Tell me, Jow Forums, what's on your mind? What's troubling you?
/mental health/ general
Feel like killing myself every single day bros
Been going back to school, but as a freshman at 21 it's really awkward and hard to relate with the 17-18 year olds that are here this semester. Overall just really bored with everything not lifting, and nothing is really satisfying anymore. I think it's the social life that im missing that's making the difference, all the friends I actually like are already finished with school and in long-term relationships. What would Jow Forums do to change it up?
Why bro?
I wish I was a little bit taller
Same. Will probably do it within a year
Chronic stress fucks you up like nothing else. Drop toxic people from your life.
Went from athletic, sharp, smart, high achiever to depressed, anxious loser.
>difference of 3 years
If you don't relate to your average university-going turbonormie that's because you're not a turbonormie, rather than the minor difference in age. Or maybe I'm wrong and people decide to suddenly change massively and grow up when they're 21 in America. I wouldn't know.
26 khv here. Dropped out of uni. It was over for me before it even started anyway. My family ruined me from childhood. All I do is go to gym and play vidya. The thought of having a relationship is so far away from me because of lack of experience freezes me in everything I do. I just want to end it.
you're only 3 years older and still a baby just as much as they are. you're not special.
I am not going to university cause i hate being around normies, i just want to punch every single one of them, i can't handle it, so im just everyday in my room or at the gym
I wish I was a baller
Stop being a sad kunt
Throw your games out and start a hobby, go from there
Why is this picture so nice? Can some deep thinking user try to explain? It fascinates me every time I see it.
She is a whore who cheated on him while he was deployed numerous times and now she is pretending to love him by hugging him.
Lmao I started uni at 24. Remember that your first worry should be to learn there, not making friends
What kind of hobby?
I live in a third World country where finding a club is extremely weird
Why do you think that? Sounds like you’re projecting, man.
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it wasn't about being special you specimen. It's just awkward when I'm all partied out at this point but they're just getting a taste for doing fun dumb shit. Trying to date or even engage with groups of other people that only think about that (not that I think it's a bad thing) feels weird and disjointed.
I cant stand hearing them talk. Its actually like a bunch of npc's
it was a joke user
That's where my focus is, honestly. That's where the whole boredom comes from though, and it's kind of isolating. Did you feel weird when you started? Like you started late?
lmao he was clearly just trying to spread bullshit for a laugh
Senior in highschool, worried about my future. Either I go full tryhard at college and rack up debt, or I go full tryhard at military and lose multiple years I could be studying. Fucking hell.
I wish I had a girl who looked good I would call her
Depending on what you like to do and want to study, college is often the best choice. This really all depends on what kind of person you are, your priorities, etc. Just know you got time to ponder it if you think about it seriously.
>that pic
I haves no money and am in moderate debt.
Ha ha, nice joke....
RETARDS
Really wanting a gf
Still fat though, priority is sorting myself out before dipping my toe in the water again
Lift heavier and more
I was dating a girl for a month and in the last week she became really distant and yesterday she told me she didn't want to see me anymore because "she didn't want anything serious".
For some reason I got really attached to this girl, really liked her and can't stop thinking about her. Went out yesterday with the boys to a club and hooked up with 3 girls, but honestly didn't make me feel any better
Shit sucks.. got a lump in my throat that doesn't pass. fuck girls
I think I'm coming super close to finishing out my beginner program. Of course this is when my friend decided to join me at the gym. Gotta continue to mentor him and stuff while I hop over to 5/3/1 somehow. He should be confident/strong enough in a month (when I plan on switching) that it shouldn't be a big deal but I'm still hung up on it.
Been talking to this girl I met a while ago through mutual friends when going out. We ended up making out but it didn't go anywhere. I didn't think much of it at first, but she ended up adding me out of the blue on Facebook and we just started talking after breaking the ice like we had known each other for years.
I visited her when I got leave from the garrison, got some ice cream and did some shopping. Also met up with her a few times when I was in-town with friends on a night out (nothing happened, we just met up and chatted although we did a lot of flirting) Fantastic company, genuinely haven't felt like that with a person in a long time.
Problem was, when I got back on garrison word spread (as it does) that I had taken interest in this girl. Turns out she had a boyfriend at the time that I didn't know of.
So I did what any man with respect for the man on the other end would, and didn't do anything else with her.
She's funny, drop-dead, likes the same stuff I do (history, astronomy etc.) and was clearly into me despite that.
We still talk occasionally, and she told me just a week ago, that she broke up with her boyfriend. Apparently he had lost interest a while ago, so she kinda just did her own thing as they were on and off.
God knows that I want this girl, and I know it's too soon to make a move, but I'm just concerned that the same will happen to me. I know the whole story of "If they've done it once, they'll do it again". But just kinda struck and it's fucking me up. I know I wouldn't be able to take it if it did.
I don't know what to do bros. This might be the one, but I'm scared shitless of what'll happen if it goes bad.
A lot of really fucked up shit from my past keeps propping itself up into my mind as of recently, making everything harder. In my past, I used think of suicide every single day. In these last 2 years, I've come more to terms with my past and appreciate it more because whether it was shit or not it made me who I am and I like who I am... but recently the bad parts just kick me in the face..
At least locally for me, it's kind of a maturity thing but not really in an extreme case. From the people I've interacted with, they're still kinda navigating who they are or maybe they never put much thought into it. That's where it kinda gets weird I guess. For example, I went out with a girl and some dude I met recently, and I shit you not I felt really out of place. I don't use much social media aside from reading stupid shit meme twitter but that's all they talked about and I'm just shrugging and laughing because I have no fucking clue.I was invited to a party, but in the back of my head I just feel like it'd be a bad idea to go party with technically underaged people.
24 year old
going to study an extremely hard career with no future because nobody needs astrophysicists here
all while producing house and techno music, want to make money from it but its a joke profession with fail rate of 99.99%, doesnt matter cuz its a hobby tho
so while i have this career crisis i also cant find a lady for myself, and lately ive been having more and more anger attacks that i cannot control
what do
Might want to work on the whole anger thing before thinking about involving a girl in your life, pal.
I'm still not making progress on the bench. Granted the reason I started lifting was to lose weight which I do but it feels shitty just to bench press 70kg 5x5. I mean I'm still on a diet but I wish it would raise to 100kg 1rm. I hope when I hit my goal weight and get eat big I can increase my bench press.
Have sex
Stopped seeing my therapist.
We concluded my problem was the pyramid of needs. The entire middle section is missing, as I am not close to family, have few friends and no sexlife.
Since then I have decided to stop seeing my family as the relationship was toxic and made me feel worse everytime.
I also got tinder and have spoken to human females for the first time in 2 years.
I dont know if this is progress but im moving.
It's been 2 years. I'm lost lads, I don't know what to do with my life anymore. Everything I do or tried doing failed. Also feeling lonely as fuck although I'm around people, no one understands or know what I'm feeling. It hurts.
Bro listen carefully. She is not the one, you just are not thinking straight.
I'm and when everything was going great I had the thoughts you had. When you're too interested in a girl it never works out well because you're probably not being very masculine with her and she will lose interest.
And yes if they've done it once they'll do it again. As I was talking to this girl she told me that before me she was talking to this guy but lost interest in him as well. Cant make a hoe into a housewife
I JUST WANT A FUCKING GF ITS BEEN 2 YEARS AND I HAVE FAILED OVER AND OVER AGAIN I GOT TO A DECENT BF% AND FACIAL AESTHETICS BUT I CANT FIND A SINGLE FEMALE I ENJOY TALKING TO AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
MY PARENTS THINK IM GAY AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
Everyone else that I have been with when on a night out it's all been meaningless and without any feelings involved at all. Except for this one, man.
Last time I felt like this was back in High School. Although I guess it's the fact that the opportunity is now there, that's clouding it a bit.
I don't know, bro. I kinda just want to give it a little while, to not seem desperate and to give her time, and then I'll figure shit out. I just really needed to get that off my chest, it's been fucking with me for so long to keep it internalized.
Wish I had my own shopping troller
i've been doing some autistic calisthenic circuit exercises in my room but i will be living in dorms (alone) and i'm not sure should i keep it up or should i start hiting the local gym? i want to keep my gains
youre def right, i keep thinking to myself that my anger wont come out in a relationship but who am i kidding, once i get comfortable with her, it'll be a disaster
Greater North Macedonia Co-Prosperity Sphere has been ony mind lately...
t. triggered army widow
take your state-funded funeral and get the fuck OUT of here
The feeling that I'm wasting my prime, having no ambition or purpose/direction in life, but mostly loneliness. I often get these feelings of melancholy on the weekends.
I understand you completely bro. But give it time without talking to this girl and you will probably come into your senses.
>Last time I felt like this was back in High School
I'm in the same situation man. Honestly it is so much suffering, it's not worth it. If you're having all these feelings that is probably because you're not strong mentally and women pick up on that and it dries their pussy in a second.
Also how old are you?
What have you done to try to get a gf?
>I lifted weights for a couple years but one still didn't magically appear on my doorstep!!
just my guess
I'm a senior and I held off on the requirement classes till this year so I am in the same boat. There is a noticeable divide especially if you've been doing something besides being NEET in moms basement for the last few years. It bums me out too but I deal with it by lifting, reading, going to woods places alone, and chatting now and again with my small number of good friends.
Just be patient and dig into the stuff you like to do alone. Do the readings. If you've got extra time try and get a job that you don't think sucks
How do I get a GF bros...
I'm sort of shy around new people and an introvert, but definitely not autistic, plenty of friends etc and when I want to be I can be social. But that's it, I can never take it to the next stage with a girl. I've had a girl spend the entire night sat on my lap/hugging me but I didn't make a move because why would anyone want me?
I don't see myself as someone that other people would want a relationship with, and i've been told by my normie friends that this isnt healthy. I just can't imagine someone would want to be with me so never try anything. Always feel like they would see me as a creep/annoying if I did try anything.
How do I start seeing myself in a better light bros? I don't even think its fear of rejection, it just feels like the entire part of my brain that should be for sex/relationships is missing and I dont know where to start.
Sorry for blogpost
I am a psychiatry resident. Ask a question, get an answer
>definitely not autistic
>unironically uses the term 'normie'
got some bad news for you buddy
I'm not looking for a hole to pound primarily, but someone I could see myself spending a lot of time with outside of the bed, y'know? If I just wanted a hole I could go out and pick the most willing girl for that.
I'm going to give it some time, as said. I don't want to fuck it up, considering we both genuinely enjoy each others company.
And I obviously haven't mentioned my doubts, she is completely unaware and thinks we're completely straight.
24
>I don't even think its fear of rejection
cope
also you have low self-esteem if you think you're not worthy of love or desire
Post a timestamp, get a question
Started uni this year and just have no motivation at all to spend another 4 years in education living off of my parents just to eventually get some wagie in cagie job that I'll have to work the rest of my life away at. I love going to the gym still but I can't go every day because of schedule and having to rest and any day that I don't spend lifting is just marginally worse and life sucks. I don't care about the future and having a lot of money, I'd rather work manual labor and lift bricks for the next 50 years just because it's the closest thing to lifting heavy for a job that I can get to, besides that life is just pointless. How do you anons deal with the fundamental meaninglesness of life in our society? I just want to be a free autist, bros.
>she is completely unaware
You have no idea how easily women pick up on these things.
Ive tried going to nightclubs, social events and tinder but its all resulted in ghosting. Is Uni/work the only way to meet women???
As in, I only started having second thoughts after I stopped seeing her physically
We've only texted via Snapchat/Messenger since then just like we used to
>How do you anons deal with the fundamental meaninglesness of life in our society?
fluctuate between contemplating suicide and falling in love with any woman who is nice to me
I was date raped and robbed last night. Because of that, I ended up missing an entire day of work and got written up. Worst part is no one believes me
same, I've had zero success (outside of one night stands) with clubs, meet-up, etc. I met my only long-term relationship through work
Then how do I raise my self esteem.
Based zoomer communicator
>How do you anons deal with the fundamental meaninglesness of life in our society?
Honestly? I read up occult and history of the occult to try and figure what's going on. It's one of the most interesting subjects and everyone's ignoring it because it's "a bunch of magic nonsense"
I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat
And a six four Impala
>just bee urself
Honestly I wish I knew. I've been an anxious wreck for decades and suicide seems the only viable solution.
I'm searching for a goal currently, something to strive forward to; but without the financial help of my parents- they've always bought me everything
*ridin down the street in my '64
jockin' the bitches, clockin' the dough*
After getting rid of a very heavy depression that lasted for 8 fucking years, I can feel it slowly coming back due to my social anxiety and shit that has happened to me lately.
Basically, I'm in my second year doing a bachelor in IT, and I have no friends (I thought I had, but I was a fool for thinking that) and I'm supposed to be working in a group with other people, but I got none.
So now I'm stressing the fuck out due to assignment deadlines that are supposed to be worked on by groups, but I am still without a group. I've even tried asking other groups if they want to take me in but everyone have declined so far.
Worst case scenario I have to retake the entire year and delay my degree. I've also been skipping lectures because I'm so embarrassed and emotionally crushed, so my social anxiety has been building up for some days now, which also affects my state of mind (depression might come back)
>tldr; I'm a loser with social anxiety and no friends who struggles at university
I'm starting Tuesday bupropion, what can I expect
That no one is ever going to hold me from me back, or even care for me, like that girl in the pic. I don't understand why am i so wrong, i am tall, not fat-somewhat fit, i don't smoke, drink.... well whatever.
What’s that newspeak retarded term? Either you were raped or not.
Kids these days...
I can relate to your state of mind but never been in that specific situation personally, that seems really messed up. The only thing I can think is if you explain the situation to your tutor/lecturer, or if you don't feel comfortable with that, aren't there on-site counsellors at colleges?
This thread gives me the depression, why are you like this guys?
I moved to university 2 hours from home.
I am living with all female room mates, and I feel like I'm becoming much more docile.
All of my lifts are going way down, im losing so much weight, and I am bored all the time. :(
You're a good friend, user. You and that dude are going to make it
s-s-sorry. I don't know, I should've just been aborted when that was an option
I quit yet another job, Couldn't stand the stress it was giving me. It just felt so pointless to work so hard to earn decent money that i just didn't want to spend on anything so i burned out and resigned.
I'm really tired of this cycle, It's back to square one again.
Wow, so deep, nihilistic, mysterious... Absolutely mad man, without the parents paying you for everything, is it even possible?
Also drop the lie faggot, sell the car they bought you, give them back money they paid for your apartment, then talk.
Thread’s OST
I was drugged at the bar by a couple of fatties. Stupid me thought they actually needed help but by the time I got back to their place, I was already falling asleep
Guys, how it is to have a dog/cat/parrot? Do you feel happier with them? Did they make your childhood better?
I never had one, so i don't know.
Lift more. Run more. Read more. Fill your time and your mind. I feel you bro. Running is the only thing that helps me
I just want to have a friend that shares my interest, doesn't talk with me just to make fun of me, can both give and receive help, someone you can do a hobby with. That's all.
Recently I've been experiencing spells of real anger. Something stupid and little might set me off and I'm just furious for half the day. I find it really helps me left heavier which is what I want and after working out I feel great and mellow. On the downside it makes me push my gf away and my relationship is suffering. I try but I find it more and more difficult each time to control my anger and slmetimes end up taking it out on my gf by verbally scolding her over the smallest of things. I know I would never physically hurt her but I can't go on just pushing her away like this. I don't know where the anger comes from either but I've been making great progress at the gym.
It just sounds ludicrous. You are condescending on basically your peers, 3 years a negligable difference. Don't think you that you know who you are at just 21, you will learn a lot new about yourself in the course of your entire twenties, just like they will. Humble up mate.
>The only thing I can think is if you explain the situation to your tutor/lecturer, or if you don't feel comfortable with that, aren't there on-site counsellors at colleges?
I'm very uncomfortable with going to supervisors of any sort and telling them my problems due to past experience (I had an episode where I was very very close to killing myself due to depression, but I instead called emergency room. I showed up and told them my situation, and the doctor gave me fucking zyrtec and told me I should perhaps get an appointment with a psychiatrist). I know it sounds stupid but I can't bring myself to not get taken serious again, it will crush me.
no idea lol
Already did with a prostitute cause i have never met a girl in any other way, it was lame
I was happier as a heroin addict, sober 5.5 years, own a house and largely debt free.
In a downward spiral of depression, try to talk to others, but am not willing to open up and feel awful for placing any burden of my emotions upon them.
I have not suffered at all and so I don't know why I'm in this state.
The loneliness hit me again hard this weekend. Going back to another country to continue my studies in three weeks too..
God I have to change this, i can't keep going on this way
My marriage is almost over.
We have almost everything in common but don’t like having sex with each other.
20 years in. Sex once or twice a year. Get along wonderfully. Im having a hard time without sex, she doesn’t seem to be.
What’s it like having sexu with a prostitute?