So called "banter" is just hurting someones honor, disrespecting him heavily and if you fight back they say "LAMO bruh that's just banter" "Stop being a whiny bitch"
ESPECIALLY women when they try to fit in they just blatantly insult the weakest member of the circle and if he fights back, suddenly the group becomes her orbiting circle and shits on you.
Back then you were forced to do that tiresome shit because you would die without a gathered community. Now the state pretty much provides everything so you don't need to suffer through that bullshit.
Why the fuck are you even trying to fit in a normie circle? They are shallow and boring Make your own community
James Foster
learn to fight back with some tact. trust me it goes a long way, famalam.
Levi Ross
That's really sad to hear, OP. Me and my friends have great banter, truly enjoyable rips on each other.
I don't have any female friends though.
Jace Walker
I just wonder how this dynamic works for anyone. Especially if you are together with a group for longer periods they just drag out stuff you said in the past randomly and godwin laws your ass.
Carson Walker
It's like a game but at the same time it's not. Feels like a social status battle under the guise of joking around.I have fought back before but I'm always hesitant to. It's like if I start going back and forth with them it won't take long before it gets too real and I'm gonna get sort of beat into submission because it's so easy to roast me. Like they're gonna bring up something that I really can't argue with. I'm a loser and probably most awkward person on the planet. There's no winning for me and I think everybody knows that.
David Wood
>So called "banter" is just hurting someones honor, disrespecting him heavily and if you fight back they say "LAMO bruh that's just banter" "Stop being a whiny bitch"
Yesterday I was really depressed because of a myriad of things (being fired, not getting into grad school, getting bed bugs because of an abusive roastie roommate) and I told my friends and they started laughing at me. So I got reslly desperate for attention and started saying things like that I should drop out, there's no point being alive, etc. and they all basically went "yeah lol do it faggot". So I actually made death threats and they told me to sober up.
Thing is, I genuinely don't mind banter and think that people would benefit from not taking themselves so seriously. What sucks though is that it's rarely equal - it's usually one person being shit on while everyone else laughs. And if said shit-on-person says anything moderately funny suddenly it becomes "offensive" and "mean".
My friends seem to thing just straight up insulting me is okay. I saw a guy I liked and asked my best friend if she thought he was in my league and she said "no". I told this friend about a guy I like and she said "yeah be definitely doesn't like you, sounds pretty abysmal to be honest, but at least you can stop orbiting him" with the inplication she was the one inconvenienced by my crush. Another friend literally went on about how "you're wearing a tent" while singing circus music because I wore a maternity shirt to draw attention away from my tummy. Like I said before, these people can't handle when the jokes on them, so when I joked about his mom being fat he got mad because "dude my mom has diabetes and she can't move that's not okay to joke about". Same friend makes jokes about my grandfather's dementia. Another friend always makes Holocaust jokes to me because my family is Polish / Jewish but I make a single "poo in the loo" joke and he starts whining about "white feminists" who mock race. Apparently the Holocaust is funny (it is) but Indians shitting in the street and worshipping toilets is not.
In black and brown neighborhoods, we take banter to the next level and slapbox. Teasing and playfighting is part of being a man. If you can't joke back, you're seen as weak. Then the "banter" may become genuine disrespect.
Nathaniel Rogers
Yea, you are just cannon fodder for them. They see you as lower specimen, thats why they think they can insult you all day and any sign of defense from your side would put them in the wrong light amongst their peers.
