I can’t stand these double standards. It’s wrong to judge a woman’s history, but it’s fine to make a man feel less about himself for something he DIDN’T do?
When I was young, my parents went through a rough divorce. I didn’t get much attention and guidance during my young teenage years. I had no role model or father figure. I was anxious and always intimidated. Back then, i was scared of girls. I never talked to them and never talked about them to peers. Maybe since I stood out from the crowd on this topic, people started calling me gay, and referring to me as gay, and making gay jokes. This lasted all of middle school and high school. I thought that would end when I went into the military. Nope, same shit. Out of desperation, i fucked a gross whore I knew from Hs when i was 20. That softened the accusations for a bit. But it started up after a while. After 5 years in the military. I got an new job. But I had the same experience there. People would make subtle jokes. Why? Just because I was always quiet when people talked about girls. I had never had a gf, and only had a terrible sex experience. Nothing to talk about. So I got joked on, again.. now I’m 28. I work as a pilot. There has been times when flight attendants flirt with me. A few times, I had some who made it obvious they wanted to hook up in the hotels during long overnight trips. But I’ve turned them down. What do they say? “Oh you’re gay?”.
This is driving me insane. I’m honestly just not that interested in sex. My experience was awful, and i just don’t care to do it again. I’m getting sick of bs accusations. I talked to a friend about it and he told me “you’re a man who’s single. It’s in your identity to be getting pussy right now. That’s what MEN do. You need to BE a MAN”. This makes me feel weak. I’ve done everything possible to be a responsible man.
It’s okay not to want to bang random people. Just bang somebody if you actually want to. Other people calling you gay shouldn’t make you do things you don’t want to do.
Chase Sanders
if you know that sex is not the path to happiness then dont be afraid that somebody is correct if they act like it is
you can have conviction in your beliefs. it is not wrong. you dont have to be stand-offish. you can say how you really feel.
real relationships where you can share your real self and be honest about absolutely anything (and they can with), and you can trust that person and they you - that shit is actually worth it
Tyler Bell
Lol you're hella gay dude
Luke Myers
You have shit tier self confidence and that's your biggest problem from this post.
I had people hassle me for being a virgin in college. After the first summer trip, I came back and lied with amazing confidence that I had banged a girl from back home. They all fucked off with that shit shortly after.
Have you never heard the term "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned."? Why do you even pay attention to what a dumb bitch you weren't interested in says?
The problem isn't everyone else. Everyone else has always been a fucking retard since the beginning of time. The problem is your own perception of yourself and it literally is as easy as telling yourself you're better than that constantly.
Cameron Butler
>join the military >very upset every time you get called gay you're not gay, you're retarded
James Turner
I tried telling the truth but I get 1 of 2 answers.
>1. “You’re crazy you need to get laid ASAP” and they try to set me up with sluts >2. “Man it’s ok. We don’t mind if you like guys”.
Women are the worst offenders. Once during a trip, a flight attendant came to my room late at night, knocked on my door. She was trying to flirt her way into my room saying how “I can’t sleep”. I told her flat out I wasn’t interested. The night we had the same crew. An obvious gay FA came over and talked with me during dinner one night. After like 15 min or so he says to me”can I ask you something?” I said sure, he said “so, you’re not gay are you?” I said no. He said “I didn’t think so, I don’t get that vibe. But that girl said you were”..
What gets me is how I’ve worked hard to get where I am. I had no one to show me how to be a man. So, now when I get accused for not being masculine, especially since I’ve heard it since fucking middle school, it wears me down.
I know the difference between the typical “what’s up faggot” military talking and this bs. They are not the same things
Gabriel Anderson
It isnt wrong to judge a woman's history. You can have whatever standards you want and so can women, and you can respond to women's standards how you want and they can respond to yours how they want. Retards gonna retards, retards are the majority.
OP BTFO
Jack Clark
why am I accused of being less masculine and gay just because I don’t have sex
Grayson Garcia
at the end of the day, who gives a fuck what people think? you don't need to care what people think unless it seriously is actually going to threaten you in some way
get real about it man
Carter Wood
It's because some people are incapable of putting themselves in other people's shoes. They try imagining if they were you why they wouldn't have had sex yet. The conclusion they draw about themselves is that it would only be if they were a repressed gay man. They are projecting their own insecurities onto you OP.
Ayden Clark
You should ask Warriormale on tumblr. Hes a great guy who understands manliness.
Sebastian Kelly
because that's what the current culture considers masculine do you want to be perceived as "masculine"?
Carson King
Of course I should be masculine. I’m a guy. Men should not be feminine
Oliver Richardson
Women are judged just the same, you’re just feeling all one sided.
Go live your life as you see fit.
Jordan Wilson
Wait what? Explain this room you had on a plane that had doors? What the fuck?
Blake Evans
Well I am fairly similar to you user, except my step mother was an abusive libral type. (Yes they exist) my family has always been libral, but i had a step mom who was the violent angry libral. She believed in knowledge but also believed in the old ways of punishing kids like using a belt. I remember the screaming most of all. She would belittle me because, well to be honest i was a slow learner and tired all the time due to arthritis. I was a drain on income because of the devorce and i was considered spoiled. She could never hit me but she threatend to do so and she would hit her own kids. My brother when he was breast feeding bit down on her nipple too hard she loses it and spanks him. She was just angry and scary. Thanks to hear I got fucked up in the head, thinking i am a coward for not protecting my siblings. Now i see women with these complaints and I am beyond baffled and insulted. People who go on about their bullied past like a badge of honor are liars and fakes.
You dont ever want to be a victim. This double standard shit has got to stop.
Thomas Kelly
Most planes do especially air liners.
Matthew Flores
Is this some sort of secret first class thing?
Gavin Perry
See, just a bunch of chairs, no rooms with doors. I don’t understand.
Seperating the cabins and like the pilot and bathrooms and shit like that. There are doors.
Brody Mitchell
Oh. I meant to say hotel room. But it is true about “secret rooms” on larger aircraft. Google “crew rest area 787”
Asher Collins
Ok makes sense.
For a moment I was wondering if Im the only poorfag here.
Jaxon Martinez
Just play the same game they are playing if they ask you about your height or your age. Ask them about their weight and how much theh archived in life. I promise you they dont expect that and they will back off.
Asher Hall
>accusations aint nothing wrong with being gay, friend
Anthony Howard
That doesn’t work tho. Because I already know they hook up with girls or are married/ in relationships. I can’t say much to that. I try to avoid conversations about girls.
Don’t say that to him, please. It’s not motivating at all
Carson Hill
OP probably you're not going to read this but here it goes : You honestly don't have to worry about it, today's standards are the most degenerate thing, people in their younger years are expected to be fucking whores that get drunk and laid every weekend. They don't think you're gay, they just don't see you as one of them and they try to shame you for not following their habits.. The workplace may be more toxic than school, especially if you are not average.
My honest advice is that you give therapy a try, your outlook is not really that bad and you need to realize that there's nothing wrong with a low body count.
In the other hand just tell them that you have had enough pussy however women doesn't mean that much to you, they're just walking holes (try to slut shame them making them feel inferior) and whatever they say after that just brush them off as if their opinion is from a 6 years old.
Levi Walker
>join a sausage fest >surprised people think you are gay
Only got yourself to blame bud.
Robert Johnson
The same thing happened to me when I was in the military as well I understand what you're going through, but don't let people who have no respect for your decisions influence how you feel about yourself. At the end of the day you have to be okay with your decisions, and what anyone else thinks about it doesn't matter.
Gabriel Flores
>not being able to talk to a bro about other bros running 40's in TIGHT shorts >seeing them ENGORGED dicks flopping >both parties still able to be completely hetero You fags need to learn to get secure with your sexuality. Absolutely nothing wrong with admiring a peak male form.
Matthew Jones
Because some people think that Some don’t, so they won’t say anything
What’s not masculine is you being a little bitch about it
