So my girl left me with our 2 year old daughter 5 months ago. She trapped me up saying she was on the pill and stopped taking them. I used to sell weed and make good, lived stress free played vidya, had a small harem.. Tried to do the right thing and go legit because she “loved me and wanted to be a family”. With no degree I got a shit 12$ an hour job and we moved into a fucking trailer. Took care of her for 2 years working 55+ hours a week. Well long story short she started cheating, left me, made me out to be a fucking monster to our friends for reacting to her narcissistic abuse. Now she’s going to hit me for child support and they called me saying I have to pay 550$ a month.. that’s over a third of my income. I make about 1400 after taxes, my bills all together are 900$ which leaves 500 for food and gas. Selling weed is no longer an option my clientele has moved on and supplier got shot 2 months ago. I just turned 34 with nothing but a gd ged. I have descent Iq, could get a ccna and do cable guy shit In the meantime but I will be destitute when child support hits. This bitch and her whole family are good at manipulating the system. She lives with her mother, our daughter (beautiful and smart I live her dearly miss her all the time) and like 4 of her nieces/nephews from her sisters who have done the same thing. They learned to pop kids out and hit guys for cp and get bennies from the government. My exes mother is basically the head vampire of a gd narcissistic coven.. So what do I do? State they are leeches of the state and go for custody? Be destitute until I get some IT certs and a good job? Or fucking say fuck this shit, write a gd dissertation on why society and women are fucked and just run the exhaust of my truck into the cab and take some sleeping pills? Would the co in a 98 Chevy 1500 kill me or make me retarded or blind? wwyd?
Fucking done scros
This is your life on women
Fuck this is why women scare me sometimes, a man will just do something bad like murder but he’s caught and dealt with. A woman can screw a man over and still make it seem plausible to society and the law.
My mother is very manipulative as well, if she does some stupid shit and I call her out on it she says stuff like “you don’t even love me, you probably like your dad more” just to guilt me.
You have convinced me never to have a relationship.
Thanks man. I'll hire a surrogate.
This. I worked for a homeless shelter and a large percentage of guests were men living the homeless life because they grew sick of constantly be hauled into a court because their ex thought they came into some money and wanted a cut of it...
It takes two idiots to make a baby...
Maybe she wasnt idiot, but you definitely were when you didnt use condom.
This thread has convinced me to finally give up on dating right now during college.
Could you tell us more about your exes mother? How does she run the operation and shit? Did she do the same thing and then teach her daughters the craft?
Yes they learned by example. Once she even said “I want to be just like my mom” (she’s an x-ray tech and acts all holy) when she said this I got this vacant trance look because her mother uses men. When she noticed she said “well not just like my mom”. You see I met her biological father and her current stepfather. Her biological father is an alcoholic drug addict who is an emotional wreck. I thought that’s why the mother left him and felt bad for all of them that he turned out like that. Low and behold when our daughter was born I let him come visit with us for a week. Well he shared with me their past.. The mother and he were doing fine, he was also an x-ray tech. He bought a house for them, took good care of them. Well she was cheating on him the whole time and left him for one of her other baby daddy’s (4 all together, she had 8 kids total!). She would come back to him after her failed relationships where she may or may not have had another kid. He was her “main supply”. Turns out all the emotional abuse led him to turn to drugs and alcohol when she would leave him. This sap would even legitimize her actions saying it was his fault every time for this or that! This has gone on for 30+ years and she still exploits him for money because she no longer gets child support because her children are grown. She has 2 men now she flops back and forth with using them both for money. She strings the one she’s not with along convincing them it’s their fault it didn’t work. Now her four daughters all do the same thing and she keeps their kids while they find new men to exploit. They all swap in between living with her when they leave someone because none of them are self sufficient. When they land a new shmuck they move out and another sister pulls the same shit and moves in bringing another child into their mothers little “collection” of grandchildren adding to the government benefits. They are like a fucking cult.
Worst part is the way the daughters treat the biological father. The sap is father of three out of the four. I would notice that my ex only called her father when they wanted something. Sometimes he cleans his act up and gets a good job. He will live in a halfway house and get an x-ray tech job after cleaning up for a bit making bank because he lives in Cali. Well that’s when he’s off their black list and they give him attention. The mother even left her husband for 6 months to exploit this man when he was almost healed 2 years ago. My ex was very happy and seemed like she loved her father and was happy for him. Well he got a job here in NC and came back.. they sucked him dry of money and he found out she was still seeing her husband she separated with. There was a huge blowout and suddenly he was the evil alcoholic again.. my ex wouldn’t talk to him, I even told her on his birthday she should call him and she brushed it off like “I will later”. She never did. It hurts me deeply to think my own daughter may learn to treat me in the same way. I tell myself I will be strong and show her love and how to respect men but I know I have an uphill battle. Sometimes I would overhear my ex on the phone with her sister talking about how she “trains” her man and they would both laugh at how she manipulated him. Shit would make my blood boil. I have to blame myself there were many red flags. Thought I could “fix” her..
Obtain full custody and make her pay you child support.
Its shit like this that makes me sick to my stomach and avoid dating all together. Growing up at least 90% of the friends I had they're parents were divorced, were in the process of getting divorced or where having loud arguments all the time while me and a friend would sit in a room and play video games having to listen to all the bullshit. What I witnessed as a child horrified me and I never want to get married because I know that if I ever ended up going through that kind of nightmare I'd A: have a complete mental breakdown and drink/smoke pot and eventually kill myself from all the mental torture and losing my kids that I so dearly loved and wanted to raise in to becoming respectable adults and teach them how to get through life without making the mistakes I did. B: I'd go completely insane/cold blooded and kill the bitch for destroying everything I had ever worked for and what gave me purpose. If you're gonna be a selfish ungrateful fucking cunt to a man who would do anything for you then you don't even deserve to live to do the same thing again. Its literaly pure evil what a woman can do to a man and I'll never trust them
Fuck I feel for you man.. shit like this happens far too often, whatever you do don't give up. From what you wrote I can assume you're stronger than this, winners don't quit and you're not loser.
I’m going to try to go for full custody, seeing as this bitch just mooches off the gov and they already have a house full of childrens. I have my own place and a room for my daughter and today I talked to a friend at the local church that’s willing to get me free daycare while I’m at work. If the court thinks she should have custody and I should be homeless whilst working 40hrs a week to hand over to a mooch on foodstamps, living for free at her mothers where she shares a room with my daughter then I have no hope for society. I won’t give up though. I love my daughter too much. She really is special I know a lot of people say that but she is the cutest/smartest toddler you ever met. People comment on her all the time in public.
Trash being trash to trash. Nothing new. I don't know why Op is trying to gain sympathy points and I don't know why people are giving them to him.
So you two are virgins? Since all youve fucked are condoms
Courts will favor her especially if she's had fill custody for any length of time
We haven’t done custody yet, what are my chances of getting custody considering she is living free at her mothers house and gets Medicare, foodstamps, and the works whilst I am self sufficient?
She does keep her during the week and I keep her every weekend due to me having a job and all which I have made arrangements for at a wonderful church where all the lawyers go that’s literally across the street from the courthouse.
Yeah I’ll admit to being trash. I sold weed and didn’t care about my life that’s why I didn’t better myself, I think my mother was a narcissist. When I found out she was pregnant and was keeping it I manned up and have been doing the best I can. I came here looking for advice so if you don’t have any you can kindly shove your moral superiority up your ass ty.
No but I don't fuck women I wouldn't trust with my life.
did you know these things about your ex before she got pregnant?
if so, wtf were you thinking by keeping her around? she seems like a white trash antichrist.
No I found out after I got her pregnant, and I become acquainted with her family. They wear a good mask. As I said I thought they had “bad luck with men”. Then after the baby was born and I met the father and he became comfortable he related the past himself just needing to talk about it one day when we were alone. Then things started to come into focus. I still didn’t expect all this though I still believed she loved me. I don’t know when I knew what was going on, I may have knew this was going to happen deep down and then gradually came to accept it. I can remember when things changed though. A red flag for cheating then I knew I was in store for me. In fact the next red flag I went on a rant and predicted everything that has happened up until now based on the patterns of her family. She left after triggering me into an argument 2 weeks later, that two weeks I walked on eggshells and kisses her ass because I knew what was coming and didn’t want to lose my family. Sometimes I get cognitive dissonance like the father and blame myself, they severely mindfuck you.