>be me
>start talking to guy online
>he gives me compliments, shows consideration/kindness, or is generally just nice to me
>become emotionally dependent on him and obsessed with him
>tell him i love him after 4 days
Why do I keep doing this? The relationship usually doesn't work out but I feel so empty if I don't have someone to tell I love them 200 times a day.
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Are you a femanon or a tranny though?
Guessing a tranny due to how starved for affection you are.
be my Hifumi-posting Borderline Personality Disorder bf
seems like you're love starved user. does anyone in real life touch you?
XX, but I've barely left the house due to agoraphobia for years so yes, I'm very affection starved.
Not OP but I'm a guy with this problem. I try so hard not to tell people i love them if we get involved, its like a stupid habit. How is this tranny behavior like you don't have to want to be a bitch to do bitch things :(
Did anything cause you to develop agoraphobia?
Is that a bad thing? Those sound like ideal characteristics to me.
I apologize for being a bit rude there, but being affection starved is a normal thing. You generally do it because maybe your life is centered around the relationship?
It's a good feeling but it isn't sustainable if it's simply infatuation, and not based on stronger and more durable emotions.
That's the thing though, infatuation is different from love.
There's nothing wrong with the feeling and it's good that you feel it.
Just try holding off on the L-word.
People use it way too often and demean it's value.
Even if you do truly love someone there's no way to know after a week.
Like don't get me wrong though, getting obsessed with someone and being clingy are 10/10 traits.
Just try to remind yourself to take things slower.
You sound nice user you just have to find a guy that actually likes this. There's a lot of us on here like that. What's your discord?
I'm the same. I get attached easily and sometimes people will do a really cute or endearing thing without noticing and it makes me feel a sudden urge to tell them I love them and how wonderful they are. Giving love shouldn't be something to be ashamed of. If I feel love towards someone I just tell them, I don't really care if they get freaked out now. Just gotta be careful you don't get involved with someone shady because it takes a very long time to get to know people properly.
Yeah, most guys get freaked out desu. Just because I tell a guy I love him doesn't mean I expect him to commit to me or anything, I've often told people they don't have to say it back, but I do get hurt if they pull away or reject me, I guess saying I love you to people instantly makes them think of commitment and it scared them off. I don't understand why people are so scared by it, but I guess it might not be love I'm feeling, just affection and limerance or infatuation.
The last time someone told me they loved me in a romantic way (Only time as well) they ghosted me not long after.
Now I don't think I could trust anyone even if they said they loved me.
Other people probably won't trust you as well if you say you love them so quickly.
How do you get outside when you need to with agoraphobia? Would the inside of a car be enough, or would the windows be a problem?
I'm talking to a guy now, he's so cute and sweet and I'm fighting the urge to tell him he's beautiful and that I'm in love with him, I don't even care about his reaction at this point because I feel lucky to have met him. I don't love him of course because I barely know him, but he's just so sweet to me. I also have BPD though. Eeeep.
Honestly being forward about it is an attractive quality to me. I'm a pretty clingy and obsessive person myself so knowing a girl actually likes me is kind of impossible to fathom. I'm jealous of whatever boy you currently like user and I hope maybe one day I can find a girl like you. I don't understand guys that aren't ready to commit, the best thing in life would be to find a serious girl to settle down with and have as a life partner.
I can go outside but only when nobody's around, I'm basically having an adrenaline fuelled panic attack the entire time. Talking to guys online is the closest I can come to dating unless we just had house dates all the time and so far I haven't met anyone close enough.
Thanks, I know it makes me seem 'easy' but it's not like I'm having relationships with different guys going at the same time. Because a lot of them end up kind of scared off or weirded out, these 'relationships' are usually pretty short anyway. A LTR would be ideal but a lot of people just find it too much hard work and I guess I might be too demanding. I'm a very emotional person, even by girl standards. A lot of guys say they like the yandere meme but I guess it's overwhelming when it's for real. Hope you get the girl of your dreams someday, user.
Where do you live? If you are close I would be interested. You don't have to give exact location of course, just country and states if U.S. would be enough.
Why can't I find a fembot that's clingy?
I wouldn't care is she said she loved me after 4 days
Most ghost me after a week anyways
Funnily enough I also like yandere and a real yandere has always been my ideal gf. I dated a bpd girl for several years in an LDR but it fell apart after I was too clingy among other things. Emotions aren't bad but they can be a lot to handle if the guy isn't patient. Thanks for the well wishes, I'd still like to talk to you in case we're close though since you really seem like my type.
Yikes
>/unfriend
>/ignore
I'm not in the U.S, sorry :( You could post your discord though.
You don't know what 'love' is. That is infatuation. It leads to explosive and damaging relations. It's an insult when someone thinks there's enough of me to know in 4 days to claim to love me.
You're probably like 15
I'm pretty lonely and no bf atm, so if you want post your discord and we can see how things go.
I get spooked if a girl tells me she loves me online. because she almost certainly does not mean it in the way that I want to take it, and it's only "love" in a friendly way. it always makes me feel bad.
if you add me will you love me in more than just a friendly way?:
Rain
#75zero8
Ok sure it's thrown#8306 at worst case maybe we can be friends
oh I somehow got the number wrong
Rain # 16seven4
Stop doing this, women. You don't really love me. If you did, you would move to Minnesota and marry me. You may qualify your love as friendship or "like a brother," but NEVER tell me that you love me, because you most certainly do not mean it.
What country are you from though? Is it in Europe?
You both retards even realise how pathetic you both are??
She's just gonna get orbiters and is not worth it even. Really pathetic man
so just give up and don't try at all? that's not a healthy mindset user.
How many friends and gfs have you made by not posting your discord and making fun of anons that do? probably more than me honestly
Girls who actively go and post threads like these claiming to be females are just what they are, attention seekers, it's easy to know, cuz normally the type of girls who say they're female and threads about some shit like this + saying they're female are usually lack of validation irl bc of her ugliness and shit. Or you think some cute girl from r9k will fall for you and tell you she loves you? Answer is no. + FYI most girls who posts with cute anime girls attached to the post are ugly as fuck.
t. have had 2 gfs from here and know what the whole deal is with them
Btw >friends >female? Sure you wanna be just her friend retard just say you wanna talk to her to make her your gf lmao
Protip: the ones who are worth it dont state their gender around and are not attw.
Could you post some conversations you have had with guys online? I have never had any sort of relationship online or IRL (I'm a guy btw). I am very interested to see what kinds of things your guys are saying that make you feel so good. I want to try to mimic it if possible, since I'm autistic as fuck.
No actual girl ever posts with a picture of Hifumin. They are literally all larps. Get the fuck out of here.
I'm a very kind guy who enjoys conversations and doesn't mind clinginess, which is not to be confused with actual love. I could most likely become a long-term friend as long as you're actually capable of communication and don't try to bite more than you can chew.
Most of people aren't like that though and your behavior is pushing them away, because it comes way too fast and because we're naturally suspicious.
Even taking the most lonely robot out there, things won't end well for you two because he will surely find your sudden affection suspicious and begin to doubt your honesty and integrity, all while his cold behavior is scalding your feelings.
did the fembot send you a friend request?
No, I'm guessing she went to sleep or something
well I guess that's one way to think positive.
Well I don't know why she'd ask for discord if she wasn't going to add us
Wow, fucking predator...
People pull away because you usually don't fall in love after 4 days and you come off as someone who has other motives.
Next time be more casual and say you like their company of spending time with them. "Love" is a pretty big word and still has a big meaning to some people
>I don't love him of course
so don't say it dummy
>complimenting a girl and asking for contact makes me a predator
And you wonder why you're alone. Doesn't matter anyways according to these two "she" flaked lmao
>start talking to guy online
How does one go about doing this? Do you just message some rando off facebook or do you use discord etc?
not that i would do this, im not gay
Love is good, we should all be more like you
Discord seems to be the easiest method. you can add people from the contact thread here or try /soc/. alternatively join a discord server for a video game or hobby you enjoy and find cool people there. it's really hard to find cool people
>complimenting a girl and asking for contact makes me a predator
It makes you a predator because you are obviously taking advantage of a lonely girl in a emotionally vulnerable state. You are a fucking creep dude.
What about asking a girl at the store or in a park for her number? I know this is Jow Forums but don't be this socially retarded dude
I've been pretty starved of conversation lately. If you aren't boring then we can talk. I find it funny when women are obsessed with guys.
>asking a girl out in a social setting is the same as asking a mentally ill girl out venting in a mental illness website
Yeah, I'm the retard.
give me your discord, ill love you
>tfw no needy e-gf who says they love you ever morning and night
>tfw no needy e-gf to message all day and call all night
I had this once, but she ghosted me. It was a good feeling while it lasted but I haven't had it in too long.
> [...] The relationship usually doesn't work out but I feel so empty if I don't have someone to tell I love them 200 times a day.
Not sure if I am interpreting you correctly; I am pretty bad at interpreting people. This is just based on what I experienced and observed. However, the need to have someone else 'fill the emptiness inside you' just signifies that you are not emotionally developed or are emotionally defecient in some way. I don't mean that as an insult in any way, but what I reckon is it shows to the guy either of two things:
1. that you need SOMEONE in your life, not that you need HIM in your life
2. that you need the version of him that exists in your head; which he can NEVER achieve.
Let me give you a question to think about: how much do you really know him. I am asking this because I am betting he thinks the same question; that someone he barely know, let alone has deep emotional connection to, just confessed to him.
What you have to do is find a way to not feel so empty without having to tell someone you love them 200 times a day. You gotta be emotionally fulfilled without a relationship. I apologize if that advice doesn't really help you. I don't really know the answers on how either.
Also sorry if I make no sense. I am tired and my sleep schedule is fucked.
Get rekt fucking tranny
>largest bait
>55 replies
this board never learns
the fool falls for bait once and does not again.
the wise robot falls for the bait a thousand times and finally catches the worm.
I have this shit too no joke i cant leave my house without crying for help feels really bad
I used to do the same thing and I'd also get really overly attached to other girls online and I'd think I was in love with guys online. I only played PC games and slept. Only opened the door to grab food from my mom, I wouldn't even look at her. I stayed in that bedroom for almost 2 years and only left because I passed out from a tooth infection. Had a bathroom attached but no shower so I just washed up a little in the sink here and there. You seriously gotta get yourself out before it gets worse.
You will have panic attacks, you will puke, you will embarrass yourself, but then guess what? You don't actually die! Expect some hiccups, do everything you can to make things easier and then just face it.
I started with just leaving my room in the middle of the night to shower and eventually would fix myself some food after, I just took tiny steps and got comfy with each one.
If you've got any 24 hour stores you can go in late at night and browse and only have to pass a few people. Don't even have to buy anything I know going through the checkout counter felt like I climbed a mountain lol.
Good luck femanon I really hope you get better and don't give up!
I need a clingy obsessed gf so bad.
know this feeling user... think you might have autism like me....
God I wish literally anyone would do this to me, I've met several people online who have told me I'm nice and that they like me in a friendly way but literally no one has ever said they loved me
No man or woman wants those 10/10 traits from a boy tho, I agree but with you about not saying you love someone immediately after meeting them. I'm a 5'6", 22yo, 150lb, middle eastern faggot with BPD. I'm the furthest thing from desirable possible.
Poor girl. I'm femanon myself so it probably won't do much but I hope things get better for you.
I love you. I mean it too
I would argue that a lot of people would want those traits, at least on r9k.
It's more about being desirable beforehand.
It's a cruel reality where no matter what you want, people expect you to be attractive.
People are shallow and it sucks
I mean it for real user, sarcastic responses in a thread don't really help, I meet people online all the time and I get easily attached, I always want them to say it but never do
i've had egirls cling to me and then tell me they were just lonely, so i assume every time they say they love me they just want to see what i say in return. those whores
I can relate. No one told me that they loved me in my entire life. I need affection more than anything else. But all girls I tried talking to from here ghosted me for getting attached too quickly.
>be me
>start chatting with fembot
>talk everyday about personal life and hobbies
>tells me sweet dreams every night
>become emotionally dependent
>be now
>she leaves me on read for 8 hours while chatting with other e-boys
Did you ever confess your feelings for her?
confess and make a cringy fool out of yourself
>she loses interest and pushes you into orbit or ghosts because omg scary feels
do not confess
>she ends up with another guy since you didn't speak up or just picks one to make you jealous
No real winning with that balance act, you can only hope she get clingy first desu
Because you're a teenager and probably underage too.
discord
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>be me
>mix of tomboyish and girly
>lots of nerdy hobbies
>lots of guy friends
>most of them at some point confess to me
>probably because I am the only female in their lives
>the guys I like never like me back
Fuck it, I'll bite the hook. What kind of guys do you like?
Clingy anons add me pls
k0rnf4an#8665
Do not mind the name - it's just a prank.
Oh, and without the a.
Cheers!
I met a guy like this in college IRL.
I think has OCD and definitely is depressed and several other problems, he grew up with a single mother too. He was extremely insecure, shy and had a horrible stutter problem.
Dude would text me a day later of something I told him, and question what I said or ask me what I think of X trait of his.
Got to the point where I told him I dont have unlimited texts so stop texting me but he didnt listen.
He was not smart either because he always asked me for help on calc 2 but would boast about being in software engineering, but is like 2 years behind with no experience and cant code for shit. Let alone know how to do any sort of algorithm work.
He has not graduated yet? I dont know I am starting my masters this September in comp sci. I feel bad for him and want to help him, but he never took my advice when I gave it but at the same time would ask me what he should do.
Well it doesn't work.
Just k0rnf4n#8665, sorry I fuck it up
Also there's a 97 at the end.
>tfw ruin thred
Where do you even meet these people
orig
Alright guess I'll try my luck too
Add me if you're a clingy person and I promise to treat you with kindness and compassion. I'm pretty damn lonely and I'll give you lots of attention anytime you need it. Hayato#8754 is my tag.
Yeah this was done to me, I had to break it off very suddenly after a few months because I felt trapped in the relationship by her dependency and mental health issues