>My birthday
>go clubbing with my group of friends
>girl I've known for about a month expresses interest in me
>get drunk and start dancing
>get rejected by three different girls including the one that liked me
What the hell did I do wrong, It was all going so well and then out of nowhere the night just fucks up whyyyyyyyyy. It was like a month ago but I cant stop thinking about it. Shit.
lol try again
>start dancing
Dancing is so bizarre to me.
to be fair my dancing was pretty bad but Idk why they would completely just reject me after that
Probably because you asked three fucking girls so the latter two know you're just trying to get any girl and don't care if it's them.
ah good old depression the never discussed topic.
No. The club was full so they didn't see me with the other girls
I'm pretty sure everyone is depressed deep down in some way
>girl I've known for about a month expresses interest in me
What did she do?
your dancing exuded virginity
she came up to me and said she should have asked me out when she met me, then after some drunk dancing she says I should dance with my friends
lol yeah probably, but I was drunk and tried my best not to act too desperate.
Well clearly you were visibly desperate. Try actually giving a shit about the girls and maybe this won't happen.
How drunk were you?
I cared about the girl in my group but after she left I just said fuck it so yeah I don't think giving a shit would have changed anything.
Quite drunk, I had about 6 shots of vodka and couldn't really walk straight but I don't think I was so drunk it would put anyone off
>Did you smile and had fun while dancing?
>Had the girls expressed interest before you made your move? (giving looks, smiling, dancing closer to you etc.)
>Did you give them an impression that you are confident and fun to be around?
>If you danced with any of them, did you initiate physical contact?
>I don't think I smiled that much but I wasn't frowning or anything
>No looks or stuff really apart from the first girl
>I was drunk so I had a lot of confidence
>some physical contact but not much I didn't want to seem desperate
>she came up to me and said she should have asked me out when she met me, then after some drunk dancing she says I should dance with my friends
You're a fucking idiot. That was her way of making the first move, she literally spelled out to you that she liked you, now she was just waiting for you to do something, anything.
Girls don't like to be too direct, so they will rather give "subtle" clues to show their interest. I believe this wasn't the first time she has made a move on you, but you were to stupid to understand, or maybe you have low self esteem so you didn't dare to do shit.
Most likely she has lost interest in you by now
You did fine. Rejection is a part of the process. When I was a virgin and my mate was trying to help me score he got me to just walk up to a random girl and ask her to dance. She said no and that was the whole point.
You have to eventually reach the point where rejection means nothing. If a girl says no you don't care because you have plenty of other options. When you get this level of confidence then you can start getting girls.
Stopped reading at went clubbing with group of friends. Gtfo casual
how would telling me to go away, which is what she essentially did, make me want to make a move?
I just cant help but feel so upset when I think about it though i just feel like I repel girls away from me
Ok, I'm really just a loner but whatever
The sooner you learn that rejection is normal the sooner you'll be able to pick up girls.
You'll also need to learn to get better at talking to girls and picking up on signs but that takes a lot practice (which you can only get through failure).
Did you ever play sports?
First rule of dancing:
Doesn't matter how bad you are, as long as it looks like you're having FUN and are SMILING. Dancing is fun, you're dancing because you think it's fun, or atleast pretend to for the girls. If you have to drag yourself out on the dance floor, and have a serious/sad face the entire time then girls won't show interest.
Often it's the girls that make the first move, subtle signs. She will look at you, smile, play with her hair, if she talks with her friends she will glance at you while laughing etc.
If you aren't chad and know how to play the game it's almost impossible to get a girl who hasn't showed you any signs beforehand.
pic related, but it's a rather extreme case. The eyes are spot on tho, if she gives you that look then she's only waiting for you to make a move.
The girl won't think you're desperate if you're make physical contact, but you need to follow the flow, not grab her by the hips and start grinding. Start with some minor touching after dancing for a while, and do it playfully. Keep the eyecontact, see how she reacts. And always remember to smile.
She only said that after dancing with you.
Maybe I got it wrong, but after reading your comment I imagined you two were dancing alone together for a while before she got bored and left.
yeah I think this is actually good advice, I mean I find it hard to deal with rejection but I guess that's the first step
plus I played some sport (football and swimming) but I'm pretty skinny
We had just started dancing when she told me
>6 shots of vodka
Did you blackout?
is this bait
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no but my memory is pretty hazy, I had a lot to drink
I wish I never tried to dance wit those girls man I felt so down afterwards
It's just like sports
When you start off you're shit and the better players will always beat you, and you'll win nothing. But after losing enough times, you eventually win, then it keeps getting better.
The key is to always try your best and learn from your losses.
I'm asking because I think you might have done something while drunk to piss her off that you can't remember. Is she still talking to you?
We talked a few times since and she doesnt seem mad at me but idk Im bad at reading people
i agree. whole idea of moving your body to sounds is honestly weird. if you mute the music a dancer just looks retarded