I'm a virgin (by choice, not religious), 20, and in a relationship that is practically perfect. I really do think I'm in love with my boyfriend, and he's practically perfect.
The only thing is, recently the idea of cheating on him after we're married has become really appealing, to the point that I think it might be a fetish for me. I'm practically demisexual, so the idea of having sex with anyone other my life partner is practically foreign, but when I think of cheating on him, it's starting to sound appealing.
I'm legitimately afraid of this, of this being a fetish and of these urges not only not going away, but getting stronger over time. I don't want to cheat on him, he doesn't deserve that, and I would never forgive myself if I did cheat. It legitimately makes me feel kind of sick that I might do something like that.
How do I keep myself from cheating on him? I don't want to hurt him, and I know for a fact that it's the one thing I could ever do that would make him leave me. How can I keep these urges under control or get rid of them?
Just wanting to experience more people, maybe? Or just the thrill of it, the taboo. I don't really know.
Levi Peterson
Marry a cuck. That sounds perfect for you. Don't turn anyone into a cuck though. Find someone who already is.
Jaxson Anderson
As bad as this is going to sound, I've actually thought of that. The thing is, I'm not really interested in anyone else and the cuck lifestyle/personality type is really not what I want in life. I want a monogamous and loyal relationship, hence why I want to try and control or curb myself rather than go for that, which would probably be easier in a lot of ways.
Aiden Watson
then don't cheat stupid. not every urge is worth pursuing, or even should be pursued. integrate and control your shadow or cheat, hurt and lose your boyfriend and see where that takes you.
Jayden Brooks
Write a story where someone cheats to explore the idea, maybe you will tire of it. Sometimes I really want a shitty mcdonalds cheeseburger because I haven't had one in a few years. I'm not committing myself to a life of mcdonalds cheeseburgers by eating one, I'm just removing the novelty from the experience again.
Landon Cox
I don't really think you get what I mean. It's not "oh hey this would be pretty cool I want to try that", it's "I literally can't get off today unless this is what I think about." It's more than a passive kink, there are times when it's a legitimate fetish and I have a hard time really thinking about anything else. It's getting worse over time and my concern is that at some point, and it may be years from now, I might not be able to keep myself from doing it. If it was just a matter of "yeah don't do that", I wouldn't be here. I'm asking for some kind of advice or tools to help control myself.
I think this is a really good idea, generally when I get the urge I do my best to ignore it. I'll try writing something out.
Anthony Evans
Temptation Just think of it as a carrot on a stick dangling in front of you. If you lose sight of the bigger picture and chase the carrot, you risk falling into a hole. I'd just think about the media you're consuming. If you watch a certain type of porn it can poison your mind and send you down a dark path of fetishes where normal sex simply isn't enough anymore. Try to think if there's an outside source that might be subliminally suggesting infidelity, as crazy as it sounds, with divorce rates as high as they are today and cuck porn being at an all time high, the subliminal suggestions for women to cheat are out there everywhere.
Tyler Martinez
If you really believe what you say then you will need to seek out counseling with a sex therapist. That may help. Otherwise you'll just destroy some man's world one day because you had to scratch that itch that you apparently don't even understand.
