A female friend of mine was rather exasperated and asked me why she’s single. I’m not one to sugarcoat things so I said it’s because she’s loud, drinks, smokes, curses, hangs around with too many men, has a tattoo, unfeminine, and no man will ever realistically take her seriously as a potential girlfriend or wife. I noted that dudes only really hang out with her because she acts like easy pussy (not that she’s 100% easy pussy) and the type of girl we wanna use for sexual gratification isn’t the sort we’d ever be caught dead taking home to meet the family. She giggled and said I’m so goofy before realizing I was 100% dead serious. She called me a misogynist fuck and shoulder-checked me when leaving. Now she hasn’t spoken to me for about 6 days.
Could I have handled that better? How would you break something like that to a girl?
honestly I'd say you couldn't have handled that worse, and the friendship is most certainly over. Rather than a list of insults, you could have given her SUGGESTIONS of things she could do a little differently. Every point you made could've been expressed positively rather than negatively. You could've summed it all up by saying "Maybe you could make an effort to be a little more feminine" or something along those lines. You probably still could've gotten away with it if you hadn't gone on to say >no man will ever realistically take her seriously as a potential girlfriend or wife that is just cold, cruel, and completely unhelpful, and I don't believe you're so socially retarded that you didn't know that when you said it.
Robert Allen
I mean...you pushed your beliefs on what a woman should be onto her. To plenty of men everything you listed would be a good thing to them. You can't speak for everyone.
However, you could have offered some more general advice on what she could change to make her more universally appealing. But, no, you're just an asshole. It's ok, both of you sound like white trash losers anyway.
Caleb Ward
Have you been diagnosed with autism?
Daniel Edwards
>To plenty of men everything you listed would be a good thing to them. then why is she single lol
Connor Mitchell
Good friends are known for not lying to their friends even though they risk making them sad / mad with truth.
She will either cut you off from your life, or woman up and realize you were right. In any case you did good. We wont make this world better by lying to everybody and virtue signalling like
Good friends also know how to turn honesty into constructive criticism instead of insults and pointless venom.
Josiah Gutierrez
Maybe she's a douchebag. Maybe she has high standards. I don't know this woman. How the fuck do you expect me to answer that question?
Neck yourself.
Aiden Gonzalez
Good. You did the right thing OP. Honestly i wish i had friends like you. Sadly most people i know are fake and would rather sugarcoat than tell you straight up what they think. You are real friend material.
Hudson Long
>heres all the things I personally dislike about you so thats probably the problem The fact that you think tattoos and swearing makes someone impossible to ever date says that you either dont have any friends from work that you hang out with or you are under 21 or some shit. Dont take the memes from Jow Forums and actually live it. Most people are basic and tattoos are the most basic thing you can have.
