I only hear negative things about psychotherapy and counseling. "It's useless". "It's a scam". "It made things worse"...

I only hear negative things about psychotherapy and counseling. "It's useless". "It's a scam". "It made things worse". "expensive rent-a-friend".

Anyone here who tried it and actually get any benefit from it, even a little?

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i learned i was a genius

most counselors I've seen are even crazier than I am.

This. You can see it in their eyes they all look like cult leaders'

Yea it's essentially just a sounding board. People think therapists are Psychiatrists who will solve their problems. Really they are just trained conversationalists they encourage you to rant and then kind of guide your ranting until you solve your own shit or they have to step in to say what you're missing in your own thought process.

It's true the price is absorbitent and a scam and it's very true this is what your spouse and mates are for but we live in an age were people don't have close connections. Alot of people can't talk to their partners and even people who are lucky enough to have close friends after 25 will find they don't listen/don't want to hear it once they're settled themselves (at a young age people listen to sort out their own thoughts).

I only had therapy once and I was able to talk my way through it. Thank them and leave.

and when I say trained conversationalists I mean they're held back much more than trained to give answers. Therapists I've known all quit eventually because they weren't allowed to give solutions to desperate people that really weren't all that fucked.

Hmmm, that's disappointing to hear. In my case I do have friends and I can talk to them if I really wanted to, but at best they'll respond with "look on the bright side" or some similar platitude. Not particularly useful.

I was raped 5 years ago and didn't vent out to no one, shit made me completely unstable and stopped going to classes and out of my house all together, at the brink of being expelled I started going to therapy, I vented out, cried like a little bitch for like 10 sessions straight until the tears no longer poured out whenever we talked about the rape. I came out of the rape closet (i guess) and told my closest friends and family what I went through.
I went with the classic approach of I'm a resilient survivor, but it's all bullshit I still feel worthless, I still think what happened to me was my fault and that I deserved it. I no longer cry but I just feel sad, sometimes I masturbate at the thought of being raped once again just to fuck things up a little more, I think I don't deserve more than that. Shit fuucked me up completely, I'm forever broken, sick and hurt in the bottom of my heart. I'd have preferred being killed that evening instead of trying to solve this shit, seriously I've been like this for 5 years and I try so hard but is all in vain.

i know the therapist's idea of coming out of the rape closet was well intended, I mean we all need help besides our shrink but I'm just so good at lying, after telling my family my story I knew all of the dumb stupid inspirational bullshit to spew at them to make them happy and let them know that I'm all right now.
It went all smoothly and I didn't need that, I needed some form of closure, some form of conflict, I want to see action take towards me, I made I huge mistake and I needed a lap to cry over, but I was too much of a pussy to ask for that instead I came out as a tough guy, pretending that it never even hurt. I'm such a narcissistic piece of shit.

Over here. Group therapy for the last 3 years,it works if you make it work. seek a COMPETENT thereapist that FITS YOUR NEEDS.

I'm about to start going but I have friends who say it's useless but the way they describe it it sounded like they expected the therapist to fix their problems for them instead of it being a collaborative effort

Ah jeez, that's a shit situation. I won't try to spew some positive fluff at you because I'm not therapist myself and I'm sure you're tired of hearing/reading about it.

However, and this is going to sound really fucked up, but remember that the person who raped you was the one who is worthless, and saw way more worth in you. That's why they did what they did: a sad attempt to compensate for their own lack of self-worth by trying to take yours. You wouldn't have been raped if you were worthless. You're 100% worthy.

Like most things in life, it won't help if you're not willing to help yourself. I had a cousin devastate my family, after being welcomed into our home. What he did left such an impression on my young mind, that the thought of him made me want to chimp out. He's actually the reason I'm in such good shape, because I genuinely wanted to beat him to death with my bare hands. Well, when he finally resurfaced, he'd gotten fat, was addicted to coke, and was married to a land whale because he got her knocked up. When I realized that nothing I could do would match what he did to himself, I was left with a lot of unresolved hate, and I could finally feel the way it was hurting me. Therapy helped me finally let it go, in only a few months. It wasn't even that expensive.
So long as you want to help yourself, OP, it could be good for you. Otherwise, you'd be wasting time and money.

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I feel ,you,random internet person. letting go of hate is truly hard.

So the common theme here is "you have to be willing to help yourself." I think that I am. As in, if the therapist can help me figure out what I need to do I'm 100% willing to. But right now I have no idea how to fix my problems. Even the solutions I do come up with on my own, I don't feel they'll actually fix anything.

you god damn beautiful person, you have no idea how good that made me feel.
I don't know how to put it into words but thanks man, we're all gonna make it.

I've never felt anything like it since. The experience has left me quite mellow, and level headed. I realized that I had built up a large part of myself, and dedicated it to solely hating him. I think I really planned on hurting him. It's not even that I pussied out, either. He really was so pathetic, it wouldn't have meant anything. That just made me even angrier. I was just left with years of wasted energy, and emotional scarring I couldn't let go of. Looking back on it, I feel quite silly, but when I'm alone and I've got my guard down, I can feel myself holding back tears, and I realize that I've let myself go back to that place.

For $250 an hour you better goddamn believe I expect them to fix my problems for me. What a scam therapy is.

>I think that I am
Good! You just need to find the right specialist and the right therapy.They will help you clear your mind and find the way.
DON'T GIVE UP user!!

Personally I've found that the best you can get from them is self understanding.

Odds are they aren't going to solve your problems. You really need to figure out the cause whether it be an abusive relationship or depression etc and solve it on your own

Counseling is just assisted introspection.

>You wouldn't have been raped if you were worthless. You're 100% worthy.
holy fucking shit lmao

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It sounds like you're ready to take the right steps, OP. I hope it helps, and I hope life gets better.

>250$/hour
Wow,the USA truly fucking sucks
I pay !5 Euro/hour

*15 euro/hour

It benefitted me desu, I got offload my mental garbage and it got me thinking about some htings in a more positive way.

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North America as a whole is fucked up. I'm in Ontario Canada, going rate is $150-$225 per hour. There is group stuff that's free/cheaper, and free suicide hotlines which don't really count.

Ok but that's like smoking a pack of cigarettes a day then going to the doctor over problems with your lungs and calling the doctor a scammer for telling you that the treatment he provides will be pointless if you don't quit smoking

Cheers. We'll make it for sure, it's just hard as fuck sometimes haha

The therapists I saw didn't offer ANY practical advice, besides one who handed me a CBT workbook. So you tell me how that example is analogous.
Yeah our health insurance system is utterly fucked.