Last time i had sex with my SO was probably months ago. Im feeling unattractive and lonely. When we cuddle, he would have a boner and I’ll try to escalate thing but theres always something like too tired, or not enough time. I tell him how i feel and he says, “if i wasnt attracted to you, i wouldnt have this boner.” What should i do? Leave? Keep talking about it? Is this normal for long term relationships?
>>accidentally posted in a wrong thread whoops
Bump for interest. I'm with my SO since 3 years and sex life has been terrible and lazy. I'm considering... Other options.
FeelsBadMan
I’ll hold you user while we wait for some advice
He’s probably gay
Try actually telling him that you feel lonely and sad, and let him know that you need him to satisfy you and make an effort.
Guys tend to go lazy in long term relationships, communication and honesty are the best ways to deal with this.
Set aside time in his schedule so he makes time for you.
Being overworked can easily kill your sex drive and it is not because there is something wrong with either of you.
Start dating each other again.
Ask him to stop masturbating as much, and also even before that tell him about this shit.
Yes, this is super normal. Have you never listened to any comedian talk about not fucking as much as they used to. Every one who has been married for a while has a bit on it.
I love my wife to death, and she is a total baddie. But, sometimes I'm just not trying to fuck. Even if I'm hard right next to her.
Cute, thank you.
I've brought it up many times but we have just some oral once in a blue moon. Laziest dipshit in the whole planet, living with his parents doesn't help.
>inb4 move away
There's very few jobs and low paying in this shithole. Feels like India.
hey anons, i am in a LTR with a similar issue. We've gotten a lot out of non-confrontational honesty. You have to lay it out there and be honest, or you're trapping yourself and going to make poor choices that hurt your partner. If that means, being honest about "considering other options" then you need to make your partner aware its crossed your mind. Not as a threat, but an acknowledgement that your relationship needs work.
He's fucking somebody else or masturbating and doesn't want to come again.
>SO
what's that?
1. You must suck at sex and are a starfish, so having sex is basically a workout for him, and he got lazy. 2. He masturbates excessively and does not feel the need to have sex. 3. He’s getting other pussy. 4. He’s become asexual. There is no 5th option.
this completely ignores the mental aspects of sexual desire in a relationship
>hurr durr you suck at sex, he faps too much, he's cheating, he's miraculously converted his sexual identity
>mentally ill trannies can change identity but men can't not want to have sex
Wash your ass op
This
Open communication has kept my partner and I together a long time. And yes, we've crossed the 'make sex better for me' bridge.
He’s bored of sex with you
t. Someone who hasn’t had sex with gf in months
This
Talk to him, multiple times. Very honestly, without screaming.
If he is not willing to talk about it and try to solve the problem, just leave.
No, it's not normal to stop having sex.
Could be gay.
Could be depressed, stressed, could be that OP got fat, could be that he is low test and after the initial phase he lost the drive, could be a bunch of shit.
don't do the ghey