So what should be a not-so-stressful thing has gone out of proportion.
Me and my fiance live together in the countryside. We both work from home 8h/day, 5 days/week. Our schedule is a bit messed up because our company is set overseas (we wake up and 11am and go to bed at 5am).
We have to go to the city for work in a week, where his dad lives. Its a long drive and costs a bit of money. My fiance talked to his dad about giving us a lift since he is often in this area. Since his dad wanted to visit some friends here, the deal was made. He would drive down here, stay for a week, visit his loved ones, and give us a lift back when we need to go.
He would bring his brother to spend the week since he lives far away and we got 2 spare beds. It was also agreed that he would bring some friends into the house for *one* (1) evening, for dinner, then they would drive away.
So we set on with making the house presentable for them and making a nice dinner since it was the first time some of them were seeing me. We wanted to leave a good impression. We decided that pulling two all-nighters wouldnt hurt to get everything ready and still do all the work we needed.
I made a traditional dish from where i was born, and we both deep-cleaned the house. It was so clean that it felt like no one was living there.
The people in the area are mostly old, and very traditional. When they arrived, they were looking a lot at my hair (which is very curly, pretty rare in a place where everyone's hair is straight), and at my clothes/body (i am in my period, which involves a lot of bloating and back pain) since i was wearing a dress that was on my knees imstead of down to my calves.
Housewife problems
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They settled down for dinner, and me and my fiance got to the oven to finish the food. They were all wide eyed at my fiance when he was in the kitchen with me and not in the table with them. They tried to brush it off by asking "where is her apron?" To him/his dad. They both faked they didn't hear it.
The night progresses. They bring bread (they all eat bread in EVERY single dish) and *give me* some meat to fry to go with the food. The guys who were supposed to only stay for dinner didnt touch my food. They instead only ate meat and bread. My fiance asked if they have allergies to the food i made for them and they say "no lol".
Then, we apologize for not being able to entertain them more, but we sadly had to work for at least a bit on that day besides doing the dishes they ate in. We managed to catch up on 2h of work when his dad calls us to the living room to criticize him about how dirty the carpet was, in front of everyone (have in mind were both on our 20s and the house is ours). It was nearly 20min of hearing him talk about it. After swallowing that to not have a discussion in front of the guests, we go back to work. We couldn't concentrate because on top of being mentally tired from going 3 days now without sleep, we had to deal with the scream-laughing guests and the music.
I cannot shower because the guests are littering the house, even though my period is getting worse and worse.
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We manage to get another hour done after the guests *apparently* leave and our family goes to bed. Remember that thanks to all of this, we managed to get an awesome 3h of work in out of the total 16h.
We go to bed at 6am and manage to sleep until 10, when someone turns music on loud.
We drag ourselves out of bed to see what is going on, and the guests are all back, making a BBQ in the yard. This time, they brought in a 3rd person.
At this point we are very fed up, and i go to the kitchen to make me and my fiance some breakfast while he goes talk to the guests about the music. They brush him off as a "funless guy" and his dad says to him "dw about it, ill see to put the volume down eventually."
Then, we decide to stay in our room and focus on work until the guests are gone. My fiance gets a text from his dad, apologizing about the guests and the carpet thing "because you know how family is". The volume goes down by 0.02dcb. The guests don't leave. We are getting hungry.
At 3pm my fiance goes to the kitchen to make us some food. The BBQ is apparently over, and the guests rush themselves into the table and say "hey user! I see it's time for an early dinner, hmm? What is your fiancee going to make today?" He says "i dont know. Maybe you guys could make yourselves some food since you know, we are both working." His dad then says "is there any chance she could cook again? Femanon makes amazing food."
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They talk a bit as I drone into work until my fiance talks me into making food again so he can work a bit himself. So i do a quick dinner and my fiance's dad is very graceful as to help me set the table. The guests are looking at me expectantly when i put the food into the table and call my fiance. I dont know what they want me to do. Dad-user and uncle-user serve themselves food eventually as we do, and the rest follows suit. They produce pieces of meat from the small fridge they set in the bbq area and again, eat only what they have made themselves, although one guy of the three guests eats one of the things i made.
By now, we are extremely tired, and my fiance has epilepsy, and even though his meds help a lot, such a long time sleep deprived can cause seizures at any moment.
Anyway, after we have entertained the guests (and *I* have done all the cleaning because they would snicker or start whispering every time my fiance joined me) until 9 pm, we go back to our bedroom to finally get some peace.
The guests go outside again (this time without music) and stay there until 2 am.
So in the end i got thankfully 5h of work in yesterday, but my fiance only got 4h, since he tried to nap.
We go to bed at 4am, and thankfully by the grace of God sleep until 12pm of the present day. We are awaken by his dad asking us, or better, me, to make food for the guests.
My fiance is about to punch his head in at the moment, but i try to calm him down. His dad then says "lol chill dude, ill make it myself."
At this point we have no idea whether the guests are sleeping at the neighbor's house or camping out at their cars because they dont fucking leave.
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My fiance decides to get some sleep as i work but he is woken up by his dad vacuuming the house. I decide enough is enough and we go out, planning to stay /out/ until midnight.
Sadly a thunderstorm starts, and the plan to be camping in the woods falls through because we still arent suicidal (even though the situation is calling for it). So we go back home after buying a few chips and sweets from the closest store to sustain ourselves until they go to the yard.
And this is where i am right now, needing to shower, but there are 5 men in my living room and hallway, using the bathroom all the time, and i stink of sweat and period blood. Im longing for my house to be mine again, but i have no idea what to do.
We still have 4 days left.....
Help pls Jow Forums. I need it.
Bump ;-;
What's the tl;tr version?
simply tell them to leave your house, if they refuse call the cops
are you and your fiance mentally retarded or something?
Did i forget to add? Well,
>tl;dr break a deal with FIL: he can sleep over with his brother if he gives us a ride to the city (for work reasons). He turns up with 3 more guys that were supposed to leave in the same night but havent left in 3 days. They all expect me to be the housewife waiting at their hand and foot on top of being absolute pricks. Me and my fiance are angry and cant take this shit any longer.
So tell them to fuck off? If you don't want to involve the cops, roll with "you having to prepare for something else". Generally it's up your fiancé to deal with this faggotory since it's his daddy.
Stop being a pushover, its your house - if you dont like people doing something tell them or have your fiance tell them. If you allow people to walk all over you they will.
The relationship between me, my fiance and his dad is far too good atm and calling the cops or such would ruin it completely. Its the first time something like this has happened and we really thought he would keep his friends under control, but we were apparently wrong
Start having loud sex with your spouse and don't stop til they fucking leave.
t. worked for me
Where is this, eastern Europe? Put period blood in their drinks cause it's gonna be a Red October.
And your fiance needs to stand up to his father. His dad needs to get these faggots out of your house. You say your relationship is good with his dad, but it doesn't sound like it. He's being discourteous and imposing on you more than was agreed. That doesn't garner respect from people generally.
Yep. You got it right. Were in Serbia. The period blood is a quite good idea, as good as 's idea
Tell them to get the fuck out because your fiance needs to sleep or he'll have a fucking seizure! It's not a funny thing and if they don't honor it call the cops to have them removed. Everything is bearable until you said that lack of sleep makes him prone to seizures. Talk to your fiance's dad and tell him he has to sleep because of the seizures, if he doesn't comply talk to your significant other and agree together to call the cops. Fuck that, I'd be telling them to leave on day 3. You powered through it, there's not much else to do. They are being a nuisance at your place and you need to shower. Don't feel bad.
Before I say my opinion, I do want to say my sympathy. :( This sounds like a miserable situation, and you are dealing with a ton. This is already more than most people could handle.
Either ask them to leave yourself or ask your fiance to ask them. They were only supposed to be there for a night, and this is far out of hand. No need for the cops yet, unless they refuse. At that point, honestly? Fuck the relationship. If they refuse and nothing is done, then they will just do this again in the future.
His dad just told him to adjust his sleeping shedule
Real talk, you've been more than reasonable already, allowing it for three days. It's time to get them out.
If you're afraid of some risk, then you'll never make any headway. If you're bf can't advocate for you guys to his family, what does that say about the future? Do you really want to be with someone who can't stand up for you guys, or be clear about their expectations? If he can't stand up to his family, how do you to do it with strangers?
Wow, what a piece of work. You need to demand that they at least leave for a day so he can get sleep. At this point it's just plain rude for his dad to demand that he adjusts his sleeping schedule to meet his partying demands. I really don't like where this is going and before he seizes I would tell them to leave. Talk it over with your spouse. I had a friend with seizure problems and he seized at a drinking party and it was really bad. He has epilepsy as well and we had to rush him to the hospital.
These guests that should've left are exactly the piece of shit people i met in my childhood, only they were TEENAGERS.
Be the boss of your own house ffs, apparently these people will walk over you if they can.
This, Op's partner sounds spineless as fuck.
If your own FAMILY push you around in your own damn house then it's time to find a new partner.
And his dad needs to be confronted right fucking now, this shit would never fly under my roof.
>People wanting to ruin years of relationship because the guy is sympathetic towards his own family.
Good lord you are all pathetic, that being said she needs to tell him to be more assertive and that his wife + future children go before his family. His family already had a life and now it's time to build yours.