Why do people want relationships like this? Can somebody explain to me where the appeal lies?

>a thirsty retards masturbatory fantasy based on an article he read about people with bpd online

>mfw

Also they want people like this because they think they can take advantage of them, abuse them and bend them to their will which they could never do to a normal well adjusted person

But then again sometimes the "broken" person in the relationship becomes the abuser, since bpd can make people fucking vile instead of just le mysterious sad manic pixie dream girls

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That's me, except I'm a male with comorbid AS, Bipolar 2 and BPD diagnoses.

My past breakup was yet another lesson/reminder not to get overconfident that I won't split/get all fucking nuts and to just isolate myself instead - possibly with a waifu/2D GF till I finish intensive care/recovery (And I doubt I could stick to shit like that: statistically speaking it takes on average 10 years of DBT therapy in order to see any significant improvement considering that thanks to BPD I never fucking stick to plans for more than one day normally.)

Think I should just quit pussying out and pull a Kurt Cobain instead - been telling myself this every single year since elementary school - but I am getting closer to finally becoming an hero FR each year.

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So not only I've lost the genetic lottery: but I was abused extensively as a kid and got the shit beaten out of/verbally harassed on a daily basis and stalked/gaslit in a ghetto ass school - thus turned me into a subconsciously insufferable faggot: what is there to do at this point to live any semi-comfortable and fulfilling life without harming others?

Desire to feel needed>Desire to help, Feeling of superiority>Confidence in being able to withstand and contain. Those rationalize the negatives into neutrals leaving only positives.

At least that's the armchair psychology conclusions I end up when lying in bed going to sleep/waking up but not up yet/breaking down.

Are we having one of these threads? Its been a while. Posting mine.

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>Yeah, I'm guilty of that as well. I think people like this might latch onto anything they feel might give them a sense of stability or "wholeness".
Until they get bored and move on.

>tfw used to be bpd/borderline gf
>used to threaten suicide every week or cut
>almost every day had a breakdown
>screaming, crying, etc.
>almost committed suicide
>got sent to a mental hospital and got on meds
>now im normal
>bf still with me
I know meds don't work for everyone but they really helped me to be normal.

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Borderline women like this are fucking annoying. I've been friends with a few over the years and thank fuck I never tried to get with them. The level of bullshit they put out is mind numbing, I can't imagine the level of stress having a relationship with someone like this would cause

It's you from that other thread who didn't get any replies right? Right now you are framing your problems in very medicalised terms. How has psychiatry been working for you? If you have a ton of diagnoses but those diagnoses don't lead to effective treatment, that might be a sign that your issues aren't something that meshes well with a traditional psychiatric approach. And if you have a lot of diagnoses and no effective treatment, it can leead you to develop a self-image as somebody who is mentally "sick", which is harmful to you.

Personally I got a ton of diagnoses and no progress, and the breakthrough was reading something about how, for people with messed up pasts, a lot of times we have self-damaging emotions and choices and it's not because of something organically wrong with our brains, but because we develop patterns of actions that were productive in past dangerous situations but are not in present, less-dangerous situations. EG being hyper-alert (anxiety) or approval seeking out of fear of being abandoned (BPD) can be rational behaviours when targetted towards an abusive parent but detrimental to normal social functioning later. It really helped me recover my self-esteem to reject the diagnoses, focus on recognizing, acknowledging the validity of, and moving past the maladaptive behaviours. Lately I started seeing a social worker who specialises in counselling for people who have experienced long-term trauma who is helping me with my relationships (because historically I've tended to go with only people in OP's pic...)

Thanks for listening to the sincere post. I hope your life improves and you're able to feel better about yourself.

>tfw I've had that relationship for almost 4 years and it almost made me lose interest in all females

Honesty, I've been trying to make myself gay after that. I seriously hope none of you guys fall for that. It ruins a person.

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I have bpd. The first few months of the relationship are usually blissful. I'm so loving, affectionate, kind, considerate, giving. Then my idealized image of them becomes tainted and I start to have my major moodswings. When that happens now, instead of lashing out at them, I just say I'm tired or not feeling great and cut them off for a few days until my need to love them overcomes my need to lash out at them.

>The first few months of the relationship are usually blissful. I'm so loving, affectionate, kind, considerate, giving. Then my idealized image of them becomes tainted and I start to have my major moodswings.
I got to this point with someone, and then told them they obviously had BPD and how to fix it. They got mad as fuck and ghosted me and threw the entire relationship in the trash. How do I salvage this after almost a year? I still love the person but they haven't really talked to me since.

Jesus this sounds like me except I'm male. I should probably go to therapy.

She was cute and the sex was good. Off and on for two years. One day she went off on me telling me we either need to be in a solid relationship or not at all. This forced me to realize I would never want to have children with her so there is no point being with her. So I told her to fuck off. Usually she would boomerang back. Not this time. Haven't heard from her in more than a week. She may have killed herself but I doubt it. She's too selfish to even move out of her mommy's house.

And you know the worst part? It's almost like any other breakup, I'm depressed about it and I miss her even though two weeks ago I was dreading having to even see her. My heart is fucked bros.

The fun is making the girl suffer, each day in a different manner.