How common is it to not have any friends at all?

26 year old male, not really a bad person I believe, used to have Friends back in high school.

My life went through some hardships which I eventually overcame and do decently now. I have a loving family and I live comfortably, but I lost every single friend due to bad choices on my part, others just drifted apart.

I'm alone, none to tell about anything good or bad that happens to be (besides my family). How common is this to happen? Am I weird or sick inside for not having any Friends?

It's just so hard to not feel bad about it when everyone else seems to have a group of Friends, you tend to feel like if you were broken inside or something.

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I have no friends and a loving family as well, which is pretty sad.
Is this common? I highly doubt it, but I imagine it might not be uncommon on Jow Forums.

OP here

Man, I wish people like you and me had some kind of club we could join to make Friends, at least we have something in common. Yes I am sure Jow Forums is full of people like us most of the time. Sometimes I feel like a bad person for not having Friends, as if it were my fault or as if I just was psychologically sick.

If you met me in real life you wouldn't think I'm alone in the world, and I wonder how many people I see on the streets are in a similar situation. Weekends consist of me doing stuff alone or with my family, I like it and I'm used to this lifestyle, but I wonder if I'm missing out by not having friends?, maybe I do but then again, there's not much I can do about that.


So it seems we were made to be lonely people I guess.

Hey there OP, i mean, that is common as fuck in here.

But talking about irl experiences, i have known several people that say that they have no friends, only to become my close friends down the road, or at least for a couple of months, and there are a million of reasons about why people have no friends, some people really are akward as fuck and don't know how to save or hold a friendship, others just get bored and others just think that they are better off by themselves.

I'm my case is the second one, i have had several close friends through my life, only for them to leave because i just stopped talking to them when our lives changed (changes like graduating from hs, quitting a job, getting a new job) or they stop talking to me, so it can go either way

However, i don't worry myself too much about it because its extremely rare to see a friendship last a long, long time, i guess that people just come and go and you just have to enjoy hanging out with them while it lasts ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

It shouldnt be like this, people should have at least one true good friend in their lives, a friendship that lasts a lifetime.

I too have lost people the way you described

Lol kill yourself

I was the same way at about your age. It was so bad that I couldn't even get a passport without doing this expensive notary public thing. You're normally required to put the phone numbers of people who have known you personally for a few years and can verify details.

It got better though. I don't have a magic secret or anything to tell you. I was never unlikable or a bad person but didn't know how to make or maintain friendships. I started getting out of the house more and eventually met people who really liked me and were persistent about spending time with me. I hope you find people like that too eventually.

friends come and go stick w/ ur family. Its Els way of saying, shits fucked yo.

Its kind of refreshing to hear theres someone out there who managed to go through life like this.

I fear I wont ever be very popular so I guess I'll have to accept it. But that doesn't mean life has to be bad.

I grew up with an alcoholic dad, so I was too busy worrying about my family before making and maintaining true friendships, so I endes up alone once my family rehabilitated from its problems.

You said it gets better, I believe you. I just fear none coming to my funeral or ny wedding (if I ever get married), you know?, I dont want to get old and remember my life like this.

>I just fear none coming to my funeral...
Try not to get obsessive about it. Being angry or sad about not having "true friends" is going to make things a lot worse. Making friends is sort of like how you can spend hours frantically trying to find something and never find it, but then find it when you're looking for something else. Focus on something fulfilling you can do by yourself.

Im a medical doctor, I pass too much time alone with books. Thanks to this I have zero friends. But this is the path I chose I guess.

Theres a group of "friends" but in reality they are the type of guys you cant tell anything good that happens to you without them getting envy.

Your group to create is..project mayham
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I stopped having friends after college when I had to actively ask my friends if they had time to hang out with me and being a pathetic piece of shit I never ever asked anyone.
why would anyone want to spend time with me?

I dont either. I get along well with people these days but I'm still friendless and yes, it makes you feel wrong. It's a hassle if you ever need character references as well.

Back when I was struggling and had no idea, there were about 3 or so people who actively tried to maintain contact with me after high school but I pushed them away because I felt so ashamed of myself and my life at that point. Your post made me wonder how my life could've gone if I hadn't pushed them away and just been honest- maybe I wouldn't be the way I am now. I cant reach out to people at all, pretend to be normie, and cant trust others to not reject me if I was more open.

I just dont know, OP. People are usually friendly or willing to have a chat in real life if you work or study or do a hobby with them. But for me at least, turning superficial chatter into a lasting meaningful relationship is an obstacle I cant jump. Maybe people like us have to accept possibly being hurt a lot more than normal people as a sort of penance or catch up before finding actual friends or even a partner.

Men don't have friends past 30 anyway. You just started a bit early.

a lot of my friends got gfs they wana wife and left me. they want to only hang on their birthday now, or they just hang out with their work friends only

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It gets harder when you don't have an environment where you're forced to be near people for hours daily. Not to mention people who actually have friend groups still established.

Adults like us? I think our best bet is just joining a social club related to our hobbies or just be comfortable with the idea of only ever having aquaintances at best.

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Not too long ago, this was the place for people in this exact situation. Then, the fire nation attacked-
Jokes aside, I can see why everyone back then didn't want underage kids coming in here because now we're in their situation. This is what they don't tell you about in school, it's not on TV or in movies. They skip past this age in books because this is what the red pill and all those memes are really about; becoming a man and seeing with your own eyes that community isn't this bug hug box of love and care. All those hobbies, dreams, and aspirations mean naught to this moment for most, if not all, men and it's the deciding moment of "am I going to kill off this inner child and grow up or not". Maybe if this reality was given to boys at 10 years old, they wouldn't have to waste another 10 years being lied to

Shit

>If you met me in real life you wouldn't think I'm alone in the world, and I wonder how many people I see on the streets are in a similar situation

This is actually a lot more common than you would think. Many guys who are lonely and depressed etc.. hide it well from the world. I know it's scary but sometimes you just have to open up and show how vulnerable you are to people for them to try and understand you

I believe you are right, There's probably a lot of people out there friendless than we realize at first.

Yeah it sucks

I'm at a point in my life were I study most of the time in the library, I don't get to meet new people this way and this isn't helping my situation.

University is over for me and I have to do some research and study on my own at my local library, but that's not exactly a very social place at all. I've gotten much more attractive and Jow Forums since my days as a student, and get my share of glances from girls, that's something I quite enjoy when I'm studying tho lol

>It gets harder when you don't have an environment where you're forced to be near people for hours daily. Not to mention people who actually have friend groups still established.
Not OP but I have a job where I'm around people all day and I still can't befriend them. They're nice people and they try to get me to socialise with them but my mind just blanks, I have nothing to say and nothing to share. I also have bad anxiety and socialising is harder than actually working for me.

I don't have any friends either. The only people who have my phone number is doctors/immediate family.
I'm not socially awkward. People at work always talk to me and want to eat with me. But I just have no interest in a shallow friendship. If there was someone who wanted a real friendship, not "lets go eat food" friendship, I'd have friends. But I don't see that.

A suggestion: To have friends one must be a good friend first.

You guys are all complaining about not having friends, but I bet you guys are also not doing much to get to know another person. Imagine if you met each other in real life?, probably wouldn't make much friends even if you had in common being friendless, because you aren't very interested in other people too.