This is why I don't make the first move

Ok don't judge me.
My friend who is highly experienced advised me to write these words (via Facebook) because apparently staring at him is not flirting.
He said bla bla I've put on weight
And I said (oh god I'm cringing) "it's ok more to hold on to ;)"

He paused and then continued talking about something else

Then later he was telling me about his art and he said "going slow and steady"
I wrote "the way I like it"

I'm sorry.

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cringe

The only thing I would assume is that you're a whore (although odds are he didn't), not that you're flirting. Stop taking advice from an actual whore, otherwise you're going to end up one.
He probably just didn't know what to say--I mean, how would he respond? >"Yeah, girl, I'd slap you with my stomach flabs"
Really? He's doing you a courtesy by not engaging.

>woman gets rejected
>it's the end of the world
>man gets rejected
>it's Friday night motherfucker

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I thought guys like whores?

Manwhores do, not the kind of guy that would be looking for a lasting relationship.

Good men do not, thristy men do.

I'm sorry but I highly doubt he took it as a personal sexual advance, given the fact that it was a facebook convo and also that it wasn't directed towards him. To me it feels like a statement you'd make just because.

How rare it is for a woman to be rejected?

Seems weird to say it but Hitler is 100% right on this.

That's not flirting. That's just shit that would make anyone uncomfortable.

>oh man I've gained a bit of weight recently and it's kind of bumming me out
>>DoNt WoRrY I LoVe FaTtIeS!!!

Seriously. Flip the situation on these two "lines" of yours. If you mentioned to a guy that you'd put on some weight, would you want him to choose that as his moment to turn around and say "not to worry I like the chubby ones ;)" ?

Some good low key flirting would be like when you meet up telling him he smells good and laughing at his jokes and touching his arm when speaking.

>telling him he smells good and laughing at his jokes
Wouldn't notice this at all.

With respect mein fuhrer, you wouldn't be looking for it because you're so pure.

Aren't you even going to accuse him of rape? Lame bait and I feel bad falling for it.

Come on, on the "ask the other gender" threads, if an user asked "s/he laughed when I made a joke, does this mean they like me?" they would be told it could mean anything.
If he doesn't get the message, OP will probably have another nervous breakdown over nothing. All I'm saying is OP will have to be more blunt (without coming off as a whore) if she wants to be sure--like actually asking the guy out.

Granted, I'm going to be different than most (either not noticing or deliberately ignoring it), and I'm not denying that, but it's entirely possible to not notice something like this, especially if the guy is on the introverted side.

>I will never do this again and am actually quite ashamed.
Alright, so you got rejected. You tried to ride a bike and you fell. Big whoop. Life goes on, and I would encourage you to try again. Sure it happened once, so it might happen twice, even three times. But maybe not. Maybe it works this one time and that one time is the one time you need. You don't know. You literally can't know. That's how it is.

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Thanks user that really helps actually.

I'm so out of touch with flirting. A lot of my friends flirt to fuck and I am pretty traditional so end up either taking their advice and fucking it up or just staring at his picture with a heavy heart.

I honestly don't think he's interested at all. He calls me dude sometimes and I was told this is the biggest indication he is just not into me.

If I ever have a crush again, I'll make sure I lightly tread.

That's not even funny.

Thanks, I'll just have to accept the reality of this situation and move on.

Welcome to equality, bitch.

This literally has nothing to do with equality. Are you stupid?

Women have been flirting since the ages to attract men

It's not that rare, but men get it way more mostly out of trying more.

So this is what female autism looks like

>Thanks user that really helps actually.

You're welcome. The most likely scenario here is that he's not interested. If you've been friends for 2+ years and there has never been any flirting or sexual tension prior to this point then I doubt you'll be able to conjure it up after the fact. Once you've been friends with a girl for a long time under the impression that you're never going to be more than that, it can be difficult to see her that way. Hence calling you dude. Without memeing, you are in the literal friend zone.

That said, every guy has thought about the possibility of getting with his female friends. Even me, I have some female friends I'd fuck but wouldn't want to date, but if push came to shove I'd no doubt give dating them a try. It'd be a fair bet to say he considered it back when you guys first met and your window of opportunity was back then.

Rather than a lesson in
>hurr durr never gunna try again
this should be considered a lesson in not waiting 2 years before even dipping a toe in. Like someone? Show it.

not OP but femanon with the auts, how do I pursue dudes?

Show interest, flirt, use judgement to tell if he's into it or if you're annoying him, then decide whether to continue or abort.

Rate your appearance out of 10, if you're not fat you are above a 4.
Honestly, as an autist you can assume most guys that you would share any interests with are as lonely as you are.

Flirting on facebook isn't flirting

Hug duder
Grab duder
Touch duder
Initiate kissu with duder

t.duder

Nobody is going to make fun of you for getting rejected by a dude because 80% of dudes will say yes if you're above a 4

>blocking him because he didn't make a clear response to your flirt
You need to chill and think about your approach

Yes block him pls, for his own sake

>I'll make sure I lightly tread.
Look at this like poker. You don't go all in on a bad hand.