I'm 25 and my (ex) girlfriend of 6 years just broke up with me yesterday. We were on our third apartment together. She's picking up her cats tomorrow and most of her stuff.
I feel like the world is collapsing around me and I have no purpose. My chest feels like it's about to explode, I haven't eaten in over a day and I just want to lay down and die.
Nobody cares and eventually you won't either.
its just a girl faggot, chill
Why did you break up? (this is my question)
can you tell me what happened
im moving in with my gf to our second apt, and need to decide whether to marry her or not
what unravels a six year relationship? im 24 and weve been together for about 5 years
were you in the feels pub last night?
what kind of man relies on a stupid broad for happiness? Alexander the Great conquered the known world when he was younger than you and you are being a pussy about a wet hole
I'm sorry to hear that user what happened? Is it irreversible?
Nevermind these loveless bastards they don't know anything about feelings, they are too wrapped up in their own resentment to see life for what it is.
Alexander the great was gay as fuck though
>tfw off by 1
tell us what happened faggot. why are you two parting ways
OP is an ass for taking so long to reply. Fuck you OP, hurry up. We need the juicy story.
Lots of small things, but the final straw was when I said I wouldn't loan her a month of rent this month. She's been out of a job for 4 months and continued to blow her savings while I paid for her food. I wanted her to get her shit together, and she has been looking for work, but she planned a trip to throw an art show and I found it grossly irresponsible considering she has nothing in her bank account; she couldn't even pay for her own plane ticket to her own show.
I thought I needed to put my foot down and told her she couldn't stay if she didn't get her priorities straight. She said I was selfish and that she hasn't been happy for a while, and walked out.
Happiness only exists because pain exists. Let yourself feel the pain, only then can you move on and be happy.
It's irreversible at this point. Nothing I can do.
Oof, good riddance. I understand it's still very difficult, but you guys made the right decision to break up. I hope you guys managed to be on good terms and separate amicably.
Sounds like you dodged a FUCKING MISSILE. What a cunt
I'm sorry user
She will regret her decisions/priorities one day I'm sure
I know this is probably best for both of us, but it doesn't really help right now. She paid her way most of the relationship (when she had a job she handed me her paycheck and I managed get money), but after she lost her job she didn't slow her spending and eventually we got to this point.
You managed her money?
anyone who doesnt want to own up to their bullshit doesnt deserve to be in a happy relationship anyways
ending a relationship is always hard though, feels like your heart is bubbling in stomach acid
just ride it until youre numb and then move on
even though you'll have no heart for awhile.. because yknow, stomach acid
Yes, I kept meticulous track of her savings for 4 years. For the last year she's been between jobs and I tried to talk to her and convince her to slow down. She kept making me give her (her own) money to go out until she completely ran out. She didn't want to stop. Even after buying her food for 2 months to make it easier on her she still ended up not having a job and still decided to do her show. She said it was very selfish of me to ask her to cancel her own show (I said this was the only way I would loan her a month of rent). I still feel like I was too hard on her.
Yes, my stomach has been in knots and I want everything to just stop.
How much was the month's rent? How much would her art show cost her? What was the purpose of the art show--does she make money from it?
(I don't think you were too hard on her. But I'm just an user on a mongolian basketweaving forum)
i'm sorry, love.
i'm also sorry to say it won't go away any time soon.
one thing is, if she wants to come back, don't give into your emotions use those higher functioning skills n shit to not, because from my own experience, once you question your relationship or try to leave, theres not really any going back? you could try getting back together but she'll probably just end up hurting you again because she already has the thought in her mind and was probably thinking that for a long time. (this probably doesnt help but its something you need to hear(or read?))
$1,000 was her half. I can easily afford the loan.
The plane ticket was $150ish. Her art show would have probably not made her much money, she has never made any serious money from her art. I think she is convinced this art show could be her breakthrough or some stupid bs (it's a random small show in a random small town she grew up in). I wasn't willing to entertain her fantasy and wanted her to be realistic and not shirk her responsibilities, but I feel like I fucked up by not supporting her hobby and she thinks that I'm selfish for making it all about the money.
When you said she kept blowing through her savings, what does that mean exactly? What was she spending on?
Going out to bars. Ordering out. She never made food.
>artist
>does this
she was very, very dumb OP, this is just unfortunate, she can't stop doing dumb shit to save her life. would have been a problem in the future anyway.
>Going out to bars.
>Ordering out.
Wait, I thought you guys lived together? Why wasn't she eating and hanging out with you? Did she go out to bars by herself? I'm pretty sure that's not normal and is highly suspicious considering bars are one of the designated places where guys go to hit on girls.
She would always invite me. The rule was she was allowed to go as long as I could always join her, including showing up unannounced.
I don't like bars. I was always given permission to snoop without telling her about it if I felt anything was up (and a few times in the first half I did). Despite all her issues I never doubted her trust in the end.
She ordered food home and we ate together. I tried getting her to buy groceries but they would just go to waste.
"I haven't been happy for a while"
This unfortunately is the mentality of most western women nowadays. They base the strength and absolute state of a relationship primarily on the temporal emotions they may be feeling in the current moment with no foresight. Guess you don't need to think ahead when you're young and pretty and you have a sea of beta dweebs telling her so every day on the laundry list of 'social media' accounts she happens to be on.
We tried to work through it before but in the end maybe it's just not meant to be
Normalfags getting btfo is great to hear and all, but still, go away.