How do I become successful?

Honestly this is becoming a gigantic problem for me. I sabotage myself im every aspect, because I think that I don't deserve to be happy or successful. How do I fix that?
Examples: I always think I am worse than all my friends. When I should study for university I lay in bed or watch videos, then fuck up the exam. I know I should eat healthy or work out, but I keep buying fastfood. That business idea I which I have already for ages, I don't act on it. I know my life would become so much better if I would stop hating myself and finally start acting. I can't find another explanation than self hate for all those things. Some user here who had the same problem and fixed it?

Attached: adfafadf.png (422x564, 170K)

You're depressed and full of fear and anxiety because of your own low self esteem

Just b urself and it'll work out :)

Pro tip: you don't deserve to be successful.

>You're depressed and full of fear and anxiety because of your own low self esteem
That is correct. My self esteem is very low. It wasn't always like that though. Any idea how can fix it? It all started and got really bad when I went to university

Yeah, right now I don't, because I don't put in any work. But I could at least try. But I don't even try. And if I really start something, I stop doing it after a few days again. I have no idea how I can fix it

You probably are a low dopamine person, as I am. Either supplement it externally, like with aderal or similar, or start to actively participate in parties.

The latter caused a significant increase in my performance after the rare party for a few days which was just stupid in how effective it was.

Address with habits are taking up your dopamine. Chances are it's probably excessive video game playing / binge watching, masturbation, and drug use. If you're guilty of such vices, eliminate them. No "moderation". Get rid of it.

Establish your routine. Wake up at a consistent time. Meditate, or pray. Make your bed. Do some fucking exercise. Shower. Eat a good breakfast (no, a bowl of cereal doesn't count). Start reading.

Get enough sleep.

Do all these things and your inner drive to achieve will kick in. There is no shortcut or easy mode.

Sup OP. I'm having the same conflict as you. Recently pretty excited to run a photography business with my friend, and after 2-3 days ago, I feel like I want to take it back as I don't have passion in it. What the fuck is wrong with me? This applies to other previous opportunity I left behind. Maybe is right. I do masturbate a lot, didn't get enough / not sleeping on time. Fapping is I think the one primary reason why I'm being like this. I just need to stop desu. I remember being on no fap, my energy was like exponentially gone up and I never feel this lethargic.Though it takes time to re-energize and regain this.

>binge watching, masturbation
I watch a lot of YouTube videos, that is true. And masturbate at least once a day. Other than that I don't do any of the things you mentioned.
I once did NoFap for two weeks. I felt a bit better overall, but nothing life changing. I read about this 90 days NoFap stuff to reset your Dopamine receptors, but I don't know what I should think about it. I can't imagine that it would change my life completly.
Overall I have to say, that before I went to university and worked 60 to 70 hours a week, I didn't feel bad a single fucking day.

Man, I miss my old life. Things started to turn around after I quit my job, thinking I could run my own business but look at where I am now 1 year after. PRetty fucked up. Living with parents, every day I have to face them asking "how is your work" when I don't really have anything to show... ehhhh fml.

Interesting perspective user. I have also a similar story. Started a similar thing with a friend from university and was really hyped about it in the beginning. But after some time I didn't give a fuck about it anymore. If we succeed this could yield in like 10,000$ per month. Luckily he pushed it forward himself recently. If I were him I would have kicked my lazy ass out already.
Maybe it's a good idea when you drop me your Telegram handle or so per E-Mail and we keep motivating each other with that NoFap thing, so we both succeed?

I procrastinate on my current app development as well. Hell I remember when I started creating an android game and when it was ready enough to play it, I always played it 90% of the time and 10% was me actually developing the game. And before I got to it I was browsing YouTube, listening to music, browsing biz etc. I always felt like "I dont quite "feel" it, let me just listen to some music and then I'll get to it". Best way is to just get to it right away and quite literally force yourself for like 15 min. This happens only sometimes to me where I don't want to do it at all or when I'm mentally too tired or something. I usually actually enjoying developing, but sometimes the stupid flutter errors keep pissing me off. Solve 1 error and 2 other androidx package errors come up or some other shit.

I was in exactly the same boat. I know exactly what you mean by the self-hatred. I have lived this, and I've beaten it. I found psychedelics like magic mushrooms really helped to change my perspective. I had a decent dose (3.5g) and my eyes were opened to the good int he world. Soon after, I started exercising, eating right and sorting my life out. I'm now 4st lighter, and much more proactive. I've found a hobby I love (streaming) and my life is much better. I highly recommend psychedelics for treatment of recurring negative thought patterns, and depression. I'm a huge advocate for them, and they certainly do work. Just find a good setting (sunny day in a park/garden) and open your mind... I wish you luck OP

Attached: Shroom-House.jpg (1920x1080, 690K)

You dont feel utterly destroyed after a fap? You’re an anomaly

>And before I got to it I was browsing YouTube, listening to music, browsing biz etc. I always felt like "I dont quite "feel" it, let me just listen to some music and then I'll get to it".
Same. Let's say it's like 10 am and I am like "okay, I will start at 11pm." And then I am every hour like "Okay I will start at xx". And suddenly the whole day is gone. And when I start and actually do something, then I can concentrate for like 15 minutes before I end up somewhere else again. I wouldn't say that I am stupid, but I waste my talent and ressources big time.

Thanks user. I read about that stuff already quite a lot some time ago. But then I again ended up not taking it. I am also a bit scared that my situation could become worse from it

In 1915, you would have been sleeping in a trench while artillery shells exploded over you head for weeks on end. You would have watched your friends and people you know die horribly everyday. People are so fucking soft these days its embarrassing to be human anymore. Seriously, you have the ability to change your life just like every other bonebag. No one is going to do it for you.

Attached: 1533038203330.jpg (500x625, 48K)

Meditate.

It really will help, the science is coming in on it now. Do your own research, there are several papers coming out now which support this. Google psylocibin for treatment resistant depression, and have a read. Just make sure if you do try it, that you have a good setting, and are in a reasonably good mood. Find a nice sunny day when you have nothing to do, find a nice open park or forest, and try it. Even if it's a small dose. It will help, 100%. Again, best of luck user

Thanks user. Really appreciate it!
I will look into this stuff again

I'm in the same boat as you.
I dont have a solution for this problem.

My psychiatrist put me on 9
different meds and I do therapy, but I still hate myself.
It sucks big time.

I do have a shotgun at home and one time I seriously considered doing an hero.

I think this self-hate was instilled by people around me who wanted to drag me down and those toxic people were successfull in making me hate myself.

what android app are you making and why should i use it?

>My psychiatrist
I thought about going to a professional as well. But then decided against it, for several reasons. My father would for example call me out and there will be a note on my medical record, which makes it hard to get an insurance later on. There was a time where Inwas really suicidal as well, and cried a lot. But I got over that myself.

>I think this self-hate was instilled by people around me who wanted to drag me down
That is propaply the reason, yeah. No normal human being or child hates themselves just like that. I got bullied way back in school, but that was a long time ago. My father doesn't believe in me neither. When I tell him that I struggle a bit, he instantly tells me "It was your own choice". Or he gets loud amd yells at me. and I don't even complain or so or cry. I just tell him how my situation is. Some time ago he also told me, that I will never have more than 1000$ a month to spend on things, after I paid for rent and food.
Fuck. There is basically nobody that believes in me. One friend is always like "you can do it user.", but well... it just feels so out of this world that someone believes in me, that I can't even appreciate it anymore.
For reference: I study computer science, so if I do reasonable well, then I would have easily 1000$ per month left for whatever I like

You HAVE to MAKE the FIRST step!
Keep pushing through the first couple of days.
After that it's just rolling.
Visualize your improved and awesome future-You.
Stop wanking!
Meditate!
Do squats!
Force yourself to walk like a man alway search eye contact with everybody, even it's uncomfortable. You will get used to it.
Condition your self.
That said: I'm a 43 year old incel.

It will make something that takes like 5 mins plus some other hassle to just 15 seconds with no hassle. Then when it takes just 15 seconds, more people will be going to use it which opens up more possibilities(in theory). Got the idea from schoolmates. Appearantly they were brainstorming for a biz project, but they lacked coding knowledge and there were some problems, which I (in theory) solved later cuz I know how to code, so they completely abondoned it. I personally have done the "thing" only like 3 times since it was such a fucking hassle and when I heard it from schoolmates I immediately felt like this is really worth trying. App is 95% ready. Not a complicated app, but I had to learn flutter a bit and had school stuff as well.

This user is right and that's the answer. Anything else you are looking for won't apply. However knowing your habits, you will keep looking for some magic piece of info that will turn your life around.

No porn, No YouTube. No vidya. If you fap, fap maybe once a week. You have to get atleast 8 hours of sleep a night. Go to bed at a consistent time. Don't fall asleep staring at your phone, the blue light is not good for you.

Once you stop fapping and fix your sleep for a few days - week, you'll have more energy. Because of this, you'll be less inclined to eat fast food. Then you'll want to actually learn to cook your own food, and eat lean meats + veggies. Then maybe you'll start exercising again. Then after 3 weeks or so, you'll be feeling like "Man, I feel pretty good. So this is what all that advice meant." Then you'll develop these good habits and stick to them.

It's a gradual process that builds up confidence. The reason you have no confidence is because your brain is literally hardwired for short term gratification right now, since you're basically a slave to YouTube, Pornhub, and others. Your brain is fried, and when you actually try to do something for yourself, you give up after a couple days because you're used to getting want you want right away. Don't you understand? The way to success is to remove those vices that deplete dopamine, and build habits and stick with them. This is the only way. There is no short term fix. If you don't do this, you will stay a failure.

Powerful words! I will fucking do it user. Thanks for all the advice from other anons as well.
It can only help. And it propaply really is the number one thing I have to attack right now. Stopping this instant gratification. If things dodn't improve after 90 days, then I will come back here again. But for now, I know what I have to do.

Just think that you already are successful.
>fake it till you make it
This phrase has helped me in so many ways.
Including depression.

Finding purpose should be your ultimate goal. Dont expect things to happen overnight. Yes a lot of money could make you happy in the short term, but self worth and real value comes from within. If you learn to love yourself for the best and the worst and work on finding your maxim you will feel better! We are all lost in the grand cosmos but have to make the best of this finite existence!

good for you fren.. we're all gonna make it..

just graduated from CS. Parents pressures me every 12 hrs to find a job, but I am being "disobedient" by telling them please have faith in me while I am working on my app and stop asking me if I have got any interviews..

I will find a job once I am about to deploy my app tho so please have patience.. wow.. i sound like a bitch huh? somebody should kick my ass.. sorry friends

>it could be worse!

Attached: Brainlet.png (403x448, 53K)

JUST work hard :)

be yourself, work hard, firm handshake.

Attached: 1535813522120.jpg (602x552, 155K)