Ask a woman anything

My labia are fine.

>Would a woman ever date a man that is less intelligent than her?
Considering that estimating intelligence is difficult, I'd imagine so. Difficult to differentiate personality traits from intelligence, usually. If the woman perceives the man as not her equal, it may be difficult, regardless of actual intelligence.

What matters more is whether the two can spend hours talking together and never get bored.

I don't have any formal decision about it, but I have never dated someone who wasn't "white". It's not a thought out thing, it's just that I find myself more attracted to people of my own group, I imagine.

Why do you speak evasively and cryptically, in a feigned detached manner, like buggy AI? Is that just standard therapist fare?

If there's something you didn't understand, tell me what and I'll rephrase.

Do you have small tits, do you get jealous of the size of other girls tits?

I'm generally slim, so I have breasts that match. I'm quite pleased with them and would not want bigger ones, so no, I don't feel jealous of girls with more massive breasts.

Kek'd. Probably just intp talk

So you do have meat flaps then. Are they light or dark? Do they dangle much? Do you get jealous of innie pussies?

Every woman has labia. Some are more visible than others. That's as far as I'll tell you on that topic. Moving on.

How do I know how attractive I am?
Two days ago you said to approach people in your league paraphrasing. If I have to ask, Im sure the answer is Im not attractive, but how can I ballpark it? You have also repeatedly endorsed online dating. I have had zero luck with that. How do I make a compelling profile? I also dont have any pictures of myself less than 2 years old. Is that a problem?

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>How do I know how attractive I am?
As attractive as you see, but beware of biases. Get a professional haircut and trust them on what would suit you best, with regards to the shape of your face and everything.

>Two days ago you said to approach people in your league paraphrasing.
Did I? If you're concerned about your looks, you may decide to approach people you consider not to be attractive; I may have said something like this, but mostly for practice and experience. Don't ask anyone if you're attractive. I could tell you if you posted a picture, though. But I don't assume you would.

>How do I make a compelling profile?
See what Google has to say about that; otherwise, drop some interesting facts about yourself but don't try too hard. Don't write massive loads of information as it would come across as desperate. Mention some interests, some hobbies, general info on you. Nothing grandiose.

>I also dont have any pictures of myself less than 2 years old. Is that a problem?
Get some new ones if you have changed a lot.

You said yesterday that a boyfriend should never try and be a girls therapist but thats a perfectly natural thing for a guy to try to be, so what the best way to deal wit ha girl who potentially has issues regarding her appearance, depression etc?
Men want to fix things and especially in situations where they may have some experience, often a close outsider can see things the girl may not, should a man not try and address these at all?

got any advice for a backwoods hick like me?

You can of course help, but you are not a therapist, and it would not be beneficial for either of the people. If the girl thinks she can skip a therapist because she has a supportive boyfriend, that would be an issue. You may also sabotage the relationship by getting it off balance with one of the two being the other's assumed support for extended periods of time.

It's natural to help your partner, but you cannot and shouldn't attempt to be their therapist of sorts, as this would have consequences and might cost you the whole relationship.

Advice about what?

just life in general
also how do i get a gf

>also how do i get a gf
What have you tried so far?

ITT: people asking a woman how to get a gf, well yall are fucking retarded init

absolutely nothing because i live in a swamp in the middle of fucking nowhere

Find out what the best dating websites are in your area and start there. If someone's interested, you can't be more than a few hours away from a town, right?

How do I stop the dissapointment I feel?

- you capitalise on the positive results of what you do
- you discard negative outcomes as just part of the process
- when good things happen, you highlight your part in it
- when bad things happen, you don't single yourself out for responsibility

Also, you work on your self-esteem issues, which are likely why you feel disappointed. Plan things, reach goals, no matter how small. This is the road to success.

There are people who use this board on a regular basis who are more intuitive and intelligent than you, who can draw upon a different range of experience, who very often disagree with some of your advice (ie the role of online dating, inter-gender friendships etc).

How do you reconcile your self assumed position of authority in creating these threads, dishing out advice to potentially vulnerable people, when faced with those you can not simply dismiss out of hand as being biased by irrational bigotry or overly influenced by imagined scenarios that have no bearing on reality?
A less personally offensive way of putting that; when looking for a therapist, what are some red flags that a patient can look out for early in deciding to continue with a therapist, who seems to be living on another planet to them in terms of experience and ability, before any long term damage is done by the patient taking on advice that is not suitable for them?

High IQ post. Enjoy the flowery non-answer you'll get.

>There are people who use this board on a regular basis who are more intuitive and intelligent than you, who can draw upon a different range of experience, who very often disagree with some of your advice (ie the role of online dating, inter-gender friendships etc).
That's quite the assumption. You are free to make it but it doesn't lead me to give you much credit for it. In fact, there aren't often anons who disagree and argue the case beyond ad homimens and tantrums. If you'd like to pick a topic and disagree with my advice, go ahead.

>dishing out advice to potentially vulnerable people,
That's what my job is about 8 hours a day or more.

>when faced with those you can not simply dismiss out of hand as being biased by irrational bigotry or overly influenced by imagined scenarios that have no bearing on reality?
So the question is how do I reconcile my position of authority with people I can't dismiss? I don't need to dismiss anyone. I'm not sure what you're trying to ask.

>A less personally offensive way of putting that; when looking for a therapist, what are some red flags that a patient can look out for early in deciding to continue with a therapist, who seems to be living on another planet to them in terms of experience and ability, before any long term damage is done by the patient taking on advice that is not suitable for them?
For some reason, and this comes up often, there's a belief that a therapist can do serious damage, as though they were a brain surgeon. Therapy isn't brain surgery and it would take a particularly bad therapist to do serious damage; in most cases, you'll be nonplussed, frustrated, and feel like you're wasting your time, but you'll rarely, if ever, get a therapist who "does damage". This is much more likely to happen with a psychiatrist if you are given heavy medication for something you don't actually have.

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What are your thoughts on noggers

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Red flags with new therapists: sense of unease, sense of being judged, personal comments, therapist speaks more about them than you, etc.

youtu.be/9FiVVAOXiEQ

This channel might be helpful.

>before any long term damage is done by the patient taking on advice that is not suitable for them?
That's very extreme. Just because the advice comes from a therapist doesn't make it more lethal than advice from your parents or friends.

Is it possible to change your personality? Or am I stuck with the one I was born with?

High IQ's typically don't fuck up their paragraphs and know how to use a semi-colon, but nice same-fagging.

If you mean in America, I only know one. That one is an especially bright person and his living conditions are tough. Otherwise I know very few black people. No noticeable differences from any other person I know.

You can improve, evolve, yes. As you get better, you become yourself more, as you are less limited and more free to express yourself and go for what you want.

>Or am I stuck with the one I was born with?
Additionally, you aren't born with a personality, this develops in time and will vary radically depending on your environment and how you react to it.

What are you insecure about?orig

Yeah I have a question...

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>samefagging.
Low IQ post.

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>thinking that a picture like this is proof of anything
>doesn't know about Paint
>thinks he can tells IQ's
First chuckle in this thread. Second chuckle was when you took my comment literally.

>as if anyone can prove or disprove same-fagging and that the accusation isn't done strictly to trigger your ass

Lurk more.

>but nice same-fagging.
I didnt write the 'high iq' one line post, I've made one post before this one itt, I did write the longer post you replied to in parts but I'm not surprised youve now written this.
As instead of admitting that perhaps you dont have all the answers, you looked for an opportunity to use a catch-all dismissal like 'same fagging' to invalidate any of the legitimate points raised regarding the role of personal experience versus a therapists appeal to authority. I've seen you do this with other anons who have made slightly derogatory posts about women, about other races, about politics etc. The moment they cross one of these lines for you, they are instantly dismissed, with no consideration at all given to their own personal experience and potentially greater intuition on a subject than you have, as opening the door to questioning one of your edicts opens the door to the route all of your principles being questioned.

I've seen you do this multiple times on other topics, mainly with the consistent recommendation of anons entering the online dating (> If you'd like to pick a topic and disagree with my advice, go ahead.) world and their being honest from the outset filtering out the many women who have no interest in them.

Rather than run around in circles cutting and pasting posts forever, I'm curious if you would be willing to actually start an online dating profile as somebody you consider to be the average person here, in looks, personality, life experience and being honest about every detail, then posting the results? You may well have already done this privately, maybe youre consistent recommendation that anons throw themselves to the wolves is something youve seen your irl clients have success with and are basing the recommendation from but it would be interesting to see how you would present yourself online assuming the identity of an average user and what lessons you/we could all learn from the exercise?
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Oh hey, its you again, is this gonna be a daily thing? Dont you have work?

This apparently harmless and throwaway advice can have a genuine long term impact on an anons personal well being, as on those platforms women have a protective barrier of confidence that opens them up to being more judgemental and often cruel, while at the same time exaggerating the perceived availability of women by potentially vulnerable men with attachment issues, borne from a lifetime of loneliness. A few words on a screen can scar oneof these men for years, theres threads everyday about men still thining about past online conversations, e-girls and them falling into the trap of orbiting, online dating isnt going to be free of consequence for those who try it and fail.

is P=NP??? Answer this question immediately.

How do I ascend from NEETdom and depression when I literally can't leave my room 20 hours a day.

I am pretty sure user meant naggers...

Do you mean to say that, for example, an extremely introverted person could "evolve" into an extroverted person?
Certain personality and character traits, like one's compassion and resolve, I understand could improve in a fairly linear way, where they develop or strengthen over time due to experiences and effort.
But some, I feel, are a bit less objective, and there isn't really a straight path of improvement. Some people just have distinct personalities, as in, "that's just the way they are," would apply to them. I know that the Myers-Briggs-esque personality types aren't exactly scientific or regarded highly, but a psychology professor of mine was under the impression that you were born with a specific personality type which would remain with you forever and never change.
Are you proposing that, with time and a change in environment, one could completely rewrite their personality? (i.e. go from a complete social failure sperg to a well adjusted normie?)

I know how to turn my life around, or at least make it better. I can't. Is it laziness or lack of will?

>I didnt write the 'high iq' one line post, I've made one post before this one itt, I did write the longer post you replied to in parts but I'm not surprised youve now written this.
>As instead of admitting that perhaps you dont have all the answers, you looked for an opportunity to use a catch-all dismissal like 'same fagging'
Don't take it so seriously. Besides, I wasn't responding to you there, and yes, I'm aware there's no same-fagging going on. I always respond in line with the poster says, so if it's silly shit-talking, that's what I give back as well, and I haven't responded to you this way.

>the role of personal experience versus a therapists appeal to authority.
Appeal to authority would be something like, "What I say is right because experts say so," not to be confused with the logical fallacy of the same name, which is about appealing to an authority in another domain to act as one in the domain in question, as in, "Einstein's favourite painter is so-and-so" or something of the sort.

>The moment they cross one of these lines for you, they are instantly dismissed,
I don't take trolling seriously, and after a point, it is obvious when someone is arguing in good faith or not. I have no time to waste with clowns.

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>mainly with the consistent recommendation of anons entering the online dating
Considering the anons who post here typically don't go out much and clubs and bars and other places where people meet while being open to romantic ventures aren't user's typical place to go, online dating seems ideal. If you have a better suggestion, go right ahead.

>I'm curious if you would be willing to actually start an online dating profile as somebody you consider to be the average person here, in looks, personality, life experience and being honest about every detail, then posting the results?
What would be the point of that? Also, being honest about "every detail" is not sound advice. Nobody discloses everything right away. You start with the good, then as you learn to know each other, you gradually open up. The relationship needs to be advanced enough that it can take it.

>You may well have already done this privately, maybe youre consistent recommendation that anons throw themselves to the wolves
Joining a website isn't to throw oneself to the wolves and it shouldn't be seen that way. Everyone else is in the same "predicament" if it is one.

>it would be interesting to see how you would present yourself online assuming the identity of an average user and what lessons you/we could all learn from the exercise?
What makes you think I have no idea what this is like? Being a woman doesn't mean everything is easy when it comes to dating and relationships, if that's the bias you're working from.

It's evening. I don't work in the evenings. It won't be a daily thing as my schedule will get very busy very soon.

I'll wait for your superior suggestion.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/P_versus_NP_problem

Start small. Get busy. Plan some projects and get through with them. It can be as simple as a walk. If you're more motivated, you can take up working out. Any projects in mind that you could work towards?

How do I make money as someone with no skill or previous experience in an environment where I cant study and there are no jobs available (middle of recession)

>Do you mean to say that, for example, an extremely introverted person could "evolve" into an extroverted person?
Yes. That was my own case. I now tend to believe that introverted people are merely people who suffer from a degree of social anxiety and can't, therefore, enjoy company the normal way, but as soon as they get comfortable with the presence of others, they can benefit from them the same way extroverts do.

>you were born with a specific personality type which would remain with you forever and never change.
I would agree with that when it comes to personality disorders that involve a major difference from the general population, like antisocial personality disorder, schizoid, schizotypal and some of the others. But I'm not so sure they are "personality" so to speak. They're disorders.

>Are you proposing that, with time and a change in environment, one could completely rewrite their personality?
I'm not sure phrasing it this way is meaningful. You can change a lot, but still do so based on the same roots. You don't change the past. Is a tree a rewriting of a seed? I wouldn't say so.

>(i.e. go from a complete social failure sperg to a well adjusted normie?)
Yes, 100% certain. Most people who fail socially simply haven't learned how to socialise. Children should be in the company of their peers early on, specifically so they learn to be together. Many parents don't know about this and let their kid live alone for years and years. By the time you go to school, if everyone has socialised and you haven't, you will seem an alien and socialising will be made that much more difficult, as bullying of some sort is likely to ensue to "punish" you for not being social.

>negative outcomes
I keep dwelling on this.

I don't believe in laziness. You probably lack motivation, but there are ways to increase that: break things down into smaller, more approachable bits, and get some done. You need a reward for an effort. Say you want to clean your place: select an area, small enough that you know you can get it done in a day or an afternoon, and get it done. Once it's done, you'll feel a mental reward for having won. Then you repeat that process with another area.

If it's too much, break it down some more.

Acquire skills, acquire experience. Do you have a special interest? I know people who became professionals in a domain they didn't study officially, but for which they had an interest, and they literally made themselves an engineer on the side.

Will you join my discord?

That's part of the problem. Forget negative outcomes. Forget errors, mistakes. It's part of the course. They're only a problem if they stop you or discourage you. Focus on the positive outcomes, what could be, etc. That way you'll be more motivated to do things, to take risks. Try long enough and you'll get there. Don't fall into the trap of expecting bad outcomes and then selecting some bad outcomes (when there are good ones too) to "prove" that you were going to fail all along. Do your best, but beyond that, don't break your own balls. We all fail. Those of us who succeed the most are those who tolerate the most failures as well.

How do I get rid of suicidal thoughts?

>en.wikipedia.org/wiki/P_versus_NP_problem
yeah, I know that you stupid harlot. I asked about if it is the truth or not. Why make an AMA that you can't respond???

What does it mean when your family has no history of depression, you live a good life but still feel like killing yourself? My college grades are good, my family loves me and I have a somewhat thought out career plan but for some reason I feel indifferent and numb to everything around me. Its like I'm stuck in a passive state and I'm letting life pass me by.

Sorry if I didnt phrase this correctly but I hope you understand what I mean.

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I'd rather keep as much distance as possible. I've only had bad experiences on Discord.

:'-) thank you. There may be hope yet

You heal your depression. Any idea why you're depressed?

Something's definitely wrong, but it may not be so obvious. Let's find out.

What are typical activities you and your parents do together? (Or used to do, depending on your age.)

I want to write a book because I think that's the only thing I could do with the infinite time I have but every time I stop to try I get super depressed and want to sleep, so I go sleep.

dude, can you shut the fuck up please?

There is always hope.

If you mean fiction, you'd do well to read a few books on writing, as that would make you feel more armed for the task. I'd also advise not starting with a book-length story, but a short story. Work with manageable units and increase progressively.

How to hypnotize a woman into a doll?

I've done NaNoWriMo (it's a book writing thing) every year for 6 years but hated all of it. I just can't get past being depressed and sleeping all the time. Literally. All. The. Time. My mom pays the bills and I just stay in my room. All. The. Time.

does the guy have to initiate kissing and sex and everything once there is dating happening? and if he doesn't, will the girl tell all her lady friends how clueless he is and they will all laugh at him and dump him?

>What would be the point of that?
If youre going to be giving people advice on a regular basis, do you not think it would be wise to have some first hand experience of the realities of that advice?

>online dating seems ideal.
Again, online dating website both exaggerate the availability of single women to lonely anons who can get easily attached with wild imaginations, while inversely increasing the perception among female users that they are in high enough demand that they can be cruel to people they would otherwise be reasonable and polite to on another platform. Its about the worst place to can recommend some anons go to, yet you throw the advice around flippantly with no care for their well being.

>Being a woman doesn't mean everything is easy when it comes to dating and relationships
Its statistically proven to be the case online, the place youre recommending shut-ins delve in to, we dont need to theorize anything on that front.

>If you have a better suggestion, go right ahead.
Forget the old adage about there being 'somebody out there for everyone', its a hollywood myth, its a combination of cope and hopium, it sells but its not true and hasnt been at any point in human history.
During the healthiest and most optimistic times in our past, a huge % of the population never found partners or had families of their own, even during the 50s that were prosperous enough for the common man to spawn the baby boom, as much as 25% of the population stayed single throughout their lives. We can go visit these people now in their care homes where they are quietly dying all on their own with no family, its millions and millions of people. For todays robots, it only feels like a new problem because of the concentrating effect websites like this have, in the past shutins would never know each other existed.
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So the better suggestion would be to have anons focus on other areas of their life initially, even if user thinks their loneliness can only be cured by a relationship with a woman, as not all of them were ever going to find somebody regardless of what they tried and nor would they ever be fulfilled or happy by somehow achieving what they think they want. Even if the reasons for their isolation boils down to things that can be worked on through therapy, like addressing their past, its possible that the scars have already ran so deep that prolonging their quest for a gf is totally futile.
How that would play out in realistic advice would be the old cookie cutter hobbys, trying to make friends instead of girlfriends, trying to find other areas they can focus all of their energy on besides constantly punishing themselves for something they were never likely to have in the first place. IF in time things change or they come out as a person capable of a relationship, then they can go into the deep dark woods of online dating, they have to get to the point where its not the focus of their entire being before being able to withstand the excessive failing.

That's not how hypnosis works. You can't hypnotise someone against their will (and if you could, you shouldn't, obviously). Why do you feel the need to deprive a woman of her free will?

That's some severe depression. Have you seen a therapist about it? Do you have any responsibilities in your home, any chores that you do?

>does the guy have to initiate kissing and sex and everything once there is dating happening?
It will depend every time, there are no rules. The best way is to follow naturally. Look for signs and act accordingly, don't worry too much.

>and if he doesn't, will the girl tell all her lady friends how clueless he is and they will all laugh at him and dump him?
A girl who'd do that isn't a girl you want to be with. In my experience, this doesn't happen. Women are likely to mock a man who misbehaved, but a man who has no experience isn't seen as a negative. Most women I know would be happy to teach.

>If youre going to be giving people advice on a regular basis, do you not think it would be wise to have some first hand experience of the realities of that advice?
You're assuming I don't have first hand experience. Your mistake, your assumption.

Why won't anyone respond to my job applications?

>its possible that the scars have already ran so deep that prolonging their quest for a gf is totally futile.
Senseless.

Your posts are intent on confirming your own ideas and fears, but no serious sources confirm any of this drivel.

It started 10 years ago. I felt isolated in highschool.

Have you studied how to apply to a job in your country before writing your application? Is it up to the par? Have you had your documents proofread by others?

I take out the garbage that's about it. Bring groceries inside when we go to the store. Fuck it I'll try the fuck again.

>I felt isolated in highschool.
Were you? Do your parents have a circle of good friends? Do you?

Have you ever had your ass eaten by a guy?

How come only older womem that are less attractive, and girls that have boyfriends seem interested, but young single cute girls literally ignore that I'm alive?

Yes. And I'm perfectly qualified for all the jobs I apply for.

>You're assuming I don't have first hand experience. Your mistake, your assumption.
Youre assuming that both men and women have identical experiences in the online dating world, when they very obviously dont.

You creating an online profile of who you consider the average depressed user to be, even glossing over the worst of their experience and negative traits, would give you a true window into what faces the many people you dish out the online dating advice too.
Who knows maybe youll get every detail spot on (ie average height, maybe slightly overweight, maybe unemployed etc) and still find some "success" or maybe you'll learn something you thought you knew.

You obviously have experience with clubs or bars, as you know the sort of people who have a good time there and know instinctively that these places are no good for robots, so if you saw a post from somebody on here who was clearly about 16 and had never been to a club in their life giving others advice like 'dude just try a club or something, theres loads of women there', you would probably say your piece correcting the 16 year old that they have no idea what they are talking about.
When it comes to online dating as a lonely, depressed, often unattractive and maybe slightly older 25+ male, you are the 16 year old telling people what to do with no experience.

I'd recommend increasing your tasks, so you can feel like you earn your place in the home. You don't want to be infantilised. It would also be good practice for your own home management later on.

>cleaning
>cooking
>laundry
>pet care
And anything you can think of. You need to get busy to get out of depression.

Is studying or getting a job a possibility for you?

Wouldn't you like to know.

>How come only older womem that are less attractive
They value themselves less than they value you, so they try.

>and girls that have boyfriends seem interested,
Possibly sloots.

>but young single cute girls literally ignore that I'm alive?
They probably think they're in a higher league. It's impossible to tell without knowing you to any degree.

You can always call them up and ask to know what it was that got you rejected, for your own personal information.

>but no serious sources confirm any of this drivel.
Do you need a source that not everyone in the past found the love of their life? That not everyone has somebody out there waiting for them?
I mean you can just google historic marriage rates, even when marriage was the norm and economic/social conditions were such that it was highly advantageous, you might be shocked to see %'s below 100%.

>Youre assuming that both men and women have identical experiences in the online dating world, when they very obviously dont.
I have never assumed that.

Yes I often spent my time alone outside of school sleeping near a fountain. My parents don't have a tight circle of friends. I don't have friends I have a guy that comes over but I wouldn't call him friend.He's always looking for a way to humiliate me and prop himself up.

>Do you need a source that not everyone in the past found the love of their life?
That wasn't even your argument. Your argument was that not everyone reproduced, which is true, but you didn't go into any detail there and merely assumed that they were all some kind of incel, which is preposterous.

>He's always looking for a way to humiliate me and prop himself up.
Then cut that person off. There is no reason to keep negative people around you. They don't help. You have a duty to yourself in such situations.

Can you explain why you were alone at school as a child?

I challenge you to challenge yourself, run a mile in anons shoes, take the time to open an online dating profile with a bloke who is 5'9, slightly over weight, slightly ugly, lonely, possibly lives at home, possibly unemployed, stating that a long term meaningful relationship is their goal.
Send a few women you consider physical and personality matches messages, see how they come back.

You keep assuming way too much. You don't have a clue what my personal experience is, and you believe that because I am a woman, I have no idea what hardship is. That is ridiculous. I challenge you to challenge your assumption that you know so much about a stranger based on a single parameter.

then how can i make her want it?

>user who has never had to worry about rape when dating
Typical autistic man who can't understand anything about being a woman and assumes women have it easy.

t. another woman

PS: OP, you rule.

>then how can i make her want it?
You can't. Rethink your life, my man.