Are bpd gfs worth it bros?

I have bpd. What I hate most about it is the fact no matter how my bf acts, he cant do anything right. When hes being nice to me I want him to punch me in the face or use me to cum. When hes being cruel or ignoring me I want him to hold me and be kind to me. I cant tell describe what the correct way to treat a bpd girl because by the time she has gotten past the idealization stage and has entered the splitting stage, she will never fully love you again like she did at the beginning. Not that bpd romantic love is real. More like egotism, delusion, projection and narcissistic supply.

You will not be able to do anything right in her eyes no matter how hard you try to placate her, ignore her or rectify your mistakes.

You sound like a predatory asshole anyway so idc.

She will try to kill you with a knife. I am speaking from personal experience.

Do you really go through that checklist or just go with whatever you're feeling

>the mood swings and that, but I probably can handle it
If you think it's just mood swings, then you absolutely cannot handle it.

What you want is assured loyalty.
You wont get it with these whores dude, stay away.

>Can you handle two lifes?
isnt that the good part? all i want is someone to rely on me

Don't
trust me you will regret it. They are known for traumatizing and ruining people's lives. Just pump and dump if you must. Do not get involved my man. You will suffer

No, avoid like the plague. She will leave you emotionally drained, especially if she's your first girlfriend. Oh, she'll also be more likely to drop you for no reason, and be infatuated with other men alongside the mood swings.
Is right.

During sex mine would start orgasming at about thirty seconds. She'd start barking like a dog from the orgasms then hyperventilating. If I didn't cum before 6.5 minutes her eyes would roll back in her head as she passed out from the hyperventilating.

So, the sex basically.

Yep, they mirror you to seem like the perfect gf at first, then as soon she feels threatened or abandoned or you arent paying 110% of your attention to her, shit hits the fan. Basically an emotional suckerpunch.

How long did it take before yours showed her true colors?

I've an abusive relationship myself, this is what I learned over some months.

That doesnt sound very hot desu. But I do know they are known for being fucking crazy in bed. I assume 90% of female pornstars have bpd.

HAHAAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA.....no.

>be me
>have friend
>friend dating a girl
>he wants to break up with her
>she says she was raped
>says she got drunk and some guy she was partying with came into her room and fucked her
>texts him constantly
>forbids him from going to a beach day with my friend's ex, let's call her Amber
>friend argues that he'd be cool with her spending time with her ex, Kyle
>she gets mad and says that's not the point
>when she finds out he's hanging put with me, a chick, she starts complaining nonstop
>texting him about how she's "crying into his shirt" and how "my grandpa is being sexist can you just listen to me"
>asks him to come home from college three months early to be there for her rape trial which is supposedly next week

Stop hanging out with other girls boyfriends you selfish slut.

I know a girl off this site who after years of social anxiety finally got an okcupid and then got an irl BF a short time later.
Then he dumped her after a few months because she constantly would shit on him and dump him just to get back together with him again. Guess he finally couldn't take it anymore. lol

Honestly I will say around 3 months. Can't have sex with her now for like 3 months without feeling like I'm raping her. Accused me of making her horny and being a narcissistic perv scum.

Also I get back with her after being with another psycho challenging my mental health... Fuck I'm dumb

Continuing...

>friend goes home
>visits her
>goes on a date with her
>they head home
>she tells him she's been cheating on him with Kyle
>he breaks up with her
>after he leaves she immediately starts sending him videos of her cutting her wrists and threatening suicide
>he pulls over and calls an ambulance
>they sit together at the hospital
>she starts texting Kyle
>starts complaining that he fucked her pussy so hard it hurts
>says "ugh he won't answer me I won't be sucking his dick again"
>starts crying about how Kyle won't confirm if he's going to the trial
>friend offers to call her very nice mom
>she screams no, she hates her mom

Continuing...

tits or gtfo
beans

BPD girls will fuck their exes as soon as they perceive one of your actions as wronging them. So if you're a cuck then go for it

Continuing...
>he gets fed up after three hours
>calls her mom
>mom comes
>gives him a book called "loving someone with borderline personality disorder"
>he leaves
>next day
>goes to hang out with other friends
>who are female
>she starts texting his female friend saying "I'm going to kill myself and you're half the reason"
>won't stop calling
>friend finally blocks her for the rest of the night

nice bait but for real though, i dated one for about 6 months. she was incredibly cute, super funny, we got along very well, and we shared similar interests. the whole 9 yards, First 4 months were the happiest I'd ever been but the mood swings were too much. we never even had sex. just don't worry about it

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This.

Worst case you'll be just a close friend with benefits, but if someone seems nicer than you, you're done.

Continuing...

>after they break up she calls him up periodically to say that she's driving drunk
>says she hates her mom for taking her keys because she drives drunk
>goes over to hotel to fuck Kyle
>calls my friend
>says she had a PTSD episode during the sex because of how rough it was and is now crying in the bathroom
>begs him to pick her up to drive her home
>he does

>later she asks him to hang out
>he goes
>plays board games with her family
>her brother wants to go shooting with my friend
>he's down
>she begs to come along

lol we're just friends but good impersonation

2008 called.

Who the hell cares, this story is boring, improve it faggot.

Continuing...

>they end up telling her no and she throws a tantrum
>she calls him later saying she's suicidal
>he tells her he has to go
>asks her how long she wants him on the phone
>she screams "FOREVER"

>later
>she's drunk driving again
>friend drives her home
>helps her into bed
>she climbs on top of him
>says he can't leave
>she's super drunk so he sneaks away from her but the experience made him upset

>calls friend up saying she wants to know if he's going to the trial because she's having nightmares about it and her tarot cards say bad things are coming
>he asks her if she believes this
>she says "tarot don't lie, man"
>says she's in a nearby city
>says Kyle won't pick her up
>implying she wants my friend to drive two to three hours to pick her up
That's it so far. TLDR: Borderlines suck.

Borderline detected.

Kill yourself bpd cunt. no one wants you here

Absolutely not. My best friend dated one. She faked suicide, would threaten to kill herself all the time, faked an abortion and raped him.

It isn't "mood swings", it's a sudden shift in how they view you. Do anything they don't like, and suddenly you're an intolerable piece of shit, who deserves to die. She'll then kick your sorry ass to the curb and never look back, telling stories about how you're just another one of her loser ex's to the next beta she traps.

You can't handle it. You can't change her. She is mentally ill. You are trying to take advantage of a sick girl because you're shitty.

They aren't even worth sticking your dick in and dumping a week later
>never stick your dick in crazy

That's not BPD
BPD girls are about the most unfaithful there is. Almost guaranteed to cheat on you (she won't even know why) and even when she gets caught and either threatens to kill herself with great exuberance or gets super apologetic and loving she will still cheat again soon after.

Chiming in here to confirm.

Dated a diagnosed BPD girl for 2.5 years. Be prepared for constant problems -- and guess who's going to have to take care of them all? I've lost track of how many times I had to intervene in various aspects of her life because her natural tendency was to essentially destroy all relationships. It will affect you.

In time, you'll realize that you're not really a partner to this woman, you're her carer. Are you prepared to sacrifice your own life so that you can try to add some stability to hers? I fell in love unfortunately, but even that was not enough after trauma after trauma piled up. My greatest fear was that she'd kill herself if I left -- thankfully that did not happen, but the threats lingered throughout the relationship (hence why it lasted so long).

It's a path I would not advise anyone to go down. In some ways I think someone with BPD needs to be with someone else with the same diagnosis. How else could one truly understand them?

That said -- every person is different. But if you do proceed, do so with your guard raised.

This
My mom was a BPD bitch and she quite literally destroyed the family with her bullshit. I can actually sit back and think of lives destroyed as a direct result of her, my life included.
For 30 what yeard I watched my dad bust his ass and work himself ragged trying to make her happy and at the end of the 10 hour work day and 6 hours of work around the house after waging all she could do was call him lazy for finally calling it quits in the an hour before bed.

I've had mere crushes on bipolar girls, who I've gotten close to and who ended up rejecting me (and I subsequently dropped contact with them), and even that has fucked me up for over a year after. I can't imagine how badly it could fuck you up if you actually dated one and had extended exposure to her. It's probably not a good idea user.

I feel like two bipolar people dating is a double suicide/murder-suicide waiting to happen.

No it's not fucking worth it, anyone who suggests otherwise is memeing

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off topic but have you ever noticed that whenever someone from r9k is presented with a gf opportunity their last gasp is always to be obviously and profoundly shallow before they like pull their socks up and deal with what they're actually being given vs. what they seem to think that they deserve?

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This shit right here.

I dated one, she fucking cut open her arm with a kitchen knife because her dad told her to empty a cat litter box.

Just flies off the handle. Basically a lost cause. She's dating a dude now. I legit pray for him, because he doesn't know what he's in for. They love you till they don't then it's WW3

It's worth it ONLY if you are willing to totally give up on yourself and everything you have going on in your life, seriously. I love my girlfriend very much, but, a lot of what people say about bpd girls is entirely true and not exaggeration.

>has lost and/or quit 5 jobs due to having psychotic blowouts at work or just walking out when she gets too angry, leaving me to pay all the bills
>like clockwork, starts an argument over absolutely nothing every Friday night and gets madder if I just try to wait it out rather than indulging it, so I have to pretend to argue back even though I don't care at all and I know she'll be fine in the morning.
>doesn't let me have friends because she doesn't trust people and has no friends of her own
>refuses to take responsibility for anything and will go into a nightmare mode berserk rage (including hitting me) if I suggest that anything is even slightly her fault
>The things which make her mad and the things she likes fluctuates from day to day, literally no way to predict how I need to act to keep her from snapping

I've cut myself because of her, which is something I would absolutely never consider doing before I met her. The idea of her getting mad fills me with a deep sense of dread that's hard to describe, and her getting angry is 100% inevitable. It happens suddenly and over nothing and lasts for hours until I can get her sedated with weed/alcohol, at which point she just kinda vegetates and then is fine in the morning and acts like nothing ever happened. I've become completely alienated from my family because of her, because after the way she acted in front of them a few times they don't want her around and I'm not allowed to go anywhere without her. She has threatened to kill me and herself if I ever left her, and I completely believe that she would.

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Im sort of mad at your friend for being a little too nice,but I can understand it.
Cool guy

no one deserves someone with bpd,be it a guy or a girl,shit is absolutely hellish

Oh, as an addendum to this

>got convinced by her to creampie her while I was drunk
>she missed her period
>Is now talking about having a baby 24/7

Looks like I've managed to ruin someone else's life besides my own

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No. Not even for a "quick fuck" as the normies say. I've never had casual sex with one but my only gf ever was BPD and she cucked me and almost ruined my life. Also you won't be able to get another gf because anyone else will seem fake and boring.

Hell no OP. Somebody should be alerting everybody from kids to adults about these people. Will ruin lives every day. Why people do not know about how dangerous they are?

Everyone who is curious about dating a BPD psycho should watch Dear Zachary.

>old BPD hoe latches onto beta doctor
>so clingy she rules every aspect of his life
>he stays in an ldr
>breaks up with her, puts her on a plane
>bitch drives 16 hours and murders him
I can't spoil the rest but the bitch decimated a bloodline and traumatized all his friends and family and the whole province of Newfoundland.

They do stuff like that but how many people know about it and how dangerous they are? Why is it secret?

Can confirm. I never fucked my BPD exes though because I got respect for a nigga. He's sitting there wondering where this bitch is and she's out here trying to get me drunk. I don't play that shit.

>comes back apologizing hoping you dont hate her
Cute

Because the legal systems still favor women. They can do no wrong according to them. "It's always the man's fault."

The BPD bitch in Dear Zachary served less than 2 months for murder because the court decided she wasn't a threat to society even though she drove 16 hours just to murder her bf. Her beta orbiter psychiatrist also paid her bail and forged shit to downplay her craziness.

I've been there and let me tell you it is still possible to get out. I'm separated parenting right now with a bpd and if there's one piece of advice I can give you it's do not skimp on the lawyer when the time comes, and trust them, not your gf. It's worth it for the kid.

Nah there's men with BPD too and also are dangerous. Why is it secret? It isn't cause of gender.

I am a girl with bpd (inb4 tits, ur not real, etc) If you want to be obsessed over then do it, if you hate possessiveness then DO NOT. Girls with bpd are fucking nuts on the inside. I have fallen in love with someone who has hurt me deeply. (their gf told them lies abt me that made them break up with me. Fucking ex also told the lies to my friends and they left me and so did everyone else I liked. Everybody hated me and I was alone for over a year.. This all happened over the course of two days and there was a lot of other bs too.That kind of shit takes a toll on you) its been a year and ive finally gotten them to talk to me, apologize, leave the the bitch who told them lies about me, and now we're dating. My master plan is to marry them and rope them into something they cannot get out of so I can emotionally torture them for the rest of their life or until im satisfied. I will not do this if they give me what I want though, but I KNOW they wont so for now I find comfort in knowing their soul will be mine in time.. So uh, yea. No matter what you do don't betray girls with bpd.

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Men with BPD are mostly just assholes who are almost always alone because people don't give men throwing BPD red flags a chance.

Ex 1:

>slit her wrist, constant er for opiods
>had butchered her wrists with some creepy drug fueled sex escapade with her cousin before i met her, deep scars
>hated my family for no reason, now swears she loved them
>had a creepy imaginary friend like lestat from Anne Rice novels
>a gay super vampire so she always had some one upmanship story of some wild thing he did more exciting or edgy than any conversation at hand
>one night while driving around midnight she swiveled her head to me and started speaking in his voice
>fucked some guy in canada she met off an mmo because he had a smaller dick (claimed I hurt her)
>fucked her ex while visiting her mom, pissed her mom off mightily

Ex 2:
>a supermodel in her mind, she was 10/10 enough to get occasional smaller magazine shots and some calendars
>fired from nursing, though she was good in school, perhaps drugs damaged her brain
>fucked guys across town behind my back for drugs I am now sure of
>made out with a girl in front of me in the gym, invited her home and got on webcam w/her
>she spun it as a gift, but actually it was a tactic to use as guilt leverage on me "oh you just want to fuck girls in front of me" this made it ok for her to trade sex for drugs behind my back I suppose
>invited a dude into my house who pulled an AR-15 on me
>her dog died a week after splitting from me(I got a restraining order) because she would let it run into the road in a drug stupor
>she was jailed recently for driving around w/drugs, 3rd drug related offense, I paid lawyers to defend her 2nd which wwas a dui

I'm not making any of this up in the slightest. Yeah, I'm that guy with a savior complex. Stay the fuck away from them.

>if they give me what I want

What do you want?

be my very original gf?

That's so wrong. Tell that to Pete Davidson lol. But srsly dudes with BPD are exciting and fun and get women like the chicks get dudes. Tell me why this stuff is secret. It isn't cause of gender man.

Yeah, I can't take you seriously because of how....

You're a sap and a cuck and I want to punch you in the mouth.

>but I can probably handle it.
This is where most people fuck up. You can handle it, but eventually you'll see other couples where the guy doesn't have to "handle it" and he's genuinely happy, then you wonder why the fuck you're with this chick. You don't get time off from the "handle it". It never stops. It's not worth it - you're gonna die some day, why waste time with somebody who is perpetually miserable?

Knowing the shape and age of most of r9k I could end you though, fellow kid.

I get it though, but trust me what I've been through was lesson enough.

How do we stop the BPD menace? Extermination, Reeducation, or Arbeit Macht Frei?

Because of what? It is a srs question dude. Why can someone ruin a whole province but people have got no clue about this thing?

Undivided attention. I hate how they're fucking polyamorous. They always favor someone over me and it pisses me off to no end. I want to matter to them as much as they matter to me but I know that'll never happen..

Soon as you get their undivided attention you won't want it anymore and you'll start looking at others yourself.

Because she wasn't famous, Newfoundland is irrelevant with a small population, it was swept off as another "crime of passion", it was a long-ass time ago, people are too fucking lazy and apathetic to look at BPD crime stats, what else do you want, faggot? God damn. It's also not a goddamn secret if they produced a whole documentary about it.

u sure you have bpd? You just sound normal, just vengeful and lonely. Do you want them to not have friends or some crazy shit or do you just wanna be their one and only lover?

I kinda like Trump, as he's the only one to ever mention the opioid menace. I wonder how much BPD is BPD alone and how much is exacerbated by drugs.

I had their undivided attention once actually. It went on for about two months and it was lovely.. until someone else just had to come along...

Nah man I don't mean just that one but all the BPD. They are that dangerous but nobody knows.

As stated, women are forgiven much easier than men.
So no one cared because a lot of people probably thought she was somehow justified (more to the story when a woman does it) and written off as a crime of passion, as thus type of thing often is.

God fuck no wonder you're a mess. It's like you're getting cheated on but there's nothing you can do about it.

Pretty sure BPD comes before the drugs and even the most sober BPD female is still toxic as all fuck, trust me.

Not just that one but all BPD and it is men who have BPD too. Stop making it gender dude.

For sure. Most of them had some really bad stuff happen very young, a long time before any drugs.

Are you denying there are differences in gender?
Are you saying that (IN GENERAL) men and women behave the same way?
Dumbass
Obviously both genders can have BPD but the way it makes men and women act is significantly different because the genders are different to begin with.
The fact that women are GENERALLY more emotional is what makes a woman with BPD that much worse than a man with BPD.

OMFG man, can you let the gender stuff go. The question's why nobody knows about this shit. The reason is not cause of gender. OMFG can you just answer or if you don't know say you don't and let someone else answer.

this thread isn't about bipolar, it's about borderline personality.

Glad everyone has woke up about this personality disorder. I remember trying to explain to bots in like 2009 in their breakup threads but no one was having it.

most broken family/evil mother/thot stories that make you think 'how can someone just be like that and feel nothing' are usually bpd.

no matter what you do you cannot and are not and will never be tooled to handle this disorder and by its very nature you make it worse by trying to get closer or help, it's extremely, extremely treatment resistant.

>Glad everyone has woke up about this personality disorder

If by everyone you mean a tiny fraction of people on a fraction of a message board. Almost nobody gets this shit. It's scary.

BPD always do this, look at this post.

The first things they always tell you is how someone else made a victim out of them. They're always a victim of love, or a victim of others, that's how they get you, so you try to save them, but the truth is they're always a victim because they're always attacking others and ending up alone in the end. It's the reflex of the illness.

They always tell you what you want to hear, that you're the desired one, that they're the victim, etc. It's always emotionally charged language but no specifics, no substance.

Are you fucking baiting? People have given you several legitimate answers. Women are 100x more caustic with this shit, but society gives women a pass as they do with most everything.

Eat shit if you can't handle the truth. Don't come to Jow Forums if you can't handle simple truths.

bpdfamily.com/content/how-borderline-relationship-evolves

At first, a Borderline female (or male) may appear sweet, shy, vulnerable and "ambivalently in need of being rescued"; looking for her Knight in Shining Armor. In the beginning, you will feel a rapidly accelerating sense of compassion because she portrays herself as the "victim of love" and you are saving her. But listen closely to how she sees herself as a victim. As her emotions advance upon you, you will hear how no one understands her - except you. Other people have been "insensitive." She has been betrayed, just when she starts trusting people. But there is something "special" about you, because "you really seem to know her".

It is this intense way she has of bearing down on you emotionally that can feel very seductive. You will feel elevated, adored, idealized - almost worshipped, maybe even to the level of being uncomfortable -- and you will feel that way quickly. It may seem like a great deal has happened between the two of you in a short period of time as the conversation is intense, and her attention, and her eyes are always so deeply focused on you. Here is a woman who may look like a dream come true. She not only seems to make you the center of her attention, but she even craves listening to your opinions, thoughts and ideas. It will seem like you have really found your heart's desire.

Like many things that seem too good to be true, this is. This is borderline personality disorder idealization.

Why can't they get over it like everyone else? How come women from shithole countries don't get BPD? I think it's just yet another thing that happens to sheltered, mentally weak people. Like the japanese who get ridiculous shit like Paris Syndrome.

That is not the correct answer. Anyone know the real answer why this shit is so secret?

they do, it just comes out different

the problem is that to get over something you usually need an emotional facility within yourself that functions well enough to develop yourself in such a way that you advance past a complex or an issue

imagine if that facility itself was damaged

where would you even start?

But everyone else doesn't. I mean you have soldiers committing suicide every day from bad stuff they've had happen.

>That is not the correct answer

The fuck it isn't, as I said, eat shit.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_are_wonderful_effect

>Are bpd gfs worth it bros?
There's the question
The question was gendered and the answer I have given you is also gendered.

Men with BPD are are mostly just seen as assholes. Dicks. Douchebags. Etc.
Sorry but most guys with BPD don't get much worse than that (in general)

Listen you stupid retard. I am not arguing about what you say about women. I am arguing that is not why this BPD shit is secret.

>where would you even start?
From the very bottom. Like everyone else who has ever gotten over bad shit.