Jow Forumsbro's how do I develop my will power?

I'm 25 and I've been smoking weed pretty much every day for the last 7 years. I'll also got a pornography addiction. They've cost me the best girl I'll probably ever know and I hate doing both of these things. I HATE it at this point. Trouble is I can't stop. Night after night i go to sleep promising myself I'll change tomorrow and day after day I wake up and do it all again. I'm weak dudes. How do I fix this?

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start doing meth instead of weed, it's more expensive so you'll use less drugs overall

Honestly, at that point you need help. It's pretty unlikely you can muster the motivation yourself.

thats unhelpful and I don't know where the fuck I'd even find meth round here

>weed
Unless you are rich spend all your money on other things that makes you happy that you can't afford drugs
>porn
Get a gf don't even have sex falling in love with a girl will make you feel guilty when you watch porn and guilt is a really shitty feeling

That won't fix me in the long run though. I have to find this within myself or the problem won't truly be fixed

All addicts are like this, and all of them come back to their old habits sooner or later

Ahhh did not read you had a gf while doing these
that is hopeless lmao seek some pro

I don't have much to spend my money on. I think another effect of my lack of willpower is that I've never really developed a hobby. I drink at home but I hate going out so there's no way to spend money there either. I just sit on the PC all day. With porn it's worse. I had a great beautiful Milanese gf and I threw it all away to both my addictions. She's go to sleep earlier than me and I'd stay up and jack off a few times then go to bed, really killed our sex life. If anything my porn usage got worse in a relationship

I know man this is why I want to gather the finest minds from around the globe in this thread to give me constuctive advice and ideas to actually build my willpower. I'ts like there's a concious part of me that doesn't want to be like this any more and then the addiction just takes over me. I just can't fucking stop. I want to know if any of you have figured out how to turn your mind to stopping

Give up, you're fucked. If you truly cannot muster the willpower to even take a break for a single day, then you are truly fucked.

In my opinion, after dealing with many addicts, I think that addiction after a certain point is not a behavior, it's an illness
You can never cure it if by getting a cure you mean "no more cravings", so the only thing you can do is either avoid becoming an addict by never trying the thing, or you must deliberately manage the addiction after you've got a taste of it

How do you manage it?

Make sure the thing isn't in your home, that you don't deal with people who use the thing, that you don't hang out in the same places that you used to do your thing, and all of that
But in your case there's still hope, you've been doing this thing for just seven years, right? Stay clean for another seven years and you're probably good to go
The real problem is when people spend a longer time doing their thing than the amount of time they've ever been clean
So if you started at 19 (19+7 = 26) that moment will be when you're 38
At that point you're probably incapable of stopping it for the rest of your life because the thing becomes ingrained in your own self, so don't postpone anything, start putting some effort on it while you still have time

I know Jow Forums is a shit place to ask this but give me something constructive or don't post

you need medical assistance

Are you going to seek medical help/rehab or what?

maybe u have a thyroid problem

I was a heroin addict for 7 years. I moved away from any contact and access and basically suffered for a year of extreme suicidal depression. The only thing that made it possible to quit was by doing it for my family and gf. I obviously dont care about myself but i was tired of them having constant fear for my life. Idk what more to say that can help, if you dont have loved ones you want to make happy and love and support its very hard to get yourself motivated. Atleast your addictions are baby tier, addiction can be hell either way. Good luck friend.

Also wanna say medical help and therapy is a good thing. Dont feel bad about this, addiction is terrible and common, some people are genetically predisposed to it and never stood a chance. Start taking it very seriously. Sadly there isnt any real, clear answer or cure for addiction, its a life long battle and its easy to fuck up. If youre already an addictive tyoe perso try using that to your advantage and just slowly replace bad habits with healthy ones, like running or weight lifting, ince it becomez a part of your routine and enjoy the endorphines and stuff and start chasing that instead. Fuck. Seriously, good luck buddy, im 3 years clean off heroin and i still dream about it and if someone put it down infront of me id probably go for it. Depressing to think of it like that im always in the verge of relapsing but hey... and atleast with your addictions, if you can just cut down alot and everything would be fine and your life isnt in danger and whatnot.

I'm still leery of seeking professional help here in the UK. I hate using the public healthcare service cos it's just grim and shitty. I guess you've given me some pretty good insights into addiction. Even with all the medical help in the world I'm going to need to find some personal willpower. I can't be arsed doing fucking anything any more and I take no risks in life but I can always ALWAYS manage to sneak off for a tactical joint or manage to wheedle a dealers number out of somebody. I flunked out of a masters degree in Edinburgh earlier this year partly because i had no friends up there. I did manage to find a reliable dealer though.

Same with the fucking porn actually. I had a beautiful girlfriend sleeping in the other room and i'd be up late night jacking to porn

>tfw in almost the same situation

Am 24 now and been smoking since 17, and everyday in the last 5 or so years. For a while I didn't care much about it since it never stopped me from achieving my goals (school, then uni, and "social life"), but now I only seem to reap the malefices of it. So I also came to the decision to stop weed for a while, or at least drastically reduce the use.

I realised that, for me, the desire to smoke comes with boredom. Whenever I am busy doing something I don't crave for weed, but if I'm free and there is weed, I'd use it. So I'm trying to keep myself busy. The goal is to set a new routine without weed, so that eventually, after a while it becomes less and less present in my mind. I can't say it worked because I started with this literally yesterday (lol). Nowedays it's kinda hard not to want to use it because I'm basically a NEET, I graduated in september and since then I've been orchestrating my moving to another state, so I'm kinda stuck in a limbo, and my days have been boring as hell. Still, I feel better not using it because whenever I did, I just felt worse. And the same goes for porn.

TLDR I feel ya bro, you're not alone in this, I know plenty of people in this situation. Just don't worry too much, you're not a weirdo (at least not bc of this lol).

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You keep talking about your lack of personal motivation to do it
I don't know man, just watch some jordan peterson's videos or something
But if you need to rely on inspiration for you to overcome your addiction you're probably going to fail, rely on discipline instead

glad to know it's not just me. I live in a very rural area and i don't have many friends or much chance to meet people. I've done slightly better in the last few days but i can't build up enough momentum to properly start breaking out.

so how can i develop a sense of discipline?

>so how can i develop a sense of discipline?
Go to the gym and start working out
Then apply the same discipline that is necessary for you to follow the gym program in other areas of your life