This. In all my years of trying to socialize it has never worked. You will always be an outsider if you're too weird.
Jobs require social skills
Cooper Anderson
Grayson Scott
She's up there for sure
Luke Green
how much does it cost per hour for a girl like that?
Brody Garcia
i lift weights
i try to stop watching porn, haven't for 2 weeks now
the most i ever did was 1 month, and tbqh didn't feel any different
Hudson Allen
This.
Steve Jobs didn’t write one line of code.
Isaiah Morales
Same here, stopped watching porn indefinitely. That's the trick for me, not to have a certain "goal" of how long I will go. I'm more motivated to flirt with girls since I don't have my easy dopamine fix.
Caleb Thomas
Nah . I quit my software dev job and went into sales. It was a huge change and on the beginning it was really awkward and my sales were poor. With time it become easier to connect with people and if people like you they buy from you. I have my wage + commission with each sale. I don't work full time but I don't really need to. Im not making as much as I did in it but I don't have to bring work home and do additional 3-4 hours per night because mah deadlines and because senior pajeet requested last minute changes. I also have more time for myself and gf. We were in Italy in summer and currently in Denmark. You will find that in many jobs it isn't the guy who has the best technical knowledge that has the highest pay , but the one that makes all the people like him.
Xavier Green
>>just talk to people
>it's
>not
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>simple
>and
>you
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I'm not autistic, but my therapist once tols me he thinks I am close as someone can get to having Asperger's without actually having it. He actually held up both his hands, raised one and said "let's say on this end is Asperger's," and then raised the other one "and this end is someone with extremely good social skills... Now, this is you." And then he brought the hand representing good social skills all the way to the autistic hand and was like "you don't have have Asperger's, but you're right here. You are about as close as anyone can get to it."
And you know what?
I spent until I was 21 not knowing why people reacted the way did to me. Without a bunch of effort, my voice would crack and I would start to whisper in conversation with people. I actually thought one shouldn't show emotions, so i made an effort not to laugh or smile until I was like... 18, 19?
I once liked a girl when I was 21 and so of course I made fun of her at a university event until she told me she was going to cry and called me a jerk. I immediately left and cried in a bathroom.
Some things helped me:
1. I wondered aloud why people kept saying it was weird that I wore heavy jeans to a university running event and my philosophy professor answered "social norms". Then I thought, norms are rules. And I realized, there are rules to socializing with people. It's not just that people do things and then you do things and then they do things and then they don't talk to you anymore- there are really rules. And many of them, nobody will tell you, so you have to watch like a hawk. Look at people's faces and body language and see what they do.
Adrian Edwards
2. My manager at an internship was a big intimidating, masculine, bald man but his voice was pretty high and he was super polite and always smiling. I instantly felt comfortable around him and realized, I wanted other people to feel comfortable around me. I ended up trying to copy how behavior. I went too far and people thought I was gay and way too retardedly polite but it was better than being silent except for when I would make fun of people, thinking that I was being super funny and bonding by talking shit to them.
3. I moved to NYC and went on a bunch of dates and paid attention to my date's behavior. Usually, I didn't know how to react in each situation- I was just doing and saying whatever I could think of, sometimes quite nervously. After each date, I tried to think: when she smiled, what happened right before? What happened right after? There were times someone would laugh and smile and keep talking, and other times they would laugh and smile and say they "uhh, have to go", and after a while I started to notice when my dates were turned off by something I said. E.g., I had some mice in NY apartment once and noticed some "cringe" smiles and some dead conversations after I kept mentioning them, so I stopped talking about the mice in my apartment.
I also noticed that I get treated better if I wear clothes that fit and look clean so i started wearing collared shirts, paying attention to what people online think looks good (for the love of God, do not ever fucking wear square-toed dress shoes or boots. they look so fucking bad and you look like a clueless dork).
Austin Robinson
Now I have thousands of matches on tinder and can keep a conversation going.
As people talk, pay attention to what you can ask about and share about. Think of each topic as a branching tree, like a binary tree or something. And you can transition between topics by bringing up a relevant idea, asking a question, etc. Have some basic ideas about current events and your own interests ready. And get interested or at least about normie things.