ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

Girls, do you like men's perfume/deodorant or no? (Please, answer even if you will just say "no" rather than skipping the question)
If you do, which one do you like? Tell me some brands.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no “magic moment” (or activity) that will instantly change you.

No. It gives me headaches.

Your whole story is written like shit I could barely understand a sentence. Then you named your ex X and never used that name again.

Are you here to fuck around or what.

No. They all tend to smell pretty terrible. It's a very chemical stench and men who use them usually overdo it.

Not a big fan generally, they're all too strong imo. Some light, citrusy aftershave is fine but anything more is just a trip to headache city.

my roommate doesn't wear deodorant. maybe I should introduce you to him since you're such a fan?

I dont know, it seems like i'm invading some sort of very personal space.

Deodorant and perfume are two different things. I do expect basic hygiene from most people.

Why would a girl ghost a guy after going out for 5 weeks? Things seemed to be going really fine, we both had lots of fun, most we did was hand stuff, never got to actual sex but still, all the texts seemed to show that she was into me. I'm not even mad or sad and it wouldn't bother me if she just told me she didn't want to see me anymore but this non-responding thing is weird.

What guys don't understand is that girls are always in fear of their life when interacting with dudes. A simple, "Hey, sorry but I'm not interested" could easily lead to a tirade of death threats and name-calling. Ghosting is a lot less stressful.

concur. I've been cursed, spit on, had my car damaged, apartment broken into, grabbed exiting work, choked, smacked, hair pulled, threats of death and all for saying no.

This. There’s something called unscented deodorant/antiperspirant. Just because I can’t handle your faggy body spray doesn’t mean I like sweaty, dirty gym sock stench.

Shit what guys do you keep going out with? Sounds like to me you get close and see a red flag and run for the hills.
Its the guys fault but not all guys are like that.

I'd like to believe she knows I'm not that kind of guy but oh well, guess this is just something I'll have to get used to, I had never been ghosted before, how long should I wait just to be sure? It's been about a week since we last spoke, other than the last message I sent asking her if she wanted to do something on the weekend to which she didn't answer I haven't texted her at all.

Yes, yes you are. That’s the point. Have you ever fished before? You cast, leave it floating out there, jiggle it a bit, reel a bit, and after awhile reel it in and cast again. Same with landing a fish. You don’t just reel as hard and fast as you can, you set your hook, let him tire himself out a bit, and the reel him in.

With women, the idea is to invade a little, see how she reacts, and repeat if it’s not a freakout. She gets used to you being there, and eventually feels a little disappointed if you AREN’T close. Kind of like wearing a wristwatch; it feels weird at first, but eventually you feel weird without it.

It doesn't matter if not all guys do it. All it takes is a few guys to cause girls to be on guard, and nearly every girl has experienced it at least once or twice. It also doesn't matter what type of girl they are, dudes approach girls unsolicited all the time.

Im used to not getting responses or talk to women for a time. Simply i move on, i just worry that she is spreading rumors that I am some sort of a freak.

>not all guys
Enough guys though. And most guys don’t get butthurt about a soft rejection. You’re a small enough minority not to merit special treatment.
>I'd like to believe she knows I'm not that kind of guy
She really doesn’t know you well enough. Once romantic feelings get involved people can change. If you’ve ever turned someone who was a friend for years into a lover, you’ll be shocked how much you really didn’t know.

I think that i understand what you're trying to say. The more i think about it the more it seems that this problem is related to me because i dont really like to be touched therefore i think the same applies for others too. I just cant handle that moment whenever i dont if she likes the touching or not.

>i just worry that she is spreading rumors that I am some sort of a freak.
Girls don’t do this for the same reason they don’t reject you directly. If they don’t want anything to do with you, they don’t want to invite trouble. Admittedly, if you’ve dated for awhile, it’s likely you’ll come up in conversation, but not if you’re just casually rejected.

It does when you keep getting guys who are like that. I know it isnt easy being a woman but mind you its because of those freaks that do act that way it has painted a picture for all of us.

>You’re a small enough minority not to merit special treatment.
What do you mean small minority? Of what?

>The more i think about it the more it seems that this problem is related to me because i dont really like to be touched therefore i think the same applies for others too.
Yep, that’s pretty much the problem.

Let me just say, not all girls love touching either, and you don’t need to push the envelope if you’re not okay with it. There are plenty of ways to interact with women that don’t require frequent touching.

Men who react super badly to being ghosted (i.e., get online and bitch about girls not being straightforward) are a small enough minority of men that they don’t merit modifying the standard procedure.

That's why you should be more conscientious of women. Ghosting is a nice compromise between knowing she isn't interested and her not being terrified of being raped and murdered. It's perfectly reasonable for them to feel that way, and we don't deserve special treatment for being a baseline decent human being.

Woah I dont react badly when ghosted I just said I moved on.

Good for you.

I asked about it because of legit curiosity. I honestly don't think anyone here has posted anything suggesting they reacted badly to being ghosted.

Who said we arent? The problem here is you assume that I am one of those violent guys. I would never do any of that. The problem is that I am being conscientious and you just ignoring it in the first place, granted I get you dont give a fuck about my support, but needless to say its insulting to be told were arent doing the very thing you want us to do. You just dont care if we do or not.

You haven’t been here long.

Fuck you too? This is why you get such little support. You pick and choose who is on your side. Fine what ever you do you, I not gonna help someone like you who tells me to think of her feelings when she doesnt bother to think of mine at the same time. Have a nice day.

What do I do if I'm a normal guy, decent looking, well groomed and well dressed, highly sociable, meet plenty of girls, and yet can't get even one date?

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Better to assume then to let down their guard and end up in a ditch.
Like I said, you don't deserve special treatment for being a baseline decent human being. Being decent should be encouraged, but girls aren't going to shower you in praise for not wanting to kill them.

Because you may think too highly of yourself.
Dont talk about things that annoy you with other girls.

>The problem here is you assume that I am one of those violent guys. I would never do any of that.
How the fuck are women supposed to know that? They only know that you turned out to be unattractive and they don’t want to deal with you anymore.
Getting THIS butthurt about it is honestly a pretty good sign that you actually have the potential to be “one of those violent guys.”
But even if not, the sort of confrontation you seem to be hoping for is something else women fucking hate. It’s unpleasant and embarrassing. The guy dumps on a bunch of pressure and, yes, it becomes scary.

>There are plenty of ways to interact with women that don’t require frequent touching.
I'm not really much of flirty person either. I can make them laugh but flirting seems like a pointless thing.

Im not asking special treatment i am asking to be treated like a human being. I mean for fuck sakes I am not asking for praise at all, just to be fucking acknowledge that I am not one of the bad guys.

Bye bye.

I don't think too highly of myself, I actually have low self-esteem (due in most part to my inability to attract women)

I don't talk about things that annoy me with girls. I usually have good conversations with girls but they never show signs of attraction

>Girls don’t do this
They do, but at least my ex friendgroup wasn't close to any of the people I knew.

Flirting can be as simple as bantering back and forth and laughing. The girls who put up warnings in their dating profiles about being “sarcastic” are definitely those types.

Ahh, you're probably one of those overly nice guys who just agree with everything.

It wouldnt be so scary if you werent being so judgemental to begin with. You cant expect a guy to not be offended when you are being offensive. Since when did you get the idea that you can be terrible person because you dont know them?

Bye dont let the new abusive boyfriend hit you on the way out. Since thats all you want.

No, I'm not. Stop assuming things.

I think for myself. I speak my mind around girls, even if I'm attracted to them. I'm an adult man, I've long since moved past the phase of trying to alter my personality or interests to fit the mould of girls I like.

Cringe

Sometimes i wonder why i even bother with them. I wish i could be asexual and be over with but i cant because i find them intimidating.

Cringe because of your own actions, not because you are being called out on it.

>ghosting
>being a terrible person
Yep. That one’s going in my cringe compilation. I’m a guy by the way.

Romance feels good. Sex feels good. You don’t need to panic or feel anxious about it. Just approach dating as going to hang out with someone interesting and don’t focus so much on the next step.

You made your opinion about me based on nothing to begin with, and now its unnattractive to call you out on your pwn stupidity. I know it was because I am not here to pick you up. I am not here to fuck you on an anonymous chat.

Holy shit dude, this isn’t /gioyc/. Lmao.

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Are fucking trolling just to be a bitch? I was talking about you here right now. Not because you ghosts. I het you ghost a guy after getting to know him but you already assumed that i hate you for it. I dont fucking care, the issue is that you dont listen and just judge some one on knowing nothing about them.

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It sure isnt /b/ait either

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If you want to be a girl so bad you should cut off yo dick

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It's people like you that end up being abusive parents

You need to become more misogynistic. Treating women like equals and respecting their boundaries is the biggest dealbreaker women have. They hate that shit because they think it makes you weak. Start objectifying women and it will become more natural to be confident and assertive around them.

Honestly, i cannot answer whenever i dont need sex or i'm repressing the hunger. When i remember my last interaction with girl, it seems like i was looking more for a friend than a date.

Yes! Especially on a date. Please choose a perfume YOU really like and "resonates" with you, that you instantly identify with. Dont be afraid to be inside the store testing perfumes for a long time. Chances are that if a woman sees you there, she will think "finally! A man who cares about looking good and being attractive!"
I find it so great when men are wearing perfume or cologne on a date. If he is right, the last addittion just sweeps me off my feet.

Honestly, while there’s a lot of hemming and hawing on here about “showing interest” and not getting friendzoned, for some people dating works a lot like making friends. The context is still important, and if you’re going through the motions (hanging out one-on-one and going on dates) it doesn’t terribly matter that you’re not super physical or pushy.

>super physical or pushy
As i've said my problem is that i dont do physical stuff at all. Once i feel that it would be good moment to do it, i either start rationalizing or distance myself.

At some level, no matter what happens, you’ll eventually come to a moment when you just have to do it; to overcome that rationalization behavior.

I get why you don't want to get physical. Women will find any reason to call you a rapist.

How do I interact with my boyfriend when he's overly sensitive? He is depressed and takes any small reaction or criticism as if it's the end of the world. For example, he constantly stresses me out a lot because he brings up negative things in our situation that we immediately cannot do anything about. In these moments I get annoyed and distant because worrying about things you can't change is a waste of time and energy. If I show the slightest reaction of being tired, stressed, distant, he takes it very personally and thinks I hate him and who he is as a person. Yesterday I made him cry because I felt overwhelmed and wasn't talking as much. I also feel frustrated because there is almost nothing I can do to reassure him. Sometimes he is very negative and critical of everything and it really brings me down.

I try to be very emotionally supportive and take care of everything for him outside of work so there is very little stress when he gets home. There was a time right when we moved into another state when he was crying every day and suicidal because of the stress. I feel really bad for him and I hate feeling like I can't help him. We can't afford therapy right now, is there anything I can do now? How do I get better at emotionally supporting him?

Get out of that relationship. He needs help, and it’s not something you can provide.

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>have pretty bad social anxiety
>was not always like this, loved socialising in town as a 18 yo (25 now)
>go to town at any point these days
>feel super uncomfortable in group conversations
>every conversation I have feels super forced and awkward on my part and whomever is unfortunate enough to be talking to me
>get so anxious I just leave and go home
>spend nights at home wishing I was out socialising
>spend nights socialising wishing I was home
>feel totally weird around even people I have known for 5+ years
How do I escape this cycle, do I need psychiatric help?

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Might be worth talking to somebody.

Yeah, leap of faith but it seems too much.
I dont worry about it.

How do I stop being afraid of girls? The more attractive they are, the more I'm afraid of them. I'm never even trying to flirt or anything, but their mere presence still makes me nervous. I have to avert my eyes from the more attractive ones because I'm afraid of them catching me looking at their T&A, which I do compulsively. I feel so inferior to them, and people in general.

P.S. this isn't a crippling problem or anything. I can talk to girls if I have to and with just the right circumstances I'm even mostly fine chatting with attractive girls. The thought that they are GIRLS never fully leaves my mind tho.

What could it mean if a girl is very chatty on dates, never checks her phone, is always laughing and forgets the time to the point that she sometimes misses her last train BUT never texts you and takes 2-3 days to respond to you.

Is this normal behaviour? I thought it was a one off but I've got 3 girls doing this to me now.

Holy shit, this sounds like a woman is the man and the man is the woman. You might have to cut him loose if he is dragging you down like this.

He sounds too self absorbed about how he is in your eyes he just keeps killing his own character. Maybe say, "please stop being so sensitive to everything, I am not leaving you but you are killing our relationship with your own guilt, its ok i forgive you pleaee move on"

Stop putting pussy on pedestal.

Sounds like a social butterfly. I got a buddy like that. Dont sweat it.

I met a girl like 2 weeks ago, she fills me with emoticons when she speaks to me. I went out with her everything went fine, but now she rarely speaks to me, but sometimes she fills me with emoticons.
Is she playing hard or should i dump her?

I don't know how to do that. I'm not even sure if that's an accurate description of my problem.

>everything went fine
>she rarely speaks to me
apparently it didnt and you were downgraded into friend.

A couple that me and my wife are friends with invited us to hang out this weekend. Usually we hang out in a larger group and this is the first time they’ve asked us to a double date type thing. My wife doesn’t really like my bud’s gf. She says she stares at me and is flirty (ie, she hugged me last time during a big group hang out- I didn’t think anything of it at the time). I can see where she’s coming from, I’ve picked up on the same behavior. Is this just girls being girls? Seems like nothing to me, but here I am posting about it on a Mongolian basket weaving forum.

I am working towards building a friendship with two girls.
I have known them for about a month or so, but we recently all went hiking together so I got to spend a lot of time with them.
What should I do to keep things going the right way?
I really want to be friends with them, but they have known each other longer than they have known me.

Well women like Are the ones to watch out for. These ones already judge you just by looking at you. Luckily they are also the minority.

First look inside yourself and check if how you are with women. Are you goofy? Jokey? Quiet? If you have any violent tendencies then forget that shit and see a professional.
However realize women are people and are scared when you are scared.
So treat them like you want to be treated. You will come across some bully females. But those are the ones you dont want anyways. Dont worry about what they think of you until you are in a relationship. The ones you fail with will forget you anyways and you will never see them again.

Bro. Be fucking careful here. Because even when you make friends they WILL make things confusing. If they say things about their bodies or past sexual experiences, they want more. Just keep a friendly distance.

I mentioned earlier about a girl who I broke things off with (wasn't official but was heading that way) and she was insistent on dropping a box off at my house. Anyway while I was out she dropped said box off despite me asking her not to. It was an early bday present with a card and pre written wedding vows (?), she sprayed it with her perfume. Should I just throw the box out? I don't want any of it

How am I with women? I wouldn't treat them differently, if it weren't for my shyness being amplified around them. I also avoid sexual topics as much as possible. I'm not at all violet.

Do you have friends? They could help you in this, you need to talk to your closest of homies.