GUIDELINES: Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered. Keep questions short for more answers. If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question. And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ: >Do girls/guys like ? >What do girls/guys think about There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do? Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do? >How can I tell if someone likes me? Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys? Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean? Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this? Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance? No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date? Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, .
>Why is there no new thread? Create one yourself.
>Why am I the only one who makes these threads? Quit your bitching, no one's holding a gun to your head and making you do it.
I'm inviting a friend to my place, there's a good chance for a pure ONS. Is it important how I dress for that? or is it enough that I wear something casual?
Chase Gray
As long as your clothes are clean and have a good fit, no worries. It's just a ONS after all.
Jeremiah Rodriguez
I mean, I still have to convince her. it won't be too hard though
Jaxson Gomez
There is this girl in my class that I've hooked up with a few times. We have great conversations in person. I want to text her more, but I'm an awful texter. I can never keep conversations going. Sometimes I ignore texts. I never know what to say.
How do I start a conversation and keep one going with a girl through text?
Hudson Ortiz
It won;t seem genuine if you try to text her. Just don't and chat when you meet up instead.
Hudson Adams
>girl at work randomly starts crying in front of me da fuq she mean by this, what do you even do in that situation?
she's probably just fucking unstable, don't look too much into it
Grayson Rogers
Woman in my gym is doing squats with a 5 lb weight right in front of the only deadlift platform though she can do them ANYWHERE This is the last lift I have to do today. Is it rude to just go there? I'm not trying to perv I just want to stick to my routine
Luis Hughes
A girl I like asked if I could come to her place tonight.
I have a lot of stuff to get done, so I don't want to tonight, but I definitely would another night.
What excuse can I make to not see her tonight? I don't want to say I'm not free as I don't want her to think I'm out seeing another girl or something
Christian Peterson
just tell her the truth?
Luis Perez
Probably best idea. Sometimes I'm weird about this stuff since my ex had bpd and would constantly go into fits of rage when I'd tell her I can't hang out.
Charles Phillips
yeah, don't learn human interaction with crazy people
Daniel Sanders
nah, people go to the gym to work out, I wouldn't think anything of it.
I guarantee you she is focusing more on having cried at work than how you responded. I would just get her a cup of water, maybe a shoulder pat (not as a bro-thing though, just gently touching her shoulder for a moment) if you're comfortable with that, then tell her you'll give her some space.
This is assuming it was out of nowhere and not in response to something you said (e.g. criticism on her work), then it's better to at least offer to talk.
Landon Rodriguez
No, I went to get a cup of coffee and she was crying when I came back, babbled some stuff about her boyfriend. I asked her if she wanted to talk about it, but she said she was fine.
so why the hell do you even ask us? you know perfectly well why was she crying. and if it happens again, just let her be
Chase Robinson
There isn't really a cheatcode, it's something you like/have affinity with or not. Usually text conversations rely more on silly little jokes, observations, acting goofy together. It's something you might learn over time but you can't just flip a switch and there's no way around practice.
I would mostly text her that you're not great/not a big fan of texting and apologies if you don't reply to something, it's not personal. Preferably after you catch yourself not replying to something of hers, or even better, in person. Then at least you made your point, she might still miss texting but it helps with potential miscommunication. If she's into you she's likely to read more into you not replying to texts.
Jordan Murphy
It came out of nowhere, at work, while working. It was weird. Just needed some tips on how to act.
People don't turn into emotionless robots while at work. She cried at work because whatever made her cry regarding her boyfriend happened during work, or she thought about it then. Simple as that.
Justin Thompson
If you've asked her to talk and she doesn't want to you can ask her if she wants a glass of water or to take a breather or whatever (depending on how willing you are and how serious it looks) but otherwise that's about it. She's probably long glad if you "act normal", if you are going overboard with acting a certain way because she was crying that only reinforces that she did something really weird. And yeah it's not exactly professional behavior but employees are still people, it can happen.
Elijah Martin
Ok, I'll keep it in mind if it happens again. Thanks lad.
This is kind of a general question but does anyone feel like there are some smart people who aren't really anything special intellectually but are just great at studying?
Alexander Morales
Not uncommon at all.
Isaiah Thompson
Dear fat people, JUST STOP EATING! FOR FUCK'S SAKE!
Justin Garcia
Yeah, sure. Both people who are not that bright but make up for it with work ethic and people who are bright and understand things faster than others but lack the intelligence (or intellectual creativity or however you would define it) to actually add to the theories they learn about.
Jacob Myers
Really edgy, user.
Hunter Hill
Of course. And just because you're smart or get good grades, doesn't mean you'd be a good doctor, lawyer, engineer etc. either.
Ethan Martin
Don't you get annoyed when they block the entire passage?
Isaac Watson
I don't live in America so I can't say I've experienced that.
Eli Morales
So I've been asking some questions recently and to my surprise it seems that KHVs generally wish to hold their virginity even if they were PAID to lose it. why is that?
Carson Murphy
I don't love seeing morbidly obese people but the discomfort of them taking up two chairs or whatever is incomparable to how shit their life is dealing with an issue that gives them major social stigma, huge health risks, and can't be hidden even for a moment to have a five minute break to feel like everyone else.
Kayden Jones
Because some people are sentient enough to understand that sex is not about physical stimulation but existential validation.
Ethan Harris
>sex is not about physical stimulation ok, I can agree with that, at least to some degree >but existential validation. with this however, I can't
also, keep in mind that there's a lot of people in those threads who just want to have sex, or so they claim.
Austin Gutierrez
What kind?
Aiden Garcia
>also, keep in mind that there's a lot of people in those threads who just want to have sex, or so they claim. What they mean when they say they "want to have sex" is that they want to be desired. Sex is, beyond the physical act itself proof that your DNA has a reason to exist and continue to do so.
Me and this girl I'm friends with go to different colleges and she's on their xc team, they're coming to my college for a meet and I told her I'd like to go watch her, she said something along the lines of "you don't have to come, it's not a big deal." Is she trying to steer me away?
Cooper Barnes
>Be at work >Eating lunch at food court >Girl fine as *hell* sits at the table next to me >GodDAMN I'd tap that >BF comes >Oh... >From the corner of my eye see that they eat it total silence, not even looking at each other, but at phones >Girl tries to start convo thrice, dude just mumbles and stops replying >Eventually they leave
That was the most awkward depressing shit I've seen in some time, is that what I have to look forward to? Oh also she looked at me twice, I think I got caught checking her out.
Christian Flores
I'm struggling with this kinda, doing japanese lessons on duolingo and I've been repeating hiragana 1 for a week because I want to get to the point where I actually know it and I'm not going off of memory.
It's been a week and I'm still being carried by memory, it's a little frustrating.
Don't worry about it too much. Once you start doing flashcards you'll know hiragana like the back of your hand. Katakana, on the other hand, still takes me a second to read even though I've been studying for years.
Leo Hill
I have my first date in over a year (and I think my third date ever) tomorrow. Is it weird that I'm more nervous about it going well than in not going well? Like if it doesn't work out then oh well, I'm out the few dollars it cost for coffee but at least I got out of the house. It it goes well though, she might wanna see me again, and I'm not really experienced in that situation.
John Fisher
your chances will be improved by wearing something vaguely nice for the first time. i have planned to have sex with a guy but lost all attraction for him when he came over in basketball shorts, slides, and wet hair. not a fan.
Hudson Foster
they arent better than anyone else unlike >20020994 says. they cant get sex, so they "transcend" the need for sex by using their hands every day. they do it for so long that they convince themselves that girls are evil and vaginas are capitalism.
Gabriel Wilson
im usually imagining that im with someone else. also some guys that like power will try to look you in your eyes the entire time and it can be awkward for some people.
Zachary Sullivan
This happena I guess. Either he was in a bad mood or simply a bad partner. These girls are the usually to cheat, have a boyfriend that ignores them and doesnt pay enough attention.
Jack Watson
If you are men pretending to be women, wouldn’t you fail in pretending to be women if you respond to questions directed to men?
Michael Ward
how the fuck can a guy go from telling me his sexual fantasies of me in explicit detail one night to treating me like a platonic friend the next? please explain.
Connor Parker
>im usually imagining that im with someone else W H O R E !
Michael Green
lmao. k.
Gavin Evans
No. The guy you're replying to is the user that keeps asking if khv anons would have sex with an elderly man for money. He's just being retarded.
Sometimes I like to just close my eyes and enjoy the physical sensations.
I also almost always have my eyes closed if I'm drunk while having sex. Sensory overload on my inebriated mind.
That's a very common thing. Not weird at all, but definitely something you should push past. Comes with fear of commitment and all that jazz.
Colton Johnson
Should I “chase” a woman or not? Is this even healthy? I normally don’t do this, since I think I will become an orbiter, but some days we really hit it off, and others it’s like she’s fucking upset, last time this shit happened I did confront her, since I thought I did something, she said I didnt.
Benjamin King
How did you respond to him telling you those fantasies?
Eli Diaz
For sure. I also know extremely intelligent people who are useless at studying.
Thomas Cox
Anyone: Is there some way to make my girlfriend more horny? She recently started taking meds that kill libido...
We have only fucked twice and have been bf-gf for nearly a month. Last night she was over at my apt and we were on my bed kissing and such, she saw my boner and pre-cum coming through my shorts. She didnt want to fuck so I asked her to help me out and jerk me off and she said she wasn't in the mood and that it was weird.
Julian Peterson
Update, I said something like "i'd like to go though, but I'd understand if you didn't want me to." She replied with "I just get nervous when people I know are watching me"
Luis Price
Just ask her out instead. >that's okay I know what you mean, did you want to do something afterward then?
Except don't say something, give a more concrete activity.
Tyler Torres
Women: What are some of the things you're surprised men are commonly into?
Noah Clark
>girl I'm going out with didn't actually like me and just friendzoned me >again
What's wrong with me? Why I can I get one on one outings with girls but never get one to see me as anything more? How do you deal with the pain?
Easton Cox
Are you boring af in a romantic setting? Do you escalate?
Chase Sullivan
That wouldn't really work of she's with a team if assume she is coming here on a team bus and leaves for home soon after their meet finishes. No real chance for another activity
Brandon Lee
I’d say I was neutral and non judgemental when he was telling me. I have feelings for him but he’s dating another girl right now so I felt like it wouldn’t be right to come across overly interested. I just can’t understand what would even make him want to tell me in the first place. He even told me he thinks about me asking him to cum inside me every time he jerks off. WTF am I supposed to do with this knowledge? How does he expect us to just be friends now that I know that?
Brandon Edwards
Any femanons here? PLEASE just talk with me.
Camden Harris
i’m a femanon. hi.
Joseph Bell
I don't think I've ever been in a romantic setting, and I don't know how to escalate. I always keep things incredibly casual.
Connor Howard
>girl asks guy out >”only see you as a friend”, „you deserve better” etc. >girl asks out someone else >guy becomes bitter and resentful Men, why does this happen so often? When I reject someone I couldnt give less of a fuck if they start seeing someone else.
Eli Wright
R-really? Hello.
Gabriel Robinson
A whole bunch of women don't actually like the idea of being in relationships and instead want to be woo'd and dated the the whole thing. You gotta proverbial juggle for them and occasionally backflip if you want to keep a relationship with one of those. Or you could realise that women like that are all kinds of entitled and try to find a woman that sees the romance in not having to impress one another anymore and that just living life together is awesome. They are actually pretty common, just not in the places you may be looking.
Easton White
Where to look them for? Another user
Jeremiah Torres
how are you? :)
William Diaz
Fuck man. I don't know. I just got really lucky and found a group of brilliant people. I think it might honestly be a maturity thing. Avoid dating spots like bars and tinder and make some friends. Romance needs to not be your goal if you want a relationship built on a strong emotional bond: friendship and honestly caring about one another is. Stop looking for a girlfriend and just go out and try to meet people you enjoy spending time with. That's the path to having cozy Saturdays snuggling in bed. You'll still do romantic juggly shit but it's not because you're expected to to stop her from getting bored. Honestly it's pretty cash.
Charles Diaz
Can i throat fuck you?
Jackson Sanchez
Just ask if there’s something wrong, maybe it’s not with you.
Angel Martinez
i’m fat so you probably wouldn’t really want to but i wish you the best of luck
Justin Williams
I don't think I respect women at all, I think I just want to have sex with them, and that's about it.
Is this how most guys feel?
Ayden Wilson
Just want to hop in here to remind people that how you carry your weight and how pretty your face is is generally more important than specifically how much there is. Within reason.
Gabriel Hernandez
Not in a greatest mood, actually. I'm desperate and sad and it was a trips, just look how much I want to talk with you :p Just tell me about your day, about your concerns, won't your bf be upset that we're talking? Thank you for your reply and for that you're not baiting.
Jaxon King
I don't. You got shit you gotta work on. People don't really work in collectives like that.
Hudson Walker
Thanks alot. But people don't seems to like being around my company.
Leo Fisher
How have you never been in a romantic setting if you've been on dates?
Daniel Harris
very funny, user, right.
Nolan Bell
nope
Brayden Jones
Nah
Carson King
redpill me on Kosovan women
Asher Jenkins
sorry to hear that user! i just spent almost all day playing video games. and i have no boyfriend so he won’t care. :)
Josiah Kelly
So I met a girl that just completely blew me away, super hot, cute, great character - she'd be the ideal gf if she wasn't taken. Well, we were hanging out and she came upstairs to my room after her bf had left. That's when she confessed how much she's into me and we started kissing. She got wet eyes and apologized to me "I'm sorry, I can't do this to him" I told her I don't want to be the reason they're breaking up, that I'd be there for her if they did, that finding someone else while you're in a relationship is just part of life and that we should probably go back downstairs before this escalated. So we did, and with a long drawn out kiss she wished me good night.
Her bf most likely saw us holding hands earlier and a bunch of other people saw us going to my apartment together.
What's my best course of action here? Just sit back and wait? I can't really distance myself either since she's some sort of mentor in my college program, we have a big overlap in social circles and it'd look weird/suspicious after we got along so well before.
Nolan Cruz
Cool! What type of vidiya they were? :) How far did you get? Oh, and I'm sure your future bf already jealos. Gamer girls = cuties.
Asher Allen
I would take him at face value and think that he does really want to fuck you, and thought that you wanted the same thing. When you (understandably) didn't know how to react, he took that as a bad sign and wants to basically pretend it didn't happen. But men and women are both complicated, so this is a guess at best. You should definitely talk to him about it, because a guy telling his girl friend that he fantasizes about her when masturbating is definitely not something a purely platonic friend would do. Does it really happen that often? I guess some insecure guys might do this because they really did like the girl but weren't confident enough to really go after her.
Wyatt Rogers
I've never been or seen that situation personally but if the time between the turndown was short I'd feel like I made the right choice in turning her down: She wasn't really interested in me, personally, but rather the idea of a guy she could get along with. Actual relationships take time to develop, numbers-game is for chumps, I could see the friend-zoning to be a "not yet" rather than a "no" but why they wouldn't say not yet is beyond me. Those are the only reasons I could see for losing respect in a girl in that situation.
Aiden Hernandez
Wait, be there for her as a friend, respect her boundaries but also make it clear you’re interested in her as more than friends. I’m a girl but in the exact same situation as you. Perfect guy, he’s into me too, but he’s not single. I’m taking my own advice and waiting for him. He’s asked me not to because he feels bad but I’m content to wait until they either break up or I find someone that can make me forget about him.
Nathan Wright
Be super careful about jumping into a relationship with her, assuming she does end it with the bf. There's a come-down period after a break up and you will be a resented rebound if she dumps him one day and picks you up the next. Wait at least a few weeks before you start going on serious dates.
Gabriel Nelson
>I told her I don't want to be the reason they're breaking up FUCK that. It's one thing to break up a relationship because you want the girl, but if you want the girl and she wants you back? You're SAVING the guy from a loveless relationship. I mean, she was right to stop when she did. Cheating is a bitch move, which is why she should let the guy know what's up, end the relationship, and then get together with you.
Jack Ramirez
How to react to complements? These are the ones most common for me: >you have pretty green eyes >you hair is so good and pretty >you have a handsome face >you have a cool custom >you're so smart [Spoiler] >you dick is so big and massive [/spoiler/]
I think these things are actually true and i normally ignore and pretend that nothing happenend.
