Reality Hit me

I have a best friend who is a girl, we get together so perfectly and I started to like her ALOT. I decided to ask her if she ever can see us together in a relationship. She said to me "Nah, I just cant see that happening" then "I've never seen you past a friend" My heart is broken right now Jow Forums but im weirdly motivated to improve myself, idk what im feeling or how I should react but all I know is im hurt and could use some advice on what to do.

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My list of things to change is

>Lose Weight
>Lose Face Fat
>Clean up teeth
>Clean up Face

Personally my body isn't bad its just my face has some issues to clear up so I can move on and find another girl

Update: "I just don't see you as attractive user"

Final Update because no one is responding:

"It was all made up in your head any instance you thought I liked you past a friend" That one hurt the most

Get your shit together, ease off on habits that are detrimental to you, start working out and eating healthy, read as much as you can, learn to be a good conversationalist.
And most importantly, as a man, don't follow your feelings. Pick a partner with your brain. If she rejected you - so be it, go find some other potential mates. Or don't waste your time with potential mates and work on yourself, and go searching for them when you're of better value in the world.

Would you date yourself, user? That is always the question to ask.

>I decided to ask her if she ever can see us together in a relationship.

Why did you do that, don't ever do that. Whatever chance you had to actually be in relationship with her was thrown out the window once you asked her that

uhhh trust me on this, the things we've been talking with ever since i asked her that confirmed this was a very heavily one sided thing. I needed to get it off my chest and find the truth so i can stop making up ideas in my head and move on

Personally I feel like the only thing I have to offer someone is a good friend, im funny, I lighten moods. Basically ALL of my traits are just traits you can find with friends and I offer nothing more if I were to date her. Like its not like im holding out on things and when we date I just open up and become more. Relationships are physical based things and I just lack in that department. The only thing I can see change with us is sex and cuddling and all that stuff but thats it, other than that we would still have the exact same good amount of fun and good times we do now if we were dating or not.

user, this woman seems like a narcissist and narcissists like to keep harems of orbiter around to keep a source of narcissistic supply going while her main target is unavailable.

The naive anons here who are blaming you for genuinely communicating your feelings to her are not the people you should be listening to. The things she said to you by triangulating you with her main target is cruel. You need to go full no contact with her and cut her completely out of your life.

I am sorry amon, I know how hard it is to lose a close friend like this.

There likely was a chance that she might have maybe had drunk sex with you and then maybe tried going out afterwards - but if you do anything like "confess" to her or write her a poem or in your case ask her if she would ever see you as relationship material then you kille off whatever chance you had.

Don't ever do that again. If you like a girl "ALOT" then you just ask her out to the movies or netflix & chill and play it cool for god's sake don't make a big deal out of it and start blabbing about your feelings.

I told her I need time to process this and idk how long it'll take to come to being ok with this. She said I understand take all the time you need. Its just crazy how one sided this whole thing was, like I asked her if she felt even the slightest amount of anything and she said "Never" Meanwhile I feel like shes my soulmate and were perfect for each other and meld personalities perfectly and shes over here not giving two shits about me past a friend while she goes and fucks some random guy she just found because they have a "connection" My concept of love is slowly fading the more im talking about this lol

>genuinely communicating your feelings to her

You're autistic if you think that going around genuinely communicating your feelings to everyone regardless or context or the situation is always the right and appropriate thing to do for them or yourself.

its not a normal situation with her, we've been friends for 2 years and I did subtle things to test the waters and she denied them all. I'll never forget we were shopping and she asked if this ribbon was cute and im like "yea" and she said just yea?? then some old guy came to me and said you'll never last that long with that attitude and she looked at me and said wow how dare he thinks were dating. And ever since that point im like oh shit ok well maybe its in my head and I just had to confirm it.

I did it as closure for myself more than anything. In my head I always felt with near 100% certainty that she didnt like me at all and I had to confirm this so I can move on.

>its not a normal situation with her

I was friends with girls, hundreds of millions of guys are friends with girls, and your situation is not anormal. The ones that I ended up dating were the ones where I was able to get a hold of myself and play it cool.

If you like a girl, just ask her out. Don't overshoot yourself and start writing her poems or any of that shit.

dont ruin a good friendship user

You can just tell these things when you hangout with people idk what to tell you. To put percents on it I was 99% sure she didnt like me and I wanted to overtake that last 1% and that is why I took the gamble and asked her. It was either A. she said she liked me also and we go out, or B. She doesnt like me and I start to move on.

Obviously B happened so now its time to heal, improve, and move on

Its too late for that. I don't know if I can ever go back to her because after all the shit I just said and on top of that if she ever gets a boyfriend I wont be able to stick around her while she's with this guy doing whatever and im just there as an emotionless blob of nothing she was never attracted to.

Just to come back to this thread to vent again, it hurts more thinking about how one sided this whole thing was and she didnt even like me the smallest amount at all and just totally saw me as a friend with 0 potential and value for a relationship. It really stings saying that out loud

Read Models by Mark Manson, you may have high investment in people problem.

As for this one, I'd lay off some time and cut off communication nearly to the really basic level.

She will give you another chance after 6 months of not seeing her, because you might've changed and after that, you must change a lot.

Gym, opinions, body language, opinions on shit, YOUR FUTURE.


TL;DR Read the damn book.

I had a girl that I was best friends with for 5 years. Finally got up the courage to ask her out and dated her for a year. She was 2 years older & in college. One day she just texted me, Hey, I found someone else, don't bother texting back. IT IS NOT WORTH RUINING YOUR FRIENDSHIP. It will hurt you & her and if you don't it will still hurt very bad but it wont hurt her.

yea I told her I cant talk with her for a while I need to settle this whole thing out with myself and my hearts broken and idk how long itll take to accept this and she told me yea I get it take your time. So the cut contact is good and its better that im the only one affected by it. Also the whole after 6 months I get another chance wont happen at all I know that for a fact so I wont even bother having that thought process

What im learning from this user is not to make your best friend a girl because you'll eventually fall for her and then she will reject you usually and then ask yourself are you able to sit there and watch her with someone else.