Second thoughts about gf

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>some non-observable irrational part of his psyche is driving the thought
read further cmon user

He is mentally ill.

Just let OP. She'll be sad at first, but it's better for her in the long run. Don't achor her down and ruin her.

Get yourself a therapist and get some help before you look for other girls.

while your advice seems brutal i actually think you're right

OP your feelings can be rationalized but they're coming from a place of insecurity it seems; or if it were me I'd have realized I was lying to myself when I thought being with a degenerate slut "doesn't bother me" until it suddenly did (you now) you also have to consider your attachment since she was your first and that you're a part of a list rather than the start of it

Thats what i think top, that i was simply lying to myself.
Event if i did enjoy the time i spent with her

i've been there, actually still kind of am after 7 years of it, i see her every 3 weeks just to have sex and then feels come up and i get angry or depressed and she leaves short after. you've got to delve deep on yourself thinking why you've spent time with this girl, is it because it was convenient or is this someone you really want to be with, is she your best choice or your only choice? is it better to be alone or to settle with someone who violates standards you don't vocalize? im ready to be alone for a long time as i reevaluate what i want in a girl and not settle for degenerates i.e anyone who admits to cheating, has tattoos, smokes or drinks excessively has done drugs with no remorse, is addicted to sex etc.

Thanks for giving personal experience.
Makes sense to me, i will Tell her i need some time for myself and will think about it

i would just think about it every day until you come to the decision, don't communicate all your thoughts with her, it doesn't help, just communicate your conclusion

>Op latches on to the one psycho who’s also butt hurt about this total nonissue and ignores everyone who’s baffled by it
What a surprise

It's pretty clear OP is the issue here. Everything points to some mental issue with him, not the girl.

I'd wager this had been a problem no matter who you had found a relationship with. You clearly have some autistic symptoms, and have schizophrenic thoughts that overwhelm you from time to time. Get some professional help to overcome these issues, no girl can help you with that on her own. If you don't care about dragging her down this rabbit hole, seek out a psychiatrist, and bring her along for the talks. Might save it, but more importantly, it'll increase the chances of you getting better, so your next attempt won't just be a repeat of this one. If it wasn't a threesome, it would be something else that bugged you to the point of tears and frustration.

Just posting a picture of her proves how autistic you are. Like, holy shit user, that's really god damn stupid and autistic.

a million times i've given her my thought process and i could have a 50 slide power point presentation on why we need to seperate and she'll shatter it all with some arbitrary feely nonsense and then remembering sex is good and im like hmmmm yea you have a point, i'll continue to suffer more i guess. a quick exit is best but if you aren't alpha chad thundercock enough to just up and leave, just let the thoughts simmer for a while and when you're with her pretend things are fine

it's a self-realization thing, shitting on him isn't going to get him to realize it clearly otherwise he would've responded. i'm at least getting him to think about himself more, nerd

>user comes in to call her a degenerate
>Because she had a threesome and slept with a woman
Yep, checks out.

I'd be fucking thrilled at having a girl who was honest about this stuff, I'm so fucking done with girls keeping secrets all the time. But having experience and being open and honest is apparently enough to make you a degenerate to some people.

seems to be coming from a place of insecurity
I imagine you feel insecure that she has done stuff in the past before you while you haven't? and that makes you feel somehow insecure
just realize that it seriously does not matter. people have sex, a lot, and the majority of the time you will not meet girls who are virgins, so you're just going to have to learn to let it go

>shitting on him
It's not about shitting on him, people here have straight up said he needs help, and should seek it out ASAP.

If we were calling him a beta faggot, sure, but that's my what is actually happening here.

This. You're fucked in the head OP. Just making this thread gives her more right to be angry at you, than you have with you imagined slight.

Its not like i dont want it to work out well.
I cant say if autistic describes it good.
But Its obvious that i am the Problem and i want to get better, But namecalling wont help at all

i've been with girls who are open and honest about their experiences and they've all turned out to be degenerates when i'm done chasing their poon (as in i got it and was unsatisfied with the outcome) it's just a matter of perspective. "i'd be fucking thrilled" ok that's great but maybe if you actually had enough encounters with that archetypal "free spirit" girl you'd get tired of it like me. or not, who knows, i live in NY and that's the default setting a lot of these chicks are on and it's got me yearning for some secluded southern dame who just wants to raise a family

Forgot my qoutes

That could be fucking it.
I dont think its unfair and i didnt expect a virgin
But some how it Hit close to home

Is her name Sky?

>nerd
:(

Idk just from the OP alone his disposition seems somber, he says he FEELS "angry, sad and betrayed" but didn't come off flaming rage and autism with the post (though the actual posting gf pic on Jow Forums didn't click with me til the first guy who pointed it out but something tells me that'd be normal on reddit so i'm not shocked at all) i just opted to tell OP something without slapping him on the wrist but i think hes got his reality check

Posting on Jow Forums always entails the risk of getting called all kind of shit. If some can't ignore that they should leave. Retard.

>be whorebanging manslut
>call other people degenerate
Lolok

he criticized OP for ignoring the name calling you fucking mongoloid, stop posting

Bahaha you are literally the genderbent stereotype of young sluts who grow up, feel their bio clock winding down, and get desperate to start a family only to find “there are no good men left”

I didn't detail the amount and time span, just the types I've been with. 4 dumb, directionless females with no aspirations and just enjoy sex and relationships, few months with each til I ended it and then half a year to a year alone after each. I'm not perfect but I've learned as opposed to the "i'd be fucking thrilled to find a whore who's open about it" guy (me when i was 18) i can't say "trust me you don't want a open about it whore gf" cuz you might and we're just different, but i thought i did and i was wrong

Jow Forums seems to be the only board not dumb.

Well all in all thanks i guess i will Tell her today that i need some time alone and think about what you guys said.
In the worst case i will get profesional help.
And thanks for the waking call that i am actually retarded.

i kind of feel that way sometimes but i'm still young and i'm ok with being alone til i meet a girl i click with on almost all levels instead of finding girls i click with on one thing and trying to build more from that

>And thanks for the waking call that i am actually retarded.

Jow Forums has its uses

Well its quite possibly True.

And some Times you just need someone to tell you that you are dumb.

Thx guys you are the good ones.

how many previous partners did she have?

>But namecalling wont help at all
Pretty much no one is resorting to name calling. Calling you autistic isn't name calling, when that is clearly and demonstrably what you are, and we are saying it specifically so you'll go get help.

>Fuck tons of girls
>Oh fuck, some of them arent virgins? Fuck that shit, I want them innocent chicks man
You are the reason girls like OPs GF exists. You create the exact type of girl you hate.

Just pointing it out.

>Idk just from the OP alone his disposition seems somber, he says he FEELS "angry, sad and betrayed" but didn't come off flaming rage
No one has said anything about rage though, and I didn't assume he was angry. I assumed he was down, depressed and sad. That's still more than enough reason to seek out help.
>autism
Sorry, but everything from the OP screams autism.

That's not necessarily a big deal, but he needs help to contain that stuff. I know several autists who blend in perfectly due to help from professionals, and even medication if they start to lose control of it. You make it sound like we are making fun of it, when we are not.

>4
>Thinks this means all open and honest girls are whores
So you aren't a manslut, but a retard? Alright then.

At least you agree with him that these women are whores

3 bfs, the 2 guys from the threesome and one woman

idk your point, none of the girls i've fucked are virgins, and your second point i just have preconceived notions of thinking autistmos realize their powerlevel and i guess that wasn't the case here so i was like oh man they're just blasting him with autism and he's not getting anything out of it
idk when i claimed all open and honest girls are whores, i meant open and honest whores i.e girls who are open about all their whorey encounters, not steady previous steady relationships and the sexual encounters within them. you're a brainlet sucking your own dick too hard to seem smarter than me. thread should die now im out, hope OP doesn't murder suicide

>Idk
It's so easy to tell when retards are posting.
>BACKPEDDLING
So you just responded with a completely unrelated shitpost to support OP? Do you have autism as well?
>Starts getting super defensive
Hit a nerve I see. Take your own advice and abandon thread, user. OP seems to have appreciated our advice, so it's literally just you frothing with anger at us responding to your pointless post. Good job buddy.

OP is not in the wrong here. He has certain values that his girlfriend either see differently now, or seen before. OP I would say it's mostly insecurity speaking - I will break down the problem, and help you decide what to do about this.

You feel like less of a man because;
1. She is more experienced by far, in a world when the man should be and not the woman, in the relationship
2. She has done a sexual act that is perceived as sluty all around the world no matter what people here will say. Its also an act youve never done.
3. I did not understand the threesome part but whether it was mmf or fmm it means two things - either she got rammed by two guys(mmf) which is a horrible thought, makes you feel like youre dating a porn whore OR she did a (fmm) with a guy and a girl, and that makes you feel bad equally because some alpha dude managed to get 2 girls to suck his dick at the same time. All these dudes were extremely confident and sexual which hurts your manhood.

Now this is hard to grasp, especially as a virgin. You could do better, the pic in the your post scared me away. How about find a non chubby girl that hasnt "discovered the sexual world"? It will be better for you, since you cant handle whores.

It Was her and two dudes.
And i guess you are right with your points.

I just dont know what to Do except wait it out.

>Turbo insecuity: the post
>It's not mental issues!
Almost everything you describe here is literally symptoms of mental issues. Good job proving the point half the thread has been making already!

>I just dont know what to Do
Yeah wait, take your time to think about it. At the end of the day it's really not a big deal, but if you feel that you two do not share the same values, you shouldnt be together. Think about it this way - you could always find a girl that hasnt done a threesome.

Mentally ill =/= insecurities.
Mental illness is something you are born with, often imbalance of certain chemicals produced in the brain, other times physical deformities in the brain itself. Insecurity is points about yourself that are weak, you know it and exaggerate them to make excuses for your failures. One takes self development to fix, the other requires you to take medicine that barely helps in most cases. Guess which is which and dont be a jackass.

Nice Trips
Yeah ill do that

Mental illness =/= mental issues
Learn to read, retard. And autism I literally a mental illness, as has been pointed out numerous times.

All of this is just issues that he should work on. It's not something he should just accept and avoid. That's how you reinforce mental issues, and how you let them develop to become worse and more intrusive in your daily life. Our advice is super awful, and is on par with people saying you should stay away from people if you have a social anxiety.

We are not being pointlessly mean or evil to OP. He has been given a lot of solid advice. Your "just avoid it" advice is super retarded, and only serves to further reinforce his issues.

man sometimes i forget how ugly the girlfriends of most of the guys here are.

And yours is a super Model?
I highly doubt that

how long were the relationships, its not necessarily hyper slutty behaviour you have there even if its not all that pure

All Individually around a year

>2 guys from a threesome
This is less "slut" and more "curiousity", honestly. Same with her lesbian experience.

Honestly, I have done the same. And I feel a lot more comfortable having done it. I still have friends who keep talking about trying it, while in a relationship, and it is just not at all interesting. It sounds awesome, right until you actually try it. I imagine it's much the same for a guy in a mff threesome.

Same with the lesbian one. Girl really wanted to get together with me, and I was curious enough, and was in a period where I was very jaded about guys, but I wasn't into it at all.

I know what I want now. I have no questions left I want answered. I have had 1 boyfriend, a threesome with the same boyfriend and a friend of his, and a girl. I don't worry about what else I might want to try, or what other guys might be able to provide. If I actually seriously date a guy, I am already happy with what I am getting, and yeah, my history may turn off someone who is too insecure, but speak up and be honest about it, and we'll work it out.

If your current girlfriend can't do that, you both sound a bit too immature to be in a serious relationship. You because you are freaking out over a pretty small thing whose main issues are all related to your ego and perceived "masculinity", and her because she is responding completely wrong to your honesty about the issue.

>He is mentally ill.
Yeah so what were you saying?

Well thats not too bad - why do you feel betrayed when she was upfront about it?

>Yeah so what were you saying
Did you even fucking read the post?
>And autism is literally a mental illness, as has been pointed out numerous times.
It's literally the second sentence. How is anyone this stupid? Can you even write and breathe at the same time?

Honestly just be single at that point.

That sounds resonable.
And kind of makes sense that she wants to be with me.
I think i can work this out from now on.
I dont know if can "forgive" her, dont know the right word to use.
But i will try and see.

Thanks to everyone who replied

>I dont know if can "forgive" her, dont know the right word to use
Relationships are built on acceptance. No one is a perfect it, and everybody has flaws. A great relationship is one where both parts can accept the issues they have with each other.

Thats a better description.
I dont accept it that she did that but i think i can tolerante it
I think you get what i mean

What I can say is that as a man I want to fuck everything, I judge a woman if she fucks a lot.
The deal breaker for me is cheating.
Everyone has their right to fuck.
Sad thing is that I don't get any puss even tho I have that right.

Holy wat to all of this post.

his gf got railed by two men

no, but I do find her several times more attractive than the woman in OP's picture. She's slimmer, has nicer hair, very curvy hips, tan skin, prettier face and so on. Wears glasses too but doesn't have those fucking man legs, hers are nice and sexy laying on my lap.

>Threesome
>Lesbianism
>A girl in her late teens/early twenties
You seriously can't see a problem with that?
She's either a broken soul who's been abused from an early age, or has no self respect, or is a slut. Whichever way you cut it, that's not long term girlfriend material. That's a one night stand or maybe as long as a couple of weeks if you want to push her boundaries and see if she'll fuck a dog or something.

>Wasn't wronged
Unless she was completely honest from the very start and told him she'd been doing threesomes and lesbianism then he has every right to feel wronged. Witholding information like that is the same as lying.

Do you lay out your entire life story on a first date? The fact that something wasn’t known doesn’t make it hidden. Most reasonable people just don’t find this shit fucking important, and know it’s weird and awkward to discuss ex partners with current partners.

>Most reasonable people
Because I don't agree with you that makes you reasonable and me unreasonable? Try harder mate.
If it's no big deal then why not discuss it on a first date? I've been on plenty of dates where women have discussed ex partners and why they feel it didn't work. It's a good way for them to guage your response to see if you agree with the ex or them. Personally, I'd want to know even before I met someone if they've been spit roasted in the past. It would save us both a lot of time.

And I don't think OP said he was informed on the first date. Sounds like she got her feet under the table before she told those little gems of truth.

She told me maybe 3 Weeks ago.
Considering we are together since march its a long time

>If it's no big deal then why not discuss it on a first date?
My taste for Weet Bix is no big deal, should I bring that up too just in case some psycho has a problem with it?

>And I don't think OP said he was informed on the first date.
You are super autistic if you think you should list your previous relationships and sexual encounters on the first date.

And OP straight up said she was open and honest about it.

I think you have every right to feel upset.
She obviously has a very different moral compass to you and that's not to say she's wrong. If she wants to get spit roasted by a couple of guys and lick a girl out that's her choice. But she doesn't get you to accept it as normal behaviour and she doesn't get you as a boyfriend if you find it repulsive the potential mother of your children has done those things.

>And I don't think OP said he was informed on the first date.
I would instantly delete your contact information, block and ghost you, if you started talking about all of your dating experience in detail on the first date.

>Weetabix
>Getting fucked by two guys
Yep, completely the same thing.
Is this how the liberal mind works?

>Six months before he was told
Those sorts of revelations should be coming out when you're thinking of sleeping with another person.

If I had unprotected sex with transexual hookers every week (highest rates of AIDS sufferers by group) would you think I was being dishonest if I only told you six months into the relationship?

So you would say, on your first date with a girl, that you have once fucked 2 girls at the same time?

How bad is your autism on a scale from 1 to 10?

>If I had unprotected sex with transexual hookers every week (highest rates of AIDS sufferers by group) would you think I was being dishonest if I only told you six months into the relationship?
Not really. I would not sleep with you unprotected without you getting tested anyway.

And sleeping with someone new, unprotected, every week, is not remotely close to having a handful of partners in total. You are comparing skateboards to cars here.

No I wouldn't. Because I haven't. Because I have a moral compass which I am very comfortable with. I don't need to lie or withold anything.

It doesn't sound like you are very comfortable with your moral compass or past actions and neither does OPs girlfriend.

>Getting tested before sleeping with someone
And this is what a progressive and inclusive leads to. Doesn't it make you just a little bit sad?

>Partner every week
Ok, I'll rephrase - got spit roasted by a pair of transexuals a few times and sucked off another transexual.

No. Because all I would need to know is if you’ve been tested once your last encounter and came up clean.

>STD protection is sad
wut

And you'd have no issue that you're getting into a relationship with a homosexual? Why would you do that? Where can it possibly lead?

>needing STD protection
In case you didn't understand, that's the sad part.

Who said anything about homosexual?

>I don't need to lie or withold anything.
This isn't the sort of shit you talk about on your first date. Don't act like you are a saint, there are tons of things in a very similar vein you would never say. Family issues, porn habits, being a fucking Jow Forums resident, etc. You don't share those kinds of things on the first date unless you have maximum autism.
>It doesn't sound like you are very comfortable with your moral compass or past actions and neither does OPs girlfriend.
I'm perfectly comfortable with my moral compass. I have no problems with guys getting insecure about their fragile masculinity. I don't mind putting in work to make him feel better about it, either, because unlike OPs girlfriend, I am not an immature kid. And seriously, if a guy sperged out as hard as you are, and acting like he is more pure than the pope, I'd leave you and be happy I dodged a bullet, while feeling really bad for whatever poor girl ends up in your controlling, autistic grasp.

And unlike you, I know what I want. You *think* you want a pure virgin girl, but you have absolutely no idea, because you have no experience to actually know. And with how concerned you are about guys, you sound like a closet fag, especially with how you somehow think it is "degenerate" to sleep with someone of your own gender.

Anyone can get an STD. Everyone needs to protect themselves. If you don’t, you’re the degenerate.

>And this is what a progressive and inclusive leads to. Doesn't it make you just a little bit sad?
If that is what I said, sure, but it wasn't. You cut off the quote before the important part.

Nice try strawmanning though. I'm sure it'll get someone to think you are right.

>Focusing so much on transexuals
Is there something you want to talk about, user? It seems quite strange to bring it up all of a sudden, when it had no relation to the topic being discussed.

>Spit roasted by transsexuals and sucked off a transsexual
Whatever. As long as you get tested for STDs (which I'd demand even if it was just a regular girl you had been in a stable relationship with) I don't see the issue.

As long as you hadn't fucked more than a small handful of people, I would be fine. I don't want a complete slut who has fucked 20+ people.

I think I've been very respectful. I haven't once used personal slurs or insults. But let's have a look what you've called me for holding a different opinion to you.
>Autist
>Controlling freak
>Insecure
>Sperg
>Super autistic
I know you think you're keeping the moral high ground and because I have a different opinion you are justified in attacking me but honestly, it doesn't add to your argument and makes you appear very insecure and aggressive.

Autism is a disease not a joke. I don't have autism. Your language is offensive for no reason.

How would you feel if I called you a coal burning nigger lover? I have no evidence to back that up and it's racist and mysoginstic.

If you'd like to continue chatting I'm more than happy to. It's refreshing to discuss different ideas and thoughts. But can I ask you lay off the personal insults and offensive language towards people who have a disability they have no control over.

>my history may turn off someone who is too insecure,
> too insecure
Lmao nah cunt, you're just a pure fuckin' whore. There's nothing "insecure" about not wanting a woman who has been dried up by other dudes. It's actually pathetic how you fail to see the errors in your line of reasoning

Dumb cunt

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Doesn't seem too honest if she hid it for such a long time lol

Those aren’t insults. Those are neurological disorders and personality/behavioural traits. The fact that something is negative doesn’t make it an insult.