Breakup stories

my boyfriend broke up with me today after e cheating on me .
Apparently 10 one month relationships in less than 2 years is a problem .
Im not sure it was my fault .
But apparently I'm too crazy to understand simple concepts
Wanted to vent cus I'm not allowed to talk on discord and I wish I had real friends .
Sandbox hours

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wait have you had 10 one month relationships or did he?

it's not your fault user, he's the one who cheated. if you'd listen, i've got a story of my own to tell

Oh , I did .
But this same things keep happening . This is more or less the fourth time the shortest,
I dated someone for a day once before their ex came back and they started talking agn

Yes pls, would like stories .

>boyfriend
There's your problem

i'll shorten it for everyone's sake.

>be me
>youngin, 10th grade or so
>living the good normie life, irl friends, irl girlfriend, life is fun
>have this "friend"
>he's a compulsive liar, and an actual sociopath, but i don't know this until later on
>he has a girlfriend who's a friend of my own, but she dumps him because of his issues
>he bugs out, wants to kill himself, etc
>being a good friend, i let him stay at my place for a bit, help him out, be a good person in general
>some time passes
>my girlfriend gets a text from a girl from another school, saying i was spreading rumors about her
>SHE bugs out this time, but i don't really blame her. she had gone through something similar before, and was terrified of having her future ruined by a shitty boyfriend in highschool
>we end up breaking up because of it
>yeah, im sad, whatever
>some more time passes, and i learn that the "friend" had convinced the girl to send the text so that she would dump me and go out with him

thankfully, she never did end up going out with him, but i never looked at any of my friends the same way. i found out recently that most of the people in that group were aware of what he was doing, and didn't say anything to me. so much for trust

Thanks user.
What was I thinking,. I'll date trucks instead

>dated for a day
>month long relationship

why are you in such a rush to call something a relationship? You're pretty much just a stranger to these people.

The fuck? You sound like a walking red flag going through 10 relationships that quickly. It doesn't seem like you and the people you've dated don't take you serious at all.

Are you 16?

>get in contact with a girl i had a crush on in high school
>get a glimpse of her personal life and she's exactly like me
>don't think much of it since she was a 10 and im a 6 at best
>starts acting like she likes me
>no way in hell that's actually true, keep hanging out with her like she's just one of my friends, im on alprazolam at this time anyway so i can keep myself from spiking spaghetti like a football
>one day after seeing her sad it hits me like a ton of bricks that she's the living embodiment of everything i ever wanted
>terrified to see her again, fall back into abusing my pills
>next few times of seeing her are a blur with little bits and pieces i can remember
>one day we end up in bed, i can remember that it happened but think it might have been a dream
>shamble out of bed and text my friend to see if she's said anything about me lately
>she has and it wasn't good
>won't talk to me anymore
>ruined the best thing that ever happened to me by being a doped up retard because i was afraid of finally having something good in life

Spent years thinking about it. At the time I didn't even know if she liked me but in hindsight it was painfully obvious. Found my old phone at one point and read through texts, and it could have been even more than just a like. I hate myself and I want to die.

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i had several really short lived "relationships" when i was in 9-10th grade, the durations of which I measure in weeks. I don't count those anymore. OP shouldn't count these e-relationships, and I think he's got some kind of abandonment issue so he's trying to rope someone in with the relationship label as a futile way to prevent the other person from abandoning him.

Ah shit, I'm really sorry . That's a lumpy piece of shit
I have a lot of sympathy and I'm also quite angry about how badly people behaved .
Ree
I don't like the part especially where she bugs out on hearing this rather than having trust in you not to have done the thing .
Similar happened today in my situation where events in people's lives before cast
strange shadows on their opinions of things.
Wew,It's a little scary
I hope my future relationships are not fucked over because of the things in my past ones

The fuck, is right.
Kek, I Rly think most of the break ups aren't my fault . Not being biased or anything
I'm just a really shit judge of character because of the autism
>No I'm 21

Yeah you have a point. Though most of the calls are like 10 hours long . thought it made up for it

>'e cheating'
>10 month 'relationships' sub 24 months

Clearly there is something wrong with you OP to end up in these situations, too strong a desire for intimacy or smth, get therapy or some shit

It's ok , you seemed to have learnt some from it .
Maybe if you reach out and explain it could help you reach some closure. Else hope you stay strong, work on being healthy and don't start abusing again. >something new will find you

My last relationship ended when I found out my gf of 2 years slept with our landlord and was in the process of getting me evicted. The reason behind it is even more stupid, but it is mostly boring drama shit.

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Kek, I never propose these labels . They do
I thought it was a bit fast myself, honestly but went ,
>Well ok if you think so,

- going back from party, alone. Feeling miserable and weirdo

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Yes,
Something is wrong with me.
Think I'm just a bit lonely and like people who hurt me cus it reminds me of my parents' lovetunnel of cuddles

>Gets invited to a party
Pffft

>Maybe if you reach out and explain it could help you reach some closure
It's been years since I've talked to anyone I knew back then. I'm sure they've all forgotten about me by now. I've met others that have shown interest in me but no one has been able to spark that "hiraeth" kind of feeling and I always back off before anything gets sparked. Getting fucked up is really the only way I can maintain my composure now a days.

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To be fair . I've never had a relationship that wasn't on discord, to be honest with you all.

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Kek , I wish I could get fucked up. But I don't know how to get anything except alcohol and that
Really doesn't help so much .
I'm sorry you seem quite dissatisfied with the state of things . Though it seems possible there is a way to break out of it.
What's a 'hiraeth' kind of feeling ?

did some analytics stuff for a company, and there are 2 concepts that are similar, but very different, and you're confusing their importance in a relationship. They're stickiness and retention.

>stickiness
>the measure of the number of times a user uses your service within one usage interval

>retention
>the number of consecutive usage intervals a user returns to use your service

Your 10 hour conversations are an example of stickiness. You kept your person engaged for a long time. That's not a relationship though, a relationship is all about retention. These people did not come back consistently over a long period of time.

In any case, don't get yourself emotionally invested over someone who you aren't retaining in your life. If that means limiting the amount of time you interact with them every day, then do that. Incidentally, I think that sitting and talking with someone for 10 hours straight is a pretty good indication that you have nothing going for you, and that might scare them off, or it might indicate that you're super overbearing and won't give them any space.

Gosh ! Bro
That's savage .
I hope you doing better now. Probably a good idea to move out it seems like

It's a Welsh word meaning nostalgia for a home you never had before.

Yeah it happened a year ago. I am starting to get to the point where I can joke about how absurdly crazy she was.

that's a pretty big red flag my dude. It means that they don't want a relationship with you, they want a relationship for the sake of having one. Most people are reluctant to get into a relationship because they want to keep their options open or are pretty content with their single life, and it takes a bit of doing to convince a person to give up their current lifestyle to not only be exclusive with you, but to tend to your physical and emotional needs.

I hate to say it but sounds like you're everyone's backup plan. That's never gonna change unless you start to respect yourself user

I like the analytical approach a lot . Find it quite interesting

You may be right about the stickiness , and im in agreement it's not a reason to begin or keep a relationship . (,Despite doing it in this case.)

I found it really cool you said this though , the person they were cheating with had a seven year retention.

I may have issues retaining interest myself . I find after a while tht it is I who am making small excuses not to talk because I need some space

For this, I don't think I'm overbearing

With regards to not having nothing going for me , don't mean to seem ego serving, but I
think I do kek.

Though there are specific alternate things that do scare people off a lot however . Have been told when sharing deeper thoughts, they're quite off putting .

I appreciate your advice and thoughtful response , user

I will remember the retention dissemination.

Ah that's really quite nice . I think it sounds familiar.
Hope you find your home

Eew an e girl. Fuck off you bpd bitch.

Yeah , may have been (I'm not calling it a blessing) but a good idea to be not with them . Really one of the more awful stories

There is something wrong with you. I have spoken to a girl for 100 hours a week and still did not call it a relationship. What the fuck is your problem?

Yeah , I feel like you may be right . I don't know why this is . I don't feel like a main part , I feel like an extra
I thought I was respecting myself but apparently i haven't been acting with a lot of dignity

I was their first relationship after two years . They suggested it not I
If anything kek, I was reluctant .
They kept saying what a big thing they wanted to do this finally after a long time and after so many opportunities

>dating girl for a year
>i'm starting college classes, she's still in high school
>go from visiting her house 4 times a week down to 2
>when I see her she starts arguments or gets mad at me for very trivial reasons
>around thanksgiving I decide it's done so I call her and end it
>she's crying over the phone
>go onto facebook a couple hours later to change our relationship status
>her status is "in a relationship" with a different guy, some 10th grade kid whose house is down the road from her
>get kind of pissed about this, so send her some angry messages, threaten to leak nudes she sent me (regret doing this now but whatever)
>the new guy starts messaging me, tells me that he's been fucking her for over a month while I was at the college, tells me that he gave her an STD and I should get checked
>get checked, no std
>go to get my stuff from her place
>her mom wanted me to be her son-in-law, very upset with her daughter while I was there
>tell her about the STD thing, and she flips out at her daughter over this
>she messages me 2 years later telling me that letting me go was the biggest mistake she made

I have a lot of nostalgia for that relationship, but hell if i'll ever trust her again. She's doing some artist co-op for queer jews or something like that, so I think her life went a little bit in the toilet.

I don't know, man
I get into e relationships quite fast
One was after a year tbfair tho
Tho I did date two or three other people before calling that a relationship.
I don't think it helps that I look ok

Dayum.
She seems a little awful I'm sorry to say .
I hope you don't feel too bitter , seems quite easy to fall into that in this scenario(glad you came out STD free)

Since I dont have friends to talk with
except discord . I really want to post screenshots , but I know it could get me in trouble :'

when she asked me for forgiveness 2 years later, she told me that the guy made that up to fuck with me, and that it got her in a lot of trouble with her mom, who didn't believe them when she told her that the guy made it up. Ultimately, that's why she broke up with him too (because her mom made her life hell until she got rid of that "bad influence")

By the time we had that conversation, I was over her. But I still think it might have fucked with me and rendered me unable to take relationships that seriously since. I dunno, maybe it's just I haven't found someone worth taking seriously since.

Are you accepting e-bf applications?

you know OP's a boy right?

I do now, thanks user.

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Ah, I'm really sorry. (Kek , he does sound like a bad influence)
Find getting over people is damn sad . Feeling like 'eh' for someone you used to care so much about. Really weird
I think I was sincerely fucked up by my past three ones. Though I believe Im still serious in these, despite expectance of failure
Reached out to an ex to let them know,
I think my self perception is just quite shaken

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You were so fucking close to goodness and you let it slip away because you saw what it was and you were scared of it. an hero desu

Boy, o boy o

That's the plan, just slowly from liver failure.

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