Why is it so hard to maintain your friendships when you grow older...

Why is it so hard to maintain your friendships when you grow older? I'm moving away from my country for at least one year, so I invited a bunch of my high school "friends" on our chat group to a BBQ at my house so we can be together one last time before I go. I'm paying for everything: beer, steaks, sausages, snacks, you name it. The thing is I had to insist all day and only a few of them agreed to come after multiple messages. What the fuck is going on? I mean, maybe they dont like me that much, but then again who would reject a free BBQ? This shit really made me feel bad, I'm thinking about canceling the whole thing. This says a lot about our society. I'm 32 by the way.

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nah this is a bait thread. Fuck off OP.

Life is full of meetings and departings OP

People often pretend that they have more going on in their lives than what they really do because they want to maintain the illusion of having a fulfilling life.

Friends don't matter, only your family does, especially once you get married.

Probally because you are a shitskin

work and commute often take about 10 hours a day
sleep takes up 6-8
if you have a gf that's a few more hours a day

I find for friends you're stuck with perpetually single people, and people in long term relationships, I've 'lost' a lot of friends who entered into long term relationships, gfs are a lot nicer to their bf's friends who showed up after they did

As people get older,they realize they don't really like each other that much.
At least that's my experience.I just realized I no longer had anything in common with the friends I had from high school,so we stopped talking to each other.
If it's that much of a hassle,then I wouldn't even bother with it if I were you.

sucks to be lonely

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The darkest redpill desufampai

honestly who cares? why bend over backwards to feed people who don't even like you?
people are fickle. doesn't mean you shouldn't have friends or live out your days in neetdom but you shouldn't want to be around cunts just so you feel like you have real friends. at that point it's on you user

Fuck ur bbq

>maybe they dont like me that much
could be that or they don't see you as valuable friend that they could use

Society is a farce. We were never meant to live together in tribes.

This woman had awesome genes to reproduce.... now I hope she doesn't ... great genes gone to the shitter.... and taking nigger cock on top of that....

There is only one rule to remember.....
>friends and colleagues come and go.... but enemies accumulate.....

This sort of insularity is why white people will die out.

If you don't have a community that extends the influence of your family unit, then you are isolated, and you will lack political power or the ability to unite for meaningful action.

Look at Asians, they have big family owned enterprises, often buy up whole streets, this makes them rich and successful.

White people have lost the power of community; and so they are doomed to die.

Wtf is this

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She's clearly a quadroon. Not sure what you're talking about.

Look at her limb proportions, her frizzy hair, and even the shape of her breasts next time your jerking your life away. She's at least 15% SS-African.

Same man, all these faggots are obsessed with fake friendships on Facebook now. Actually meeting someone in real life is just “too hard” now.

they greatest slide we've ever seen... half chan and other

most people actually do have a fulfilling life. i didnt realize it til i got out more. i move at a very slow pace socially than the avg person. this thread is making me sad.

N-no m-muh individualism!

Define fulfilling.

Nice beat but but I'd upgrade the vocal quality. Also you're bad at rapping. If it is you.

The only place my old friends "hang out" is online in a chat group. Sometimes they do irl, too, and I'm always invited but never go.

I'll get sad that we don't hang out anymore but then remember my life is now far better than it was when we hung out all the time and drank because we were all depressed. They're still like that and I don't enjoy it at all.

Basically: being nostalgic can be fun, but don't let it make you too sad. Everybody wishes they could maintain their old friendships in the way they used to be, but those experiences passed.

Have fun with your new adventures when you move away, Texasbro.

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imagine being as racially fragile as this self loathing dumb shit. are you STILL mad that the john that knocked up the whore that spent 9 months shitting you out isn't in your life, faggot? also,

>quadroon
>15%

get a load of that yokel retard math.

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That bitch is ugly as fuck.

theyre not on the chan they do other shit. ignorance truly is bliss. I would have been happier blind and unaware. it would have fulfilled me to the bitter end.

She's not... she's a wop and shieeeet.... the only nigger in her are cocks

It's been a while since I've jacked off to Gianna. Thanks!

Gianna is fucking life

It is no longer possible to form enduring loyal friendships or binding love in today’s social media commodity society where only narcissism and and self gratification matters.

We’re reaching the extreme edge of social atomization caused by tech and late capitalism.

Read: THE AGONY OF EROS

I so, so wish it could've worked out with my first girlfriend. But alas...

Most people will be lucky if they have 3 good friends in a lifetime.

who is this gross roastie with flared nostrils and square teeth?

blackpill demoralization slide
remember to sage
might as well report too as it's not really about politics

it's not you, it's our individualist-centric society. why would they come out when they could be doing whatever the fuck they want for themselves?

Pure Gold.

You said she had good genes. I pointed out she's 15-25% nigger. This completely refutes your argument that she has good genes.

Also, if you're going to sperg out like the shitty little autistic sissy that you are, at least don't post with a lolbert flag. The combination of the "tread on me" fag flag and your sperging is a dead giveaway that you're autistic.

Actually, just go back to fapping to saggy titted quadroons you NEET.

All signs point to they don't really like you

>Source
That said, you've got a point. I'm a sociable guy and I get along, but the longest friendship I've ever held was four years through highschool.

To be honest, I've only been sad to see a few of them go, but I wish I had someone I felt the warmth of comradery with and all. When my parents pass on, I'll be the only one with memories of myself during childhood. Life is going to be real lonely, and now that I'm an adult, finding a fresh start is very difficult.

What does he give a shit if you knew some random guy

This is mor accurate than you know, not just asians but pretty much every group including white people that do this are succesful

The ones that arent taking root making groups are outcasts and will be forever outsiders until they do

Supera el colegio amermelao culiao.

oye viejo tranquilo

Well yeah you should do things other than just Jow Forums lmao.

However, you look at most people today (at least where I live), they look like absolute shit. Just totally unhealthy, fat buffoons who don't have a clue about anything going on around them, don't think about a god damn thing. They have no internal dialogue.

The primary means of socialization that most people engage in is "hang around party culture", which amounts to self mutilation through alcohol and everyone just sitting around staring off into space babbling on about the most low level discussions possible.

Is this a fulfilling life? It isn't for me. Just don't be fooled by these people. Find a clique that engaged in self-actualization, not self mutilation. I'm an outdoors guy, hiker, mountain climber. Real physical, athletic, lift everyday. I don't drink, don't do drugs, avoid porn. I plan long term what I want to accomplish in my life.

I've found that the more self-discipline I've been able to obtain, the more vices I can avoid and the more time I can spend working towards self-actualization, the more fulfilled I feel in day to day life.

Unfortunately it's harder and harder to find people who approach life from this paradigm, because modern society is designed to break you. It's designed to make you self mutilate.

Do not be fooled by cosmopolitan socialites. They walk the walk, talk the talk. Do the drinking, get fat, ugly, misshapen. They remain stupid and weak. This lifestyle probably isn't going to work for you.

Just don't be fooled by these people is all I'm saying. Don't let degenerate people lead you astray from self-actualization. It's always better to have a collective, a strong and cohesive group of friends, but not at the expense of you maximizing your potential.

Being close with men is gay. Just growup and get a girlfriend. Instead of hanging out with a bunch of guys take your girlfriend to a nice restaurant and fuck her.

Why would they reject free food though?

>Longest friendship was 4 years
>Requires a source for the claim

Nigger you might be autistic.

Why do you want to invite a bunch of men to your home and put meat inside them?

seriously dont concern yourself about it. go do your thing, you will meet people who are more in line with who you are now.

focus on improving yourself, church, gym, work.. people will gravitate to your confidence as you improve.

Because they don't like you. That's the only reason to reject free food and booze. Sorry to break it to you.

I feel you on this OP. Something is wrong with society, because most people feel this way and we are not supposed to.

Not sure how it is if your older, but if you're a younger guy it's difficult to pin down a girl if you're not a socialite. It's not hard to figure out that one of the first things women look for in a guy is whether or not he has a "clique", and they associate this with power.

If you're younger, you sort of need to walk the walk of cosmopolitan party culture in order to court girls of any kind of "quality" (I.e not obese). I'm not saying hookup, I mean actually date.

If you invited me over I would reject your food and booze but I still like you.

This. When you're a kid its just about having fun, but people start wanting to build something more serious with their lives, and they change as a person. So do you, whether you settle down or not.

That's different, but thanks, user.

Look at it this way...you know who you can cut out of your life...Fuck them.

>What is an anecdote
Also
>>you've got a point
You may need help with reading comprehension.
I wasn't necessarily disagreeing with you either, but you pulled a number out of your ass.

People do not want to do things. They would rather sit at home doing nothing and bitch about being bored.

I understand user. I too am the only one who organizes things in my friend group. Maybe everyone just hates me but honestly I do not give a shit. If they did, I wish they would just tell me so i could move on to others.
>pic related as I essentially live there

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tl;dr lol. what an embarrassing sperg out.

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I'd be friends with her rear end, if you know what I mean.

Does mommy give you medication?

>I'm 32 by the way.
If I was invited I wouldn't go either. If someone wanted to stay close friends it wouldn't be limited solely to social media posts.

Saggy tits? She looks great man, just relax.

>Have fun with your new adventures when you move away, Texasbro.

Y-you too

>barely ONE (1) minute passes and this retard is already back to having a meltdown

LMAO he was OBSESSIVELY waiting for that (you). god, what a faggot.

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Nah ee have the internet now. Easy to send a message to any girl. Just find a shy one who doesnt like going out and shit and court her. Best kind of girl for loyal girlfriend is relatively poor think lower middle class not trailer park and has no real social life. Girls with lots of friends are bad. Girls with no friends whos main social outlet is family are good.

Nigger you just responded a minute after my post.

Also, you didn't answer my question. Does mommy, or has mommy, ever medicated you for your autism?

27 here OP. I joined the army after high school and NOPE'D.jpg out of Minnesota and fell off the face of the earth. Same thing again after I got out of thr army and same thing when I went back overseas to work.

My advice if that is what you are looking for, is to stop trying to please people. Find a woman or just do you. I found it easier to just go solo and to stop talking to everyone. I meet a few Jow Forums tier people here and there and either add on discord or whatever but that's it. Being older than me, you should have figured it all out by now.

Shes fucked in front of children and is generally a hedonistic, sexually insatiable piece of shit with no self control whatsoever. A nigger in sheeps clothing.

>please, please respond to me, sir

impotent rage and abandonment issues on full display. so obsessed and angry lmao.

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You know I've never really been big on the social media. Got rid of my accounts years ago.

Now that I'm just out of college and in a job, and in the barren wasteland of no women on a day to day basis, I've considered making some accounts and giving this a shot. All my buddies tell me this is like, the easiest way to get laid. Not looking to just get laid though, looking for a sweetheart who'll commit.

I probably sound like a Boomer but I'm Gen Z I swear. Just never cared for the Facebook/Instagram/Twitter nonsense.

iktf
invite your family and just forget about the rest. people are morally disgusting. move on.

astrological influences

This, friendships take a lot of effort to maintain over the years. Most friendships only last several years. Most people are just "friends" with the people they interact with everyday at work or school abd when that circumstance changes the friendship whithers. Just how people are wired

At the age of 30 you should know
People are lazy and doing their own thing
The "group" wont survive if you're not seeing eachother weekly / monthly for upkeep
Sounds like you've been rejected as the past for a lot of them, shit happens

actually a good read despite being long. a really nice read in fact. thanks user.

>this
White people are too nuclear and individualistic as fuck. No family connections, inheritance or extended families at all. Only 2 kids per family and they treat the grandparents like absolute shit. They kick their kids when there 18 and have a serious opium/ suicide crisis. Most incels are mainly white males.

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Sure thing big guy

charge your phone brah

This is a recent trend introduced my the postmodern paradigm, materialization of everything, and the destruction of religious cohesion at a community level.

This is not the natural state of man, any man, including Europeans.

I'm pretty that exclusively a white problem instead of a everyone problem. White people forced that dumb "every man for himself" meme to there kids and family members.

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I get what you are saying, but I think there should be another way. We arent meant to be alone.

All of these.

Not really.

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I haven’t had friends since highschool

Life after 18 is making money and building your own empire, to eventually settle down and start your own family.

Only bugmen and party people (failed normies) keep friends after 18.

Friends are an absolute waste of time and energy after 18.


Anyone who disagrees with me is gay

These people will be broken by globalization the same way whites have. The observable consequences are not as dramatic, because the system does not directly target them like it does European descended people's.

However, as these people's are further integrated into the judeo-post-modern globalized paradigm, they will be broken. Their future generations will be atomized and individualised consumers. They'll be broken the same way we were.

It's sad and it's evil, but they're not immune or unique. Even accounting for certain behavioral variables, how they structure their societies, which differ slightly from Europeans and are probably genetically controlled. They're almost exactly as we were a hundred years ago.

Different life paths and choices bring people together and drive them apart. I barely talk to two of my good friends anymore since I’m married with children while they’re both single and don’t understand why I don’t go out with them so much anymore.

I wouldnt say 18. You still had 4-7 years there to fuck around and explore.

dem feels bro. keep dreaming about old school mates now spead all across the globe, no one ever hits me up. grimbo memory lane.

Fuck off twitter its shit.
Make an instagram but insta isnt for meeting people ao much its more of a place where people show off things they are proud of. Sounds shallow but it can me anything. Nice meal, your pets, cool place you visited whatever you dont need this so much but its good to exchange with girls you are chatting with to give eachother a bettet idea of who you are and what you value. You dont want some girl who is posting butt pics to get 20,00p likes.
Facebook is a good place to keep in touch with old friends, distant family etc. You could use this to meet friends of friends or you parents friends kids or something but mostly its going to people you know in some way and adding girls you dont know just because they look like they have potential might get you labled a creep plus all your friends and family will see.
You need facebook to communicate, chatting etc when you find a girl though. These days you need to go on dating sites and aps like tinder to meet girls and then ad them on your other social media. Dont post anything cringe or weird. Use a normal picture of yourself as you profile pic. If you are ugly you are shit out of luck. Mostly just post positive stuff. Dont post negative stuff on there. Dont post anything political. Dont be a phoney.

4-7 years of fucking around and exploring?

No wonder I am one of the few people I know at my age that own a house with no mortgage.

lol nobody gives a fuck that you own a house. Friends and associations are a much more valuable resource then having a home.

Lmao this. Some of us were already in the adult mindset by 18.

Hope it pays off, I feel like I'm on the right track.

Why can't such a problem be solved and figured out. Why are you guys stuck with this post modernism position. Why can't it be fixed. Why not forge new societies in off the grid areas instead of living in the toxic system.
Look at norks and how normal they live on a daily basis. They have a decent birth rate, no divorce rate, low std spread, clean societies, treat the elders and veterans very good and don't do practice toxic degenerate nonsene. They don't suffer from the degenerative symptoms that white countries face.

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the friends you make when you are young are training wheels

Tell me more about how your weekend alcoholic escapades are a more valuable life asset than land and a home.

The moneylording takes over. Most people in our society spend most of their time on activities related to pursuing money. And yes, many of the activities that as this sjw stuff is very capitalistic in nature, they are simply trying to get more for themselves.