Discuss the emotional and mental impact of wasting your life, why you did it, and share tips on how you cope.
I spent five years in a large, state university and didn’t make one friend, I never spoke to one female. I often went weeks without speaking to anyone. Now I’m just a hollowed out corpse with nothing but regret. I’m obviously still a virgin and have never had a single girl interested in me and have never flirted with one. I have no coping mechanism currently.
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>Wasted Life
>Probably in your 20's
Real talk though let me know if you want to get your life together.
I already do, makes no difference
>regretting wasting your life
wasting my life is the best decision I ever made. I can't wait to immerse myself in another Kotor 2 run. I'm thinking about rolling a darkside female consular this time around.
this general has potential
I've spent 4 years neet since leaving highschool.
>no money or ambition for college
>no friends or lovers
>hobbies that come and go
IMO there is no such thing as a wasted life or all lives are wasted.
Friends or lovers don't cover the despair, productivity is a meme, and hobbies are just ways to pass time.
I don't think my mindset will lead me anywhere nice in the future but I don't regret what i've done yet.
I'm very successful.
I have a gf, am Jow Forums and will have around seven 100% white children.
I like to come here and laugh at you people.
I'm the kind of guy who puts listings of my stuff on a local website for selling things, usually my rare stuff like Limited Edition boxsets of games or manga collections that cost hundreds of dollars and list them for low prices. I get people who want these things, and they message me to negotiate a price and I say "Whoops, forgot to take the ad down, sorry!"
But I'm not sorry. I laugh. Because I have what they want, and I have a good life which you want.
>graduated two months ago
>done absolutely zero since
>post on the chans all day
>play video games
>drink beer alone most nights
>have tons of books I can read
>a gym I can join
>jobs I can apply for
>shit jobs I can actually do in the mean time
>practice guitar which I can actually play pretty well anyway
And yet I do nothing. I have potential to do more and I basically refuse to do anything
ok. I'm 22 and more than a 1 year of being a NEET.I have 1 year until I can do college exams agains and I could probably go into any field I wish to (I'm sorta thinking about doing mathematics or psychology)The thing is, I don't have any motivation to do anything. All I did the past 1 year was read wikipedia pages about books/authors, visit /lit/, annd watch some youtube videos about literally anything. Also I masturbate a lot.I'm literally cumbrain and I don't know what to do. I read 5 self-help books and it didn't change anything. I watched around 20 hours of Jordan Peterson lectures and read 12 Rules for Life and still nothing. I have no friends, live in the basement alone with my mother, I never had any kind of relationship with a girl, I live in a shitty village far from the city, I look like a complete incel.How do I sort myself out? I don't even have the will to sort myself out. I think I'm gonna waste my entire life living like this.
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A lil vid for you while I write up a bigger post.
Anyone here had to become an adult too quickly and lost most of their childhood and the childhood innocence they had and at the same time you weren't able to do anything for years?
This scares me, because this resembles what im on track for
>2nd year into community college
>made only like 1 or 2 friends, who I haven't talked to since last year
>Have never held a gf, ever
I like to learn but uni has sucked out all of my motivation to actually do anything. My energy is directed only at not being an academic failure.
Anime picture = LARP.
You activated my trap card, pathetic robot.
Go to the gym
There has been 3 wojacks posted within 15 posts.
Do you see why your life is shit yet?
lmao you zoomer faggots
step aside...
>34
>never had a kiss
>never had a friend
>never had a job for more than a month
>never had a single conversation online outside r9k or in games
>only ever been in a car twice
>never had more than 8 numbers saved on my phone at one time
>never been to a party
>never been to the beach
>only left my small town of 30k once in my life
"Feelings come before thought"
Interesting. That would explain why I am drawn to reading nihilistic philosophy and books and thinkin' "wow, I think the exact same thing!"
IMO it's a waste if you aren't enjoying it
Unfortunately I'm too fucked in the head to enjoy most things
Alright here's what I got based on the amount of time I have.
Essentially, you gotta start "doing". Like the video mentioned, you don't "get happy" and then do something. There's a lot of theory and spirituality shit I can go into but I'll try to keep it to practical steps since you said you've read some self-help books.
Set in place good habits one by one. It should take AT LEAST a month of maintaining a habit every day before it clicks in to automatic mode. Some good habits: waking up early, meditation, journaling, goal setting, positive affirmations (written and verbal). Weed out your bad habits too. Cut out porn completely, that was a big one for me. You know what your bad habits are, track them the same way you'd track your good habits. One month, every day.
I want you to make a vision board. I used befunky.com
In a year you should have 12 new beneficial habits and gotten rid of some bad habits. The "compound interest" on this is insane.
You're gonna have to socialize man. Start talking to people all the time when you have the chance. Compliment the cashier on something their wearing. Make small talk everywhere. It's going to suck balllllls in the beginning but you have to view each interaction as a win in your book.
Goal setting: Write your short term goals every morning. Reverse engineer a plan to achieve them. Ex: I want to move out - I need to get a job - I need to start applying - I need a resume. Now start on your resume. It can be for just 20 minutes a day, the main thing is doing at least something.
A few tips would be to NEVER compare yourself to anyone but to who you were yesterday. Stay of the social media if you have to. Keep the thoughts positive. Catch your negative self talk. Correct it. Say the opposite out loud if you can.
>30k
>small
get on my level you absolute CHAD
1K PEOPLE
NEVER SEEN LIGHT
NEVER HEARD SOUND
ALL I FEEL IS THE WORMS CRAWLING IN AND OUT OF MY URETHRA BECAUSE ITS THE ONE THING THE PAINKILLERS DONT SUPPRESS
Why is my dad acting like this?
I am 23, finally get an OK job where I can go rent someplace with a rommate
Dad gets aggressive and yells "whats the rush"? Gets all pissed off with me.
This is coming from a man who lived at home until he was 32
What is a nice way to tell him to fuck off?
post pic with your face and timestamp.
I'm sure nobody will recnognize you since oyu have 0 friends.
Just some stuff of the top of my head. Here's the "secret" though OP. You actually gotta do this shit. I've been considering putting together a more polished version of something along the lines of a "Get your shit together" guide. If anybody would be interested in something like that let me know.
Parents don't like it when their kids finally move out. It makes them realize how old they really are. It, much like turning 65 and getting senior benefits, as well as retirement, makes them realize their life is nearing the end and they are at or past the halfway point.
Let him say "What's the rush?"
That, or it seems like you don't like them
Thanks. I should secretly sign a lease or something and then say "bye", or pretend like I am moving in with non existent friends or something.
I do not understand where this conception of wasting your life comes from. What 'waste'? As if anything else could happen? As if life isn't something that you experience rather than something you 'use'? Everything you do in the point of time you're doing it, you do it because you want it in some form. Even if the future you doesn't want it, the present you does. That's why it's silly to project the desires of the present you onto the past you and get angry for not doing things or doing certain things. Or getting angry at the present you for not doing things in the present, even. Just because you consciously think something, it won't change your behavior, because your behavior is heavily affected, if not mostly affected, by your subconscious. And that's not even to say how when your life ends, you won't care if it went well or not because you'll be dead, you won't even realize you were alive because you won't exist. Who gives a shit about what you're 'wasting'? The only reality is the one that happens.
>dropped out of secondary school due to anxiety
>was neet for 5 years
>did one year course on programming
>used it to go to college for a 3 year ordinary bachelors degree
>all jobs here need a 4 year minimum
>did well enough to do an add-on year to get the 4 year degree
>graduated last year
>only a handfull of interviews, most jobs want a year of experience
>fail those interviews from anxiety
>am good at programming but struggle to sell myself
>After this wasted year I'm not a recent graduate anymore so applied for a masters in comp sci
>got accepted but worried it won't improve my chances of getting interviews
>thinking about rejecting the masters and applying for a min wage job in mcdonalds
i need to accept i'll never reach my potential
>What is a nice way to tell him to fuck off?
Move out.
25 now but my life wasnt intentionally wasted. Parents ruined it for me. I wasnt allowed to do anything until I turned 24 last year. Even had a curfew and everything. Wasn't allowed to talk to guys, wasnt allowed to hang out with anyone. Now im so far behind socially that now that im actually out of that situation im just now learning how I missed everything. Never had a boyfriend, never had close friends. I havent experienced anything. And the only reason I got out of that situation was because i left. They dont know where I am at and Im glad.
I honestly wish I could not wake up. I don't have any friends, i wouldn't even know where to start to meet people. I work everyday to maintain my apartment, barely have money to eat. I dont miss them but I miss my sister. I just wish things were different and I left earlier. Im just getting older and older and i still feel trapped in my mind. I can do ANYTHING i want now and i choose to sit here feeling sorry for myself.
Maybe things will get better with time but right now i'd be happy if i didn't have to wake up another day.
>>never had a friend?
How is that possible? I haven't had friends for almost 11 years but that's due to my mental illness and ugly physical appearance.
Are you a virgin?
>dropped out of uni twice
>$40k student loan debt
>haven't had a job since 2014
>even if I did, I would get bored of it and want to quit, just like my last job
>have no drive to do anything
>all of this five years after graduating high school
I should have seen this coming. I never did well in school because I thought it was boring and I rather had been doing something that was fun. I was in detention frequently because of that.
I'm in my mid 30s and have only just now discovered cock and ball torture. Making up for lost time wearing a testicle cuff to work.
You are the female version of me.
please cuff and flog my naughty fat balls from behind, mademoissele, and let me sniff your navel?
I am swine, please towered princess, flog my nuts