How the fuck do i go from introvert to extrovert? Im tired of all the missed opportunities...

How the fuck do i go from introvert to extrovert? Im tired of all the missed opportunities, the awkward silence in the elevator, the what-ifs. But its so engrained into my identity. Has anyone ever made the shift from introvert to extrovert? Any tips? I need to make this huge change in my life.

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If you are uncomfortable with introversion and being alone you are an extrovert on a level.
It seems more like you are just a social pussy.

this desu, OP you need to express yourself more and tell the truth

Yeah thats probably it man. Prob just gotta practice and talk to people and not give a fuck. Im always stuck in my mind though

Thanks for the advice. I need to learn how to not care what others think about me. Its holding me back. I care way too much.

People really need to stop confusing introversion with shyness. What you're describing isn't the result of being an introvert, it's the result of being shy. Yes, these are 2 different things.

Being shy usually means you have shitty social skills and feel very uncomfortable around other people especially strangers. How do you fix it? By practicing,

>learn to say ''hi'' to strangers.
>learn how to small talk about mundane stuff
>learn to not always take conversations too seriously

You can't stop caring what others think about you, that's literally not possible, anyone who says so is full of shit. How about not hiding from your feelings? Tell the truth like I said, live what you feel, dont hide.

>live what you feel, dont hide.
Yeah i like that idea. Ill try that. Thanks user

>How do you fix it? By practicing,
Youre right. Im going to have to man up and get out of my comfort zone

Fucking hell. So many cliches. Ignore it all. You've got a lot of work ahead of you.

The first, and hardest step is recognizing that whatever you are is more than what you identify as. What that means is starting to recognize and pay attention to all of your habits and behaviors that typically go unnoticed. This includes your speech patters, the pitch of your voice, the way you walk, how you hold your shoulders, the firmness of your handshake, just about everything that is normally autonomous.

Once you can start to see these things, recognize that you have control over even them. Therefore, whatever "you" are is more than, and deeper, than all these things you thought were immutable. Then you realize you can change them.

The hard part--recognizing that your thoughts, your internal monologue are just as much a choice. You have these thoughts, because you want to have these thoughts. To change, you need to change your thoughts. This is not done by wanting to think differently. This is done by creating a new narrative, a new identity, out of your old identity.

It gets painful. You will need to dredge up all the painful moments off your life, and literally reframe. Either write down, speak out loud, or if you can manage do it all with your internal monologue, but you will need to explicitly and consciously describe how these events fit into your life. You are recreating your life story, and it can't be done by vague emotion.

As you begin to write this new narrative of self, you will begin to notice some dissonance between old and new. Your mind will easily return to its well worn paths. This is where you need to learn how to turn off your inner monologue. Let the new narrative direct your actions, you will sometimes even have to repeat the new lessons like a mantra, and just let your awareness of the old thoughts transform them into white noise. You are slowly killing who you were to become someone else. It's the only way.

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As somebody with next to no empathy, alcohol turned me into a social Chad rather than a reclusive school shooter

That's a complete misunderstanding of introversion and extroversion. The concepts of introversion and extroversion describe fundamental motivation and desire. An extrovert is someone who wants to be around other people, who feels negative emotion from isolation, and receives positive emotion of social interaction. An extorvert is someone who wants to be alone (or at least not very social), who receives positive emotion from being alone, and who must expend emotional energy to be with other people. No matter how socially adept they are, they will always eventually wear of company. Essentially, an extrovert needs to spend time with other people in order to get through the times when they are alone, and an introvert must spend time alone in order to get through the times when they are with other people. Many people confuse anxiety and depression with introversion. But introverts do not wish they were extroverts. They like being alone. They may wish they had social skills, but simply so that social scenarios may be less taxing, and so that they can spend more time alone in a socially acceptable way. Many, if not most, introverts learn how to deal with social scenarios perfectly well, largely so they can advance their careers. An introvert almost never wants to be the center of attention, and it is not out of any kind of fear, but out of genuine disinterest.

Thanks user. I read your post like 10 times for it to really sink in. I will have to reinvent myself or live with regret.

Lol, i always fuck up with alcohol though. Either drink too much (usually the case) or not enough.

Consider it another way. Every time our neurons "fire" they are releasing chemicals. Our personalities are the specific chemical balances of our brains, and the specific behaviors these chemicals are attached to, in their specific proportions. What you are describing is that you want to rewire your brain. Many people suggest drugs. But realize that everything we do has a chemical effect in our brain. To change who you are, you will need to close old reward pathways, and open new reward pathways. You are thinking your way out of depression. But that can't just be surface thoughts. You have to change your thoughts at the deepest level. Those thoughts are what frame all the rest of your being.

Also, recognize, however, that the process is dangerous. Exceptionally dangerous. If you know anything about programming, a poor analogy is that you're trying to make root-level edits on your software, as you are running the software, with no back up or reboot possible. If you do this, I highly recommend you participate in a faith tradition, because this process will bring you into extreme contact with the void.

>introverts do not wish they were extroverts.
I agree with everything you said except for this.

>Consider it another way. Every time our neurons "fire" they are releasing chemicals. Our personalities are the specific chemical balances of our brains, and the specific behaviors these chemicals are attached to, in their specific proportions. What you are describing is that you want to rewire your brain. Many people suggest drugs. But realize that everything we do has a chemical effect in our brain. To change who you are, you will need to close old reward pathways, and open new reward pathways. You are thinking your way out of depression. But that can't just be surface thoughts. You have to change your thoughts at the deepest level. Those thoughts are what frame all the rest of your being.
Yeah that's exactly what ive been thinking, I need to rewire my brain.
>Also, recognize, however, that the process is dangerous. Exceptionally dangerous. If you know anything about programming, a poor analogy is that you're trying to make root-level edits on your software, as you are running the software, with no back up or reboot possible. If you do this, I highly recommend you participate in a faith tradition, because this process will bring you into extreme contact with the void.
this is what I want, it would be even worse for me to live with all of these what-ifs than to change myself.

I am an introvert but I am not shy.

I present all the classical symptoms: spending time socialising is exhausting, I spend time alone on purpose and to recharge, I have no trouble being alone in my own head with my own thoughts for extended periods of time.

Even though I exhibit all those traits I have no problem socialising here and there, and when I do I'm not shy. I can make conversation with new people/grills, I present myself with conviction and confidence.

Being introverted =/= being a shy sperg

>express yourself more and tell the truth
Yeah, very smart. Certainly what you should do in public, and not on anonymous image board.

Be what society wants you to be, and don't be happy.

>Being introverted =/= being a shy sperg
Yeah, i have learned the difference now from this thread. I really want to overcome the shy sperg part of me. Its very important that i do.

I think I need to get comfortable with failing. Its something im scared of