cause serious desperation and lead to really toxic behavior, especially in young men. If a young man gets off on the wrong foot and find himself desperate for feelings of control over his life, he may join questionable political or religious movements, hit the drugs, or project his bitterness and rage outward, become hateful, and pursue violence.
This bitterness and resentment is common to the perpetually dissatisfied. You will notice it affects the wealthy, the shredded, and the married alike. It is that frustration with oneself projected outward. They all know on some level there is something more they can be doing to be truly happy that they will not put for the effort to realize.
An extremely common cause of confusion and overall pathological thought patterns these days without is social media. It isn’t so bad once you have a strong sense of yourself as an individual and know yourself ons deep level, but, these days kids are conditioned to require validation and internalize criticism from people on the internet. They never get a sense of who they should be, and their psyche tailspins into impotence, low self esteem, bitterness, resentment, hate, and then general malignancy. Their reward system is based off validation or criticism from people who they do not know and would never give the time of day in real life. The people doing the validating and criticizing do not know who they are commenting on, and will absolutely never give a fuck about them the way they would a friend, family member, or someone they took the time to talk to in person. They may have even completely convinced themselves that they do care to a satisfactory level and might remove themselves from responsibility for their actions even further. Conditioning to marketing and news soundbites causes people to enter (cont)
Justin Wright
Play rugby or train a martial art. You need to improve your confidence pal.
Nicholas Walker
(Cont)
Conditioning to marketing and news soundbites causes people to enter hard opinions on things they know nothing about, from information presented by people they know nothing about and have no respect for, and furthermore they are encouraged to not take the time to analyze the information or the source material as it takes away from time that can be spent consuming more information. I would like to point out with extreme emphasis that most all the info consumed is completely useless. It will do nothing for you but fill your head and force you to frame your self worth around knowing useless things.
To get you started on the right track, you need to first know who you are and what you value. I would abstain from social media except in necessary capacities like contacting friends, family, and coworkers and try to let that fake internet personality atrophy away. When you find yourself thinking clearly consider what impact would allow you to feel you have done the most good, and can lend enjoyment in practicing the necessary skills in perusing that goal. For some it may be action oriented. They may want to do the work no one else will do and accomplish something through raw will and discipline. Others may be more people oriented. They may find value in correcting modern societal ills and putting humanity on an optimistic trajectory. Some enjoy cooperation or management. They may find it satisfying to actualize the incredible potential of human cooperation. You may value or need to employ your physicality in addition to your physical, kinetic, spatial, and sensory intelligences in order to be happy or satisfied, and you may find a way to combine that with other aspects of yourself toward a meaningful goal. You may pursue archeology and in doing so satisfy spiritual needs by telling the stories of people that have done incredible things through monumental effort and lived full lives of struggle and humanity but no one will know without your help. Cont
Andrew Scott
>wrestling
you like feeling a muscular sweaty man rubbing all over you trying to hold you down?
Caleb Lewis
...but no one will know without your help. In this pursuit you would employ physicality and overcome risky behavior from scuba diving, rock climbing etc. You would manage teams of people and cooperate with other archeologists. You would employ literary intelligence through recording your work and beautifying it for books.
There’s something out there. You must accept that you are not entitled to the answer falling into your lap. You must also accept, and I encourage you to internalize this right this moment before you can run from it, that if the answer did fall into your lap, you can still fail to act on it and leave your life as less than it could be, or entirely mediocre. But that’s the beauty in capability, you were never entitled to it.
Camden Brown
>you like feeling a muscular sweaty man rubbing all over you trying to hold you down?
You wouldn't last ten seconds on the mat with one of those muscular sweaty men.
Wrestling is manly as fuck.
John Thompson
Not OP but I really needed what you've given. Absolute gold. Thank you
Bentley Rodriguez
good
Joshua Peterson
Fantastic series of posts. Thank you user!
Carter Sanchez
Don't forget to wash your penis
Joseph Davis
Thank you friends. It means a lot.
Landon Hernandez
Same thing here. Everyone from my family that hasn't seen me for more than a year comments how big I don't see it at all. Could just be low normie standards.