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>I have plenty of IRL friends though...
That's kind of the problem for me, I don't really have any which is why I stay here for the time being.

Jow Forums can be incredibly toxic if you visit it on a daily basis; especially places like Jow Forums and Jow Forums.

Once you leave and realise normal people aren't completely hateful or looking for an argument it's easier to judge your time on this website more wisely.

I'm still here daily, unfortunately. Some days its more exciting than others- but if you can find something to do, even if its just watching a cartoon or videogames; there is a possibility it can be much more healthy than Jow Forums.

Its always been a shallow place for despots and rejected weebs. Its just more well known.

everythjng changes user. ive been on Jow Forums since 2004 and everything that made Jow Forums special got badly copied. it started with reddit and its getting worse.
internet awareness has changed, humor has changed.

There's nothing wrong with being conservative, but i'm inclined to agree.
Unfortunately if Jow Forums vanishes we're all doomed

>Unfortunately if Jow Forums vanishes we're all doomed
Because?

We'll drown in the resulting flood.

But at this point they leave their containment board anyway. I mean, try to have a conversation about a movie with a black person on /tv/.

>im in 3 Jow Forums groups
link

please, user

1. No, find your own.
2. Most major boards have a discord. Start there with your home board.

before r9k got deleted, Jow Forums had its fair share of "hwo do i gf" posts but the number skyrocketed when the board got purged. even when it came back there were still more robots here than there were before

Jow Forums is currently the biggest board on Jow Forums, if it gets deleted, EVERY other board is going down

>home board
it used to be Jow Forums, now its kinda trash and there seems to be ALOT of porn there. maybe i just never noticed until i started actively avoiding that stuff

You know what's a problem? My age.

I want to find other misfits/oddballs/weirdos but now that I think about it, those type of people in their 30s are going to have something severely wrong with them. If you're misfit in your teens or 20s you have time to fix it but at 30-something, that's a long time you've been that way.

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You will never make friends if you spend all your time at home. People make friends at school, college and work because they're forced to spend time together over a long period of time. That closeness breeds intimacy and camaraderie over time. There's no "shortcut" to having friends, but assuming you live in a reasonably large city it should not be impossible to find people your age who still have social lives. Get out of the house and into some kind of class or regular activity and you will inevitably meet people. They may not be people you like or have anything in common with but you have to start somewhere. Those people will introduce you to other people and so on. 90% of life is showing up.

As for getting off Jow Forums, it's something that will happen naturally once you start bringing a schedule and obligations/responsibilities into your life. If you spend all day online you'll inevitably gravitate back here.

Yeah reading books

It's reasonable advice I guess. But what do you make of .

Depends on what you mean by "weirdos". If you mean "people who are into niche/nerdy things" then I don't think you will necessarily be running into space cases, there are tons of people with nerdy/niche hobbies in their 30s.

It really comes down to living situation. By the time your mid-30s roll around, if you haven't settled down, it's either because you don't want to or you've failed to do so. If you don't want to then you're probably living the single lifestyle and having an active social life to make up for the lack of a partner. If you've failed to do so then you've probably just retreated further into your loneliness and that's where the "broken weirdos" come in.

The people you will meet in social events and the like will probably belong to the former category, because the loners won't be easily found outside their homes. It's true that finding new friends get harder at 30, for sure, and that's why you should try looking for them in places like work, school, classes, etc. By the time their 30s roll around people are mostly looking for work contacts and/or partners, not friends. People who are looking for friends in their 30s are probably lonely, and being lonely in your 30s is a sign of being a little fucked-up. So it's best to start with the social butterflies and dedicated bachelors even if you feel like you won't have anything in common with them. They might surprise you; most people have developed at least a couple "weird" hobbies or interests by that age.

Nuking Jow Forums is like demolishing a septic tank. All that shit will spill over and stink up the whole website.

Jow Forums is pretty healthy. I literally lurk Jow Forums as a skinnyfat soiboi and came out a fakechad

>If you mean "people who are into niche/nerdy things"
>"broken weirdos"

The latter. The former no longer really has a place for me, since I've noticed they got their lives sorted out.

I don't really have a place of compulsory congregation except work and it's literally just old immigrants talking about how I remind them of their son.

How hard you tried to look?

>Jow Forums is pretty healthy.
I'm pretty sure Jow Forums took a hit plus wasn't there a tranny giving useless Jow Forums advice for a while?

This

Well if you go looking for broken weirdos you'll find them. "I want people who are fucked-up but I don't want them to be fucked-up" doesn't make sense. Maybe stop seeing yourself as a fuck-up? What exactly is preventing you from relating to normal people? Loneliness? Economic instability? Unfathomably gruesome fetishes? Instead of putting yourself in the "normal people bore me" mindset, try finding common ground with "normal people" and put your best foot forward, instead of projecting the image of a "broken weirdo". If you really ARE a broken weirdo, then you're sort of destined to be lonely, aren't you?

>black
>soul

>discord
Man, if it's another one of those discords filled with teenage "oldfags" reminiscing about 2014 and not knowing who lowtax and moot are.....

>Loneliness? Economic instability? Unfathomably gruesome fetishes?
2/3.

>"normal people bore me" mindset
It's not that, it's that I don't really have anything to add to their conversations.

>If you really ARE a broken weirdo, then you're sort of destined to be lonely, aren't you?
Maybe, I feel like I missed the train.

Yeah I just got naturally sick of it, seeing "lulz" turn to "kek" was like seeing grandma get dementia or something.

This place used to make fun of autistic retards, then people started to roleplay or ironically post as autistic retards, and now it's just a safe haven for autistic retards.

Modern Jow Forums posters are just insanely hypocritical it's amazing. They'll try to make fun of SJWs and their safe spaces and in the same breath will post REEEE NORMIE GET OUT OF MY BOARD. They'll post the NPC meme without realizing that they're unable to say anything that isn't a Jow Forums-approved response - making them NPCs. I've heard shit "spotted the roastie" or "reddit spacing" more often than "I work for Belethor at the general goods store"

Anyways, you just gotta remember that you're now sharing this space with literal kids. 16 year olds and shit, probably way younger. Would you want to be hanging out with a bunch of autistic teenagers IRL?

I only come on /jp/ cause I'm a fucking weeb and it''s one of the least infected boards, and also Jow Forums to genuinely help people although the r9k and pol influence is strong here.

Someone else mentioned reddit and it's actually not bad as long as you stick to ultra-specific boards and not any of the default or larger ones.

Really it's best to spend less time online as a whole. If you're 30+ you should remember what it was like being a kid before the internet was a major thing. I'm ironically back on my childhood hobbies like playing Magic The Gathering and building plastic models and training in martial arts.

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I never really felt old until discord came around.

In my earlier 20s I would still dress like a late-90s mallgoth and hang out with like myspace emo kids. In my mid-late 20s people my age were already like SKRILLEX??? WHAT IS THIS NOISE? GIVE ME REAL MUSIC LIKE SOUNDGARDEN AND RADIOHEAD AND PHIL COLLINS while I was loving dubstep and all that resurging EDM shit from around 2010.

But then as soon as everyone and their mother was like I HAVE A DISCORD COME JOIN MY DISCORD is when I turned into an old-man telling kids to get off my lawn and reminiscing about how much better the internet was before Discord. I understand what Discord is, but I don't get it and never will. I can't imagine that a lot of 30+ year olds are on discord unless they're like professional twitch streamers or whatever.

For years I believed I was “too weird” to relate to normal people simply because I had niche hobbies and spent a lot of time online. After meeting more people and realizing my interests weren’t so uncommon I realized I had been duped into thinking this through a combination of confirmation bias, catastrophizing, and internet echo chambers. People probably still think I’m weird or awkward but that hasn’t prevented me from having friends or relating to others. The fact that you can hold a job and a casual conversation demonstrates that you’re not as far gone as you think. There are people on this board in their early 20s who genuinely believe it’s too late to change their lives because they are THAT brainwashed. Consider the possibility that you’re using the “I’m too weird” excuse to avoid owning up to the fact that you’re simply not willing to do the work required to get to know people.

Because there is work involved and socialization is a skill you develop just like anything. There will be awkward and painful moments and you won’t get into the deep conversations right off the bat. The old friends that you’re perfectly comfortable with won’t show up overnight, they are created over years of shared experiences.

And yeah at this point you will neber have old school/college buddies and maybe you will never have that degree of intimacy, but I’ve met people who have made close and trusted friends at every age. At any rate I can assure you that nothing will change if you keep doing the same things.

>dubstep
Ugh.

>like playing Magic The Gathering
I didn't really get to do social nerd things as a kid cos either there was nothing like that nearby OR I was trying to hide my powerlevel to try and blend in with the normal kids.

A lot of us are still teamspeak luddites. Still remember my first TS server for an America's Army clan.

In contrast to the current situation, what would even be the difference?

The most funny part is that even Jow Forums oldfags hate what I became.

>America's Army
Fuuuuuuuck that brings me back.
God I feel old now.

That was that free fps right? I don't I could run it on my old win98 pc.

Started coming here ten years ago (25 now) and it seemed to be falling apart even then. I can never remember a time when Jow Forums felt "soulful". This place drains the innocence out of people and makes them cynical. It's like a digital demon.

Well I mean as a kid I was into POGs and like marbles actually, only my older brother did MtG (our parents also thought it was satanic propaganda but that's a whole other can of beans), I only really got into MtG a few years ago. There's loads of people our age still playing it now or maybe got into recently like myself cause it was something they missed out on when the craze first hit.

>go to cheat mode server
>RPG is banned
>forceclass your SF weapon to PG-7VR because nobody bothered banning it
>trade lobbed shots across the bridge
>get bored
>go back to usual SF server
>spawn
>still holding PG-7VR

>"... fuck."

>For years I believed I was “too weird” to relate to normal people simply because I had niche hobbies and spent a lot of time online. After meeting more people and realizing my interests weren’t so uncommon I realized I had been duped into thinking this through a combination of confirmation bias, catastrophizing, and internet echo chambers

Well, I lived in a place where there wasn't much in the way of subcultures. To be honest there wasn't any subcultures just different gangs.
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Want to know something funny? I'm not sure how I feel about it though.

>25
>I need to force my way into threads that don't concern me

True. I mean we didn't get the internet at home until 2002 and I didn't get into "gaming" until like 2007 or 2008 so I missed out on that whole culture. But Discord is also this whole thing outside of gaming where it's just like this weird meme app that kids use to get a internet girlfriend or whatever.

I remember /b/ from around that time was still good. We would raid Tom Green's live show and like Christian Chat and Habbo Hotel and whatever and it was all done in good fun. Some memes so old that they barely get used anymore like Pedobear started to take form. There was plenty of OC like stoner comics and whatever else. Shit like Slowpoke and "count to ten" threads and everything else. People would post scans of then-rare mangas or whatever else, etc.

I popped in /b/ the other day and it was literally nothing but porn.

Jow Forums is for sure the one board that took the biggest hit. It used to be about funny greentext and now it's just frogposting and pol shitposting.

I transferred in from YTMND during 12th July and the place was great. Then 2007 hit. The -entire internet- started going to hell then.

There just used to be one-man subcultures, I remember in school there would be like one punk or one goth each grade. The chess club was just two kids playing against each other during lunch time.

>For years I believed I was “too weird” to relate to normal people simply because I had niche hobbies and spent a lot of time online

How old are you and when did you get the internet?

Jow Forums has always been digging for diamonds in a mountain of shit. The signal to noise ratio of this place is off the charts and if you lose that attitude of "this is fun but it's not reality" you can get sucked into a very dark place. This place is no substitute for real meaningful relationships and it's not a substitute for getting out and living your life. Remember that

I think that's lost on kids that are younger than 30-something.

For those of us that grew up without the internet, when you were alone up in your room you were really alone up in your room. We're more able to differentiate the internet from reality, for the most part.

I feel sorry for kids under 30 who were raised online since day one and can't separate themselves from pixels on a screen because it's all they've ever known.

>There just used to be one-man subcultures, I remember in school there would be like one punk or one goth each grade.
We didn't have anything like that, literally just post code gangs.

>I feel sorry for kids under 30 who were raised online since day one
I'm 29, I think the cut-off point is kids born after 91-93. I didn't get the internet till 2000 and didn't get broadband till 2005.

Having been online since you were 11 years old is not great either, I mean yeah the internet is radically different now than it was back then but it was always an incredibly efficient way of spreading terrible ideas which is why everyone online is either an alt-right incel nazi or a SJW marxist snowflake. I almost became a juggalo in the later 90s and I didn't even have internet back then.

>I almost became a juggalo in the later 90s
Jesus.

But if I had went full autist on the forums and went to meetups and cons and shit, I'd probably be in a better place now.

I used to think that if I went full juggalo I would have found that sense of belonging I never got and everything else. I think I would have instead gotten married to a 300-lbs meth head and raised her two black kids before dying from AIDS or something.

There's no way of knowing the "what if"s of the past, time travel doesn't exist yet, you can only move forwards.

>There's no way of knowing the "what if"s of the past, time travel doesn't exist yet, you can only move forwards.

Sure, but I mean, with going full autist/geek instead worrying about what people thought I might have gotten somewhere. I went to a con for the first and last time not too long ago and what i saw felt like I missed out on an entire lifetime.

But yeah, I can only move forwards now.

What is the point of saying goodbye to people who never noticed you were here ?

Also, if don't enjoy yourself here you should go away
>pic related

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Cos I want to leave forever with a real replacement.

real replacement would be staying on Jow Forums
because if you go elsewhere time will show you this was not real replacement
but if you stay here, you're still on Jow Forums

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If I wanted to fully replace Jow Forums, I would have someone come up to me throughout the day to try and start political arguments with me and show me weird gay porn that I have no interest in seeing and otherwise just be an annoying fucking asshole that mostly puts me in a bad mood.

wtf is Jow Forums my flat mate

Wat.

Discord is just modern centralised IRC. Wanna talk about stuff? Then simply try it. It isnt that dofferent from Jow Forums apart no anonymity.

Like another user pointed out most of the Jow Forums discords are composed of teenage "oldfags".

Well maybe because all actual old fags grew up, married and now have mortages, wives, kids and bills to take care of...

Fuck.

What starts happening to us mentally ill people once we hit our 30s? I'm a 27 year old virgin and I don't think I'll ever have a normal life. I have a decent career though and plan on buying a house soon. But that's all I'll have really.

You can always pull your head from your ass and enroll into dancing classes or lower your standards and try some single mother from tinder...

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You start to lose touch of what's popular or even normal due to your severely limited social contact. This makes you bitter and more set in your ways. Eventually you stop caring how others see you and stop hiding the fact that you're a weirdo. If you're lucky you can maintain a facade of acceptable weirdness outside and get drunk/high in the privacy of your home.

Suicides. There's going to be a small spike in suicides.

No thanks.

Yeah I'm really afraid what people will think of me as I get older. Especially coworkers. Unmarried, no kids, no life.

itt failed normalfags

This isn't r9k zoomer.

I'm older than you, 20 year old boomer.

Probably not and it doesn't change the fact that this isn't r9k.

>this sin't r9k
no it's actually worse which I applaud the OP for, good job dave man on trying and failing so I can laff at you.

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Great advice retard

>after 10+ years of using Jow Forums find out about Jow Forums
>holy shit I love this board

man being mature is sure fun. Sure I'm still jobless and probabbly depressed but I got a gf and had sex! I know stuff now!
also fuck discord botnet tough my usual irc channels died long ago. rip

Man I just learned to be chill with everything. Okay to be tired and depressed. No longer radicalized. It's been a fun ride and I still wanna keep on going. The kids and their funny sjw vs alt right maymays still make me laugh. Though it's easy to see it's all a part of some outrage culture and there may be some deeper shilling going on but whatever.

captcha pissese me off so much tho. never noticed how annoying it is when you want to write a lot of replies and the quick reply box is broken for me for some reason

>but I got a gf and had sex!
Lucky you. Now you got someone in your corner.

Stick to the on-topic boards. Every once in a while, I think about asking this board for advice I couldn't ask my friends/family about, but I'm in my 30s, what possible help would a bunch of whiny 17-year-olds complaining about how girls don't like them offer me?

It's equal parts Jow Forums and Jow Forums, but Jow Forums could really also be Jow Forums or Jow Forums could have been shit up by Jow Forums.
My real life replacement for Jow Forums has always been real life
Jow Forums is where I go when I want a slice of absolute surreal delusion. It's like this microcosm of existence where everyone is just the bottom line of stupid, but they all believe they're the upper limit of wisdom

>Every once in a while, I think about asking this board for advice I couldn't ask my friends/family about, but I'm in my 30s, what possible help would a bunch of whiny 17-year-olds complaining about how girls don't like them offer me?
What do you do instead?

Usually nothing. Either just live with the uncertainty, or just ignore the problem until it hopefully sorts itself out or goes away.

doesn't sound like a great method

sad thread bump. Mayday. We in desperate need of forced cool memes
Like Rika-Rika lion kid and uncuck loligirl and incel mascAt

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Lol get fucked. Some of us actually try to fix our life you helpless sack of horseshit
On problems? Break them down into components and solve components as best I can
In general? Always strive to improve and compound upon who I was yesterday. Today I have begun trying to learn the Russian language. Blin!

I will never solve all problems and nor will anyone, and making peace with that is very important.

If you let life fit you into patterns you will always find the problem you put behind you to come in front once more

Seems reasonable I guess.

>Someone else mentioned reddit and it's actually not bad as long as you stick to ultra-specific boards and not any of the default or larger ones.
Care to recommend any? I'm already subscribed to some specific video game/music ones that interest me, but I'm always looking for more.

this problem started around 2007 when Jow Forums got media coverage

Well I don't know what you're into so I can't be like "hey join this subreddit of this game you've never played or ever heard of", it's all about what your specific hobbies and interests are. Like I said though, the default and bigger subs are the more cancerous.

What's your take on taking large risks at 30+, risks that you should've taken in your 20s? Risks that are stupid and you probably can't recover from because you are 30+?

Shit like investing all your money in dumb business that could make or break you?
Or trekking across the country to meet some girl you met on an obscure forum ala the 00s?

>Don't wait until you're 30 to live your life.

Don't become a cynical or jaded neet, form relationships

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