I want to try tinder but I really don't want anyone to know I'm on there. I really don't...

I want to try tinder but I really don't want anyone to know I'm on there. I really don't. Should I just not post pics of myself or?

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Just exchange pictures if you both make sure you know eachother good enough. Post subtle pics like shadows and style pics without your face. Worked amazing for me.

What do you mean shadows and style pics? I have a good body (girl) but if i just show body I fel like I'll come off as a slut. I don't care if strangers know what I look like, only don't want to run into my friends really (and already did on one!)

Just like styles you see on tumblr and shit, try something like you standing in a dress in front of a tree, this magical-fairy-shit. Or you could post half of your face.

mind sending a picture?

Why not, don't be a fucking insecure bitch

We are in 2018, tinder is normal.

its not that im insecure, it's just some really weird paranoia. It feels reeeeeeally weird is all
don't know where this feeling comes from

It's insecurity

Why do you care about your friend seeing you there?

You are a normal person looking for sex or for a partner. And in 2018 we use tinder.

Try Hinge OP. Tinder BTFO'd

nobody actually cares if you're on tinder. i had the same anxiety and believe me, nobody actually cares

if you don't post pictures of yourself you will never get a match

just dont expect too much from tinder and dont take things personally. girls will unmatch at random

im a girl my dude

Not OP but I also have this problem and I want to know why wanting privacy on the internet is "insecurity"? This shit is why I don't have a kikebook.

girl I know what you are talking about, I can tell you they WILL definetly be talking behind your back. I know this myself, people will just see your desperation and laugh at it in secret.

Here, thats this pic I used in tinder when I didnt want people to see my face. I got alot of compliments for being the "mysterious girl" when in reality I didnt want nobody to talk shit about me, which happens literally alot of the time. Everybody talks about everybody, never forget that, girl.

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Well if you don't want to use the internet for dating, then why are you using tinder!??

Your other option is to meet people outside.

You don't have any social media? no Instagram?

shtty aint it. im not rlly ppart of their group anyway. just would hate to see them every day being lke yep they know.
thanks! iits a decent idea. It feels a bit trashy tho. I dont want to just show my body and be a "slut"

in that case you'll permanently have a 99+ stacks of guys lined up and the chance someone will mention your tinder in real life is near zero

>people will just see your desperation and laugh at it in secret
no they wont

no instagram, no. i have fb but I don't post pictures. Its really not that im insecure but more like i absolutely hate "bothering" people with my pictures online. I hate attenton online.

the nightlife in my city or clubs or anything is basically dead. just dead

im also uh, i also have a very strange face that looks different from every angle so I don't really want to catfish ppeople either in a way.

Girl youre not showing your body. Its just a god damn shadow. No skin, no nothing. Just light and shadow. Do you see porn made out of shadows? Do you see shadow nudes being thrown around here? NOPE. Shadow is just light and darkness. No one will ever know and the other girls wont have some information to brag about you later on. Go for it girl, dont worry about other people if they have nothing to talk about.

Stop making up excuses and just admit it's insecurity, it's the first step for overcoming it

im super curvy so a picture like that would show a lot of ass and. yep. idk.

Then maybe a part of your hair and a flower in it? Just make it girly as possible. Those cute things are never associated with sluts, believe me.

Get creative. Explore your imagination. Your body is not only made of your curvy shape, but hair, hands, clothes etc.

Why do you feel "trashy" just for being a girl? Fuck what others think, you are not doing anything weird. It's perfectly normal to use tinder to find a date.

Well if nightlife sucks then you need to use the Internet and expose a little bit of yourself. You just need 1 picture.

But if there is no nightlife, and you don't want to use pictures, then you are going to have a hard time.

And if you have a smartphone, your face is already scanned and saved into many servers. So why care about photos online.

thank you

>the other girls wont have some information to brag about you later on
this didnt happen to you and it hardly happens to anyone lol

Only human garbage uses Tinder, not gonna lie.

It's literally a way to keep the small minded people occupied.

If it bothers you that much, then don't use it.

oh, well dont you know how alot of people work?
"Did you already know? OP is on tinder lol. I bet she is too fat to get one in real life, so now she gets desperate and tries to find the love of her life on tinder lol what a loser"

or
"look who is on tinder. Guess life isnt going that great, huh?"

well, it IS technically true. It is a hook up app, nothing more. Hooking up is the lowest way of having an social interaction, really.

nobody i know acts like this

I dont know where you may live, but in my city and workplace alot of people are like this.

>look who is on tinder. Guess life isnt going that great, huh?
But to know that I'm on tinder that other person must be on tinder as well, no?

yes but everyone except OP is on tinder ironically. duh

tinder is a load of horseshit

Hence the disconnect of "I want a relationship but can't see how Tinder isn't necessarily conducive to that"

Yeah. I have gotten pretty much nothing out of tinder, except some text game practice, which is not enough for the negative emotions that shit makes you feel.

>Hooking up is the lowest way of having an social interaction, really.
Come the fuck on, how can you possibly say that?
Having sex with someone, no matter how emotionally disconnected is still infinitely more intimate than saying "have a good day" to a cashier.
Complete nonsense.