How do I get rid of gender dysphoria? I've had this shit for over ten years now

I stopped years ago

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I am not a psych major, so I'll let talk about the implications of the rest of this.

but a couple more questions before we continue...

Are you exhibiting obvious primary and secondary sexual characteristics of your birth gender? Are you fuzzy? Are you tall with a squarish frame and pointy shoulders? rough voice?

Or are you more androgynous physically, or even able to trap it up if you put some effort into it?

and last, preferred gender of ideal sexual partner?

>Are you fuzzy? Are you tall with a squarish frame and pointy shoulders? rough voice?

Umm...not fuzzy slender frame but taller, soft voice, sound female when i practice

>Or are you more androgynous physically, or even able to trap it up if you put some effort into it?

This

I'm slender build

>preferred gender of ideal sexual partner?
Male... but i like girls too

If you've been fighting it for years and simply aren't comfortable being a guy, then you should most likely transition earlier rather than continuing to fight it. I'd suggest trying to find a gender therapist first if you can and speaking with them on it

there is no getting rid of this sort of thing, only coping

how deeply you need to take your coping mechanism is up to you.

some people are satisfied enough to identify with a fictional character they write, some people need hormones and cosmetic surgery.

it's on a case by case basis

Well, you basically need to pick your poisons from here.

No matter what, you're going to have to face the resistances of your own state of mind, society, your own biology and so forth.

You can live as a gay man, and based on your word, youre in demand among that world. This is probably the path of least resistance for you, you will have to contend with your own mental dysfunction as it arises, but its possible that it dies down with more time depending on the work you put into understanding it.

You could begin to transition at great physical and financial cost. And your androgyny is not a guarantee that you'll pass without hesitation after any specific level of medical work. If you intend surgery, there is always risk to surgery that you expose yourself to. More complications if you opt for a boob job too. Once you do this, you may have significantly restricted your access to romantic partners. You'd have to find a man who is indifferent to your situation, or finds it a plus. If a woman is still acceptable, you have to find a lesbian who is in the same position.

>You could begin to transition at great physical and financial cost.

money isn't an issue

>And your androgyny is not a guarantee that you'll pass without hesitation after any specific level of medical work

i look like a soft male

>You can live as a gay man, and based on your word, youre in demand among that world.

us traps even moreso nowadays

>Once you do this, you may have significantly restricted your access to romantic partners

I dont need to tell them when im done the surgeries

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>money isn't an issue

well good for you. that still doesn't negate the health risk of surgery, medicines, hormones, etc.

>I dont need to tell them when im done the surgeries

I don't think most trans people have a working radar for when others can tell.

And it isnt a binary situation whereby your not telling is a guarantee, especially as you continually hang around the same person. Just because people don't ask doesnt mean you've passed at that time.

So the point stands.

I dunno. do whatever you want, its no sweat off my back. I'm just trying to make sure you've thought a few steps down each road.

>well good for you. that still doesn't negate the health risk of surgery, medicines, hormones, etc.

I'd rather transition than die

Assuming you are male. Just embrace your masculinity. Do some male typical behavior, male typical activities. Lift weights, go hiking, do some sport. Use your full voice, not that weak female sounding head voice. You might find you like it.

If that doesn't work then you can go with the standard route, but at least try it. Non-ironically: actually try to be a man for once.

Then transition, OP! Please do what makes you happy, please. Even if you look like a handsome male now, you don't owe anyone anything. You do, however, owe yourself a life you can look back on without the constant struggles.

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Do whatever, but don't cut it off. Surgeons can't make vaginas, don't fall for that shit.

Hack. Go to a not retarded therapist.

I've repressed this for years. I was doing really good at it for years and almost forgot I had this issue. But it always resurfaces and I have to contain it once again. I just can't make it stop. This is the worst it's ever been. I wish I can suppress this and just live like the heterosexual masculine cis man I've always been. I at least feel better that I told my friends about this, but I'm not ready to tell my family. My dad barely beat death and is still recovering from his surgery. But I need to get help at some point. Whether I transition to become a girl or somehow, I can hold on to this male identity I've lived by for my whole life, I just want the struggle to be over.

You mean gender identity disorder right?

OP I want you to know that you'll never, ever be other gender that the one you were born. If you have a dick, you'll never be a woman, and viceversa.

>I dont need to tell them when im done the surgeries
First off, you're assuming that you're going to pass. A lot of people don't pass as well as they think they do and being in what I assume is your mid 20's is going to hurt that a fair bit. You're also going to have to accept all the stigma that comes with being a transexual though as long as you aren't a stereotypical tumblrite, you'll be fine.
Secondly; in the event that you pass well enough; not telling a potential future partner that you're trans WILL go badly once sex is involved because you'll either have the situation of a mangled penis substituting for a vagina not being the same as a natural one or they're going to get a shock when they see your dick. You don't just spring that on someone, you need to have a conversation at some point about it.

You're between a rock and a hard place no matter what you choose but I highly recommend avoiding the genital mutilation regardless of your final decision to transition.

Pretty much. If you think being in no man's land, caught between failed manhood and artificial womanhood will make you feel better, then go for it. But don't expect substantial improvement in your life quality.

>you don't owe anyone anything
>you owe yourself a life you can look back on without the constant struggles
The most self-destructive attitude that anyone could maintain. Accompanying such narcissistic advice with flattery and a cute image is manipulative. Do not take advice from this poster.

And I want you to know you'll never not be a loser

>A lot of people don't pass as well as they think they do and being in what I assume is your mid 20's is going to hurt that a fair bit. You're also going to have to accept all the stigma that comes with being a transexual though as long as you aren't a stereotypical tumblrite, you'll be fine.

i will lol but im more right wing

>You're between a rock and a hard place no matter what you choose but I highly recommend avoiding the genital mutilation regardless of your final decision to transition.

lol

lmfao

your post convinced me to transition, thanks!

Best advice thanks

Never seems to go sorry you're dealing with this

You are a feminine man, not a woman. It's okay to be a feminine man. You don't have to embrace delusions to wear dresses and lace.

Thank you, animu.

Kill yourself. Brain is already broken and it will further push you to do more broken shit to make sense of itself. I know you wont actually kill yourself so just ride out never being truly happy or content like the rest of us.

Not really. There are effeminate men who are still fully straight and in control of who they are or even faggots who know they're Male but like men anyway. OP actually wants to throw away his malehood, that's something different.